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Autumn 2009 • Issue 36<br />
A <strong>journal</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>creative</strong> <strong>thought</strong> <strong>and</strong> <strong>feeling</strong><br />
<strong>published</strong> <strong>by</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College <strong>of</strong> Saybrook University
In This Issue<br />
1<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> Gr a d u a t e Co l l e g e<br />
Sa y b r o o k University<br />
4010 Lake Washington Blvd., Ste. 300<br />
Kirkl<strong>and</strong>, WA 98033<br />
Phone: 425.968.3400<br />
Fax: 425.968.3406<br />
www.saybrook.edu/lios<br />
Pu b l i s h e r<br />
Shelley Drogin, Ed.D.<br />
Ed i t o r a n d De s i g n e r<br />
Kathleen Murphy, Ph.D.<br />
Gu e s t Ed i t o r s<br />
Timothy Weber, Ph.D.<br />
Cheryl Cebula, M.S.W.<br />
Ed i t o r i a l Sta f f<br />
Margie Bloch, M.A.<br />
Lorelette Knowles, M.S.<br />
Co n t r i b u t i n g Wr i t e r s<br />
Lorne Buchman, Ph.D.<br />
Gloria J. Burgess, Ph.D.<br />
Cheryl Cebula, M.S.W.<br />
Shelley Drogin, Ed.D.<br />
Marina Gordon, M.A.<br />
Carol Jakus, M.S.W., M.A.<br />
Catherine Johnson, M.A.<br />
Kathleen Murphy, Ph.D.<br />
K. Alex<strong>and</strong>ra Onno, Ph.D.<br />
Laurie Rosenfeld, M.A.<br />
Susan Ru<strong>by</strong>, M.A.<br />
Diane Schachter, M.S.W.<br />
Kelly Spangler, M.A.<br />
Timothy Weber, Ph.D.<br />
Melinda Williamson, M.A.<br />
Sherene Zolno, M.A.<br />
Im a g e s o f Le a d e r s h i p Co n t r i b u t o r s<br />
Special thanks to Gloria Burgess,<br />
Anna Gomez, John Hinds,<br />
JoAnne MacTaggart,<br />
John McConnell, Noella Natalino<br />
Li n k a g e’s cover reflects the recent affiliation<br />
<strong>of</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College (Seattle skyline)<br />
<strong>and</strong> Saybrook University (Golden Gate<br />
Bridge) in service <strong>of</strong> positive global change.<br />
Copyright © 2009 <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate<br />
College (www.saybrook.edu/lios).<br />
All rights reserved. For permission<br />
to distribute copies <strong>of</strong> this <strong>journal</strong><br />
in any form, contact <strong>LIOS</strong>:<br />
425.968.3400 • liosinfo@lios.org<br />
Words FROM THE presidents<br />
Reflections on Leadership<br />
Shelley Drogin, Ed.D., President<br />
<strong>of</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College<br />
2<br />
A Thought <strong>of</strong> Farewell<br />
Lorne Buchman, Ph.D., President<br />
<strong>of</strong> Saybrook University<br />
3<br />
IMAGES OF LEADERSHIP<br />
PROJECT<br />
4<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> RESEARCH AND<br />
CREATIVE THOUGHT<br />
Intensive Family-<strong>of</strong>-Origin<br />
Consultation:<br />
An Intergenerational Approach<br />
(excerpt, Chapter 18, The Wiley-Blackwell<br />
H<strong>and</strong>book <strong>of</strong> Family Therapy)<br />
Timothy Weber, Ph.D., <strong>and</strong><br />
Cheryl Cebula, M.S.W.<br />
5-7<br />
Legacy Leadership:<br />
The Call to Stewardship & Service<br />
(excerpt from Dare to Wear Your Soul<br />
on the Outside: Live Your Legacy Now)<br />
Dr. Gloria J. Burgess, Ph.D.<br />
8-11<br />
Leading with Heart <strong>and</strong> Soul<br />
(excerpt from Memoirs <strong>of</strong> a CEO)<br />
Sherene Zolno, M.A.<br />
12-13<br />
The Trauma Chameleon<br />
Susan Ru<strong>by</strong>, M.A.<br />
14-16<br />
Lessons from Sheep<br />
Catherine Johnson, M.A.<br />
17-18<br />
An Invitation to Mindfulness<br />
Carol Jakus, M.S.W., M.A.<br />
19-20<br />
Something Like a Pear<br />
(abstract <strong>and</strong> excerpt, Out <strong>of</strong> Ashes:<br />
A Return to the Creative Feminine, doctoral<br />
dissertation, Pacifica Graduate Institute)<br />
K. Alex<strong>and</strong>ra Onno, Ph.D.<br />
21<br />
The Heroine’s Journey in<br />
John Boorman’s Beyond Rangoon<br />
Kathleen Murphy, Ph.D.<br />
22-23<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> ALUMNA<br />
PROFILES IN COURAGE<br />
Interview with Julia Harris, M.A.<br />
Kathleen Murphy, Ph.D.<br />
24-25<br />
Raise a Reader, Raise a Leader<br />
JoAnne MacTaggart, B.S.<br />
26<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> PRINCIPLES IN ACTION<br />
Building the Mosaic: The Art<br />
<strong>and</strong> Practice <strong>of</strong> Psychotherapy<br />
(excerpt, <strong>LIOS</strong> SC graduate thesis)<br />
Melinda Williamson, M.A.<br />
27-28<br />
Private Practice: A Checklist<br />
for Making It Happen<br />
Susan Ru<strong>by</strong>, M.A.<br />
29-30<br />
Leadership: Using <strong>LIOS</strong><br />
InterAct Training to Create<br />
a Successful Business<br />
Diane Schachter, M.S.W.<br />
31<br />
On a New Track: <strong>LIOS</strong> Leadership<br />
<strong>and</strong> Organization Development<br />
Master’s Degree Program<br />
Sherene Zolno, M.A.<br />
Marina Gordon, M.A.<br />
Kelly Spangler, M.A.<br />
Laurie Rosenfeld, M.A.<br />
32-34
Words From the Presidents<br />
reflections on leadership<br />
By Shelley Drogin, Ed.D., President <strong>of</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong><br />
Graduate College, Saybrook University<br />
A good question is never answered. It is not a bolt to be<br />
tightened into place but a seed to be planted <strong>and</strong> to bear more<br />
seed toward the hope <strong>of</strong> greening the l<strong>and</strong>scape <strong>of</strong> the idea.<br />
— John Ciardi<br />
As I sit in our new <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College home, gazing at my<br />
bookshelf filled with volumes <strong>of</strong> leadership books, I cannot help<br />
but reflect on the challenge <strong>of</strong> authentic leadership from the inside<br />
out—taking the liberty <strong>of</strong> borrowing descriptors from a number <strong>of</strong><br />
the titles on that shelf. As a student <strong>of</strong> leadership <strong>and</strong> coach <strong>of</strong><br />
numerous executives over the years, taking my theory into practice<br />
has been a fascinating journey. In spite <strong>of</strong>—or perhaps as a direct<br />
result <strong>of</strong>—having lived my leadership practice so intimately <strong>and</strong><br />
extensively over the last two years, the answers to the question <strong>of</strong><br />
“What have I learned?” do not readily surface. Not surprisingly,<br />
more questions than answers emerge.<br />
Throughout my years <strong>of</strong> practice I have been enamored <strong>of</strong> the<br />
power <strong>of</strong> questions. The spiritual psychologist Robert Sardello wrote<br />
that a sign <strong>of</strong> a healthy soul is “that more questions are raised than<br />
are answered, <strong>and</strong> that the nature <strong>of</strong> such questions does not carry<br />
the character <strong>of</strong> doubt but rather the inspiration to go yet further.”<br />
What is clear to me is that my tenure as President <strong>of</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong> has been<br />
a time <strong>of</strong> leadership without easy answers, <strong>and</strong> that such a reflection<br />
is a journey in <strong>and</strong> <strong>of</strong> itself. And while the entry point into this<br />
exploration is not readily evident either, there is little doubt in my<br />
mind, that inspiration is emerging, alive <strong>and</strong> well.<br />
Looking back over these two years, I see a trail <strong>of</strong> experiences, a<br />
host <strong>of</strong> <strong>feeling</strong>s, <strong>thought</strong>s, <strong>and</strong> a desire for learning. The path is<br />
rich with challenges, hopes, excitement, successes, points where<br />
another approach may have proved more fruitful, hard decisions,<br />
clear decisions, personal strengths <strong>and</strong> personal weaknesses, the<br />
light <strong>of</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong> <strong>and</strong> the accompanying shadow, relationships formed,<br />
relationships strengthened, joy, compassion, delight, sadness,<br />
occasional anger <strong>and</strong> tears <strong>and</strong> tears in the fabric—<strong>and</strong> through it<br />
all a weave that remains both powerful <strong>and</strong> beautiful. All in all,<br />
a journey I am incredibly grateful for <strong>and</strong> wouldn’t want to have<br />
missed.<br />
As I write this, the <strong>LIOS</strong> community is in its 40th year <strong>and</strong> has<br />
approximately 2,200 graduates. Over the years our founders,<br />
faculty, students, alumni, friends, boardmembers <strong>and</strong> administrative<br />
staff have contributed to the success <strong>of</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong> in a variety <strong>of</strong><br />
ways, <strong>and</strong> to each <strong>of</strong> them I am deeply grateful. We have crossed the<br />
threshold <strong>and</strong> entered the realm <strong>of</strong> the new Saybrook University as<br />
an independent <strong>and</strong> interdependent <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College. This<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John Hinds, second-year student, <strong>LIOS</strong> LOD track, Images<br />
<strong>of</strong> Leadership Project: “Taken outside New York’s Rockefeller Plaza<br />
across from St. Patrick’s Cathedral. I like the juxtaposition between<br />
the worldly weight that Prometheus is carrying against the otherworldly<br />
backdrop <strong>of</strong> St. Patrick’s.”<br />
issue <strong>of</strong> Linkage so beautifully <strong>and</strong> <strong>creative</strong>ly marks that transition<br />
<strong>and</strong> accompanying changes, linking theory <strong>and</strong> practice <strong>and</strong><br />
spanning a wide range <strong>of</strong> work/play grounds: learning a reverence<br />
for life along with Catherine Johnson on the sheep farm; exploring<br />
intergenerational intervention <strong>and</strong> family-<strong>of</strong>-origin issues with<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> faculty members Tim Weber <strong>and</strong> Cheryl Cebula; coming to<br />
grips with our own loss <strong>and</strong> grief through the life journey <strong>of</strong> alumna<br />
Julia Harris; heeding faculty Gloria Burgess’ invitation to dance<br />
with the leadership call <strong>of</strong> service in terms <strong>of</strong> future generations.<br />
What are you called to do, <strong>and</strong> who are you called to be? What<br />
expression will your leadership take? What are the possibilities for<br />
our world, <strong>and</strong> how will <strong>LIOS</strong> bring its many gifts forward to<br />
realize those possibilities? All good questions asked in different ways<br />
<strong>by</strong> the authors included in this issue <strong>of</strong> Linkage, the first to speak<br />
for <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College. These well-crafted essays <strong>of</strong>fer nourishment<br />
that the world hungers for <strong>and</strong> inspiration to go farther in our<br />
journey.<br />
Be assured, as individuals <strong>and</strong> as a community, we are having a<br />
pr<strong>of</strong>ound impact on our world.<br />
2
Words From the Presidents<br />
A Thought <strong>of</strong> Farewell<br />
By Lorne M. Buchman, Ph.D.,<br />
President <strong>of</strong> Saybrook University<br />
They said, “You have a blue guitar,<br />
You do not play things as they are.”<br />
The man replied, “Things as they are<br />
Are changed upon a blue guitar.”<br />
The Man with the Blue Guitar<br />
Wallace Stevens<br />
As many <strong>of</strong> you know, I will be leaving the presidency <strong>of</strong> Saybrook<br />
on October 9, 2009. I am leaving to become the next president <strong>of</strong><br />
Art Center College <strong>of</strong> Design in Pasadena, an institution with a<br />
mission centered on the education <strong>of</strong> artists <strong>and</strong> designers. I have<br />
a particular passion for the arts <strong>and</strong> for the challenges involved in<br />
the education <strong>of</strong> those who shape culture through their <strong>creative</strong><br />
work. But such “culture-shaping” is, <strong>of</strong> course, not limited to the<br />
artists <strong>and</strong> designers <strong>of</strong> this world, nor is the teaching <strong>of</strong> the <strong>creative</strong><br />
exclusively the province <strong>of</strong> the art school.<br />
Saybrook University <strong>and</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College, with their<br />
distinctive approach <strong>and</strong> focus, can certainly <strong>and</strong> accurately boast a<br />
mission to teach creativity <strong>and</strong> to educate people who shape culture.<br />
Indeed, I would assert that all great education, at some point, is<br />
a process <strong>of</strong> unleashing the <strong>creative</strong>. This discovery has been a<br />
huge part <strong>of</strong> my experience at Saybrook, <strong>and</strong> I want this farewell<br />
reflection to be a salute to all <strong>of</strong> you <strong>and</strong> your work—<strong>and</strong> how you<br />
change things as they are...upon a blue guitar.<br />
might enable a self-awareness that could change the world, is a<br />
product <strong>of</strong> a multilayered <strong>and</strong> complex set <strong>of</strong> paths. The Imperative<br />
is not the province <strong>of</strong> any one discipline—hence the significance <strong>of</strong><br />
the shared values <strong>of</strong> a multi-disciplinary Saybrook University.<br />
My deepest hope is that I have served Saybrook as one <strong>of</strong> its teachers<br />
<strong>and</strong> as a voice that helped it honor “its own being.” When I<br />
arrived here, a community was asking to reconnect with its inherent<br />
creativity <strong>and</strong> with its power to facilitate transformation for <strong>and</strong><br />
through its students. Together we found that core purpose <strong>and</strong><br />
then developed it through valuable partnerships with Leadership<br />
Institute <strong>of</strong> Seattle <strong>and</strong> the Houston Jung Center <strong>and</strong> the Center<br />
for Mind-Body Medicine. Now our reach is larger, our calling<br />
broader, but the fundamental has stayed the same. We seek to<br />
empower every student <strong>and</strong> each individual’s capacity to make a<br />
difference. We teach creativity.<br />
We are really only at the beginning <strong>of</strong> our journey to move this<br />
vision for the university forward. As I transition to new challenges,<br />
my connection with Saybrook University remains strong. A new<br />
president will come <strong>and</strong> will take the next necessary steps. I will<br />
perhaps join the Board <strong>of</strong> Trustees or simply stay close as a friend.<br />
Either way, we will nourish the institution as we nourish each<br />
student to find the courage to affect the world in a positive way.<br />
But guiding us always must be our commitment to the space we<br />
make for the <strong>creative</strong>—at Saybrook or in Pasadena—for the<br />
learning will always be alive in that purpose: “Things as they are /<br />
Are changed upon a blue guitar.”<br />
What is at stake in a Saybrook/<strong>LIOS</strong> education is more than the<br />
teaching <strong>of</strong> skill or the acquisition <strong>of</strong> facts —it is an imperative to<br />
honor each student’s power <strong>of</strong> self-discovery, to enable the learning<br />
<strong>of</strong> what resides within. As Ruth Richards <strong>and</strong> her colleagues point<br />
out in her important book on “Everyday Creativity,” that selfdiscovery<br />
is largely an opening to the creativity we hold, moment<br />
to moment, as human beings. Only through this kind <strong>of</strong> opening,<br />
moreover, can one make a difference in the world. In this spirit,<br />
Rollo May, one <strong>of</strong> the pivotal lineage holders <strong>of</strong> Saybrook,<br />
admonished us with a sacred responsibility: “If you do not express<br />
your own original ideas, if you do not listen to your own being,<br />
you will have betrayed yourself. Also you will have betrayed our<br />
community in failing to make your contribution to the whole.” I<br />
would only add—<strong>and</strong> I am sure Rollo May would agree—that the<br />
“contribution” holds significance no matter what the individual’s<br />
radius <strong>of</strong> influence. The scope is unimportant—the quality is all.<br />
Every student has the power to transform.<br />
I think it is important to recognize as well that the way to selfdiscovery,<br />
to the unleashing <strong>of</strong> the <strong>creative</strong>, to an education that<br />
The Old Man with the Guitar, Picasso, 1903<br />
3
Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project<br />
Last summer, we<br />
issued an invitation—see<br />
below—to<br />
the <strong>LIOS</strong> community<br />
to submit images<br />
for publication in<br />
Li n k a g e that<br />
particularly evoked<br />
the concept <strong>of</strong> leadership.<br />
The results were<br />
a stunning collection<br />
<strong>of</strong> illustrations—<br />
personal, highly<br />
diverse, funny,<br />
metaphorical <strong>and</strong><br />
concrete, beautiful.<br />
The image can be a person, a painting, a photograph, or a cartoon.<br />
Again, the idea is to visually evoke some aspect <strong>of</strong> leadership that<br />
you value or consider particularly wrong-headed. Allow yourself<br />
to be both serious <strong>and</strong> at play in this project. There is no right or<br />
wrong image; only the one that holds strong meaning for you. If<br />
you wish to caption your image, that’s OK, too.<br />
Looking forward to your creativity!<br />
Kathleen Murphy, Ph.D.<br />
Director, Publications<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College <strong>of</strong> Saybrook University<br />
Look for a selection<br />
<strong>of</strong> these striking<br />
images throughout<br />
the pages <strong>of</strong> this issue<br />
<strong>of</strong> Li n k a g e. Each will<br />
be attributed to, <strong>and</strong><br />
sometimes captioned<br />
<strong>by</strong>, the individual—<strong>LIOS</strong> faculty, alumni or student—who<br />
submitted the image. We thank all those who participated in<br />
this project: Gloria Burgess, Anna Gomez, John Hinds, JoAnne<br />
Taggert, John McConnell, Noella Natalino, Morgan R<strong>and</strong>all.<br />
In v i t a t i o n t o <strong>LIOS</strong> Fa c u l t y, St u d e n t s a n d St a f f:<br />
Im a g e s o f Le a d e r s h i p Pr o j e c t<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John Hinds, second-year student,<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> LOD track: Circus Theater, Scheveringen,<br />
The Netherl<strong>and</strong>s. “Showing balance, strength<br />
<strong>and</strong> grace.”<br />
As editor <strong>of</strong> Li n k a g e, <strong>LIOS</strong>’ pr<strong>of</strong>essional <strong>journal</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>creative</strong> <strong>thought</strong><br />
<strong>and</strong> <strong>feeling</strong>, I would like to invite you to share your most meaningful<br />
image <strong>of</strong> leadership, the one that speaks to you most strongly about<br />
the character <strong>of</strong> great leaders, the nature<br />
<strong>of</strong> outst<strong>and</strong>ing leadership. Alternatively,<br />
you might want to select an image<br />
<strong>of</strong> leadership that is negative, disruptive,<br />
non-productive. Think <strong>and</strong> feel<br />
<strong>creative</strong>ly about your selection: you<br />
might choose a metaphor for visionary<br />
leadership (a bird in flight), for<br />
collaborative leadership (a pyramid<br />
<strong>of</strong> gymnasts), focused leadership<br />
(a magnifying glass), emotional intelligence,<br />
self-awareness, systemic thinking,<br />
flexibility, synthesizing, guiding,<br />
idea-generating, courage, integrity,<br />
sense <strong>of</strong> humor, et al.<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> Noella Natalino, first-year student, <strong>LIOS</strong> SC track: “Noella’s dog<br />
Bailey holds his head high <strong>and</strong> peers into his future, never letting the bone<br />
deformity in his front legs faze him.”<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> Anna Gomez, Ed.D.: Dr. Gomez’ original<br />
collage “alludes to the GREEN movement, to stilling<br />
one’s being <strong>and</strong> to the fierceness necessary to st<strong>and</strong><br />
quietly amidst challenging forces.”<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John McConnell, M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong>, 1996; Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project<br />
4
<strong>LIOS</strong> Research <strong>and</strong> Creative Thought<br />
INTENSIVE FAMILY-OF-ORIGIN CONSULTATION:<br />
AN INTERGENERATIONAL APPROACH<br />
By Timothy Weber, Ph.D.,<br />
<strong>and</strong> Cheryl Cebula, M.S.W.<br />
Excerpted, with permission from the authors <strong>and</strong> publishers,<br />
from Chapter 18, The Wiley-Blackwell H<strong>and</strong>book <strong>of</strong> Family<br />
Psychology, edited <strong>by</strong> James H. Bray <strong>and</strong> Mark Stanton.<br />
This chapter proposes a model <strong>of</strong> intergenerational intervention<br />
with the whole family <strong>of</strong> origin that can serve as a st<strong>and</strong>-alone consultation<br />
or as an adjunctive resource for clients in individual<br />
or couple therapy. The intervention is a “consultation” because <strong>of</strong><br />
the brief contact <strong>and</strong> limited history the consultants may have with<br />
the entire family (Wynne, McDaniel, & Weber, 1986). We will<br />
outline our model <strong>of</strong> Intensive Family-<strong>of</strong>-Origin Consultation—<br />
“intensive” in the compressed three-day consultation <strong>and</strong> in the<br />
depth <strong>and</strong> intensity <strong>of</strong> the conversation; “extensive” in the pre- <strong>and</strong><br />
post-consultation interactions we have with the family; <strong>and</strong> “brief”<br />
in the punctuated impact we have on an intergenerational system<br />
within a compressed framework. As Framo put it, family-<strong>of</strong>-origin<br />
therapy is the major heart surgery <strong>of</strong> family therapy (Framo, 1992).<br />
. . .<br />
REVIEW OF INTERGENERATIONAL THEORY<br />
We are all embedded within a deep history across the generations<br />
called the “family <strong>of</strong> origin,” comprised <strong>of</strong> both biological <strong>and</strong><br />
onbiological members who define themselves as “family.” We are<br />
usually aware <strong>of</strong> only a small fragment <strong>of</strong> our intergenerational<br />
history as a few stories, anecdotes, maxims, rituals, <strong>and</strong> memorabilia<br />
cross our paths. How we live within this intergenerational force<br />
field builds the foundation <strong>of</strong> the health <strong>of</strong> our attachments, our<br />
capacity for self-definition <strong>and</strong> compassion, our desires <strong>and</strong><br />
despairs, what appears in our world <strong>and</strong> what lies hidden, our<br />
resources <strong>and</strong> restraints, our visions <strong>of</strong> what might be <strong>and</strong> what<br />
cannot be, our gifts <strong>and</strong> our h<strong>and</strong>icaps, our drives <strong>and</strong> retreats<br />
across our life span. We are not determined <strong>by</strong> our family-<strong>of</strong>-origin;<br />
but we most certainly are blessed, cursed, <strong>and</strong> spoken to through<br />
the invisible whispers <strong>of</strong> our family history.<br />
The unaddressed <strong>and</strong> unresolved relationships within the family<br />
may unconsciously go “underground” within the self <strong>and</strong> emerge<br />
in disguised <strong>and</strong> camouflaged forms in our body, our sense <strong>of</strong> self,<br />
<strong>and</strong> in our interpersonal life in a process known as “projective<br />
identification” (Scharff & Scharff, 1987). The inner conflicts <strong>of</strong><br />
the self, couple problems, parenting challenges (Siegel & Hartzell,<br />
2003; Fischel, 1991), <strong>and</strong> our behavior within organizations may<br />
<strong>of</strong>ten stem from reparative efforts to heal, redo, replicate, repair,<br />
defend, attach, or hide from conflicts <strong>and</strong> relationships in the<br />
family-<strong>of</strong>-origin (Framo, 1992, 2003). While our family-<strong>of</strong>-origin<br />
relationships certainly may yield gifts in strengthening our adaptability,<br />
the unresolved <strong>and</strong> unaddressed relationships within the<br />
family <strong>of</strong> origin snag us in our life with others as they are mindlessly<br />
“recruited” to help us deal with our history. But these “surrogates”<br />
(partners, children, friends, <strong>and</strong> colleagues) are not the real thing<br />
<strong>and</strong> thus, while they might serve as resources for emotional healing,<br />
they cannot ultimately resolve our family work. Direct address<br />
with the real family members opens new vistas <strong>and</strong> possibilities<br />
that are impossible with surrogates. Even if family members are<br />
deceased, their energy lives on in the living, <strong>and</strong> they too can be<br />
addressed in conversations with other family members <strong>and</strong> at the<br />
graveside (Williamson, 1991). Death ends a life, not a relationship<br />
(Anderson, 1970).<br />
In spite <strong>of</strong> the arguments supporting an intergenerational consultation,<br />
a more frequent response to the idea <strong>of</strong> bringing family<br />
members together for authentic conversations is some form <strong>of</strong><br />
protest—intense fear, disgust, opposition, numbed disinterest,<br />
sometimes curiosity, <strong>and</strong> most <strong>of</strong>ten a decline <strong>of</strong> the invitation.<br />
Examples <strong>of</strong> retorts may include: “I don’t want to disturb things;”<br />
