Gurus - The Journey Magazine
Gurus - The Journey Magazine
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What I Really Think<br />
About My Guru<br />
By Tim McAuley<br />
n the winter of<br />
2005 I discovered<br />
something powerful.<br />
As I sat on<br />
my surfboard and<br />
contemplated the Iinterconnectedness of my existence, I came to a realization<br />
that all the words to describe anyone/thing in my<br />
awareness field could be used to describe me. <strong>The</strong> world<br />
around me does in fact reflect parts of me. I have played<br />
with that concept quite a bit since the summer of 2005.<br />
For years I have carried a note card in my pocket so<br />
I can jot down key phrases about the people and events<br />
in my life. I make time weekly to review what I’ve written<br />
to look for those qualities in myself. I can’t recall a time<br />
when the traits I’ve used to describe other people were<br />
not traits I possess.<br />
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When I’ve adored and admired<br />
a certain person, I’ve searched<br />
myself to see if I embody those<br />
same qualities. I have, over the<br />
years, written down the same<br />
words over and over.<br />
When I’ve adored and admired a certain person, I’ve<br />
searched myself to see if I embody those same qualities.<br />
I have, over the years, written down the same words<br />
over and over. <strong>The</strong> qualities I admire are on a list that I<br />
contemplate daily, and use as part of my vision-board<br />
experience. I have gone as far as typing in the 38 qualities<br />
of “her” into thesaurus.com so I could make sure I<br />
knew exactly what each word contained.<br />
But the real magic of this exercise has been found<br />
in the negative traits and experiences. When I become<br />
annoyed with people, I do the same. I contemplate each<br />
word and ask myself, “Am I that?” I have grown much as<br />
a man in doing so, and I know better what “good” qualities<br />
I can cultivate further as a result.<br />
My first glimpse of finding my own annoying traits<br />
through the observation of others happened while I was<br />
tending bar in Laguna Beach, California. On any given<br />
night, “regulars” made up about 90 percent of the cli-<br />
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entele. Rarely did I have to ask “What can I get you?” I<br />
knew all of their drinks, their drinking habits and most<br />
of their dirty little secrets.<br />
He said for months now he<br />
would chuckle as the guy came<br />
in and got in line to get a drink.<br />
He really enjoyed watching<br />
the two of us angrily exchange<br />
words.<br />
Most of us live our lives in a manner to which you<br />
can set a clock. It seems that we are most comfortable<br />
with routine. <strong>The</strong> patrons at Woody’s at the Beach were<br />
no different. Happy Hour was often filled with familiar<br />
faces, each day hosted different cliques. Most of the patrons<br />
were there to have a good time and relax, but some<br />
seemed to be there just piss on my Cheerios.<br />
As I began to play with this newly discovered concept<br />
that all people represent something about me, apparently<br />
my interactions with people began to change.<br />
One evening during Happy Hour a friend of mine/<br />
regular sat at the window service area smoking cigarettes<br />
and enjoying the evening air on the patio. <strong>The</strong> pace of the<br />
evening was steady as usual, and the clients were familiar.<br />
At one point in the evening the man in the window yelled<br />
out through the smoke “What the hell was that?”<br />
Startled, I engaged his question. He said part of the<br />
fun at Happy Hour on Thursday nights was watching the<br />
exchange between me and the Cheerios guy. He said for<br />
months now he would chuckle as the guy came in and<br />
got in line to get a drink. He really enjoyed watching the<br />
two of us angrily exchange words.<br />
Every time this cereal bandit came into the bar, my<br />
skin crawled. He knew the buttons to push with me and<br />
did so without fail. Each time I served him we almost<br />
came to blows (I wasn’t a pacifist back then). I may<br />
have hit him if I hadn’t felt so indebted to the owners of<br />
the restaurant for helping me out through my first days<br />
of sobriety.<br />
That particular night however, I was merely observing<br />
and trying to see what about him was in me. I saw his<br />
pain. I saw how uncomfortable he really was with himself,<br />
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