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Lorianny<br />
and her<br />
father in the<br />
Dominican<br />
Republic.<br />
‘Real Choices, Real Lives’ –<br />
The <strong>Plan</strong> cohort turns 5<br />
P l a n<br />
The ‘Real Choices, Real Lives’ study was<br />
launched in 2007 to follow 142 girls from nine<br />
countries around the world through their early<br />
childhood journeys, from birth until their ninth<br />
birthday. This year, many of the girls turn five,<br />
a key milestone in childhood. Not all of them<br />
have survived. Since the study began, five<br />
girls have died and this year another little girl,<br />
Mary Joy T from the Philippines, drowned.<br />
Mary Joy’s f<strong>am</strong>ily have no sanitation facilities,<br />
so she was taken to use the nearby river by<br />
an older cousin. Both children then started to<br />
play and were drowned.<br />
All the deaths in our study can be<br />
attributed to poverty – to patchy access to<br />
healthcare, lack of parental education, poor<br />
housing or lack of sanitation facilities. The<br />
study itself brings home to us the realities of<br />
life for f<strong>am</strong>ilies in many parts of the world<br />
and illuminates the decisions they face and<br />
choices they make as their daughters grow<br />
up – decisions and choices that many of<br />
these f<strong>am</strong>ilies face with <strong>am</strong>azing courage and<br />
resilience.<br />
This year’s report focuses on the role of<br />
men and boys and on engaging them in the<br />
fight for gender equality. Our argument is that<br />
gender equality benefits both sexes; but in<br />
many institutions, including the f<strong>am</strong>ily, men<br />
may be reluctant to change as they fear a loss<br />
of power and do not anticipate any gains.<br />
This year when our researchers visited the<br />
girls and their f<strong>am</strong>ilies they also spent time<br />
with the girls’ fathers, conducting life history<br />
interviews. These detailed interviews reveal<br />
not only what has shaped the attitudes and<br />
behaviour of these 86 fathers, but also look<br />
closely at their roles and responsibilities. Our<br />
researchers also ex<strong>am</strong>ined how the men<br />
define being a good father.<br />
“When I <strong>am</strong> next to my children I feel like a<br />
hero. I feel big when I <strong>am</strong> next to them.”<br />
Estefani’s father, Dominican Republic<br />
One key factor to emerge from the interviews<br />
was that all but one of the men had been<br />
hit by his parents and many – the men<br />
from Vietn<strong>am</strong>, Togo and the Dominican<br />
Republic being the exception – had witnessed<br />
domestic abuse. Zaldy, father of Jessa<br />
from the Philippines, feared his own father<br />
throughout his childhood: “If I couldn’t go<br />
to him immediately when he called me, I<br />
got spanked. Or when I arrived late from<br />
school, I got spanked… I cried as he hit me.<br />
The following day, my body would ache.<br />
My father was cruel when he was drunk.<br />
Whenever I remember how he hit me then,<br />
my tears fall.” He also witnessed domestic<br />
abuse of his mother. It is a pattern he is<br />
determined not to repeat. He wants the best<br />
for his five children: “They each have their<br />
own dre<strong>am</strong>s. I tell my kids if they want to<br />
have a good job, they should study well.”<br />
It is also clear from the interviews that the<br />
gender divisions of labour the men observed<br />
in their childhood homes heavily influence<br />
how their own households are now managed.<br />
In fact, many of the men interviewed were<br />
uncritical as they remembered how household<br />
tasks were allocated while they were growing<br />
up. Lorianny’s father remembers, “I didn’t<br />
help with chores – I was allowed to be idle<br />
here [at home], ha ha. Only in the yard,<br />
I did a few things. My sister helped my<br />
mum. My brother and I helped my dad.” In<br />
the Philippines, Riza’s father had a similar<br />
experience: “I had to sweep the house many<br />
times. I did not like doing that, because I<br />
thought it was my sister’s job. It was my elder<br />
sister who forced me to do that when Mother<br />
was absent.” In Benin, however, Marcelle’s<br />
father was brought up by his own father after<br />
his parents’ divorce. As a result, he watched<br />
his father do household tasks throughout his<br />
childhood. For him, it was normal: “My father<br />
used to cook frequently because my mother<br />
left. He could take care of us very well.”<br />
It is clear from these comments that since<br />
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