“My parents are too old, <strong>and</strong> I don’t want to upset them;” “It<br />
wouldn’t do any good because they’ll never change;” “What does<br />
a family meeting have to do with my own problems?”; “All that is<br />
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in the past” (Framo, 1992, p. 16). The anxiety is pitched high. The<br />
oppositional stance toward these kinds <strong>of</strong> meetings makes sense in<br />
families where there has been a distressing history <strong>of</strong> destructive<br />
abuse along with a defensive <strong>and</strong> impervious block to dialogue.<br />
However, the initial protests <strong>and</strong> concerns <strong>by</strong> clients, <strong>of</strong>ten reinforced<br />
<strong>by</strong> anxious therapists, are underst<strong>and</strong>able reactions toward<br />
the “high voltage system” <strong>of</strong> the family <strong>and</strong> are better understood<br />
as developmental anxieties on the way to considering a family-<strong>of</strong>origin<br />
consultation a real possibility.<br />
CORE FACTORS IN THE CONSULTATION PROCESS<br />
The following are ten core factors that are instrumental in the<br />
practice <strong>of</strong> family-<strong>of</strong>-origin consultation.<br />
1. Pre- <strong>and</strong> Post-Consultation Phases: Our consultation model<br />
includes a thorough preparation phase with each family member.<br />
Family connections are made, therapeutic bridges are built,<br />
concerns are surfaced <strong>and</strong> addressed early on, family themes are<br />
identified, individual goals are elucidated, coaching commences,<br />
<strong>and</strong> the overall therapeutic system is being co-created before the first<br />
family meeting, exp<strong>and</strong>ing the possibilities <strong>of</strong> a good beginning. All<br />
family members are interviewed, not just the initiator or protagonist<br />
as in Framo’s (1992) model. Post-consultation contact with family<br />
members includes a summary letter solidifying the key learnings<br />
<strong>and</strong> family commitments, <strong>and</strong> reinforcing the embodiment <strong>of</strong> the<br />
family consultation.<br />
2. Psychoeducational Perspective: Clients appear to benefit from<br />
having a model <strong>of</strong> human behavior which enhances their underst<strong>and</strong>ing<br />
<strong>of</strong> healthy functioning, how problems develop over time,<br />
<strong>and</strong> what might be done to resolve or at least evolve these problems<br />
so they might be more manageable (Davis & Piercy, 2007a, 2007b).<br />
Repeatedly, we identify <strong>and</strong> explain interpersonal <strong>and</strong> intergenerational<br />
constructs as they unfold in the moment (e.g., triangles,<br />
loyalty, family secrets, boundaries, parentification, gender disparities,<br />
fairness <strong>and</strong> equity, differentiation, attunement).<br />
accomplishments). We seize the moments <strong>of</strong> immediacy, amplifying<br />
the conversations into what we call “a guided crisis.” These are<br />
the “birthquakes” <strong>of</strong> the consultation when family dynamics appear<br />
in living color. Embedded in these real-time interactions are all the<br />
stories—stories <strong>of</strong> attachment <strong>and</strong> attachment injuries, stories <strong>of</strong><br />
fairness <strong>and</strong> justice, stories <strong>of</strong> loss, life, <strong>and</strong> loyalty. As the stories<br />
take on flesh <strong>and</strong> spirit, much more is malleable as we help family<br />
members toward greater awareness <strong>and</strong> coach them in small steps<br />
toward change in the present.<br />
5. Learning: Learning is the thread that ties together the family<br />
consultations. We <strong>of</strong>ten ask “What are you learning about yourself,<br />
other family members, your family as a group?” “What are your<br />
hunches, hypotheses <strong>of</strong> what happened, what just happened?”<br />
“How do you want to check out your hunch?” Any event in a<br />
family’s experience is redeemable when framed with the learning<br />
question: “What did you learn from that <strong>and</strong> how can your learning<br />
serve you as a resource in the future?”<br />
6. Relational Integrity: We define “relational integrity” as wholeness<br />
when one is attentive <strong>and</strong> responsive, moment <strong>by</strong> moment,<br />
to the dialectic between self <strong>and</strong> other. Williamson <strong>and</strong> Weber<br />
(un<strong>published</strong> paper) have argued that differentiation alone is<br />
inadequate as the primary construct in describing a healthy<br />
interpersonal process. Differentiation must be integrated with<br />
attunement to the other (inquiry, curiosity, empathy, compassion,<br />
open to being influenced, etc.) with the core dialectic <strong>of</strong> life being<br />
the ever-present attention to fairness <strong>and</strong> justice, the balance <strong>of</strong><br />
giving <strong>and</strong> receiving in the self-other dialectic (Boszormenyi-Nagy<br />
& Krasner, 1986; Johnson, 2004; chapter 28 this volume).<br />
7. Creativity: Langer (1997) describes how mindful learning is<br />
oriented toward <strong>creative</strong>, unconventional, <strong>and</strong> novel approaches to<br />
stuck issues. We cultivate creativity as we exp<strong>and</strong> our conversations<br />
to include free associations, metaphors, <strong>and</strong> images as we promote<br />
3. Direct Address: Direct address describes the basic process<br />
between family members that increases intimacy <strong>and</strong> builds trust.<br />
Typically, family members talk about other family members (with<br />
therapists or other third parties), talk around family members<br />
(indirect, obtuse verbal <strong>and</strong> nonverbal behavior), or avoid family<br />
members altogether. One <strong>of</strong> our most important roles is to host a<br />
safe <strong>and</strong> secure context <strong>of</strong> responsiveness <strong>and</strong> accessibility between<br />
family members—to help direct the difficult conversations <strong>of</strong> direct<br />
address (Johnson, 2004; Chapter 28, this volume).<br />
4. Immediacy: The most riveting <strong>and</strong> fluid opportunities come<br />
in the immediate encounters between family members, in the<br />
moment, when the stories are experientially enacted, coming<br />
alive in the room (e.g., a son defends <strong>and</strong> rescues a passive mother<br />
in the face <strong>of</strong> a father’s disengaged authority; a sister’s fragility is<br />
her only expressed voice in the midst <strong>of</strong> a family dominated <strong>by</strong><br />
male power; a father lectures his son <strong>and</strong> daughters in support <strong>of</strong><br />
their growth without blessing them for their good efforts <strong>and</strong> past<br />
Photo from Gloria J. Burgess, Ph.D., <strong>LIOS</strong> faculty: “My father, mother <strong>and</strong> two<br />
elder sisters. Exemplifying family leadership.” (Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project)<br />
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a more open system <strong>of</strong> play <strong>and</strong> experiment. For example, a more<br />
deferring mother reported that she wore a red dress somewhat<br />
defiantly at her wedding years ago. In the subsequent conversations<br />
we referred to the “red dress” as a symbol <strong>of</strong> her courage <strong>and</strong><br />
creativity which she was attempting to amplify in renegotiating<br />
her life <strong>and</strong> marriage. The <strong>creative</strong> theme also includes attention<br />
to contributions. Typically <strong>and</strong> sadly, families under-attend to the<br />
contributions their family members have made within the family.<br />
We will model making “micro-credits”—quick acknowledgments<br />
<strong>of</strong> something that someone does well in the moment. We will<br />
steadily punctuate individual <strong>and</strong> collective strengths (e.g., tenacity,<br />
sacrifice, compassion, dedication).<br />
8. Truth Speaking <strong>and</strong> Seeking: Speaking the truth (differentiation)<br />
<strong>and</strong> seeking the truth (attunement), especially in the midst <strong>of</strong><br />
a tense emotional field, are primary processes <strong>of</strong> relational integrity<br />
that build family trust. Trust is less about resolution <strong>and</strong> more <strong>of</strong>ten<br />
related to the hospitality <strong>of</strong> creating space to speak <strong>and</strong> to having<br />
one’s experience, one’s truth, simply acknowledged. We differentiate<br />
between truth <strong>and</strong> transparency (immediate reactions) <strong>and</strong> support<br />
tenacity <strong>and</strong> inquiry in the face <strong>of</strong> anxiety, working to unpack the<br />
layers <strong>of</strong> truth within the multiple realities <strong>of</strong> family members so<br />
that a greater, more collaborative truth emerges. Family secrets<br />
(<strong>of</strong>ten critical things known but not discussed openly) bind the<br />
family within a web <strong>of</strong> anxiety that saps energy for <strong>creative</strong><br />
intimacy. A commitment to truth also means exp<strong>and</strong>ing the<br />
elasticity <strong>of</strong> the self <strong>and</strong> the family towards giving space for those<br />
<strong>thought</strong>s, <strong>feeling</strong>s, <strong>and</strong> questions deemed taboo <strong>and</strong> forbidden,<br />
towards making room for the shadow side <strong>of</strong> family life. True<br />
intimacy puts us eyeball to eyeball with the experience that all <strong>of</strong> us<br />
are “mixed bags”—composites <strong>of</strong> the good, the bad, the ugly, <strong>and</strong><br />
the beautiful.<br />
Truth also means being open to the <strong>of</strong>ten unsettling <strong>and</strong> surprising<br />
experience <strong>of</strong> feedback from others that may confirm or disconfirm<br />
what we think we know. Our consultations are replete with<br />
challenges to family members both to give feedback <strong>and</strong> to be<br />
open to feedback from others, whether or not it seems to fit.<br />
latitude <strong>and</strong> perspective <strong>of</strong> the consultant. It takes two consultants<br />
to adequately marshal the energy required to engage with multiple<br />
family members in intense conversations in a brief period <strong>of</strong> time.<br />
Options for building relational bridges in the family <strong>and</strong> entertaining<br />
diverse perspectives are amplified with two consultants. Cultural<br />
<strong>and</strong> gender diversity are elevated with our female-male team. Our<br />
co-consulting with each other between the two-hour family meetings<br />
helps stimulate a more enriched point <strong>of</strong> view <strong>and</strong> facilitates<br />
sharper self correction. Sometimes we gossip about the family as<br />
the family listens. We hope to perturb, stimulate, support <strong>and</strong><br />
model relational integrity as our differences are blended with<br />
fair consideration <strong>of</strong> the other. The co-consulting team models a<br />
relationship in which curiosity, humor <strong>and</strong> teasing, collaboration,<br />
disagreement <strong>and</strong> negotiation, fondness <strong>and</strong> respect are all part <strong>of</strong><br />
the relationship dance.<br />
…<br />
Working with the family-<strong>of</strong>-origin is always a challenging adventure<br />
that feels more like an eloquent epic unfolding in the family—the<br />
first time this group has gathered in an intensive <strong>and</strong> extensive<br />
conversation together about the things that deeply matter with the<br />
people that matter. This is no small thing! Deep emotional<br />
currents are pervasive. Ancient stories unfold with new twists <strong>and</strong><br />
fresh <strong>feeling</strong>s. New commitments intersect with entrenched<br />
loyalties. The vigilant fears that guard these conversations begin<br />
to give way before advancing hope <strong>and</strong> possibility. The anecdotal<br />
data we gather in post-consultation interviews appear to lend strong<br />
validation to this intergenerational work. A more evidence-based<br />
analysis is the next step....<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John McConnell, M.A. <strong>LIOS</strong>, 1996; Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project<br />
9. Relationship Renegotiation: We promote action-oriented<br />
change within the family <strong>by</strong> coaching family members to renegotiate<br />
explicitly <strong>and</strong> behaviorally their life together in terms <strong>of</strong> specific<br />
requests <strong>and</strong> <strong>of</strong>fers, commitments <strong>and</strong> contracts. We want family<br />
members (in the spirit <strong>of</strong> relational integrity) to be clear about<br />
what they want <strong>and</strong> to consider fairly the requests <strong>of</strong> others as they<br />
discern what they might <strong>of</strong>fer as they practice both differentiation<br />
<strong>and</strong> attunement. However, sometimes collaborative contracting<br />
gets stuck. Therefore, we also accent the power <strong>of</strong> commitments—<br />
unilateral declarations <strong>of</strong> what one will do, where the self is headed,<br />
the differentiated “I will….” Family trust is increased as promises<br />
(commitments <strong>and</strong> contracts) are made <strong>and</strong> reliably kept.<br />
10. Co-Consulting: Although the first author conducted family<strong>of</strong>-origin<br />
consultations solo for years, the co-consulting format<br />
deeply enriches the entire process <strong>and</strong> increases the emotional<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Research <strong>and</strong> Creative Thought<br />
legacy<br />
leadership:<br />
the call to<br />
stewardship<br />
& service<br />
By Gloria J. Burgess,<br />
Ph.D., <strong>LIOS</strong> Faculty<br />
The world was not given to us <strong>by</strong> our parents.<br />
It was loaned to us <strong>by</strong> our children. ~ African Wisdom Saying<br />
As you read this excerpt from my latest book, Dare to Wear Your<br />
Soul on the Outside: Live Your Legacy Now, I invite you to consider<br />
some <strong>of</strong> the questions I have asked myself since I was a young girl<br />
coming <strong>of</strong> age in rural Mississippi <strong>and</strong> the turmoil <strong>of</strong> Detroit’s inner<br />
city. I have come to recognize these questions as essential for leaders,<br />
especially those who want to be mindful <strong>and</strong> intentional about<br />
their legacy: What do I st<strong>and</strong> for, <strong>and</strong> who do I st<strong>and</strong> with? Who<br />
do I include or exclude? Who <strong>and</strong> what do I celebrate? Who <strong>and</strong><br />
what do I ignore or erase? As a leader-practitioner, parent, sibling,<br />
community steward, <strong>and</strong> global citizen—what trees have I planted<br />
<strong>and</strong> for whom? What will I leave as a shining legacy for this generation<br />
<strong>and</strong> the generations beyond?<br />
. . .<br />
Legacy leadership is about planting trees under which you may<br />
never sit, whose shade you may never enjoy. To plant such trees is<br />
to be a <strong>creative</strong> catalyst for social, cultural, political, <strong>and</strong> ecological<br />
change. At this unique time in history, our world desperately<br />
beckons us to look beyond ourselves <strong>and</strong> to see into the heart <strong>and</strong><br />
humanity <strong>of</strong> others. At this unique time in our history, each <strong>of</strong> us<br />
has an unprecedented opportunity to bring forth our signature<br />
presence to be <strong>of</strong> service <strong>and</strong> make the difference only we can make.<br />
The Foundations <strong>of</strong> My Legacy<br />
When I was a little girl, I <strong>thought</strong> I lived in an all-black town.<br />
Segregation ensured that we kept to ourselves. Too young to<br />
underst<strong>and</strong> the meaning <strong>of</strong> segregation, I simply believed that we<br />
lived in our very own town. Although I didn’t know the meaning<br />
<strong>of</strong> the word, I certainly felt the impact <strong>of</strong> segregation. I knew it <strong>by</strong><br />
the tightness in my stomach whenever I went into a shop in the<br />
“other town” with my parents <strong>and</strong> they politely addressed the white<br />
shopkeepers as Mr. or Mrs. So-<strong>and</strong>-So, yet the shopkeepers called<br />
my parents <strong>by</strong> their first names.<br />
From my earliest experiences <strong>of</strong> segregation, I detested everything<br />
about it. Outraged that all the freedoms I experienced at home with<br />
my family were denied me when we were among whites, I resolved<br />
to st<strong>and</strong> up for myself <strong>and</strong> for my rights <strong>and</strong> to speak out against<br />
injustice. Even as a youngster, I knew that I wanted to make it<br />
impossible for anyone to treat my parents, my sisters, me, or anyone<br />
else differently because <strong>of</strong> the color <strong>of</strong> our skin.<br />
Little did I know the scaffold <strong>of</strong> my legacy was already under<br />
construction.<br />
Keep Your Eyes on the Prize<br />
In our culture, most people believe that your legacy is something<br />
that occurs only after you die. Nothing could be further from the<br />
truth. While you will leave a legacy upon your death, your legacy<br />
is best appreciated <strong>and</strong> understood as a process—living, organic,<br />
<strong>and</strong> always evolving. Your legacy is much more than something out<br />
there in the great beyond. Your legacy is always forming. Its materials<br />
include both who you are right now <strong>and</strong> who you are becoming.<br />
Like the currents <strong>of</strong> a mighty river, your legacy is always in motion,<br />
continuously flowing. You <strong>and</strong> your legacy are a work in progress.<br />
Indeed, your legacy is your magnum opus, your supreme <strong>and</strong><br />
magnificent life’s work.<br />
With the blessing <strong>of</strong> hindsight on my part <strong>and</strong> foresight on yours,<br />
you can be intentional about your legacy. Inside every human being<br />
is a glorious world longing to be born. Your responsibility is to be a<br />
midwife, so to speak—to heat the water <strong>and</strong> bring in the towels—to<br />
help give birth to these magnificent new worlds. Once birthed, your<br />
role is to be <strong>of</strong> service as steward, caretaker, <strong>and</strong> caregiver—for our<br />
children, our workplaces, our communities, our civic institutions,<br />
<strong>and</strong> our Earth.<br />
Service on behalf <strong>of</strong> the future is the essence <strong>of</strong> legacy. In this sense,<br />
we are obliged to serve as midwife <strong>and</strong> torchbearer, to humbly<br />
aid in the birth <strong>of</strong> new ideas, projects, compositions, inventions,<br />
schools, legislation, <strong>and</strong> other creations, as well as to faithfully tend<br />
the hearth <strong>of</strong> our own calling.<br />
In her brilliant essay “St<strong>and</strong>ing Up for Children,” Marion Wright<br />
Edelman, founder <strong>and</strong> president <strong>of</strong> the Children's Defense Fund,<br />
writes about legacy as our living testament to who <strong>and</strong> what matters.<br />
A tireless champion for children, Edelman says, “The great events <strong>of</strong><br />
this world are not battles <strong>and</strong> elections <strong>and</strong> earthquakes <strong>and</strong> thunderbolts.<br />
The great events are babies, for each child comes with the<br />
message that God is not yet discouraged with humanity, but is still<br />
expecting goodwill to become incarnate in each human life.”<br />
If you envision your life as a relay race, <strong>and</strong> if the recipients <strong>of</strong> the<br />
baton are your children, <strong>and</strong> if the winner <strong>of</strong> the race can determine<br />
the future <strong>of</strong> humankind, don’t you want your baton to be one <strong>of</strong><br />
goodwill <strong>and</strong> love?<br />
Your life is something <strong>of</strong> a relay race, <strong>and</strong> what you pass on is the<br />
precious baton <strong>of</strong> your values <strong>and</strong> beliefs, your principles <strong>and</strong><br />
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practices, your decisions <strong>and</strong> choices, the sum total <strong>of</strong> who you are.<br />
The baton that you pass on is your legacy, which is destined to have<br />
a lasting impact on the lives <strong>of</strong> your children, their children, <strong>and</strong><br />
beyond. It is your responsibility, indeed it is your obligation, to<br />
keep your eyes on this, your most valued prize.<br />
As Graham reminds us, it is no small wonder that dance holds an<br />
ageless allure, for “it has been the symbol <strong>of</strong> the performance <strong>of</strong><br />
living.” In your life’s journey—or your life’s performance—some <strong>of</strong><br />
the most important questions that you ask <strong>and</strong> grapple with may be<br />
questions about your legacy.<br />
The Dance <strong>of</strong> Life<br />
You have been summoned to become a person unique in all the<br />
world. Just as every snowflake <strong>and</strong> leaf is unique, so are you. No<br />
one else is like you, <strong>and</strong> no one else can contribute what you were<br />
specifically designed to contribute.<br />
Dancing visionary <strong>and</strong> pioneer Martha Graham likens dancing to<br />
the art <strong>of</strong> living. Both require years <strong>of</strong> practice <strong>and</strong> development. In<br />
her autobiography Blood Memory, Graham points out that we “learn<br />
to dance <strong>by</strong> practicing dancing” <strong>and</strong> we “learn to live <strong>by</strong> practicing<br />
living.” In dancing <strong>and</strong> in living, the<br />
principles are the same. Each is the<br />
performance <strong>of</strong> a dedicated, precise<br />
set <strong>of</strong> acts, physical or intellectual,<br />
from which comes the shape <strong>of</strong><br />
achievement, the sense <strong>of</strong> one’s<br />
being, the satisfaction <strong>of</strong> spirit.<br />
For dancing <strong>and</strong> for living, we learn<br />
what we need to know through<br />
practice, which requires thous<strong>and</strong>s<br />
<strong>of</strong> repetitions. To learn <strong>and</strong> master<br />
walking, talking, <strong>and</strong> feeding yourself<br />
requires several years <strong>of</strong> practice.<br />
You learned to walk <strong>by</strong> practicing<br />
the basics, first learning to crawl or<br />
scoot, then pushing <strong>and</strong> pulling into<br />
the vertical realm to grasp the eager<br />
<strong>and</strong> encouraging h<strong>and</strong>s <strong>of</strong> your parents,<br />
or a table leg, chair, or anything<br />
else strong enough to give you the confidence to begin again after<br />
the inevitable triumph <strong>of</strong> gravity over your miniature yet ever aspiring<br />
body.<br />
Practice is the act <strong>of</strong> doing something in some aspect <strong>of</strong> our lives<br />
over <strong>and</strong> over until the act becomes habit or instinct, so customary<br />
that it becomes integral in two ways—first, to your way <strong>of</strong> doing<br />
whatever you are practicing <strong>and</strong> then to your way <strong>of</strong> being, inextricably<br />
connecting what you do with who you are.<br />
Dancers learn to dance <strong>by</strong> practicing the fundamentals <strong>of</strong> their craft<br />
over <strong>and</strong> over again until they can move on to intermediate <strong>and</strong><br />
advanced levels; their training is designed to build, strengthen,<br />
shape, <strong>and</strong> hone their bodies’ musculature, reflexes, <strong>and</strong> memory.<br />
Graham estimates that making a mature dancer takes about ten<br />
years. This span <strong>of</strong> a decade in the dancer’s training is analogous<br />
to the formative years <strong>of</strong> your life when you learn the fundamental<br />
tasks <strong>and</strong> assignments <strong>of</strong> living—the basic arts <strong>of</strong> relationship,<br />
nourishment, mobility, <strong>and</strong> possibility.<br />
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Photo from Gloria J. Burgess, Ph.D., <strong>LIOS</strong> faculty:<br />
“Women’s h<strong>and</strong>s, symbol <strong>of</strong> communal leadership<br />
Questions to ask include: How do I want to be known…<strong>and</strong> remembered?<br />
What is the rhythm, or presence, <strong>of</strong> legacy in my life? What<br />
choices do I make each day to live my legacy here <strong>and</strong> now? What or<br />
who do I believe in so deeply <strong>and</strong> passionately that I will make enormous<br />
sacrifices for it? Host these questions as you would a special<br />
guest in your home. Pay attention, but avoid hovering over them. In<br />
time, the questions will take up residence in your heart, <strong>and</strong> they will<br />
reveal their secrets to you. They will become your teacher <strong>and</strong> guide<br />
as you keep your eyes on the great prize <strong>of</strong> your life.<br />
Wear Your Soul on<br />
the Outside<br />
One <strong>of</strong> the ways I have kept my eyes<br />
on the future is <strong>by</strong> sharing stories <strong>and</strong><br />
poetry, time-honored ways to impart<br />
wisdom <strong>and</strong> to teach what might<br />
otherwise take months or years. My<br />
stories <strong>and</strong> poems have also helped<br />
me work through the pain <strong>and</strong> anger<br />
<strong>of</strong> my past. When shared with others,<br />
stories <strong>and</strong> poems <strong>of</strong>fer a lifeline or a<br />
bridge, a beacon or a c<strong>and</strong>le in someone<br />
else’s life. You just never know<br />
when something will awaken<br />
in others that allows them to claim<br />
<strong>and</strong> share their stories. As poet Theodore<br />
Roethke wisely reminds us, we<br />
all “learn <strong>by</strong> going where [we] have<br />
to go.”<br />
A couple <strong>of</strong> years ago, I delivered a keynote for an International<br />
Women’s Leadership Conference convened in Europe. The organizers<br />
invited me to speak about authentic leadership. They knew <strong>of</strong><br />
my work in developing <strong>and</strong> coaching leaders <strong>and</strong> <strong>of</strong> my work as a<br />
storyteller <strong>and</strong> poet. I was one <strong>of</strong> the few speakers from the United<br />
States <strong>and</strong> was sensitive to an anti-American sentiment among some<br />
<strong>of</strong> the conference participants.<br />
As I prepared my presentation, I contemplated how I might serve<br />
as an ambassador not only for authentic leadership but also as an<br />
instrument for reconciliation. I was reminded <strong>of</strong> Archbishop Tutu’s<br />
invitational words—“God is waiting on us. He needs our help.”<br />
Reflecting on these words, I asked myself: During this particular<br />
conference, how might God need my help?<br />
After my presentation, I knew the answer.<br />
Instead <strong>of</strong> st<strong>and</strong>ing behind the podium, which was a considerable<br />
distance from the audience, I stepped downstage near the edge <strong>of</strong>
the platform. Though I had prepared notes, I decided in the<br />
moment not to use them. I spoke extemporaneously, from my heart,<br />
telling stories from my life <strong>and</strong> sharing my own poems to illustrate<br />
key points. I did not talk about authentic leadership; I modeled it,<br />
showing my true self, using my true voice to illuminate the most<br />
essential aspects <strong>of</strong> leadership, aspects that in Western culture are too<br />
<strong>of</strong>ten ignored. I represented a mirror in which participants could see<br />
a glimpse <strong>of</strong> their own reflected light, their own possibility.<br />
As I was speaking, I saw that many in the audience were on the edge<br />
<strong>of</strong> their seat—some literally. The room was charged with enthusiasm.<br />
I mean enthusiasm in the sense <strong>of</strong> its connection to entheos—inspired<br />
<strong>by</strong> the gods. The audience brimmed with excitement <strong>and</strong> expectancy<br />
about their own possibilities, for what they might become. When<br />
I concluded my presentation, I received a st<strong>and</strong>ing ovation, which<br />
signified the potency <strong>of</strong> daring to wear your soul on the outside! By<br />
speaking from my heart without my notes, I walked my talk, modeling<br />
a legacy <strong>of</strong> authenticity <strong>and</strong> infusing its worth into the lives <strong>of</strong><br />
the audience. I believe ovations are not only for the person with the<br />
microphone, they’re also a powerful affirmation for those <strong>of</strong>fering the<br />
ovation. In this case, it was the audience’s recognition <strong>of</strong> what author<br />
<strong>and</strong> storyteller Clarissa Pinkola Estés refers to as “st<strong>and</strong>ing up <strong>and</strong><br />
showing your soul.”<br />
During the conference, I met many wonderful women, including a<br />
woman whose legacy would intersect with mine, Konji Sebati. From<br />
the moment I met her, she felt like a sister. For the duration <strong>of</strong> the<br />
conference, I knew her only as Konji, as she had introduced herself<br />
to me. Afterward, I learned that she was a prominent physician,<br />
well known for HIV/AIDS work in South Africa <strong>and</strong> had since<br />
become the South African ambassador to Switzerl<strong>and</strong>.<br />
In the short time that I spent in her humble <strong>and</strong> remarkable presence,<br />
Dr. Sebati invited me to speak at an event that she would<br />
host the following summer, a tribute to the women whose antiapartheid<br />
protests struck early chords in the death knell that<br />
would eventually lead to the dismantling <strong>of</strong> apartheid. Without<br />
hesitation, I accepted Dr. Sebati’s invitation to speak, intuitively<br />
recognizing a deep kinship with a cause oblivious to place or<br />
time, for injury <strong>and</strong> triumph anywhere is an injury <strong>and</strong> triumph<br />
everywhere. When I asked her, “Why me?” she said, “Because you<br />
are so passionate. When you told the stories about your life in the<br />
segregated South, they were so vivid <strong>and</strong> yet there was no trace <strong>of</strong><br />
hatred.” Then she asked only half-jokingly, “Are you sure you aren’t<br />
from South Africa?” I smiled in reply, knowing instinctively that<br />
soul is no respecter <strong>of</strong> place.<br />
We Are the Ones: Then <strong>and</strong> Now<br />
On August 9, 1956, twenty thous<strong>and</strong> stouthearted South African<br />
women <strong>of</strong> all races gathered from all parts <strong>of</strong> the country to march<br />
on the Union Buildings in the capital city <strong>of</strong> Pretoria. The women<br />
staged the march to protest the atrocious pass laws, which had been<br />
in effect in South Africa for several generations. Among the many<br />
horrors <strong>of</strong> apartheid, the passes symbolized perhaps the cruelest<br />
aspect <strong>of</strong> oppression—influx control, a policy that relegated<br />
Photo from Gloria J. Burgess, Ph.D., <strong>LIOS</strong> faculty:<br />
“Three Ambassadors—to Rw<strong>and</strong>a, to South Africa, <strong>and</strong><br />
<strong>of</strong> Goodwill, exemplfying women’s leadership.”<br />
husb<strong>and</strong>s into the menial role <strong>of</strong> migrant worker <strong>and</strong> made their<br />
wives into virtual widows. These unjust laws deprived children <strong>of</strong><br />
their fathers <strong>and</strong> robbed everyone <strong>of</strong> their basic inheritance, their<br />
birthright—the right to live in a stable family unit.<br />
The 1956 Women’s March was the culmination <strong>of</strong> many years <strong>of</strong><br />
planning <strong>and</strong> organizing, including a march on the government<br />
buildings the previous year. The women marched on the Union<br />
Buildings to present to Prime Minister Johannes Gerhardus Strijdom<br />
their petitions against the pass laws, petitions that contained more<br />
than one hundred thous<strong>and</strong> signatures from citizens <strong>of</strong> South Africa<br />
<strong>and</strong> a multitude <strong>of</strong> other nations from all over the world. As part <strong>of</strong><br />
their demonstration, the women sang freedom songs, including a<br />
song written especially for this particular occasion: “Now you have<br />
touched the women, Strijdom! You have struck a rock. You will be<br />
crushed!” (Wathint’ abafazi, Strijdom! Wathint’ imbokodo uzo Kafa!)<br />
The rock that had been struck was the rock <strong>of</strong> legacy.<br />
The women rose up because <strong>of</strong> the horror <strong>and</strong> devastation that<br />
the pass laws had wreaked on the family. For several generations,<br />
women had been left in isolation to raise their families, to be the<br />
heads <strong>of</strong> their households. Season upon season, year after year,<br />
decade after decade, the family unit that had survived for millennia<br />
was detonated, destabilized, <strong>and</strong> ultimately destroyed in a mere<br />
half-century <strong>by</strong> these inhumane laws. The South African women<br />
had had enough. The disturbance was too great, <strong>and</strong> the future<br />
facing their children <strong>and</strong> their children’s children provided the<br />
catalyst to propel the women headlong into what can only be<br />
called an audacious act <strong>of</strong> salvation, an act that would have an impact<br />
on the vicious legacy bestowed <strong>by</strong> the Boer government<br />
<strong>and</strong> restore a legacy <strong>of</strong> dignity <strong>and</strong> respect.<br />
In August 2006, against this historical backdrop, I had the privilege<br />
to present the opening address at the gathering hosted <strong>by</strong> Dr. Sebati<br />
to celebrate the fiftieth anniversary <strong>of</strong> the South African Women’s<br />
March on the Union Buildings in Pretoria. I shared the dais with Dr.<br />
Sebati <strong>and</strong> other dignitaries, including Dr. Ruth Mompati, one <strong>of</strong> the<br />
co-organizers <strong>of</strong> the 1956 march. Now in her mid-eighties, except<br />
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Photo from Gloria J. Burgess, Ph.D.: “Dr. Ruth<br />
Mompati, co-organizer <strong>of</strong> the 1956 South African<br />
Women’s March on the Government Building<br />
in South Africa, a milestone for women <strong>and</strong><br />
the anti-apartheid struggle, an example <strong>of</strong> local<br />
leadership with a global impact.”<br />
for a crown <strong>of</strong> snowwhite<br />
hair she looked like<br />
a woman several decades<br />
younger.<br />
I asked Dr. Mompati<br />
what gave her <strong>and</strong> her<br />
South African sisters the<br />
courage to conceive <strong>and</strong><br />
the commitment to carry<br />
out such a subversive<br />
<strong>and</strong> dangerous mission.<br />
She looked at me in a<br />
way that I imagined she<br />
must have looked at the<br />
women whose hearts<br />
were galvanized <strong>by</strong> her<br />
great soul those many<br />
years ago.<br />
Though I do not recall Dr. Mompati’s precise words, I recall the<br />
spirit <strong>of</strong> them. With fire in her eyes <strong>and</strong> ferocity in her voice, she<br />
said, “Courage! Courage? We didn’t need courage. We organized<br />
<strong>and</strong> sacrificed, we withstood humiliation <strong>and</strong> persecution, we went<br />
to prison <strong>and</strong> were exiled, we risked our lives <strong>and</strong> lost some <strong>of</strong> our<br />
sisters [<strong>and</strong> brothers, too,] along the way—not because we had<br />
courage. We simply did what we had to do. Why did we st<strong>and</strong> up<br />
to the white apartheid government? We did it because we were<br />
mothers!”<br />
Dr. Mompati <strong>and</strong> her formidable phalanx <strong>of</strong> twenty thous<strong>and</strong><br />
mothers were not theorizing about legacy as a philosophical or<br />
intellectual concept. Theirs was the brute, roiling force <strong>of</strong> legacy<br />
denied, derailed, a force as relentless <strong>and</strong> adamant as it was necessary<br />
<strong>and</strong> redemptive. In taking a st<strong>and</strong> not merely for themselves,<br />
this company <strong>of</strong> women who stood up for the sake <strong>of</strong> their children<br />
<strong>and</strong> their children’s children became Woman, Mother, True Voice<br />
for those whose voices had been systematically silenced, whose<br />
voices would have remained unheard without these benefactors <strong>of</strong><br />
goodwill, vision, hope, <strong>and</strong> triumph.<br />
Surely, Dr. Mompati <strong>and</strong> her companions knew that God was waiting<br />
on them, that He needed their help to transform the legacy, to<br />
change the conversation, to shift the context, to sing a new song on<br />
behalf <strong>of</strong> the present generation <strong>and</strong> the generations to follow. Not<br />
only did these midwives heat the water <strong>and</strong> bring in the towels, they<br />
severed the cord that kept them bound in apartheid’s stranglehold.<br />
These women were <strong>and</strong> continue to be exemplars <strong>of</strong> legacy living,<br />
assuming authority <strong>and</strong> therefore victory over tomorrow <strong>by</strong> acting<br />
with purpose <strong>and</strong> intention today.<br />
When we celebrate the women who marched on the Union<br />
Buildings in 1956, we celebrate ordinary women who acted as any<br />
mother would who was hell-bent on saving her children. These<br />
women who acted as stewards, as guardians <strong>of</strong> the past <strong>and</strong> acolytes<br />
<strong>of</strong> the future. These women who were determined to create a new<br />
story, a new ethos for the sake <strong>of</strong> the current generation <strong>and</strong> the<br />
generations to come. These women who acted in an ordinary way in<br />
an extraordinary time.<br />
Social activist <strong>and</strong> acclaimed scholar <strong>and</strong> poet June Jordan celebrates<br />
the power <strong>of</strong> the legacy <strong>and</strong> the soul <strong>of</strong> Woman in her rousing poetic<br />
tribute, which is simply <strong>and</strong> eloquently called “Poem for South<br />
African Women.”<br />
Our own shadows disappear as the feet <strong>of</strong> thous<strong>and</strong>s<br />
<strong>by</strong> the tens <strong>of</strong> thous<strong>and</strong>s pound the fallow l<strong>and</strong><br />
into new dust that<br />
rising like a marvelous pollen will be<br />
fertile<br />
even as the first woman whispering<br />
imagination to the trees around her made<br />
for righteous fruit<br />
from such deliberate defense <strong>of</strong> life<br />
as no other still<br />
will claim inferior to any other safety<br />
in the world<br />
The whispers too they<br />
intimate to the inmost ear <strong>of</strong> every spirit<br />
now aroused they<br />
carousing in ferocious affirmation<br />
<strong>of</strong> all peaceable <strong>and</strong> loving amplitude<br />
sound a certainly unbounded heat<br />
from a baptismal smoke where yes<br />
there will be fire<br />
And the babies cease alarm as mothers<br />
raising arms<br />
<strong>and</strong> heart high as the stars so far unseen<br />
nevertheless hurl into the universe<br />
a moving force<br />
irreversible as light years<br />
traveling to the open eye<br />
And who will join this st<strong>and</strong>ing up<br />
<strong>and</strong> the ones who stood without sweet company<br />
will sing <strong>and</strong> sing<br />
back into the mountains <strong>and</strong><br />
if necessary<br />
even under the sea:<br />
we are the ones we have been waiting for.<br />
I have had the privilege <strong>of</strong> sharing this poem with many people<br />
around the globe. Throughout the world, people identify with<br />
South Africa’s liberation struggle because it is at once unique <strong>and</strong><br />
universal. People <strong>of</strong> all cultures respond to <strong>and</strong> are inspired <strong>by</strong> acts<br />
<strong>of</strong> courage, acts <strong>of</strong> righteous defiance, acts <strong>of</strong> fierce resolve. And as<br />
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Figure 1<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> Research <strong>and</strong> Creative Thought<br />
Leading with Heart <strong>and</strong> Soul<br />
By Sherene Zolno, M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong> Faculty<br />
Excerpted from the forthcoming book Memoirs <strong>of</strong> a CEO: The<br />
struggle to lead with heart <strong>and</strong> soul.<br />
As societies, markets, customers, competition <strong>and</strong> technology<br />
transition <strong>and</strong> change, the crisis in our working world is causing us<br />
to clarify our work-related values, develop new strategies that allow<br />
us to maintain organizational viability, <strong>and</strong> learn new, more effective<br />
<strong>and</strong> efficient ways <strong>of</strong> operating. The role <strong>of</strong> the leader must also<br />
change to support keeping us up to date in this new global village.<br />
Being a leader today involves having the courage to face this new<br />
reality <strong>of</strong> complexity, uncertainty, <strong>and</strong>, yes, tremendous possibility,<br />
while helping the people you lead to face this reality as well.<br />
From 1997 to 2007, a national team <strong>of</strong> leadership researchers<br />
examined the requirements for effective leadership to identify the<br />
core competencies needed <strong>by</strong> today’s leaders. Through extensive<br />
interviews, <strong>and</strong> <strong>by</strong> immersing themselves in the innovative thinking<br />
<strong>and</strong> insights about leadership coming from the behavioral <strong>and</strong><br />
others <strong>of</strong> the sciences (positive psychology, communication,<br />
neuroscience <strong>and</strong> brain studies, systems thinking, <strong>and</strong> the new<br />
sciences, for example), the researchers developed the Model for a<br />
Healthy World (see Figure 1), an integrated view <strong>of</strong> leadership for<br />
what is possible—<strong>and</strong> necessary—to lead well in our lightning-fast,<br />
increasingly global marketplace.<br />
The research team’s most significant finding? That when leaders,<br />
<strong>and</strong> the people in organizations who work with those leaders, feel<br />
worthy, hopeful <strong>and</strong> capable, there exists the potential for<br />
exceptional accomplishment.<br />
And there is a special bonus for this New Century leader: the<br />
opportunity (<strong>and</strong> the joy!) <strong>of</strong> being authentic, caring <strong>and</strong><br />
courageous; <strong>of</strong> igniting <strong>and</strong> inspiring the best effort <strong>of</strong> others;<br />
<strong>and</strong> <strong>of</strong> uniting the <strong>creative</strong> spirits <strong>of</strong> many to focus on exciting<br />
breakthrough achievements.<br />
This is the wisdom that great leaders have to share with us: leadership<br />
doesn’t come with position; it arises from your commitment<br />
to yourself, to the people you are leading, <strong>and</strong> to the world around<br />
you as you each evolve towards health <strong>and</strong> well-being.<br />
Rick Skillman writes <strong>of</strong> his experience as a leader in his book,<br />
Memoirs <strong>of</strong> a CEO. In his life <strong>of</strong> leadership, he sought to model a<br />
way <strong>of</strong> leading that was both committed to being true to oneself<br />
<strong>and</strong>, at the same time, focused on contributing to the health <strong>of</strong><br />
family, co-workers, <strong>and</strong> community (<strong>and</strong> thus our country <strong>and</strong> the<br />
world). He embodied what our research team called “New Century<br />
Leadership,” leaving behind, as his legacy, leadership teams, <strong>and</strong><br />
Figure 1<br />
organizations filled with leaders at every level, committed to building<br />
work environments that nurtured heart <strong>and</strong> soul.<br />
Building the leader’s own sense <strong>of</strong> self worth, hope <strong>and</strong> capability<br />
is what makes this possible. Via the contributions the leader <strong>and</strong><br />
individuals in contact with the leader make, organizational effectiveness<br />
increases. From organizations filled with confident, capable<br />
<strong>and</strong> hopeful people, a purposeful <strong>and</strong> confident community begins<br />
to develop. And, finally, healthy well-functioning communities<br />
contribute to global well-being. This is the ripple effect that is<br />
possible when leaders underst<strong>and</strong> their critical role in leading with<br />
heart <strong>and</strong> soul.<br />
Confucius said, “To put the world in order, we must first put the<br />
nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must put the family in<br />
order; to put the family in order, we must cultivate our personal life;<br />
<strong>and</strong> to cultivate our personal life, we must first set our hearts right.”<br />
From an unknown monk around 1100 A.D. comes the following story:<br />
When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found<br />
it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.<br />
When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my<br />
town. I couldn’t change the town <strong>and</strong> as an older man, I tried to<br />
change my family. Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can<br />
change is myself. Suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed<br />
myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family <strong>and</strong> I<br />
could have made an impact on our town. That impact could have<br />
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changed the nation <strong>and</strong> I could indeed have changed the world.<br />
Or as Chunliang Al Huang <strong>and</strong> Jerry Lynch say in their book,<br />
Mentoring, The Tao <strong>of</strong> Giving <strong>and</strong> Receiving Wisdom, “By cultivating<br />
the powerful ‘self’ we begin to <strong>of</strong>fer the possibility <strong>of</strong> change to<br />
those in our world. Change comes from the individual heart <strong>and</strong><br />
fans outward, creating a unified, interconnected community.”<br />
At the local level, leading with heart <strong>and</strong> soul shows up as the ability<br />
to strike a balance between honoring the contributions <strong>of</strong> the past <strong>and</strong><br />
looking forward, with hope, to the future. Organizations in balance<br />
create communities <strong>of</strong> abundance, inclusion <strong>and</strong> resourcefulness.<br />
On the global level this kind <strong>of</strong> leadership seeks to create a sustainable,<br />
healthy environment, with peaceful relations, where human<br />
beings can develop to their full potential.<br />
Samuel Johnson said, “Self-confidence is the first requisite to great<br />
undertakings.” Our research team learned that system (organizational)<br />
health begins with health at the core. The core referenced<br />
here is the self-worth, hope <strong>and</strong> capability that leaders need to build<br />
within themselves to support them in confidently leading.<br />
Many other researchers joined us in clearly demonstrating that a<br />
solid core <strong>of</strong> self-worth, hope <strong>and</strong> capability had a pr<strong>of</strong>ound impact<br />
on every experience leaders had, affecting how capable they were<br />
in dealing with others, to what heights they aspired, <strong>and</strong> ultimately,<br />
what they were able to accomplish within the organizations<br />
they led.<br />
For example:<br />
A Harvard Business School researcher discovered that leaders with<br />
low self-worth apparently begin to think <strong>of</strong> themselves as having<br />
fewer choices, even when others saw many options yet available.<br />
Jim Kouzes <strong>and</strong> Barry Posner, authors <strong>of</strong> The Leadership Challenge,<br />
discovered that leaders made others feel capable, “enabling others<br />
to act.”<br />
Nathaniel Br<strong>and</strong>en, clinician <strong>and</strong> researcher, compared the need for<br />
self-worth, hope <strong>and</strong> capability to the need for calcium in the diet<br />
––if people lacked it, they didn’t necessarily die, but rather became<br />
impaired in their ability to function. He also demonstrated that<br />
high self-esteem subjects in research experiments actually persisted<br />
at a task significantly longer than low self-esteem subjects.<br />
Jerome Frank, M.D., pr<strong>of</strong>essor emeritus <strong>of</strong> psychiatry at the Johns<br />
Hopkins Medical School, <strong>and</strong> who as early as the 1950s was<br />
investigating the impact <strong>of</strong> psychological balance on capacity <strong>and</strong><br />
productivity, said, “Hope inspires a <strong>feeling</strong> <strong>of</strong> well-being, <strong>and</strong> is a<br />
spur to action.”<br />
Recent research on hope connects hope to openness, a quality<br />
needed for resilience in the face <strong>of</strong> change.<br />
Other researchers in the arena <strong>of</strong> positive emotions point to how a<br />
strong sense <strong>of</strong> self-worth, hope <strong>and</strong> capability can broaden<br />
attention <strong>and</strong> thinking, <strong>and</strong> fuel resilient coping.<br />
As Rick Skillman said in an interview some years ago, referring to<br />
the high turnover among executives in the tumultuous healthcare<br />
industry, “It’s hopelessness that causes us to ab<strong>and</strong>on initiatives in<br />
midstream, <strong>and</strong> to give up on ourselves <strong>and</strong> our employees.” His<br />
view is echoed in these words from a recent workshop with author<br />
<strong>and</strong> organizational change researcher, David Cooperrider: “Building<br />
<strong>and</strong> sustaining momentum for change requires large amounts<br />
<strong>of</strong> things like hope, excitement, inspiration, caring, camaraderie,<br />
a sense <strong>of</strong> urgent purpose, <strong>and</strong> the sheer joy <strong>of</strong> creating something<br />
meaningful together.”<br />
Leaders do many things: They inspire <strong>and</strong> motivate; they set<br />
strategic intention; they wield power; they align people; they set an<br />
example; <strong>and</strong> they represent their organization to outsiders. More<br />
than anything else, however, leaders help the people around them<br />
make sense <strong>of</strong> the world in which they find themselves. Throughout<br />
large <strong>and</strong> small organizations, leaders need to influence, inspire,<br />
<strong>and</strong> motivate people to achieve goals, <strong>and</strong> the way to do this begins<br />
inside <strong>of</strong> you, the leader, in the internal state <strong>of</strong> mind <strong>and</strong> heart that<br />
you bring to the job, <strong>and</strong> in the commitment you have to building<br />
confident <strong>and</strong> healthy systems.<br />
References:<br />
• Zolno, S. (2007). “Educating New Century Leaders,” Li n k a g e, <strong>LIOS</strong><br />
Publications, Leadership Institute <strong>of</strong> Seattle, Kenmore, WA.<br />
• Huang, C. <strong>and</strong> Lynch, J. (2005). Mentoring, The Tao <strong>of</strong> Giving <strong>and</strong><br />
Receiving Wisdom, HarperCollins, New York, NY.<br />
• Zalesnik, A. (1977). “Managers <strong>and</strong> Leaders,” Harvard Business Review, Harvard<br />
Business School Publishing, Cambridge, MA.<br />
• Kouzes, J. & Posner, B. (1991). The Leadership Challenge, Jossey-Bass, San<br />
Francisco, CA.<br />
• Br<strong>and</strong>en, N. (1993). The Power <strong>of</strong> Self-Esteem, Health Communications, Inc.<br />
Deerfield Beach, FL.<br />
• Jerome Frank, pr<strong>of</strong>essor emeritus <strong>of</strong> psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University<br />
Medical School, was a major figure in American psychology <strong>and</strong> psychiatry. As<br />
a military psychiatrist in the Asian Theater during WWII, he first noted the<br />
effects <strong>of</strong> demoralization upon the health <strong>and</strong> well-being <strong>of</strong> American troops<br />
overseas. In collaboration with Florence Powdermaker <strong>of</strong> the Veterans Administration,<br />
he pioneered the use <strong>of</strong> group psychotherapy for psychiatric conditions,<br />
particularly conditions in which demoralization plays a role. He was a founding<br />
member <strong>of</strong> Physicians for Social Responsibility <strong>and</strong> for years participated<br />
actively in the deliberations <strong>of</strong> the Council for a Livable World.<br />
• Hutson, H. & Perry, B. (2006). Putting Hope to Work, Greenwood<br />
Publishing Group, Inc., Westport, CT.<br />
• Broaden attention <strong>and</strong> thinking (Fredrickson & Branigan, 2002; Waugh<br />
& Fredrickson); Fuel resilient coping; acting much like the immune<br />
system (Fredrickson, Tugade, Waugh & Larkin, 2002; Tugade &<br />
Fredrickson, 2002)<br />
• Skillman, R. (2000). Personal interview<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Research <strong>and</strong> Creative Thought<br />
The Trauma Chameleon<br />
By Susan Ru<strong>by</strong>, M.A., SC, <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2004<br />
For the last five years, I have been working in a program for<br />
children who have been sexually abused <strong>and</strong> their non-<strong>of</strong>fending<br />
family members. Over <strong>and</strong> over, people have responded to the<br />
type <strong>of</strong> work I do with the same attitude, “I could never do that.<br />
How do you do it?” My answer is invariably, “I get to see them get<br />
better. There is nothing more rewarding for me.” But this article is<br />
not about the children. It is about their parents, approximately 75<br />
percent <strong>of</strong> whom have been abused—physically, sexually, verbally,<br />
or some combination <strong>of</strong> the three—<strong>and</strong> never told their stories to<br />
someone who knew what to do with it. The impact <strong>of</strong> their children’s<br />
abuse on these parents is <strong>of</strong>ten overwhelming <strong>and</strong> bewildering,<br />
creating a sadness that seeps through their bones <strong>and</strong> into every<br />
moment <strong>of</strong> their lives.<br />
The field <strong>of</strong> treating childhood sexual abuse as a clinical issue,<br />
deserving <strong>of</strong> its own treatment modalities, essentially began in the<br />
1970s. This is not because childhood sexual abuse did not exist.<br />
Most experts in the field believe that childhood sexual abuse has<br />
always existed. But with the emerging awareness <strong>of</strong> child brain<br />
development, clinicians began questioning the impact <strong>of</strong> life events<br />
on that development. Ultimately, the government began collecting<br />
statistics, public awareness evolved, funds were dedicated to helping<br />
abused children, <strong>and</strong> socially, we created a new underst<strong>and</strong>ing <strong>of</strong><br />
the impact <strong>of</strong> sexual abuse on children.<br />
Now, children routinely receive therapeutic intervention in many<br />
states, <strong>and</strong> frequently move on to resume their own versions <strong>of</strong> new,<br />
“normal” lives. With appropriate treatment, they can achieve clarity<br />
about where the fault lies in abuse dynamics, they unlearn the lies<br />
taught <strong>by</strong> perpetrators about sexuality, they learn to make choices<br />
about sexual interactions, <strong>and</strong> they develop safety plans for what<br />
to do if anything similar occurs again. For their parents who have<br />
been abused, this is both a relief <strong>and</strong> a frustration. They wonder,<br />
“Why my child?” “I knew something was wrong. Why couldn’t I<br />
stop it?” “What’s wrong with me, that my child was abused?” The<br />
self-doubts <strong>and</strong> recriminations linger long after the child’s therapy<br />
ends, <strong>and</strong> inevitably bring back to life their own experiences that<br />
have never been addressed. The following is a composite story <strong>of</strong> a<br />
woman caught in this intrapersonal dilemma.<br />
A 52-year-old woman sat in my <strong>of</strong>fice, explaining why she wanted<br />
treatment. She detailed a 20-year history <strong>of</strong> depression <strong>and</strong> an<br />
equally lengthy list <strong>of</strong> somatic complaints: constant gastro-intestinal<br />
upsets, migraines, back <strong>and</strong> neck pain, muscle aches with no<br />
discernible medical cause, <strong>and</strong> so on. She provided a list <strong>of</strong> her<br />
medications as well. She stated that her depression was a result <strong>of</strong><br />
dealing with so many medical problems. “I feel like I’m at war with<br />
my body,” she said in despair, tears beginning to run down her face.<br />
“I can’t remember a time I wasn’t depressed.” She had also been<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John McConnell, M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong>, 1996; Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership<br />
through many years <strong>of</strong> therapy, with a variety <strong>of</strong> therapists, but she<br />
said she only achieved minimal results <strong>and</strong> frequently felt suicidal.<br />
After establishing that she was not actively suicidal at that time, I<br />
began taking a family history. What followed sounded like something<br />
out <strong>of</strong> a V.C. Andrews novel—a childhood full <strong>of</strong> abuse <strong>and</strong><br />
neglect, <strong>and</strong> a spirit crushed beyond recognition, culminating in<br />
stranger rape at the age <strong>of</strong> 17. The story was told in a matter-<strong>of</strong>-fact<br />
tone, as if she was reciting a story she had heard on the local news,<br />
but had not allowed to affect her. She summed it all up <strong>by</strong> saying,<br />
“Stuff happens. It’s the usual family stuff. You know how it is.”<br />
I paused, then asked curiously, “I know you’ve been through a lot<br />
<strong>of</strong> therapy. Has anyone ever talked to you about the impact <strong>of</strong><br />
abuse on a child?”<br />
She blinked in confusion, “You mean about my daughter?” This was<br />
another part <strong>of</strong> her history—leaving her husb<strong>and</strong> because he had<br />
abused her daughter.<br />
“No. I mean your own history.”<br />
“I wasn’t—” She paused, “Oh, the rape.”<br />
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It rapidly became clear to me that she did not think <strong>of</strong> what had<br />
happened to her within her family as abusive, <strong>and</strong> yet she had recited<br />
a list <strong>of</strong> traumatic episodes, which <strong>by</strong> any <strong>of</strong> our current Washington<br />
laws would have clearly been considered sexual, physical <strong>and</strong> verbal<br />
abuse <strong>of</strong> a child. The perpetrators in her story were her mother <strong>and</strong> her<br />
older brother, with whom she had detailed a conflicted relationship.<br />
What followed over the next several months was a comprehensive<br />
exploration <strong>of</strong> her childhood traumas. Most <strong>of</strong> our goals were small<br />
<strong>and</strong> achievable within the context <strong>of</strong> a one-hour session. With each<br />
story, she began drawing pictures <strong>of</strong> her internal experience, creating<br />
a collection <strong>of</strong> artwork that was both stunning <strong>and</strong> revelational<br />
to her as her underst<strong>and</strong>ing evolved. We set small goals for her to<br />
accomplish between sessions as well, in order to address her depression:<br />
get outside for 20 minutes each day; call your daughter <strong>and</strong><br />
tell her you’re sorry about what happened to her; write a letter to<br />
the depression; <strong>and</strong> other small actions she could take in support <strong>of</strong><br />
her own healing. But the real breakthrough came about six months<br />
into our work together. She had been telling me about another<br />
incident that occurred with her brother as a child, when she<br />
suddenly stopped speaking <strong>and</strong> looked up at me in dismay. “He<br />
abused me.” In that moment, she understood beyond any doubt<br />
that the word “abuse” was not just a word that had happened to<br />
her daughter, it was her own experience. I waited. She whispered it<br />
again, “He abused me. Lots <strong>of</strong> times.” Tears began to run silently<br />
down her face, “That’s why I’m so messed up.”<br />
From that point forward, her symptoms began to recede dramatically<br />
as she reclaimed her life, <strong>and</strong> gave herself permission to be<br />
angry at her brother <strong>and</strong> the other family members who took no<br />
action to intervene on her behalf, <strong>and</strong> in some instances told her<br />
to “Suck it up. It’s not that big a deal.” At one point, she said, “I’ve<br />
been going to therapy for years. This is the first time I can see<br />
myself getting better. I can really see it.” I observed, “Maybe you<br />
were ready to do the work now. Maybe it just got safe enough.”<br />
What I <strong>of</strong>ten tell clients is that traumatic stress is a chameleon.<br />
It masquerades as other diagnoses—depression, anxiety, ADD/<br />
ADHD, sleep disorders, sexual dysfunction, to name a few.<br />
Treatment modalities that focus on symptom reduction, as<br />
required <strong>by</strong> most insurance plans, can be very effective for many<br />
people. But, if there’s a trauma history, it’s worth taking a look at<br />
the underlying causes for the symptoms, especially if conventional<br />
treatments do not appear to be working over time. For therapists,<br />
this creates some specific treatment issues.<br />
At the first session, we can be so focused on getting that diagnosis,<br />
<strong>and</strong> developing a clear treatment plan, that we neglect to ask the<br />
questions that will evoke the information needed to assess trauma<br />
as a possible precursor to the current symptoms. Our insurance<br />
company contracts require us to file claims with a clear diagnosis<br />
attached. Without the diagnosis, we do not get paid. And yet, if<br />
there is a trauma history <strong>and</strong> we don’t know it exists, we set up<br />
treatment modalities that are less than effective for the client.<br />
Consider the following ideas to build an assessment process that<br />
uncovers potential trauma in a client’s history.<br />
Consider allowing more time for assessments than a typical session.<br />
Taking a comprehensive family history is very difficult to complete<br />
in a 50-minute session. It can be helpful to assess a client over two<br />
sessions, or to do extended intake sessions, if your schedule allows.<br />
Avoid using the word “abuse” in your questions. If you ask many<br />
clients over the age <strong>of</strong> 40 whether or not they were abused as a<br />
child, they may tell you they were not, because their childhood<br />
family culture may not have recognized family dynamics as abusive.<br />
Thus, they do not label their experience as abuse. Instead, consider<br />
asking questions like: “How did your parents discipline the children<br />
in your home as a child?” “Was there anyone you were afraid <strong>of</strong> as a<br />
child?” “Were there things no one was allowed to talk about when<br />
you were a child?” “How did your family h<strong>and</strong>le secrets?”<br />
Ask about current safety issues. For instance, you might ask: “Is<br />
there any reason I should be concerned about your safety in your<br />
current living situation?” “Are there any dynamics going on between<br />
you <strong>and</strong> someone else in your home that you think might be<br />
contributing to your <strong>feeling</strong>s <strong>of</strong> depression/anxiety/inability to<br />
concentrate?” Many victims <strong>of</strong> childhood abuse are involved<br />
in abusive relationships as adults. The shame <strong>of</strong> these relationships<br />
keeps ongoing victims from being willing to admit they are in<br />
abusive dynamics at home. However, if you tie your questions to<br />
concern about their well-being <strong>and</strong> possible causes <strong>of</strong> symptoms,<br />
they are frequently more willing to speak about their situations.<br />
Even if they don’t answer the questions during the assessment,<br />
they are more likely to realize you are open to hearing about these<br />
experiences, <strong>and</strong> to think <strong>of</strong> you as a resource when they are ready<br />
to talk about it. If safety issues are current problems, then it will be<br />
imperative to develop a safety plan prior to doing any other work. A<br />
client whose home life is inherently unstable <strong>and</strong> volatile is unlikely<br />
to be able to tolerate in-depth exploration <strong>of</strong> her trauma history.<br />
Consider your diagnosis a working diagnosis, <strong>and</strong> be ready to<br />
change it if new information emerges. New clinicians, in particular,<br />
can get very focused on getting the “right” diagnosis, rather than<br />
seeing a diagnosis as a fluid concept that can evolve over time. It<br />
is easy to get stuck thinking <strong>of</strong> a client as “depressed, 52-year-old,<br />
Caucasian woman,” instead <strong>of</strong> remaining open to what you do not<br />
yet know about her. In spite <strong>of</strong> the rigor with which the DSM was<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John McConnell, M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong>, 1996; Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project<br />
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developed, designed to quantify <strong>and</strong> specify the criteria for each<br />
diagnosis, there is a lot <strong>of</strong> overlapping data between diagnoses. The<br />
lack <strong>of</strong> concentration that causes a teenager to do poorly in school<br />
might be ADD, or it might be Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or<br />
it might be anxiety, or lack <strong>of</strong> sleep, or some combination <strong>of</strong> the<br />
above. Hold your diagnosis lightly.<br />
Ask about a client’s sexual experience. This question can make clinicians<br />
squirm a bit, depending on their own <strong>thought</strong>s <strong>and</strong> beliefs<br />
about sexuality. But, for a person who was sexually abused as a<br />
child, this opens up the possibility <strong>of</strong> talking about what happened.<br />
Helpful questions might be: “When was your first sexual experience?”<br />
“How did you learn about sex?” “Was sex something your<br />
family talked about when you were a child?” “Have your beliefs<br />
about sex changed much as an adult, or do you think they’re still in<br />
line with what your family <strong>thought</strong> when you were growing up?”<br />
Consult <strong>and</strong> get training about trauma issues. If you don’t know a lot<br />
about domestic violence <strong>and</strong> abuse issues, get the training you need<br />
to underst<strong>and</strong> the impact <strong>of</strong> these traumas on both children <strong>and</strong><br />
adults. I have heard several clinicians state they rarely see clients who<br />
have histories <strong>of</strong> abuse; they only work with the “worried well” or<br />
couples. Given the current statistics on childhood abuse—3 out <strong>of</strong> 5<br />
girls, <strong>and</strong> 1 out <strong>of</strong> 3 boys have experienced some sort <strong>of</strong> sexual abuse<br />
<strong>by</strong> the age <strong>of</strong> 18; <strong>and</strong> this does not take into account the other types<br />
<strong>of</strong> abuse that can occur—it seems more likely that these clinicians are<br />
not getting complete pictures <strong>of</strong> their clients’ histories, rather than<br />
supporting the idea that most <strong>of</strong> their clients have no trauma history.<br />
I have also consulted on many cases with peers <strong>and</strong> asked the question,<br />
“Is there any trauma history here?” Often, I will hear, “I don’t<br />
know” or “I asked her if she was sexually abused <strong>and</strong> she said no.” It<br />
may be that clinicians are not asking the right questions.<br />
Last, but not least, the primary therapeutic stance when working<br />
with survivors <strong>of</strong> any type <strong>of</strong> abuse emphasizes healthy empowerment<br />
<strong>of</strong> the individual. Because survivors <strong>of</strong>ten subconsciously<br />
re-create their childhood dynamics over <strong>and</strong> over again, seeing<br />
themselves as helpless or hopeless victims, they have a particularly<br />
strong tendency to make their therapists responsible for their recovery.<br />
Any advice or suggestions made to the client need to be made<br />
while still holding the client capable <strong>and</strong> accountable for making<br />
his or her own choices for recovery. They may not believe they can<br />
get better <strong>and</strong> count on the therapist to rescue them from a lifetime<br />
<strong>of</strong> unhappiness. But this belief is at the heart <strong>of</strong> their mental health<br />
issues because it is so inherent in abuse dynamics within families.<br />
Recovery for trauma survivors means establishing a new belief in<br />
the self as in control <strong>of</strong> his or her own life, changing a lifelong<br />
pattern <strong>of</strong> beliefs <strong>and</strong> reactive responses to that belief system. This<br />
is secondary change <strong>and</strong> it means the work is <strong>of</strong>ten slower than any<br />
<strong>of</strong> us like. It is also work that can be immensely rewarding <strong>and</strong> lifechanging—both<br />
for the client <strong>and</strong> the therapist allowed to witness<br />
the transformation.<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John McConnell, M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong>, 1996;<br />
Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project<br />
LEGACY LEADERSHIP: THE CALL TO<br />
STEWARDSHIP AND SERVICE (continued from page 11)<br />
appalling as apartheid was for South Africans, their struggle was <strong>and</strong><br />
continues to be very real as well as archetypal.<br />
By looking through the lens <strong>of</strong> South Africa’s struggle, we begin to<br />
recognize that this exterior confrontation is also mirrored within,<br />
for each <strong>of</strong> us is engaged in our personal, individual struggle for<br />
liberation, the struggle to free ourselves from the exile <strong>of</strong> our<br />
perceived limitations <strong>and</strong> constraints.<br />
Whether our struggle for freedom is global or personal, in our<br />
complex, global village we all need reminders <strong>and</strong> encouragement<br />
that indeed “we are the ones we have been waiting for.” These<br />
closing words <strong>of</strong> Jordan’s poem <strong>of</strong>fer an irresistible invitation to<br />
take <strong>of</strong>f our robes <strong>of</strong> inadequacy, inferiority, <strong>and</strong> insufficiency. It is<br />
imperative that we lay these garments down on the altar <strong>of</strong> selfcompassion<br />
so that we might forgive, surrender, <strong>and</strong> enter fully into<br />
the heart <strong>and</strong> soul <strong>of</strong> legacy.<br />
For 21st-century leaders, I cannot think <strong>of</strong> a higher or more<br />
noble calling.<br />
References:<br />
• Burgess, Gloria J., Legacy Living: The Six Covenants for Personal &<br />
Pr<strong>of</strong>essional Excellence, Executive Excellence (2006)<br />
• Burgess, Gloria J., Dare to Wear Your Soul on the Outside: Live Your Legacy<br />
Now, Jossey-Bass/Wiley (2008)<br />
• Estés, Clarissa P., Letter to a Young Activist During Troubled Times<br />
(2003-2005)<br />
• Jordan, June, “Poem for South African Women” in Passion: New<br />
Poems, 1977-80. Beacon Press, 1980.<br />
• South African Women’s Freedom Song<br />
• World Wisdom from Africa<br />
Dr. Gloria Burgess is Lead Faculty for <strong>LIOS</strong>’ Spring Program. She is also<br />
Founder <strong>and</strong> Executive Director <strong>of</strong> The Lift Every Voice Foundation, a<br />
non-pr<strong>of</strong>it dedicated to developing imaginative 21st-century leaders. In all<br />
areas <strong>of</strong> her life, Gloria is devoted to legacy, imaginative leadership, creativity,<br />
<strong>and</strong> individual <strong>and</strong> collective renewal: see www.gloriaburgess.com.<br />
Gloria’s latest book, Dare to Wear Your Soul on the Outside, is hailed <strong>by</strong> Dr.<br />
Warren Bennis as “required reading for all serious students <strong>and</strong> practitioners<br />
<strong>of</strong> leadership”: www.wiley.com.<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Research <strong>and</strong> Creative Thought<br />
Lessons from Sheep<br />
By Catherine Johnson, M.A.,<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> Faculty Emeritus<br />
A full cycle <strong>of</strong> seasons has passed since I left teaching. In the past<br />
I would have asked, “Where did all those days <strong>and</strong> months disappear?”<br />
Instead, from a new vantage point, I have the distinct sense<br />
<strong>of</strong> having fully witnessed their passing.<br />
Last September when my partner <strong>and</strong> I arrived at the farm where<br />
we now live with friends, the garden was full <strong>of</strong> food to be harvested.<br />
There were apples <strong>and</strong> grapes to press, berries to be preserved,<br />
vegetables to be frozen, canned <strong>and</strong> put up for the winter. We spent<br />
whole days outside in the s<strong>of</strong>tening autumn sunlight working in<br />
the garden <strong>and</strong> then passed the evenings leading up to the election<br />
watching “Jon Stewart” while shelling bushels <strong>of</strong> beans <strong>and</strong> bags<br />
<strong>of</strong> hazelnuts. I had never done any <strong>of</strong> it before <strong>and</strong> delighted in<br />
each lesson <strong>and</strong> act. As the pantry <strong>and</strong> freezer shelves filled, I found<br />
myself also filled with a growing sense <strong>of</strong> satisfaction <strong>and</strong> an even<br />
greater sense <strong>of</strong> gratitude to be blessed <strong>by</strong> such abundance. The most<br />
pr<strong>of</strong>ound lessons, however, have come from working with sheep.<br />
It began the day the lambs were slaughtered. How cold was that<br />
Saturday morning when we brought c<strong>of</strong>fee steaming in mugs to<br />
the butcher <strong>and</strong> his gr<strong>and</strong>son. I remember the quick <strong>and</strong><br />
practiced sureness with which they worked <strong>and</strong> the way the life<br />
left each animal with a single shot. The dry grass remained stained<br />
for days until the November rains finally washed the last <strong>of</strong> the<br />
blood away. It was not an easy act to witness, an even harder one<br />
in which to participate. I felt heavy for days, <strong>and</strong> I questioned<br />
myself for some time about whether eating meat is worth the<br />
sacrifice <strong>of</strong> the animals.<br />
In a few short months I had gone from teacher to student, to<br />
spending more time outside than in, from living on an isl<strong>and</strong><br />
surrounded <strong>by</strong> water <strong>and</strong> a house <strong>by</strong> forest, to a wide open valley<br />
with a wind that could be both a relief <strong>and</strong> a curse. I had also traded<br />
in a five-hour daily commute for work that waited just outside<br />
my door. I had done away with the need for a day timer, taken <strong>of</strong>f<br />
my watch <strong>and</strong> settled into a rhythm governed <strong>by</strong> weather, the care<br />
<strong>of</strong> animals <strong>and</strong> whatever needed doing next. Increasingly, I spent<br />
longer periods <strong>of</strong> time working quietly <strong>by</strong> myself <strong>and</strong>, without<br />
intending to, began cultivating a larger patience, an increased<br />
capacity to listen <strong>and</strong> a sense <strong>of</strong> trust in the rightness <strong>of</strong> things.<br />
One day, at the bank with winter fast approaching, I mentioned<br />
something about working with sheep. The teller had glanced at<br />
my h<strong>and</strong>s <strong>and</strong> I must have self-consciously spoken as if to explain<br />
the dirt permanently chiseled into the cracks in my fingertips <strong>and</strong><br />
embedded beneath my nails. She leaned forward, across the counter<br />
<strong>and</strong> asked quietly:<br />
“Do you kill the lambs for meat?”<br />
“Yes.’” I replied, “We do.”<br />
“Catherine,” Her sudden familiarity was disconcerting; she must<br />
have looked at the name on my check, “How do you square<br />
with that?”<br />
My answer was less than satisfactory for both <strong>of</strong> us. As time went<br />
<strong>by</strong>, I understood that the simple truth was that I had not; I had<br />
not squared the killing <strong>of</strong> lambs with my desire to eat meat. And,<br />
every time we ate lamb, which is <strong>of</strong>ten at the farm, I could hear that<br />
woman’s voice asking the same question.<br />
By the time the winter solstice arrived, so had a storm the likes <strong>of</strong><br />
which had not been seen in the Willamette Valley for a very long<br />
time. Snow piled in drifts. Ice made the roads impassable. The ewes,<br />
almost all <strong>of</strong> which were now pregnant, cowered inside the barn<br />
for days. We worked hard to keep their drinking water thawed,<br />
initially hauling water from the house in five-gallon buckets several<br />
times a day. Eventually we found a heating coil that would keep<br />
their water just above freezing, lessening our work but not our<br />
concern. There is no calling in sick or taking a snow day when it<br />
comes to tending animals.<br />
In early February we began to prepare for spring lambing. (A<br />
misnomer really, since the weather is still cold <strong>and</strong> very wet that<br />
time <strong>of</strong> year—hardly springlike at all.) Making the shed ready<br />
meant five stalls to be cleaned, limed <strong>and</strong> lined with new straw;<br />
oats <strong>and</strong> hay to be brought from the big barn <strong>and</strong> stacked <strong>and</strong><br />
stored for the weeks ahead; rags, syringes <strong>and</strong> medical supplies to be<br />
sorted through <strong>and</strong> readied. At times it seemed we were preparing<br />
for a disaster rather than a natural event that <strong>of</strong>ten takes place with<br />
very little help from humans at all.<br />
A few weeks later the lambs started coming. Initially, one or two<br />
every other day, then suddenly they started arriving all at once, like<br />
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the finale <strong>of</strong> a fireworks show. It seemed we worked around the<br />
clock, but it was the bundling up <strong>and</strong> unbundling that wore me<br />
down the most. Every trip out to check on the ewes could end up<br />
being a many-hours’ birth, so we dressed for it. I wore long<br />
underwear beneath my overalls, a wool sweater <strong>and</strong> down vest<br />
under my barn coat, a wool hat, fleece-lined gloves <strong>and</strong> two pairs<br />
<strong>of</strong> wool socks inside my rubber boots. Most <strong>of</strong> the time I would<br />
be back in twenty minutes, having been outside barely as long as it<br />
took to get dressed. As much as I hated the routine, it was<br />
necessary <strong>and</strong> for the most part worked well against the cold <strong>and</strong><br />
the wet, although the chill always found me during the 3:00 AM<br />
check no matter how much I wore.<br />
After a couple <strong>of</strong> weeks I lost count <strong>of</strong> how many lambs had been<br />
born. Were it not for the clipboards tacked <strong>by</strong> each stall, I could<br />
not have known when it would end or who was still to go, <strong>and</strong> just<br />
when I <strong>thought</strong> we were finished, another ewe went into labor.<br />
We’d been watching her all day, separating herself from the herd,<br />
circling, lying down <strong>and</strong> then getting up <strong>and</strong> moving back again<br />
towards the rest. Just when we were certain that she was finally<br />
going to give birth, she’d get up <strong>and</strong> rejoin the herd.<br />
Now, in the middle <strong>of</strong> a moonless night she was in hard labor just<br />
a few yards away. We crouched in the frozen grass listening to her<br />
harsh breathing <strong>and</strong> low sounds. Long minutes passed, as we<br />
shivered in the darkness. We also spoke s<strong>of</strong>tly about whether she<br />
was too tired to keep pushing <strong>and</strong> whether or not we should<br />
intervene. Finally, I went to get hot soapy water from the house.<br />
By the time I returned, one <strong>of</strong> two twins had just, finally, emerged<br />
steaming in the cold as its mother licked it dry. By the time the<br />
second twin was born, both their umbilical cords cut <strong>and</strong> doused<br />
with iodine, <strong>and</strong> the mother <strong>and</strong> babies moved safely into a stall in<br />
the lambing shed, four hours had passed <strong>and</strong> it was getting light.<br />
What does any <strong>of</strong> this have to do with coaching or counseling?<br />
Nothing, or perhaps—everything. If we come to our sessions with<br />
reverence, remembering that a client asking for help is entrusting<br />
us with his or her vulnerability, we might slow down. If we are too<br />
quick to diagnose <strong>and</strong> intervene, we may miss something essential,<br />
something that can only emerge out <strong>of</strong> the quiet that patient waiting<br />
<strong>and</strong> deep listening encourage. In that slow quiet also lies the<br />
well <strong>of</strong> our own genuine empathy, whose water is exactly the nourishment<br />
for which the aching heart thirsts. Of course there is time<br />
<strong>and</strong> a place for intervention, but we are too <strong>of</strong>ten pulled to hurry<br />
in: the 50-minute hour, the expectation that the client carries that<br />
we will do something to alleviate his or her suffering, an expectation<br />
we can palpably feel, all our training, techniques <strong>and</strong> skills upon<br />
which we love to rely. There are so many compelling reasons to act,<br />
<strong>and</strong> yet the lessons <strong>of</strong> this year minding sheep will change my future<br />
work. I will do less <strong>and</strong> listen more carefully, trusting that there is a<br />
true wisdom that the client carries, one that arises out <strong>of</strong> her or his<br />
inherent wholeness. And, out <strong>of</strong> respect <strong>and</strong> reverence for the mystery<br />
that has brought us together, I will trust that the right medicine<br />
is present; I need only be the shepherd.<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John McConnell, M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong>, 1996;<br />
Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project<br />
I remember leaning on the stall door <strong>and</strong> looking at the new lambs<br />
curled together in the straw. “Welcome to the world,” I whispered.<br />
My overalls were encrusted with mud <strong>and</strong> who knows what else.<br />
I was utterly exhausted <strong>and</strong> long beyond cold; I was also crying.<br />
Every birth was a miracle. Our efforts, which were once in awhile<br />
great, but usually small, were worth it. To witness the arrival <strong>of</strong> life<br />
in this world is a holy privilege.<br />
So, how do I square the killing <strong>of</strong> lambs for food? I don’t. And,<br />
perhaps therein lies the reverence for their lives <strong>and</strong> for the great<br />
mystery in which we are engaged. The willingness to risk our<br />
health for the sake <strong>of</strong> theirs is part <strong>of</strong> an ancient equation, a way<br />
that the circle is completed. We usher the animals into the world,<br />
we do everything we can to ensure their health <strong>and</strong> well-being.<br />
We care for them daily. And, when the time comes, we take their<br />
lives for our own. It is a blessing <strong>and</strong> a gift in the truest sense. I<br />
look at life differently from this experience. I underst<strong>and</strong> in very<br />
real terms how beautiful life is <strong>and</strong> how fleeting, what a gift it is<br />
to be born <strong>and</strong> how inevitable it will be to die. If I can only<br />
sustain this sense <strong>of</strong> reverence <strong>and</strong> gratitude, I think my years<br />
spent farming will be beyond price.<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Research <strong>and</strong> Creative Thought<br />
An invitation to mindfulness<br />
By Carol Jakus, M.S.W., M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong> Faculty<br />
Mindfulness is revealing <strong>and</strong> it is healing. — Thich Nhat Hanh<br />
Right now, before you read another word, take a breath.<br />
Feel the air as it slowly enters the nostrils, exp<strong>and</strong>ing the lungs.<br />
Notice how it lifts the sternum, relaxing the rib cage. Gently<br />
exhale. See how the shoulders become a bit less tense. What else<br />
are you noticing in your body right now? Any other sensations<br />
arising for you? Can you feel your feet? How about your h<strong>and</strong>s?<br />
Are you aware <strong>of</strong> what emotions you’re <strong>feeling</strong> at this moment? Are<br />
you bored? Tired? Curious? Anxious? Impatient? What else is there?<br />
What <strong>thought</strong>s are running through your head as you read this?<br />
Are you worrying about something you have been procrastinating<br />
about? Maybe you’re making plans for the upcoming weekend?<br />
Or daydreaming about an exciting new job or romance?<br />
Take another breath. What are you noticing now?<br />
Much has been written lately about mindfulness. In a world filled<br />
with distractions <strong>and</strong> worries, where multi-tasking <strong>and</strong> doing more<br />
<strong>and</strong> more in less <strong>and</strong> less time has become the way rather than the<br />
exception, it’s no surprise that people are hungry for the opportunity<br />
to slow down <strong>and</strong> be present.<br />
Mindfulness can be simply defined as awareness; being awake;<br />
fully alive to the moment...this moment...without judgment or<br />
preference for it to be anything else than what it already is.<br />
The practice <strong>of</strong> mindfulness originates in Buddhist philosophy. It<br />
was secularized <strong>and</strong> made popular in the United States in 1979<br />
when Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D., developed an eight-week program<br />
at the University <strong>of</strong> Massachusetts called Mindfulness Based Stress<br />
Reduction (MBSR), designed to teach the general public a new<br />
way to regain health <strong>and</strong> well-being while cultivating clear peace<br />
<strong>of</strong> mind. The class <strong>of</strong>fers simple yoga, meditation <strong>and</strong> mindful<br />
awareness as paths on one’s personal journey towards self-discovery<br />
<strong>and</strong> healing.<br />
Mindfulness is not about zoning out, being in la-la-l<strong>and</strong> or reaching<br />
some level <strong>of</strong> nirvana that keeps us apart or above others. It’s more<br />
about being in tune with our lives as they unfold day to day, accepting<br />
what we are, flaws <strong>and</strong> all. Practicing mindfulness is like slowly<br />
washing a window that has accumulated years <strong>of</strong> dirt <strong>and</strong> grime,<br />
allowing us to see more clearly what’s been there all along. We don’t<br />
have to change the view or replace the window; just clear <strong>of</strong>f the<br />
film <strong>of</strong> distraction that we’ve let build up <strong>and</strong> distort our vision.<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John Hinds, second-year student, <strong>LIOS</strong> LOD track:<br />
“Private garden, La Connor, Washington. Shows mindfulness <strong>and</strong> growth.”<br />
Take for example our relationship to pain. Pain is everywhere. It’s<br />
experienced in the physical body as acute or chronic illness or<br />
injury; it’s the heartache we feel when immersed in the grief or<br />
sadness <strong>of</strong> a loss; it’s the anxiety <strong>of</strong> being left alone or having to<br />
confront a difficult situation. Pain is inherent in all <strong>of</strong> life. We can’t<br />
escape it. But we sure do try! We turn to using alcohol, drugs, food,<br />
spending money, watching TV or any other addiction that helps us<br />
escape from the situation or condition. We tell ourselves stories <strong>and</strong><br />
run scams about what is true, avoiding our circumstances rather<br />
than actually experiencing them. And so, we suffer.<br />
Suffering is this story we tell ourselves about our pain. It’s said that<br />
pain in life is inevitable but suffering is optional. Often, the story is<br />
worse than the pain itself! Who hasn’t had the experience <strong>of</strong> going<br />
through a painful or difficult situation, only to embellish its details<br />
or impact with each telling to another person? The pimple becomes<br />
a tumor. The break-up, the end <strong>of</strong> our love life. The failed test, pro<strong>of</strong><br />
that we’re too incompetent to get through graduate school or ever<br />
be hired for a job.<br />
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Mindfulness invites us to be more curious about our pain. We<br />
bring compassionate awareness to it without the distractions that<br />
numb it so we can move through it...not away from it. We no<br />
longer operate from a place <strong>of</strong> fear or avoidance but rather from a<br />
position <strong>of</strong> open-eyed awareness. We look into our pain in order to<br />
better underst<strong>and</strong> it. To explore its root system. We begin to realize<br />
that we don’t have to identify with our depression or migraine but<br />
simply experience it.<br />
Try taking another breath as you begin to explore the<br />
transformational journey <strong>of</strong> presence that takes you home...<br />
to yourself.<br />
If you want to learn more about Mindfulness or the eight-week<br />
Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) class for either<br />
mental health clinicians or the general public, please feel free to<br />
contact me at 206-755-9313 or cjakus@mindfullivingnw.com.<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John McConnell, M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong>, 1996; Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project<br />
Photo <strong>by</strong> John Hinds, second-year student, <strong>LIOS</strong> LOD track:<br />
“Somewhere in Spain. Shows the ‘balcony view.’” (Images <strong>of</strong><br />
Leadership Project)<br />
By holding this position <strong>of</strong> curiosity, rather than rejection or<br />
avoidance, we can learn more deeply about ourselves. What we<br />
fear, what we want, what we need. We learn about our preferences.<br />
What calls to us. What drives us. What motivates us.<br />
By learning how to better accept ourselves, we naturally learn<br />
how to more deeply accept the nuances <strong>and</strong> warts <strong>of</strong> others.<br />
We may even become models for our clients, showing how to<br />
tolerate pain <strong>and</strong> not fall into the trap <strong>of</strong> suffering. We begin to<br />
experience hope: a chance to more fully engage in life moment<br />
to moment, breath to breath.<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Research <strong>and</strong> Creative Thought<br />
SOMETHING LIKE A PEAR<br />
By K. Alex<strong>and</strong>ra Onno, Ph.D., <strong>LIOS</strong> Faculty<br />
Abstract <strong>and</strong> excerpt from Out <strong>of</strong> Ashes: A Return to<br />
the Creative Feminine, doctoral dissertation, Pacifica<br />
Graduate Institute, 2009<br />
This heuristic <strong>and</strong> phenomenological study was conceived in a<br />
crucible <strong>of</strong> clinical work that embraces fairy tales, myths, <strong>and</strong> other<br />
stories, <strong>and</strong> out <strong>of</strong> an abiding curiosity about <strong>and</strong> dedication to<br />
relationship with the <strong>creative</strong> journey.<br />
The research was both phenomenological (exploring the lived<br />
experience <strong>of</strong> “the other”), involving interviews with nine different<br />
women on their relationship with creativity <strong>and</strong> story, <strong>and</strong> heuristic,<br />
using my own experience as a researcher as a subject <strong>of</strong> study. An<br />
essential element <strong>of</strong> the project was to allow the phenomenological<br />
<strong>and</strong> heuristic aspects <strong>of</strong> the study to be influenced <strong>and</strong> transformed<br />
<strong>by</strong> the other in order to create the final document.<br />
For the phenomenological research, each <strong>of</strong> the nine women was<br />
interviewed three times. The first interviews focused on each woman’s<br />
relationship with the <strong>creative</strong>, emphasizing both what nourishes<br />
<strong>and</strong> sustains creativity <strong>and</strong> what interferes with it. In the second<br />
interviews, each woman was asked to recall her earliest remembered<br />
“favorite story.” The third interviews took place after I gleaned a<br />
“map” or “mirror” from each woman’s earliest remembered favorite<br />
tale. The current point <strong>of</strong> intersection between each woman’s<br />
<strong>creative</strong> journey <strong>and</strong> her “map” revealed the answer to the central<br />
question <strong>of</strong> the research: would the map so revealed <strong>of</strong>fer support<br />
<strong>and</strong> nourishment to relationship with the <strong>creative</strong>?<br />
As I attempted to capture the soul <strong>of</strong> the interviews <strong>and</strong> what<br />
emerged out <strong>of</strong> my own deepening relationship with the <strong>creative</strong>, I<br />
found myself in a constant <strong>and</strong> alchemical interpenetration between<br />
these aspects <strong>of</strong> this work.<br />
The heuristic aspect <strong>of</strong> this work was also threefold. First, as a<br />
<strong>creative</strong> woman, <strong>and</strong> especially as a writer, I explored a “living into”<br />
<strong>and</strong> “breathing into” my own deepening relationship with <strong>and</strong><br />
dedication to creativity as an active <strong>and</strong> uncensored commitment,<br />
resulting especially in a series <strong>of</strong> muse poems <strong>and</strong> dreams. Second,<br />
an ongoing heuristic exploration <strong>of</strong> my evolving relationship with<br />
my own “earliest favorite tale” <strong>of</strong> “Ash Girl” or Cinderella became<br />
an essential thread in the resulting structure <strong>of</strong> this project. Finally,<br />
I invested in <strong>and</strong> surrendered to the constant interpenetration<br />
between the phenomenological <strong>and</strong> heuristic aspects <strong>of</strong> this work,<br />
allowing each to be influenced <strong>and</strong> transformed <strong>by</strong> the other, in<br />
order to create the final document.<br />
This alchemical interplay became a key element in the written<br />
material born out <strong>of</strong> the dialogue with each woman. I attempted<br />
not to summarize, but instead to invoke the living spirit <strong>of</strong> each<br />
conversation, inviting the reader into an “alchemical immersion”<br />
<strong>and</strong> an actual experience <strong>of</strong> relationship with each dialogue. The<br />
final document, embodying what can also be clinically applied, is<br />
therefore in largest part <strong>and</strong> <strong>of</strong> necessity an alchemical emergence<br />
out <strong>of</strong> that place where the conversation with each woman <strong>and</strong> the<br />
writer’s imagination met, transforming both.<br />
In addition to the relationship between the aspects <strong>of</strong> study, I want<br />
to acknowledge that there has also been a significant relationship<br />
between this project <strong>and</strong> my work as <strong>LIOS</strong> Graduate College faculty.<br />
There is an alchemy to shared inquiry; it is an essential power<br />
<strong>and</strong> beauty <strong>of</strong> the <strong>LIOS</strong> program that we live a dance between the<br />
inquiry into the other <strong>and</strong> investigation <strong>of</strong> the self in the service <strong>of</strong><br />
the call to serve as transformative agents <strong>of</strong> change. This project was<br />
seeded alongside my evolution in our transformative program, <strong>and</strong><br />
companioned <strong>by</strong> the richness <strong>of</strong> working with the extraordinary<br />
colleagueship it has been my privilege <strong>and</strong> my pleasure to experience<br />
during this time.<br />
What follows is a small “taste” <strong>of</strong> the<br />
dissertation, from a response to the<br />
intimate nature <strong>of</strong> heuristic research:<br />
From Literature Review, Part<br />
II: Something Like a Pear<br />
Unlike the crisp public character <strong>of</strong> an<br />
apple, there is something private about<br />
a pear. An apple can be eaten green,<br />
or in full ripeness; but the moment<br />
when a pear is at its fragrant best is <strong>of</strong><br />
an intimate scale. It is a narrow space,<br />
requiring both patience <strong>and</strong> vigilance;<br />
patience because a pear cut too soon<br />
will never yield its fullest flavor, <strong>and</strong> vigilance because a pear left too long<br />
loses the supple texture <strong>of</strong> the fruit at its time.<br />
It is a fruit that asks for attunement. Smooth skin finally turning just<br />
that hint more golden, firm flesh finally s<strong>of</strong>tening, just enough, but key<br />
to receiving its subtle message <strong>of</strong> its movement towards ripening is the<br />
scent that begins to <strong>of</strong>fer itself as the pear reaches that moment when the<br />
flavor is at its full.<br />
Just as the wearing <strong>of</strong> perfume should provide an invitation only, a hint<br />
<strong>of</strong> what one might discover <strong>by</strong> leaning in close enough for a kiss, the pear<br />
<strong>of</strong>fers the same such subtle cues. It requires a willingness to enter into that<br />
intimate scale space—to pause, to enter the dialogue, to separate it from<br />
other bolder flavors in the bowl, to bring it close. Breathe it in. Let the<br />
fragrance speak (pp. 169-170).<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Research <strong>and</strong> Creative Thought<br />
The<br />
heroine’s<br />
journey<br />
in john<br />
boorman’s<br />
beyond<br />
rangoon<br />
By Kathleen Murphy,<br />
Ph.D.<br />
The world is full <strong>of</strong> women who hunger for movies that chronicle<br />
not Gawain’s but Guinevere’s gutsy quest to repair her own—<strong>and</strong><br />
thus others’—broken souls <strong>and</strong> psyches. The cinematic Round<br />
Table <strong>of</strong> such travelin’ ladies includes Bringing Up Ba<strong>by</strong>’s Katharine<br />
Hepburn, a vessel <strong>of</strong> dangerous anarchy into which her juiceless<br />
lover (Cary Grant) must dive to save them both from deathly<br />
extremes. And Jodie Foster’s Clarice Starling in The Silence <strong>of</strong> the<br />
Lambs, scenting out the dark, devouring demon-angel who will<br />
perversely father her into wholeness. Seat too the sadly underrated<br />
Closet L<strong>and</strong>’s Madeleine Stowe, who braves a lacerating descent into<br />
the “ultimate closet” <strong>of</strong> her own violated self/unconscious, with<br />
another brutal, Janus-faced male acting as her guide <strong>and</strong> confessor.<br />
And Sigourney Weaver’s tough mother, crucified for humankind—<br />
in a fiery felix culpa—in the third film <strong>of</strong> the Alien trilogy.<br />
Beyond Rangoon<br />
Such mythic passages for distaff knights are rare as hen’s teeth.<br />
Thank goddess for John Boorman’s Beyond Rangoon, a pell-mell<br />
adventure featuring a Lancelot who happens to be woman, doctor,<br />
<strong>and</strong> tragically bereaved mother <strong>and</strong> wife. The derailed tourists<br />
in this new film <strong>and</strong> David Lean’s adaptation <strong>of</strong> E.M. Forster’s A<br />
Passage to India are sisters under the skin. But the real-as-headlines,<br />
yet timeless, journey Boorman’s Laura Bowman (Patricia Arquette)<br />
makes through alternately fecund <strong>and</strong> fatal Burma is “known” in<br />
her (<strong>and</strong> our) blood <strong>and</strong> nerve-endings.<br />
In contrast, the “passage to more than India” that transforms bony,<br />
brainy Adele Quested (Judy Davis) is fueled <strong>by</strong> a drier, more metaphysical<br />
outrage. Immersed in an Otherness <strong>of</strong> her own making,<br />
Davis confronts primal opposition, a dark, heated disorder that<br />
reduces character <strong>and</strong> experience to a cosmic sound effect signifying<br />
nothing. By the time <strong>of</strong> A Passage to India’s climactic homecoming,<br />
Quested has matriculated into an older soul, worthy daughter <strong>of</strong><br />
the cozily mystical Mrs. Moore (Peggy Ashcr<strong>of</strong>t) who, gazing into<br />
the moonspangled Ganges where corpses sometimes float, exclaims,<br />
“What a terrible river!” then, “What a wonderful river!” (Mrs. Moore’s<br />
cosmic opposites flow through all <strong>of</strong> John Boorman’s films, from<br />
Point Blank through Deliverance, Excalibur, The General. He is an<br />
artist who acknowledges that his richest visions iris-out into darkness.)<br />
Boorman’s quester “beyond”<br />
Rangoon sets out as a member<br />
<strong>of</strong> the walking dead, a shattered<br />
spirit barely tethered to her flesh,<br />
for whom the wheel <strong>of</strong> time, <strong>of</strong><br />
life, has stalled. (The image <strong>of</strong> that<br />
wheel on monastery walls <strong>and</strong> as<br />
shadow on the ground at her very<br />
feet greenlights Laura’s eventual<br />
take<strong>of</strong>f into “more than Burma.”)<br />
Early on, sightseeing a monumentally<br />
reclining, dreaming Buddha, Laura listens indifferently as their<br />
tour guide (Spalding Gray) puns on the Buddhists’ lack <strong>of</strong> belief<br />
in the soul <strong>by</strong> gesturing at the bottoms <strong>of</strong> the statue’s great feet,<br />
adorned <strong>by</strong> stories shaped in curving pictograms. Behind him,<br />
parents caution their son to come down from Buddha’s back. Boorman<br />
creates a visual schism between foreground religious studies<br />
<strong>and</strong> background actuality. The effect suggests the kind <strong>of</strong> Hitchcockian<br />
back-projection that <strong>of</strong>ten signaled psychic deracination for<br />
traumatized heroines such as Marnie or Kim Novak X2 in Vertigo.<br />
When the little boy loses his footing <strong>and</strong> tumbles down the statue,<br />
Laura shrieks an SOS for her sister <strong>and</strong> fellow doctor (Frances Mc-<br />
Dorm<strong>and</strong>), then st<strong>and</strong>s stock still, frozen in impotence. She calls herself<br />
spiritual “stone” (her medical skills—the equivalent <strong>of</strong> wounded<br />
Arthur’s Excalibur—are grounded). Later, in her hotel room mirror,<br />
her fractured soul is imaged in doubled, separated reflections.<br />
Gray’s punning on<br />
soul <strong>and</strong> sole is more<br />
apt than this first,<br />
“false” guide knows:<br />
the hero’s journey in<br />
Beyond Rangoon is<br />
driven <strong>by</strong> concrete<br />
mysticism. When<br />
Laura Bowman steps<br />
out <strong>of</strong> stone into the<br />
flesh-<strong>and</strong>-blood drama<br />
<strong>of</strong> Burma’s politics, an authentic action-adventure is launched, far<br />
more visually <strong>and</strong> viscerally absorbing than most contemporary<br />
superman epics. Drawn ever deeper into Third World danger <strong>by</strong><br />
a highly “un<strong>of</strong>ficial” tour guide (Aung Ko), Laura Bowman’s soles<br />
touch down in a teeming backcountry where, armed with knife,<br />
gun, <strong>and</strong> her own bright courage, this Prince Valiant-coiffed quester<br />
fights her way through the stations <strong>of</strong> Boorman’s typically rivercrossed<br />
path to rebirth.<br />
(continued on page 23)<br />
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Still lodged in the Kipling Hotel, Laura dreams <strong>of</strong> her lost life, <strong>and</strong><br />
Boorman’s camera lifts to look down on her through a revolving<br />
ceiling fan. Almost immediately, as though galvanized <strong>by</strong> that<br />
circular motion, she wakes to the sounds <strong>of</strong> people running,<br />
shouting in the street. This is Beyond Rangoon’s first formal<br />
wakeup call to take to the saving road, <strong>and</strong> Laura chases the street<br />
rally as though hastening not to a tense st<strong>and</strong><strong>of</strong>f between soldiers<br />
<strong>and</strong> political protesters, but toward some longed-for reunion.<br />
Heralding the coming <strong>of</strong> Aung San Suu Kyi (Nobel Prize-winning,<br />
heroic dissident under house arrest for years <strong>and</strong> now on trial in<br />
Burma, played <strong>by</strong> Adelle Lutz), the Burmese woman who heads<br />
the mostly youthful dissidents, a little girl shyly touches Laura’s<br />
h<strong>and</strong>, the first in a series <strong>of</strong> guiding, arming signals <strong>by</strong> children<br />
who st<strong>and</strong> in reality for the counsel <strong>of</strong>fered <strong>by</strong> her murdered son<br />
in dreams.<br />
Suu Kiy walks deliberately into the soldiers’ ranked guns, almost<br />
the graceful hostess greeting guests. Laura watches, mesmerized, as<br />
the woman’s serenely beautiful face gathers <strong>and</strong> aims the power <strong>of</strong><br />
self until she literally quakes the uniformed men out <strong>of</strong> her way.<br />
In Boorman’s Merlin-animated mise-en-scene, Suu Kiy becomes<br />
Laura’s patron goddess. St<strong>and</strong>ing in for the Arthurian lady in the<br />
lake, she opens a channel <strong>of</strong> <strong>creative</strong> energy, breaking Laura’s “curse”<br />
to turn stone into flesh-<strong>and</strong>-blood warrior.<br />
Once mothered, Laura attaches herself to an exquisitely civilized<br />
cicerone in the guise <strong>of</strong> fatherly Aung Ko, a university pr<strong>of</strong>essor<br />
imprisoned <strong>and</strong> exiled forever from teaching for his support <strong>of</strong> antigovernment<br />
students. Boorman makes<br />
us see <strong>and</strong> feel mythic resonance each<br />
time his heroine crosses a Rubicon: it’s<br />
as though the fabric <strong>of</strong> reality shivers<br />
like water, racking focus into a new,<br />
altered pattern <strong>of</strong> experience. In one<br />
eerie exchange, Laura’s head turns—<br />
almost in slow motion—to witness the<br />
old man, bent forward, Sisyphus-like,<br />
outside the passenger side <strong>of</strong> the car,<br />
laboriously pushing the stalled vehicle<br />
through a pelting rainstorm. With<br />
near-ritual precision, Laura opens<br />
her door, gets out into the heavy weather, <strong>and</strong> wordlessly adds her<br />
weight to the effort.<br />
And later on in our knight’s reanimation, she <strong>and</strong> Aung Ko careen<br />
down a forest track in that old car, closely pursued <strong>by</strong> government<br />
troops. A shot is fired, the pr<strong>of</strong>essor is hit, <strong>and</strong> Boorman’s heroine<br />
turns to look back–her rear-window view <strong>of</strong> rapidly gaining death<br />
framed through the circle <strong>of</strong> a bullet hole. Previously, Laura had<br />
gazed out impassively through car-window glass, wiped <strong>by</strong> passing,<br />
unreal reflections. But now her bell jar has been shattered <strong>by</strong> a<br />
plunge into the down-<strong>and</strong>-dirty, the ground where matters <strong>of</strong> life<br />
<strong>and</strong> death draw blood.<br />
Cast into a muddy<br />
river with her badly<br />
wounded friend,<br />
Laura swims away<br />
from the soldiers’<br />
guns; her panting<br />
grunts erupt from<br />
deep inside her. In<br />
contrast to her nearly<br />
disembodied scream<br />
when the child fell<br />
from the Buddha,<br />
these are the primal sounds <strong>of</strong> an animal fighting blindly, ruthlessly<br />
to stay alive. Baptism <strong>and</strong> resurrection intersect, exhilaratingly, in<br />
the rising line <strong>of</strong> her firm-fleshed arm as it reaches up–in Boorman’s<br />
trademark image <strong>of</strong> power born <strong>of</strong> regenerative waters–to grasp a<br />
low-hanging limb. At this moment, Laura becomes her own Lady <strong>of</strong><br />
the Lake, raising her submerged will, unsheathing the Excalibur <strong>of</strong><br />
her spirit from stone.<br />
Almost immediately, true to mythic tradition, she faces a crucial<br />
setback: thrashing to break through tangled branches at river’s<br />
edge, Laura is thrown backwards, to literally grovel in a muddy<br />
soup after she drops the locket that contains pictures <strong>of</strong> her beloved<br />
dead. Kneeling in place, clutching her funerary talisman, Boorman’s<br />
mother-healer trances out, as she does at several crucial junctures:<br />
her wonderfully molded face blanks, her eyes go flat with a dull<br />
darkness, <strong>and</strong> the flesh that lately pulsed with the desire to stay alive<br />
pales, as though her very blood had receded, stopped flowing.<br />
The sound <strong>of</strong> suffering Aung Ko’s groan<br />
labors Laura back into life; she takes<br />
renewed fire, picking up a cudgel to<br />
beat down the thicket she has despaired<br />
<strong>of</strong> escaping. As she explodes out <strong>of</strong> the<br />
foliage, she’s greeted <strong>by</strong> the sight <strong>of</strong> a<br />
little Burmese boy—he has a perfectly<br />
legitimate reason for being there, but<br />
he’s also a reflection <strong>of</strong> the lively child<br />
released in her as well as the receding<br />
ghost <strong>of</strong> her son.<br />
Director / creator Boorman “dreams”<br />
Patricia Arquette as he wants <strong>and</strong> needs his heroine to be. (In his<br />
serious-whimsical I Dreamt I Woke Up, Boorman <strong>and</strong> John Hurt,<br />
who plays the director as dreamer, exchange horrified glances at the<br />
sight <strong>and</strong> sound <strong>of</strong> an ungendered, militantly anti-magic feminist;<br />
Hurt turns desperately to his movie-making self to dem<strong>and</strong>, “Can’t<br />
you make her the way we want her to be?”) Weaving Merlin’s “spell<br />
<strong>of</strong> making” from his Excalibur, Arquette’s auteur magicks his lady<br />
Arthur into an heroic largeness that could never have been achieved<br />
simply <strong>by</strong> the actress’s gaining 25 pounds for the shoot.<br />
In the amniotic fluid <strong>of</strong> Boorman’s imagination <strong>and</strong> Burma’s many<br />
rivers, Arquette grows as performer <strong>and</strong> character to inhabit her<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Alumna Pr<strong>of</strong>ile in Courage<br />
INTERVIEW WITH JULIA HARRIS,<br />
M.A., SC, <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2008<br />
By Kathleen Murphy, Ph.D.<br />
I wanted you to see what<br />
real courage is, instead<br />
<strong>of</strong> getting the idea that<br />
courage is a man with a<br />
gun in his h<strong>and</strong>. It’s when<br />
you know you’re licked<br />
before you begin but you<br />
begin anyway <strong>and</strong> you see<br />
it through no matter what.<br />
You rarely win, but<br />
sometimes you do.<br />
— Harper Lee, To Kill a<br />
Mockingbird, spoken <strong>by</strong><br />
Atticus, leader <strong>and</strong> father<br />
I’d arranged to meet the Leadership Institute <strong>of</strong> Seattle alumna I<br />
was to interview at the Washington State History Museum. I knew<br />
that Julia Harris was seventysomething <strong>and</strong> African-American, <strong>and</strong><br />
I’d identified myself as being “tall,” <strong>and</strong> I was banking that few folks<br />
who looked like us would be sipping mid-morning c<strong>of</strong>fee in the<br />
cozy Musuem café.<br />
Walking in out <strong>of</strong> a crisp, sunlit day, I spotted a diminutive figure<br />
just ahead <strong>of</strong> me, taking careful steps with the help <strong>of</strong> a cane. Something<br />
immediately told me that this was Julia—<strong>and</strong> my very first<br />
impression <strong>of</strong> Ms. Harris was contained in one word: “fragile.”<br />
How wrong I was!<br />
§<br />
Let me introduce the two women about to engage in an interview<br />
that soon became, for me, a lesson in lifelong grace under pressure.<br />
Julia Harris, 75, had recently graduated from Leadership Institute<br />
<strong>of</strong> Seattle with a Master <strong>of</strong> Arts degree in Systems Counseling.<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong>, as we affectionately call it, teaches leadership skills for life<br />
<strong>and</strong> work, <strong>and</strong> has <strong>of</strong>fered degrees in Organization Development as<br />
well as Systems Counseling since 1969.<br />
As editor <strong>of</strong> Li n k a g e, <strong>LIOS</strong>’ pr<strong>of</strong>essional <strong>journal</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>creative</strong> <strong>thought</strong><br />
<strong>and</strong> <strong>feeling</strong>, I had a hunch that the story <strong>of</strong> our septuagenarian<br />
alumna would be <strong>of</strong> considerable interest to our readers. Accordingly,<br />
I asked Julia if I might interview her, with an eye toward sharing<br />
her life’s journey with others. She agreed—shyly—<strong>and</strong> that’s how I<br />
came to meet the deceptively “fragile”-looking lady at the Washington<br />
State History Museum.<br />
It’s true that Julia seems shy, but her style’s more a matter <strong>of</strong> dignity<br />
<strong>and</strong> self-containment, perhaps the result <strong>of</strong> considerable experience<br />
keeping her own counsel—<strong>of</strong>ten in the face <strong>of</strong> fools, or at least foolishness.<br />
She speaks s<strong>of</strong>tly <strong>and</strong> precisely, but a quiet joy shines through<br />
when certain subjects arise. And the irrepressible curiosity that seems<br />
to be the keystone <strong>of</strong> Julia’s personality flavors all that she says.<br />
Ms. Harris has the striking face <strong>of</strong> a watchful, engaged child.<br />
Despite the length <strong>of</strong> time she’s spent in the world, her development<br />
has never been arrested. Everything she says reflects her<br />
commitment to an ongoing emotional journey, life as a process <strong>of</strong><br />
being <strong>and</strong> becoming.<br />
When this remarkable woman speaks <strong>of</strong> pain <strong>and</strong> loss, she does so<br />
without melodrama or self-pity. There’s a matter-<strong>of</strong>-factness in her<br />
voice, as though these experiences are part <strong>and</strong> parcel <strong>of</strong> being human.<br />
CHILDREN AND LOSS<br />
Married twice, Julia mothered eight children from her first, 25-year<br />
marriage, four boys <strong>and</strong> four girls. Growing up as a middle child,<br />
with her siblings born seven years apart, she had felt like an only<br />
child. So she loved having a brood <strong>of</strong> kids, whom she enjoyed as<br />
“friends” as well as <strong>of</strong>fspring. Her face shines with delight as she<br />
speaks <strong>of</strong> her children.<br />
Two <strong>of</strong> Julia’s sons <strong>and</strong> one daughter have passed away. She recounts<br />
how one <strong>of</strong> her daughters, a member <strong>of</strong> the United States Air Force,<br />
was stationed in Japan when she learned that her husb<strong>and</strong> <strong>and</strong><br />
four children had been in a terrible car crash. The two eight-yearold<br />
boys, one <strong>of</strong> them a foster child, were killed, while the others<br />
miraculously survived with just scratches.<br />
Such awful grief, I <strong>thought</strong>. But Julia speaks <strong>of</strong> “trying to underst<strong>and</strong><br />
loss. You never know how long someone’s supposed to be<br />
with you. There’s no guarantee. I had all my children through the<br />
early years—that’s a gain. I had so much joy with these children. I<br />
carry them with me.”<br />
“Celebrate the life,” she said, <strong>and</strong> then described an urn shaped in<br />
the form <strong>of</strong> a dolphin that holds the ashes <strong>of</strong> one <strong>of</strong> her gr<strong>and</strong>sons.<br />
“Every year, my daughter says ‘Happy Birthday’ to the dolphin urn!”<br />
Early on, when one <strong>of</strong> her sons showed signs <strong>of</strong> schizophrenia, Julia<br />
says, “I didn’t know what to do with him. It was all hit or miss, <strong>and</strong><br />
love can only go so far.”<br />
In 1996, the disturbed young man walked out <strong>of</strong> a King County jail—<br />
it was midnight, his ID had been lost <strong>by</strong> the bureaucracy <strong>and</strong> no one,<br />
friend or relative, had been notified <strong>of</strong> his release. He ended up bunking<br />
with his sister, separated from her husb<strong>and</strong>, <strong>and</strong> her two kids.<br />
Her face <strong>and</strong> voice taut with pain, Julia says, simply: “He beat his<br />
sister to death.”<br />
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In the awful tragedy’s aftermath, this incredibly caring human<br />
being, shellshocked <strong>by</strong> loss, stood up to the angry criticism <strong>of</strong><br />
family <strong>and</strong> friends: “I was his mother. I couldn’t ab<strong>and</strong>on him. In<br />
time I went to see him in jail. Everything in me screamed, ‘Why did<br />
you do it?’ But I tried to ask him what happened, tried to create a<br />
relationship that wasn’t totally accusatory. That helped me to help<br />
other family members, my daughter’s husb<strong>and</strong>, her children. Later,<br />
I became a grief facilitator for four-, five-, <strong>and</strong> six-year-olds who had<br />
lost a parent.” Surmounting her own pain, she was able to develop,<br />
design <strong>and</strong> facilitate Forgiveness Awareness workshops <strong>of</strong>fered at the<br />
Maxine Mimms Academy in Tacoma.”<br />
“I’ve accepted that my son will be in prison for the rest <strong>of</strong> his life. But<br />
no matter where you are, you never know what good you can do.”<br />
Of this heartbreaking experience, Julia says simply, “It helped me<br />
become a mental health counselor.”<br />
By now, the notion <strong>of</strong> seeing Julia Harris as “fragile” seems nonsensical.<br />
Perhaps the word “formidable” suits her best, despite her<br />
petite stature.<br />
EDUCATION<br />
“I have a lot <strong>of</strong> learning to do, I feel,” Julia states—as though it<br />
was the most natural thing in the world for people in their 70s to<br />
express an appetite for knowledge. Hard enough to find young<br />
students that hungry to learn.<br />
The path to becoming a mental health counselor hasn’t been easy<br />
for the stay-at-home mom who “lost a sense <strong>of</strong> my own self-worth<br />
somewhere along the way.”<br />
As a Christian Science nurse, she learned from her patients as she<br />
ministered to them spiritually <strong>and</strong> emotionally through their final<br />
hours. “It was a privilege to care for the dying,” Julia says. “This was<br />
their most vulnerable moment, <strong>and</strong> they trusted me.” Once again,<br />
in crisis, this natural counselor didn’t waver, reaching out to support<br />
those in need. Count this work as another stepping-stone in Julia’s<br />
continuing education in positive psychology.<br />
Of her onetime employment in civil service <strong>of</strong>fices, Julia notes<br />
sadly that there was “nothing there to say you’re OK. I was<br />
surprised how appreciative people were if, walking down the hall,<br />
you patted someone’s back.” That small act <strong>of</strong> human kindness<br />
“made all the difference. It taught me that we need each other,<br />
some kind <strong>of</strong> physical <strong>and</strong> emotional connection.”<br />
Not all <strong>of</strong> the stops along her educational journey were enlightening<br />
or encouraging. In 1968, Julia attended classes at a Jesuit institution.<br />
“It was an unhappy experience. The pr<strong>of</strong>essor introduced several<br />
studies that “proved” that black people were inferior to whites. I was<br />
the only person <strong>of</strong> color in the class, so I went up to talk to the teacher<br />
after class. He would not speak to me, totally brushed me <strong>of</strong>f.”<br />
A lesser woman might have been defeated <strong>by</strong> such academic bigotry,<br />
<strong>and</strong> clearly the experience did leave a deep wound. But Julia Harris<br />
persevered. By 1970, she was attending college lectures with an<br />
enrolled friend. “I observed <strong>and</strong> absorbed. Took to it like duck to<br />
water. I went to lectures even if I’d heard them before. I was a little<br />
bit lonely because I didn’t have anyone to share all <strong>of</strong> it with.”<br />
Then, in 2000, Julia heard good things about Evergreen<br />
College, so she sat in on a friend’s class. “The school was so<br />
inviting, so warm, I decided to sign up. And during the next<br />
four years, Evergreen lived up to my expectations.” Julia began<br />
to formalize her instinctive grasp <strong>of</strong> positive psychology <strong>and</strong><br />
nonviolent communication.<br />
Julia took on an internship at the Maxine Mimms Academy in<br />
Tacoma (for suspended <strong>and</strong> expelled middle- <strong>and</strong> high-school<br />
students) where she researched her senior thesis: “The Effect <strong>of</strong><br />
Positive Psychology on the Behavior <strong>of</strong> Socially Deviant Teens.”<br />
The obstacles she had faced in her own life, along with her formal<br />
training, made her a “valuable resource. Kids need connections.<br />
They appreciate being appreciated. Each <strong>of</strong> them needs to feel<br />
valued.” The woman who so enjoyed the “friendship” <strong>of</strong> her own<br />
children helped these troubled youngsters to develop faith in<br />
their own worth.<br />
In 2006, at 73, Julia Harris graduated from Evergreen with a<br />
Bachelor <strong>of</strong> Arts degree.<br />
But this knowledge seeker had only just begun. A few years later,<br />
she enrolled in the graduate program at Leadership Institute <strong>of</strong><br />
Seattle, aiming to earn a Master’s degree in Systems Counseling.<br />
With its emphasis on developing deep self-awareness <strong>and</strong><br />
positive approaches to problem-solving, <strong>LIOS</strong> seemed a<br />
perfect fit for Julia. “I had stuff I hadn’t dealt with, <strong>and</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong><br />
<strong>and</strong> its excellent faculty helped me find, define <strong>and</strong> get through<br />
it. You carry things over the years <strong>and</strong> it’s easy to think your way<br />
through them, to rationalize many hurts, racial <strong>and</strong> other kinds,<br />
rather than getting back in touch with yourself, your <strong>feeling</strong>s.<br />
Education plus self-knowledge helped me to go out <strong>and</strong> help<br />
others.”<br />
In 2008, Julia celebrated Christmas as a newly credentialed<br />
mental health counselor, having received her Master <strong>of</strong> Arts degree<br />
from the prestigious Leadership Institute earlier in the month.<br />
WHAT’S NEXT?<br />
What’s next? I inquired, expecting that a well-deserved retirement<br />
might be in the air. And then Ms. Harris said that she was<br />
considering studying for her doctorate at Claremont College<br />
in California. “I’m open to it, preparing myself this year.” How<br />
youthful <strong>and</strong> engaged her expression, already looking forward to<br />
the next stage in an endlessly exciting journey.<br />
Back in 1995, Julia decided she wanted to see Europe, so she<br />
joined one <strong>of</strong> her sons, stationed in Germany. Her dream <strong>of</strong><br />
travel was cut short after a week, when she was struck down <strong>by</strong><br />
a brain aneurysm <strong>and</strong> lay in a coma for 17 days. When her left<br />
side remained paralysed, she used her underst<strong>and</strong>ing <strong>of</strong> the connection<br />
between mind <strong>and</strong> body to regain mobility.<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Alumna Pr<strong>of</strong>ile in Courage<br />
RAISE A READER, RAISE A LEADER,<br />
IMAGES OF LEADERSHIP PROJECT<br />
JoAnne MacTaggart, B.S., <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2005<br />
I have just completed my first year in the Psy.D. program at<br />
Saybrook University. My educational experience at Leadership<br />
Institute <strong>of</strong> Seattle was absolutely foundational for my successful<br />
growth then <strong>and</strong> throughout this last year. While at <strong>LIOS</strong> in<br />
1992-1994, my kids were young. Now my son—born three <strong>and</strong><br />
one-half months preterm with horrific problems <strong>and</strong> a gloomy<br />
prognosis—is completing his graduate degree in Scotl<strong>and</strong> in<br />
historic research with a special interest in banned literature.<br />
He reads to lead.<br />
When I was attending <strong>LIOS</strong> from 1992-1994, he was seven <strong>and</strong><br />
my daughter, four. I lived what I learned <strong>and</strong> extended it into my<br />
parenting. Catherine Johnson was my teacher <strong>and</strong> later my advisor,<br />
encouraging me throughout that time <strong>and</strong> again last year, when I<br />
decided to attend Saybrook as the first <strong>LIOS</strong>/Saybrook "hybrid." I<br />
am specializing in child psychology with a mind-body pathway.<br />
My son <strong>and</strong> I have both found “success in the journey” toward<br />
personal mastery. Last September we went to the airport<br />
with destinations in opposite directions, both <strong>of</strong> us following<br />
our dreams.<br />
The captions for my pictures are: “Support a child’s readership <strong>and</strong><br />
they will have a better chance at leadership” or “Raise a reader,<br />
raise a leader.”<br />
I have attached two images for the Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project,<br />
with my son’s permission. The h<strong>and</strong> in the picture above is mine.<br />
I practiced "therapeutic touch" with him when he was born. The<br />
doctors at the University <strong>of</strong> Washington predicted mental retardation<br />
<strong>and</strong> debilitating cerebral palsy. He did not develop either. I<br />
think the image <strong>of</strong> my h<strong>and</strong> <strong>and</strong> my newborn represents how my<br />
support <strong>of</strong> Mack—through respect <strong>of</strong> his subjective experience,<br />
even as a one-pound infant—allowed him to exert his spirit in all<br />
ways. I never doubted his potential, <strong>and</strong> he has set <strong>and</strong> met goals<br />
that far surpass the wildest dreams <strong>of</strong> everyone—but him.<br />
He started reading at three <strong>and</strong> reads a book each day. He is now<br />
24 <strong>and</strong> will be entering a Ph.D. program in Library Science with a<br />
focus on academic research. He has been a leader among his peers,<br />
advocating for those who are disenfranchised <strong>and</strong> suffer social<br />
stigma. He does not let the biopsychosocial barriers <strong>of</strong> our society<br />
get to him. He is my son, <strong>and</strong> my hero.<br />
Photos <strong>by</strong> JoAnne MacTaggart, B.S., <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2005;<br />
Images <strong>of</strong> Leadership Project<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Principles in Action<br />
Building the Mosaic: The Art <strong>and</strong><br />
Practice <strong>of</strong> Psychotherapy<br />
By Melinda “Lena” Williamson, M.A., SC,<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong>, 2009<br />
Excerpt from Systems Counseling graduate thesis, <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2009<br />
The way I see life, <strong>and</strong> <strong>by</strong> extension psychotherapy, is much the<br />
same way one might view a mosaic. The definition <strong>of</strong> a mosaic is<br />
generally considered to be a picture comprised <strong>of</strong> smaller pieces<br />
<strong>of</strong> glass or tile, or <strong>of</strong> a philosophy drawn from many ideas. In my<br />
opinion, the human experience is much like a mosaic in that it is<br />
comprised <strong>of</strong> many fractured pieces <strong>of</strong> self <strong>and</strong> experience, combined<br />
or restructured to create a whole picture. To underst<strong>and</strong> this<br />
metaphor more completely, one must examine both the nature<br />
<strong>of</strong> the human experience, <strong>and</strong> the nature <strong>of</strong> the glass that is to<br />
compose a mosaic. When speaking <strong>of</strong> glass, it is important to note<br />
that there are two primary types <strong>of</strong> glass, one being the kind that<br />
is manufactured, <strong>and</strong> the other being h<strong>and</strong>-made or h<strong>and</strong>-blown.<br />
For the purposes <strong>of</strong> this theory, one may consider h<strong>and</strong>-blown glass<br />
as very similar to the human existence in many ways. The nature<br />
<strong>of</strong> h<strong>and</strong>-blown glass is that no two pieces are ever completely alike;<br />
each piece has its imperfections, blemishes, divots, <strong>and</strong> markings<br />
that create its unique beauty. I believe that human beings arrive in<br />
the world in much the same manner. From conception to birth,<br />
one is given a set <strong>of</strong> individual imperfections, blemishes <strong>and</strong><br />
markings that comprise one’s unique genetics <strong>and</strong> individual makeup.<br />
The type <strong>of</strong> nutrients or toxins that one receives, trauma, <strong>and</strong>/<br />
or illnesses that are carried in one’s DNA, influences one’s unique<br />
biological make-up.<br />
It is my belief that neither glass nor human beings are able to remain<br />
in their original form for very long. I believe that change, transformation,<br />
<strong>and</strong> evolution are the natural order <strong>of</strong> existence; the transformation<br />
<strong>of</strong> all things is unavoidable. The transformation itself may come<br />
in any form, whether through trauma, or through the natural wear<br />
<strong>and</strong> tear <strong>of</strong> existing. Glass encounters trauma whenever it is dropped,<br />
cut, or delivered a forceful blow. Human beings encounter trauma<br />
in a variety <strong>of</strong> manners, whether it be through acute trauma such as<br />
physical violence or abuse, or through more subtle, pervasive methods<br />
such as neglect or a general lack <strong>of</strong> availability <strong>of</strong> a caretaker. Even<br />
given the absence <strong>of</strong> traumas, neither glass nor human beings exist in<br />
a fixed state. Glass is considered to be an amorphous solid, which is a<br />
solid in which there is no long-range order <strong>of</strong> the positions <strong>of</strong> the atoms<br />
(Dictionary.com, 2009). This means that glass, over long periods<br />
<strong>of</strong> time, moves <strong>and</strong> shifts in ways very similar to a slow-moving<br />
liquid. So, even without any significant environmental influence, glass<br />
shifts <strong>and</strong> transforms over time. The human experience is similar, in<br />
that one cannot remain unchanged, even if one is given a safe <strong>and</strong><br />
secure environment in which to thrive. Simply being in the world—<br />
observing <strong>and</strong> experiencing the world— can alter one’s original form.<br />
Health <strong>and</strong> Dis-ease<br />
At this point in the discussion, it becomes necessary to discuss the<br />
beliefs <strong>and</strong> values regarding health <strong>and</strong> dis-ease that inform my<br />
theory. I believe that health lies not in remaining in the original<br />
form, but in the piecing together <strong>and</strong> creation <strong>of</strong> a new form, or<br />
mosaic, comprised <strong>of</strong> the pieces <strong>of</strong> the original form, the environment,<br />
<strong>and</strong> the integration <strong>of</strong> new pieces <strong>and</strong> experiences that may<br />
enter one’s life. Given that neither glass nor human beings remain<br />
in the original form once exposed to the world, I believe that health<br />
is the capacity to rebuild <strong>and</strong> restructure the various pieces <strong>of</strong> self<br />
into a new form, or create a mosaic out <strong>of</strong> one’s life. This capacity<br />
requires several key components, including connection, meaning,<br />
<strong>and</strong> resiliency. One might consider this the framework on which a<br />
mosaic can be built.<br />
Connection<br />
I believe that connection is a necessary component <strong>of</strong> healthy<br />
human experience. I believe that human beings do not exist in<br />
isolation; we are inherently connected to the world. However, one<br />
may feel misunderstood, apathetic, or disconnected. Human<br />
beings must be able to find or create authentic connections to other<br />
human beings, ideas, passions, or purposes as an essential piece <strong>of</strong><br />
the framework upon which one builds their mosaic. When one is<br />
disconnected from others <strong>and</strong> the world, one may lose one’s will to<br />
continue growing <strong>and</strong> evolving. I believe that in times <strong>of</strong> dis-ease,<br />
connection may mean the difference between the broken pieces <strong>of</strong><br />
glass remaining shattered on the floor <strong>and</strong> their being picked up<br />
<strong>and</strong> rearranged into a new form: a mosaic. Connection is what gives<br />
human beings a receptacle in which to put the broken pieces <strong>of</strong> the<br />
original form, until such time as they can be integrated into the<br />
mosaic. Margret Wheatley recognizes the importance <strong>of</strong><br />
connection, writing, “Relationships are all there is. Everything in<br />
the universe only exists because it is in relationship to everything<br />
else. Nothing exists in isolation. We have to stop pretending we are<br />
individuals that can go it alone” (Wheatley, 2002, p. 23).<br />
Meaning<br />
Meaning is another essential piece <strong>of</strong> the framework, in my<br />
belief. I believe that meaning is an essential method <strong>by</strong> which one<br />
makes sense <strong>of</strong> what one does, what one experiences, <strong>and</strong> what is<br />
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happening in one’s world. Victor Frankl states, in Man’s Search<br />
for Meaning, that:<br />
Man’s search for meaning is the primary motivation in his life <strong>and</strong> not<br />
a secondary “rationalization” <strong>of</strong> instinctual drives. This meaning is<br />
unique <strong>and</strong> specific in that it must <strong>and</strong> can be fulfilled <strong>by</strong> him alone;<br />
only then does it achieve a significance which will satisfy his own will to<br />
meaning… Man, however, is able to live <strong>and</strong> even to die for the sake <strong>of</strong><br />
his ideas <strong>and</strong> values! (Frankl, 2006, p. 99).<br />
Meaning is the method <strong>by</strong> which one connects the dots <strong>of</strong><br />
individual experiences, tying them together into a cohesive story.<br />
As a therapist, when I’m sitting with clients, I believe that there is<br />
no part <strong>of</strong> a client’s story or experience that is meaningless. I take a<br />
great deal <strong>of</strong> care to witness, hear, <strong>and</strong> sort all <strong>of</strong> the aspects <strong>of</strong> that<br />
person, in order that we might begin to forge a schematic for the<br />
mosaic to be built upon. Meaning gives order to the pieces <strong>of</strong> the<br />
original form, as well as the new pieces that one is integrating into<br />
a picture that makes sense to the individual. It is important to note<br />
that I do not believe in any type <strong>of</strong> ultimate meaning, or a meaning<br />
that can be imported from one to another. Meaning is something<br />
that each individual must uncover for themselves, on one’s own<br />
terms <strong>and</strong> in one’s own time, in a way that fits one’s unique being.<br />
Frankl speaks to the individual nature <strong>of</strong> meaning, writing that:<br />
For the meaning <strong>of</strong> life differs from man to man, for day to day <strong>and</strong><br />
from hour to hour. What maters, therefore, is not the meaning <strong>of</strong> life in<br />
general but rather the specific meaning <strong>of</strong> a person’s life at a given moment<br />
(Frankl, 2006, p. 108).<br />
This is not to say that the meaning that one makes is not informed<br />
or influenced <strong>by</strong> others. Often that is why one opts to seek<br />
psychotherapy: in order to gather input when one can no longer<br />
make sense <strong>of</strong> the experiences <strong>of</strong> one’s life.<br />
Resilience<br />
Resilience is the final aspect, in this theory, that composes the<br />
framework for human health. Resilience, with regard to human<br />
beings, is the capacity to absorb impact or change <strong>and</strong> adapt to it.<br />
In terms <strong>of</strong> the mosaic, it is the capacity to accept new pieces into<br />
the picture, reorganize <strong>and</strong> forge a new picture out <strong>of</strong> what one is<br />
given in life. In other terms, resiliency is not the capacity to resist<br />
breaking, or even the tendency to take the broken pieces <strong>and</strong><br />
attempt to put them back into the original form, but instead the<br />
capacity to absorb the breaking <strong>and</strong> reorganize the pieces <strong>of</strong> one’s<br />
self or one’s life into a new form. It is important to note that<br />
resilience is intricately tied to, <strong>and</strong> built upon, many factors,<br />
including the previously mentioned components <strong>of</strong> connection<br />
<strong>and</strong> meaning. It also relies heavily on one’s access to basic needs<br />
<strong>and</strong> resources, environmental factors, <strong>and</strong> on the capacity to<br />
absorb change that has been modeled in one’s life. One’s capacity<br />
for resilience is reduced when one does not have access to important<br />
resources: for example, when an individual experiences many<br />
crises in a short amount <strong>of</strong> time. When sitting with a client, it is <strong>of</strong><br />
prime importance for me as a practitioner to assist in uncovering or<br />
rebuilding resilience <strong>by</strong> acknowledging <strong>and</strong> normalizing one’s<br />
current <strong>feeling</strong>s <strong>of</strong> helplessness, <strong>and</strong> <strong>by</strong> highlighting past <strong>and</strong><br />
current successes that one may build upon.<br />
Dis-Ease<br />
As previously discussed, I believe that it is impossible for one to<br />
exist in this world without experiencing some form <strong>of</strong> trauma, or<br />
at the minimum the natural wear <strong>and</strong> tear <strong>of</strong> living. This is <strong>of</strong>ten<br />
painful, confusing, <strong>and</strong> difficult. One may experience a break in the<br />
expected, such as significant changes in circumstance, deaths, loss<br />
<strong>of</strong> primary relationships, or significant traumas. These can significantly<br />
reduce one’s capacity to maintain a healthy existence. When<br />
one loses, or never develops, the capacities for connection, meaning<br />
making, <strong>and</strong> resilience, one may have a difficult time organizing the<br />
pieces <strong>of</strong> one’s life into a recognizable picture. For example, in the<br />
midst <strong>of</strong> a crisis such as the molestation <strong>of</strong> a child, a parent may feel<br />
incredibly disconnected from others, <strong>and</strong> find it nearly impossible<br />
to make any sense or meaning out <strong>of</strong> the event. It is during these<br />
times, that one <strong>of</strong>ten seeks to look outside <strong>of</strong> oneself for assistance<br />
rebuilding the key components <strong>of</strong> the framework <strong>of</strong> the mosaic—<br />
hence psychotherapy. In the absence <strong>of</strong> connection, meaning, <strong>and</strong><br />
resilience, one may reach out to a counselor or therapist to help<br />
construct a new frame for the mosaic <strong>of</strong> one’s life. As a therapist,<br />
this is a cornerstone <strong>of</strong> my work with clients. In the absence <strong>of</strong> one’s<br />
own framework, I use the self <strong>of</strong> the therapist, our time, <strong>and</strong> the<br />
therapeutic relationship to forge a new foundation for the client to<br />
build a mosaic upon.<br />
. . .<br />
Mosaic in Flux<br />
At this current moment in the evolution <strong>of</strong> myself as a person<br />
<strong>and</strong> a practitioner, I recognize that this is a theory in flux: a true<br />
representation <strong>of</strong> what I believe to be true about the world <strong>and</strong> my<br />
work, <strong>and</strong> that is not fixed or static. My beliefs <strong>and</strong> theory have<br />
been forged in the fires <strong>of</strong> my own experiences with brokenness <strong>and</strong><br />
the crafting <strong>of</strong> a piece <strong>of</strong> art that is my life. I believe that we all, as<br />
human beings, are given a limited set <strong>of</strong> circumstances or glass with<br />
which to work, <strong>and</strong> it is what we craft out <strong>of</strong> these pieces that gives<br />
the true meaning to our existence. As I continue to evolve the<br />
mosaic <strong>of</strong> my life <strong>and</strong> belief, the work that I do for <strong>and</strong> with<br />
humanity will also continue to evolve.<br />
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who can help support you <strong>and</strong> believes in the work you want to<br />
do? Great! If you don’t, then consider taking at least a part-time<br />
job that will keep the bills paid. A stressed out therapist who cannot<br />
meet his or her basic needs does not do good work.<br />
Put together a basic business plan that takes into consideration<br />
everything you need to run a business. Set your session rates<br />
based on: (1) your level <strong>of</strong> experience, (2) what the local market<br />
will bear, <strong>and</strong> (3) what you need in order to meet your business<br />
expenses. Ask around to find out what others in your area are<br />
charging. (There are many good, basic business plan books out<br />
there. Check them out at your local bookstore if this task seems<br />
too daunting.) You may want to consider a small business loan.<br />
If so, the bank will want to see a business plan.<br />
Private Practice: A Checklist<br />
for Making it Happen<br />
By Susan Ru<strong>by</strong>, M.A., SC, <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2004<br />
People become therapists for as many reasons as there are leaves<br />
on a tree. They find the ticking <strong>of</strong> a human brain fascinating.<br />
Their own experiences in counseling lead them to consider<br />
taking on the role <strong>of</strong> therapist themselves. They have a driving<br />
need to make a difference with a certain population. They live<br />
to serve other human beings. Whatever the reason, the desire<br />
to be a therapist <strong>and</strong> what makes us choose this pr<strong>of</strong>ession is<br />
<strong>of</strong>ten in conflict with the needs <strong>of</strong> starting <strong>and</strong> thriving in private<br />
practice. A successful private practice begins with good<br />
planning, followed <strong>by</strong> effective marketing <strong>and</strong> a healthy dose<br />
<strong>of</strong> self-care.<br />
The following is a list <strong>of</strong> ideas for getting your practice up <strong>and</strong><br />
running if you’re thinking about getting started.<br />
1. Clarity <strong>of</strong> Practice. Develop your area <strong>of</strong> interest <strong>and</strong><br />
expertise, <strong>and</strong> focus on that area in your conversations with<br />
other people about your work. Who do you love to help? What<br />
types <strong>of</strong> therapy give you an inherent glow when you talk about<br />
them? Create a brief description <strong>of</strong> your work that you can say<br />
when people ask you about your work. In Western cultures, we<br />
ask about work more <strong>of</strong>ten than we ask new acquaintances about<br />
anything else. It’s helpful to be prepared. Avoid saying anything<br />
that sounds like, “I’ll take any client who can pay me.” Do<br />
consider a statement like: “I work with women in life transitions,<br />
like re-entering the workforce, empty nest syndrome, new<br />
marriages or motherhood.” Your goal is to make sure people<br />
remember you for something specific, not as another therapist<br />
desperate for work.<br />
2. Review Your Finances. A financially viable private practice<br />
takes between three to five years to build. Do you have a partner<br />
3. Administrative Minutia That Matters. Get your administrative<br />
issues in order. Set up a simple billing system, all <strong>of</strong> the<br />
forms you’ll need, <strong>and</strong> your business papers (cards, letterhead,<br />
receipts, etc.). If you don’t know how to set up forms, hire<br />
someone to produce pr<strong>of</strong>essional forms for you. Forms represent<br />
you <strong>and</strong> your work in print. Give them the attention they deserve<br />
up front, so that you can focus on doing the work. Review forms<br />
once per year to make sure they are reflecting your current needs<br />
in practice. You may be surprised how <strong>of</strong>ten revisions are made<br />
when you’re building a business. Make sure you note the<br />
revision date somewhere on each revised form, so that it’s easy<br />
to track whether you’re actually using the new <strong>and</strong> improved<br />
version everytime.<br />
4. Networking <strong>and</strong> Avoiding Isolation. Working in private<br />
practice can be a lonely, demoralizing affair if you don’t<br />
connect with anyone except the mentally ill. Plan ahead to<br />
address this issue. Find a group <strong>of</strong> other counselors in your area<br />
<strong>and</strong> start showing up at meetings. You can use this group to help<br />
develop a consult group, <strong>and</strong> to start building a mutual referral<br />
base. Other practitioners will refer to you when they have a good<br />
sense <strong>of</strong> who you are <strong>and</strong> the work you do. This is a good place<br />
to practice that brief description <strong>of</strong> your work we talked about<br />
earlier. Some networking groups ask participants to make presentations<br />
about topics <strong>of</strong> interest. This is a perfect chance to shine<br />
<strong>and</strong> show your passion for your work. Include h<strong>and</strong>outs that<br />
provide contact information for referrals. If presentations are too<br />
intimidating, then volunteer to serve on the board or to organize<br />
group events. Whatever you do, show up <strong>and</strong> get involved.<br />
5. Meaningful Advertising. The web is where you can get the<br />
least expensive exposure. If you’re in the Seattle area, sign up<br />
for counselingseattle.com <strong>and</strong>/or other internet-based referral<br />
services for therapists. Other counselors in your area can tell<br />
you which sources have produced the best referrals. Track your<br />
referrals. If a site is not producing for you within six months,<br />
stop paying for it. You need your marketing dollars to produce<br />
real results. Ask people you trust to read <strong>and</strong> give you feedback<br />
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about anything you write for the web. It helps to ask people who<br />
are not therapists, because they are more like your prospective<br />
clients <strong>and</strong> will likely have more relevant feedback.<br />
6. Build a Practice Website. When you list on any web-based<br />
referral service or provider directory, you can usually include a<br />
link to your own website. Clients consistently report that they<br />
chose their therapists because they were able to get more detailed<br />
information than the basic contact information provided in<br />
most directory-style services, <strong>and</strong> they liked what they saw.<br />
Think <strong>of</strong> your website as a marketing brochure in digital format.<br />
It should be simple <strong>and</strong> clear, <strong>and</strong> should answer questions<br />
that prospective clients might have about your services. Avoid<br />
psycho-babble or jargon that could be <strong>of</strong>f-putting to people who<br />
know little or nothing about counseling. Make sure the language<br />
sounds like you. And avoid<br />
pictures that are not pr<strong>of</strong>essional<br />
or too abstract to be<br />
relevant for the average user.<br />
That picture your best friend<br />
took with her mobile phone<br />
last Christmas is not an option<br />
here. This is one area<br />
where spending the money<br />
is well worth it. An unpr<strong>of</strong>essional,<br />
glitchy website<br />
can undermine even the best<br />
copy-writing because it<br />
creates frustration for<br />
potential clients before they<br />
even meet you. If you don’t<br />
really know how to build a<br />
website, then hire a pro to<br />
do it for you.<br />
7. Other Opportunities for Exposure. Beyond a website,<br />
consider writing articles for publications on your area <strong>of</strong> expertise,<br />
<strong>and</strong> include a brief statement about your practice at the end,<br />
including contact information. People have a tendency to reprint<br />
articles if they are genuinely useful <strong>and</strong> meet a specific need.<br />
Reprints are like free advertisements for your practice.<br />
8. Return Calls Promptly <strong>and</strong> Without Fail. Many clients<br />
report that they chose their counselor because she was the first<br />
one to return the call about services.<br />
9. Screen Clients. Get into the habit <strong>of</strong> screening prospective<br />
clients before you make that first appointment. The right clients<br />
will need your services—the services you know you can do<br />
well. If that guy on the phone has severe anger issues <strong>and</strong> you<br />
get anxious around intense, irrational clients, he is not a client<br />
for you. Refer out when needed, <strong>and</strong> trust that your clients will<br />
come. This is not only a personal, self-care decision; it is a<br />
business decision.<br />
10. Set Your Hours <strong>and</strong> Stick to Them. Trying to fit clients into<br />
r<strong>and</strong>om niches <strong>of</strong> time that work for them, but not for you,<br />
creates a tired, cranky therapist. You won’t do your best work,<br />
<strong>and</strong> the fear-based decision to take any client at any time undermines<br />
your business objectives. Make sure you allow time for<br />
paperwork in each day.<br />
11. Get Your License. It is an unspoken reality <strong>of</strong> our business<br />
that therapists are very careful about giving out referrals, because<br />
this process reflects on both the person receiving the referral, <strong>and</strong><br />
the person who provided the name to a prospective client. Call it<br />
pr<strong>of</strong>essional snobbery or elitism if you like, but a license is the<br />
credential that tells other pr<strong>of</strong>essionals you have been authorized<br />
<strong>by</strong> a higher authority to practice as an independent therapist.<br />
This credential also allows you to start getting registered with<br />
insurance companies as a preferred provider. Without it, you are<br />
limited to clients who can pay out <strong>of</strong> pocket.<br />
12. Do Good Work. This<br />
seems self-evident, but the<br />
old saying “good work gets<br />
good work” is particularly<br />
true in the counseling world.<br />
If you do good work with<br />
your clients, they will tell<br />
their friends <strong>and</strong> colleagues<br />
about you. Good work refills<br />
your personal energy well,<br />
<strong>and</strong> keeps you going when<br />
a hard case is making you<br />
wonder why you decided to<br />
enter this field. Stay on top <strong>of</strong><br />
your training, <strong>and</strong> make sure<br />
you are not over-scheduling<br />
so that you’re too tired to be<br />
present in sessions. With each change you consider making to<br />
your practice, the first question should be: Will this change allow<br />
me to do better work? If the answer is not a resounding “yes!”<br />
then you need to reconsider the change.<br />
Finally, make sure you have a “Plan B” if you discover that<br />
private practice is not the right path for you. Sometimes, just<br />
knowing that there is an alternative available can keep you<br />
going through the hard times. It also helps to remember that<br />
private practice is a choice you are making, one month, one<br />
day, one client at a time.<br />
Susan Ru<strong>by</strong>, M.A., LMHC, is a therapist in private practice in<br />
Edmonds, WA. She specializes in work with complicated<br />
families, those who may be experiencing divorce, attempts to<br />
blend, non-traditional structures, or anything else that makes<br />
life harder than it ought to be. For more information about<br />
Susan’s practice, please visit her website at www.susanru<strong>by</strong>.com.<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Principles in Action<br />
How a real leader uses <strong>LIOS</strong><br />
Interact training to create a<br />
successful business: Interview<br />
with steve <strong>and</strong>erson, M.A., LIOs<br />
By Diane Schachter, M.S.W., <strong>LIOS</strong> Faculty<br />
Steve Anderson is no stranger to <strong>LIOS</strong>. He was a student in the<br />
“Managing <strong>and</strong> Consulting” track (now Leadership <strong>and</strong><br />
Organization Development), graduating in 1996. Since then, he<br />
has maintained a connection with <strong>LIOS</strong> through his work on the<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> Board, <strong>and</strong> as an employee, a trainer, <strong>and</strong> most recently, a<br />
vigorous supporter <strong>of</strong> the “InterAct: Quality Workplace Relations”<br />
workshop. (See www.saybrook.edu/lios for more information on<br />
this three-day intensive training experience.) We <strong>thought</strong> it would<br />
be interesting to hear his thinking on InterAct <strong>and</strong> how it supports<br />
his goals <strong>and</strong> visions for the company he now leads <strong>and</strong> owns.<br />
Steve is owner <strong>and</strong> president <strong>of</strong> Index Sensors <strong>and</strong> Controls, a small<br />
manufacturing company in Stanwood, WA, soon to be relocating<br />
to Bellingham, WA. “We make widgets,” he says, “switches <strong>and</strong><br />
controls that are used under the hood <strong>of</strong> heavy-duty equipment.<br />
These are the kind <strong>of</strong> parts that keep the world running in a variety<br />
<strong>of</strong> industries where heavy equipment is used. Without them,<br />
nothing goes.”<br />
The company has been thriving for over 33 years, <strong>and</strong> Steve<br />
attributes its success to the business’ strong, high-quality relationships<br />
with its customers <strong>and</strong> suppliers. “All businesses are in the<br />
people business,” Steve says. “I prioritize relationships because they<br />
are at the heart <strong>of</strong> what we do here.” Steve sees his company as more<br />
that just “tables full <strong>of</strong> switches. We are humans <strong>and</strong> the<br />
human-to-human connection is critical.”<br />
The word “partnership” came into the conversation multiple times.<br />
Steve is currently in the process <strong>of</strong> shifting the sales mix <strong>of</strong> Index<br />
Sensors products so that 25 percent <strong>of</strong> the total sales goes toward<br />
sustainable energy <strong>and</strong> clean transportation. Currently they are<br />
developing new sensors that will be compatible with hybrid trucks<br />
<strong>and</strong> heavy duty equipment. New partnerships with these customers<br />
are happening right now. A proponent <strong>of</strong> the triple bottom line<br />
(people, planet <strong>and</strong> pr<strong>of</strong>its), Steve is tracking the impact internally<br />
at the level <strong>of</strong> his company, as well as the entire planet. “How we<br />
hold ourselves, our way <strong>of</strong> being <strong>and</strong> leading with our customers,<br />
suppliers, the world around us, <strong>and</strong> with each other is critical to<br />
our success.”<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong>’ InterAct training has helped Steve’s employees with manifesting<br />
this vision. “People are able to turn to one another internally<br />
<strong>and</strong> respond well to a request from the outside.” InterAct helps his<br />
managers lead in a way that supports their authority without losing<br />
themselves. “They have the tools to be real without sacrificing their<br />
roles.” The atmosphere is casual <strong>and</strong> light-hearted. Conflicts are<br />
resolved directly without any <strong>of</strong> the distancing tactics employed<br />
in the past. Productivity is up <strong>and</strong> his employees seem happier.<br />
Production is more efficient <strong>and</strong> effective. Since so many employees<br />
have had the training, they share a common language. “The<br />
increased transparency creates clarity from the beginning which<br />
feeds the efficiency <strong>and</strong> job satisfaction. Transparency is hard to<br />
achieve, but super-powerful. The InterAct work exp<strong>and</strong>s our skillset<br />
for increasing transparency.”<br />
Steve believes that <strong>LIOS</strong>’ InterAct training has also taught people<br />
how to learn from one another <strong>and</strong> from their relationships with the<br />
community. InterAct is foundational work that provides the skills to<br />
be a successful member <strong>of</strong> his leadership team. “I want people to keep<br />
growing. There simply is no substitute for the InterAct experience.”<br />
THE HEROINE’S JOURNEY IN BOORMAN’S<br />
BEYOND RANGOON (continued from page 23<br />
previous screen incarnations. Every plane <strong>and</strong> curve <strong>of</strong> her face<br />
<strong>and</strong> body seems gravid with that appetite for life, fueled <strong>by</strong> some<br />
vital essence that makes humankind cling so passionately to earth.<br />
Her face projects bravely forward out <strong>of</strong> Boorman’s frames like<br />
some almost heiratic mask, a sustaining larger-than-life fabrication.<br />
Never constricted <strong>by</strong> conventional sexiness, Arquette’s lush body—<br />
at home on ground as in water—carries the promising weight <strong>of</strong><br />
strength <strong>and</strong> usefulness.<br />
When she bridges her last river, Arquette’s aptly named Laura<br />
Bowman strides into her future, a red cross knight ready for the long<br />
haul <strong>of</strong> life. Out <strong>of</strong> a terrible wound—the murders <strong>of</strong> her husb<strong>and</strong><br />
<strong>and</strong> little son—this Fisher-Queen has fashioned <strong>and</strong> mastered her<br />
soul’s best art <strong>and</strong> armament: her regenerated gift for healing restrings<br />
Laura’s bow. (See Edmund Wilson’s The Wound <strong>and</strong> the Bow.)<br />
In a sense, Beyond Rangoon is the story <strong>of</strong> a woman who comes to<br />
be comfortable in her own skin, one <strong>of</strong> the better definitions <strong>of</strong> a<br />
hero—mythically or psychologically speaking. In I Dreamt I Woke<br />
Up, Boorman’s “better homes <strong>and</strong> gardens” mythification <strong>of</strong> his<br />
Emerald Forest estate in Irel<strong>and</strong>, the director admits that he feels<br />
himself to be a “ridiculous man,” far short <strong>of</strong> a hero <strong>and</strong> never at<br />
home in his own skin. Cinematic avatars such as Merlin <strong>and</strong> Arthur<br />
are “the men I ought to have been.” Add Laura Bowman to the<br />
pantheon. She’s a wondrous fish, that old fertility goddess symbol<br />
<strong>of</strong> knowledge <strong>and</strong> fruitfulness. Toward the end <strong>of</strong> Boorman’s<br />
dream <strong>of</strong> an Irish Camelot, his beloved vegetation deity the Green<br />
Man wrestles a beautiful, silvery, salmon-like water spirit into the<br />
mud <strong>and</strong> opens her belly to devour the multihued flowers teeming<br />
there. This r<strong>and</strong>y coupling emblemizes Boorman’s dynamics <strong>of</strong> the<br />
imagination <strong>and</strong> the mythic cycle <strong>of</strong> death <strong>and</strong> rebirth that drives<br />
the waterwheel <strong>of</strong> Beyond Rangoon.<br />
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<strong>LIOS</strong> Principles in Action<br />
ON A NEW TRACK: lios leadership<br />
AND organization development<br />
master’s degree program<br />
By Sherene Zolno, M.A., <strong>LIOS</strong> Faculty;<br />
Marina Gordon, M.A., LOD, <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2009;<br />
Kelly Spangler, M.A., LOD, <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2009;<br />
Laurie Rosenfeld, M.A., LOD, <strong>LIOS</strong>, 2009<br />
Leadership <strong>and</strong> Organization Development (LOD), as the new<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> Master <strong>of</strong> Arts degree program is named, is a new <strong>and</strong> unique<br />
blend <strong>of</strong> the best <strong>of</strong> the Coaching <strong>and</strong> Consulting in Organizations<br />
(CCO) program that it replaces, <strong>and</strong> a new approach to preparing<br />
students for their roles as leaders, coaches <strong>and</strong> consultants. Changes<br />
spanning the two years <strong>of</strong> the program have now been fully implemented,<br />
<strong>and</strong> lessons learned are being applied to “tweaking” each<br />
course. Below is a brief description <strong>of</strong> the changes <strong>and</strong> how the<br />
first graduates <strong>of</strong> the LOD program applied their learning in their<br />
leader/consultant roles.<br />
In moving from CCO to LOD, three significant changes were made:<br />
• Masters Change Projects (MCPs): LOD students “go live” as<br />
consultants in their first year (<strong>and</strong> not just in their second year)<br />
with a team Action Research project that takes place in the “real”<br />
world. Thus, instead <strong>of</strong> a one-year thesis project, LOD students<br />
engage in two years <strong>of</strong> Masters Change Projects.<br />
This means that small teams <strong>of</strong> students are placed in a business,<br />
non-pr<strong>of</strong>it organization or government agency to consult<br />
with <strong>and</strong> coach executives, boards <strong>of</strong> directors, teams, managers<br />
<strong>and</strong> supervisors on their business, team <strong>and</strong> leader issues. These<br />
engagements, while differing in specifics, usually aim to improve<br />
system functioning as a result <strong>of</strong> a collaborative problem solving<br />
process. The ultimate goal is to have each organization <strong>and</strong> leader<br />
capable <strong>of</strong> identifying <strong>and</strong> solving their own problems after the<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> consulting team leaves.<br />
• Pr<strong>of</strong>essional Consultation Group: In the past, when only secondyear<br />
students worked on consulting projects outside <strong>of</strong> <strong>LIOS</strong>,<br />
Pr<strong>of</strong>essional Consultation Group occurred in the second year only.<br />
With Masters Change Projects now starting up in the first year,<br />
Pr<strong>of</strong>essional Consultation Group begins then as well, <strong>and</strong> continues<br />
through the student’s second year.<br />
This course serves as an adjunct to the student’s experience in the<br />
MCPs. The focus is on developing consulting skills, examining legal<br />
<strong>and</strong> ethical issues related to consulting, exploring themes within<br />
the student’s consulting work, building relationships with other<br />
pr<strong>of</strong>essionals, <strong>and</strong> enhancing the student’s development as a<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> LOD graduating class <strong>of</strong> June 2009. Top Row L-R: graduates Paula<br />
Fitzgerald Boos, Autumn Allen, Lori Rowe, Emily Bowen, Laurie Rosenfeld,<br />
Br<strong>and</strong>y Boak, Marina Gordon, Jennifer Shen Lee, Kelly Spangler; Sherene<br />
Zolno, faculty. Bottom Row L-R: Jeff McAuliffe, faculty; graduates Robin White,<br />
Molly Maloney-Clark, Aleishia James, Sam Fern<strong>and</strong>es <strong>and</strong> Anna St. Martin<br />
pr<strong>of</strong>essional. Students get coaching on their MCP <strong>and</strong> have an<br />
opportunity for increased access/interaction with faculty, with the goal<br />
<strong>of</strong> integrating learning from curriculum, project, reading, <strong>and</strong> life.<br />
• Enriched Leadership Curriculum: Significant changes have<br />
been made in a number <strong>of</strong> second-year courses to ensure a focus<br />
on developing the ability to lead, <strong>and</strong> to work with leaders as a<br />
consultant <strong>and</strong> coach. This occurs in Strategic Leadership (formerly<br />
Vision, Goals <strong>and</strong> Strategies); Leading Change (formerly Change<br />
Management); <strong>and</strong> Leadership <strong>and</strong> Management (formerly<br />
Management <strong>and</strong> Supervision). More about these changes will<br />
appear in a future issue <strong>of</strong> Li n k a g e.<br />
What are Masters Change Projects like? Read below to<br />
learn about them in the words <strong>of</strong> three recent graduates.<br />
Laurie Rosenfeld on client selection: What qualities in a client/<br />
project sponsor <strong>and</strong> client issues are most appealing to me? What do<br />
I want <strong>and</strong> what do I have to <strong>of</strong>fer?<br />
“I was most interested in working with a client who was excited to<br />
grow <strong>and</strong> change, a client who was willing to partner with me using<br />
the collaborative consulting model, <strong>and</strong> a client sponsor who was<br />
energetic, open <strong>and</strong> willing to co-create this project together. I was<br />
reminded that this was a two-way, win-win proposition. It would<br />
not work if I somehow viewed myself in an inferior position or if I<br />
allowed myself to be viewed merely as a student. In fact, I was <strong>and</strong><br />
am a seasoned pr<strong>of</strong>essional. Indeed, I was fairly new to the collaborative<br />
consulting model <strong>and</strong> to the action research process. But, I<br />
was quick to account for <strong>and</strong> promote the value <strong>and</strong> experience I<br />
would <strong>of</strong>fer.<br />
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“Recognizing that my needs are as valid as those <strong>of</strong> a potential client<br />
(Block, 2000; Weisbord, 2006), I prepared a <strong>thought</strong>ful proposal. I<br />
began brainstorming on my own <strong>and</strong> with colleagues <strong>and</strong> mentors<br />
about prospective organizations. I think my greatest learning from<br />
this stage in the process was the power <strong>of</strong> a personal vision <strong>and</strong> a<br />
positive attitude.”<br />
Laurie Rosenfeld on contracting: Who is the appropriate sponsor<br />
for this project <strong>and</strong> how will sign-<strong>of</strong>f occur?<br />
“The client group, a nine-member sub-committee <strong>of</strong> the board,<br />
consisted <strong>of</strong> a cross-functional representation <strong>of</strong> the organization’s<br />
key stakeholders. Since we had to identify initial project goals <strong>and</strong><br />
complete a Memor<strong>and</strong>um <strong>of</strong> Underst<strong>and</strong>ing within a specific timeframe<br />
for my Masters Change Project, the sponsors <strong>and</strong> I did some<br />
preliminary work. Taking a systemic perspective, we utilized O’Neill’s<br />
(2005) Three Key Factors <strong>and</strong> Zolno’s (2008b) Field Alignment<br />
Model to identify three initial project goals. A project timeline<br />
<strong>and</strong> Memor<strong>and</strong>um <strong>of</strong> Underst<strong>and</strong>ing were developed <strong>and</strong> shared<br />
with the committee.<br />
“I made an assumption that approving this project was a formality,<br />
but instead, it was met with resistance <strong>by</strong> several vocal <strong>and</strong> seemingly<br />
powerful members <strong>of</strong> the committee. Afterwards several questions<br />
came up for me: Who needed to sign-<strong>of</strong>f on this project? What<br />
decision-making style would be used?<br />
“Since time was drawing near for my MCP contracting deadline,<br />
I decided to be upfront <strong>and</strong> direct with my sponsors. I openly <strong>and</strong><br />
honestly shared my observations <strong>and</strong> my questions. I told them that<br />
if we were going to work together we needed to complete contracting<br />
<strong>and</strong> stay on or close to our scheduled timeline. I brought diagrams<br />
<strong>and</strong> taught them about the various decision-making styles, explaining<br />
that no style is better than another <strong>and</strong> each is appropriate in different<br />
circumstances (Johnson & Johnson, 2006; Tannenbaum & Schmidt,<br />
1973). I said that as much as I wanted everyone to be committed<br />
from the start, consensus is not always the most appropriate style.<br />
“To my surprise, they thanked me <strong>and</strong> told me how much they appreciated<br />
my honesty, directness, <strong>and</strong> the clarity <strong>of</strong> expectations <strong>and</strong><br />
next steps. They appreciated the lesson in decision-making styles <strong>and</strong><br />
the visuals I provided. They took a majority vote <strong>and</strong> the project was<br />
approved 5-3 to move ahead.”<br />
Kelly Spangler on holding steady in a storm <strong>of</strong> change: How do<br />
you support a client system that is experiencing so much change?<br />
How do you help them increase their capacity to relate to one another<br />
even while storming?<br />
“Relieved is how I felt as I walked from my car into the building. My<br />
first planned intervention for my Individual Action Research Project<br />
was about to happen.<br />
“The first few months <strong>of</strong> my project were full <strong>of</strong> unexpected changes<br />
<strong>and</strong> occurrences. A change in sponsorship resulting from three<br />
different iterations <strong>of</strong> the organizational chart sent waves through<br />
the entire system <strong>and</strong> tested my internal anxiety range as well. The<br />
hard part was behind us now, I <strong>thought</strong>, <strong>and</strong> it would be smooth<br />
sailing for the rest <strong>of</strong> the project.<br />
“As soon as I saw my sponsor I knew something was wrong. His<br />
eyes were heavy <strong>and</strong> he seemed nervous. He explained that there<br />
was no point to carrying out our planned intervention because he<br />
was contemplating leaving the agency because <strong>of</strong> conflicts he was<br />
experiencing. Conflict avoidance was one <strong>of</strong> the main systemic<br />
patterns we identified on this team. My sponsor decided, in the<br />
moment, that we should change the planned intervention from<br />
brainstorming a new work schedule to addressing conflict on the<br />
team. Unless the team made a commitment to work at engaging in<br />
“robust conversations,” he did not want to work there anymore.<br />
“So much for navigating through a calm discussion. It was<br />
‘whitewater’” (Vail, 1996).<br />
“I agreed with him that it was time to get it all out on the table. We<br />
determined that I would set the ground rules for the difficult conversation<br />
<strong>and</strong> facilitate. I coached him on sharing his <strong>feeling</strong>s <strong>and</strong> how<br />
to be transparent. I explained that if he opened his heart <strong>and</strong> risked<br />
some vulnerability the rest <strong>of</strong> the team would follow suit.<br />
“Feelings were shared <strong>and</strong> differing stories were respectfully heard.<br />
The team <strong>and</strong> leader heartfully committed to working with each<br />
other instead <strong>of</strong> around each other. The team gained so much<br />
energy from connecting in this way that they began to create action<br />
plans faster than I could write them down. The sponsor stepped<br />
right into his leadership role <strong>and</strong> took over facilitating the evolving<br />
<strong>creative</strong> process.<br />
“I sat there listening to the energized chatter with a big grin on my<br />
face as I had just worked myself out <strong>of</strong> a job. Holding the team <strong>and</strong><br />
leader capable <strong>of</strong> creating their own healthy system, while simultaneously<br />
listening, re-framing, <strong>and</strong> working through the Action<br />
Research process, helped me nudge them toward their goals.”<br />
Marina Gordon on systemic intervention design: How do you<br />
meet these whole system goals: a) Create a high-performing, reliable<br />
team <strong>and</strong> improve cross-team collaboration (business goal);<br />
b) Increase the number <strong>of</strong> personal connections <strong>and</strong> deepen the<br />
level <strong>of</strong> emotional support within the client group (team goal); <strong>and</strong><br />
c) Become a role model in collaboration for my subordinates during<br />
the leading <strong>of</strong> this project <strong>and</strong> develop more personal connections<br />
with them (leader goal)? Marina, an international student,<br />
facilitated Action Research with a group <strong>of</strong> 12 departments in a<br />
Russian University.<br />
“One <strong>of</strong> the technical challenges I faced was that I received my<br />
consultant education in English <strong>and</strong> sometimes it was hard for me<br />
to find the right words while working with my Russian clients.<br />
Even though my intention was to speak their language <strong>and</strong> not<br />
overwhelm them with specific terminology, sometimes it was still<br />
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needed (for example, when I explained the Action Research process<br />
for them). I also had to translate the project proposal, client report,<br />
<strong>and</strong> other materials from Russian to English <strong>and</strong> back, so that they<br />
could be understood both <strong>by</strong> my clients <strong>and</strong> my faculty. I have<br />
to admit, though, that it was a great practice, especially because<br />
it made me think <strong>of</strong> some cultural differences <strong>and</strong> become more<br />
mindful <strong>of</strong> them.<br />
“Our implementation was quite a complex series <strong>of</strong> events. The<br />
first part was a one-day hike in which participants had to collaborate<br />
<strong>and</strong> get from point A to point B. They had to cross rivers <strong>and</strong><br />
overcome other obstacles. In the end they reached a cabin where a<br />
couple <strong>of</strong> group members, who could not join the hike for health<br />
reasons, prepared a dinner <strong>and</strong> some games to continue the team<br />
building process. It was a truly great day in which all the participants<br />
got to know each other better. They later reported that they<br />
were inspired <strong>by</strong> their colleagues <strong>and</strong> new friends.<br />
also reported that they had developed a new sense <strong>of</strong> identity—<br />
based on belonging to this team.”<br />
References:<br />
• Block, P. (1999). Flawless consulting: A guide to getting your<br />
expertise used (2nd ed.). San Francisco, CA: Pfeiffer.<br />
• Drucker, P. (1954). The Practice <strong>of</strong> management. New York:<br />
Harper <strong>and</strong> Brothers.<br />
• Harrison, R. (1970, April-June). Waterline model, Choosing the<br />
depth <strong>of</strong> organizational interventions. Journal <strong>of</strong> Applied<br />
Behavioral Science, pp. 181-202.<br />
• Johnson, D.W., & Johnson, F.P. (2006). Joining together: Group<br />
theory <strong>and</strong> group skills. Boston: Allyn & Bacon.<br />
“The second part <strong>of</strong> the implementation strategy was a formal<br />
meeting in which I facilitated a discussion about what the client<br />
group members had learned about their team during the hike <strong>and</strong><br />
how they could apply this learning in the work place. I included an<br />
exercise in which the participants dreamed about their ideal work<br />
environment <strong>and</strong> then described it to each other. I also introduced<br />
some models <strong>of</strong> group development (Tuckman, 1965), SMART<br />
goals (Drucker, 1954), <strong>and</strong> the Waterline Model (Harrison, 1970).<br />
It helped them to put our activities <strong>and</strong> new learning into a theoretical<br />
context.<br />
“The participants reported that the discussion <strong>of</strong> how to apply new<br />
learning was helpful to them; it created a sense <strong>of</strong> confidence <strong>and</strong><br />
ownership in them.<br />
“In addition to the group intervention, I facilitated an intervention<br />
involving two <strong>of</strong> the client system members. From the contracting<br />
conversations as well as from some interviews I was aware that two<br />
<strong>of</strong> the department heads were in a conflict, which contributed to<br />
the poor collaboration among departments. I facilitated a conflict<br />
resolution between the two, having decided it would benefit the<br />
system <strong>and</strong> me as well, since I would get to practice facilitating a<br />
difficult conversation (Stone, Patton & Heen, 1999). I believe that<br />
this conflict mediation was one <strong>of</strong> the most significant events during<br />
the project, not only because this conflict got resolved, but also<br />
because these two people, who had been enemies for several years,<br />
modeled for the rest <strong>of</strong> the team the willingness to collaborate.<br />
“These interventions helped participants become more aware <strong>of</strong><br />
the importance <strong>of</strong> collaboration, <strong>and</strong> shifted their ways <strong>of</strong> relating.<br />
The informal part <strong>of</strong> the intervention (the hike) created emotional<br />
stimulation for building new connections <strong>and</strong> deepening the old<br />
ones, <strong>and</strong> the formal session helped them underst<strong>and</strong> that every<br />
group goes through a certain development cycle <strong>and</strong> that without<br />
storming they could never get to norming <strong>and</strong> effective performing<br />
(Tuckman). As a result <strong>of</strong> the project, participants created new ways<br />
<strong>of</strong> formal collaboration (such as weekly meetings); some <strong>of</strong> them<br />
<strong>LIOS</strong> ALUMNA PROFILE IN COURAGE:<br />
JULIA HARRIS (continued from page 25)<br />
Do I have to tell you that the indomitable Julia is ready for a second<br />
try at that European vacation, along with a couple other adventures:<br />
sky-diving like George H.W. Bush, cross-country skiing, learning to<br />
swim <strong>and</strong> speak Spanish. “Is it an easy language?” I ask. “It will be,<br />
once I learn it,” she ripostes.<br />
She’s a wise warrior woman, disguised as someone’s diminutive<br />
gr<strong>and</strong>mother, <strong>and</strong> my conversation with Julia Harris has left me a<br />
little awed. Some lives read like sustaining fiction <strong>and</strong> the people who<br />
live them resonate with something larger than everyday fortitude.<br />
When, at the end <strong>of</strong> our talk, I asked Julia to share her defining<br />
moments, her quiet reply immersed us both in the ongoing stream<br />
<strong>of</strong> experience: “I’m not finished getting defined.”<br />
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