Sharodiya Anjali 2005 - Pujari
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__________________________________________________________________Durga Puja <strong>2005</strong><br />
Geeta Chadha Yadav, Chennai<br />
Chennai based Geeta Chadha Yadav is a freelance journalist and Reiki Teacher. She focuses mainly on adolescence<br />
issues and has numerous columns in Times of India and Indian Express to her credit. She has been working closely with<br />
Politics India and other journals writing various human interest stories. Her book was published by student aid<br />
publications and was reviewed by Times of India and the Hindu.<br />
Making a home<br />
away from home, this is how I<br />
describe the plight of people<br />
who have to adapt themselves to<br />
a foreign land, an alien culture<br />
and discrimination at various<br />
levels. But most of them who<br />
decide to make it their home opt<br />
for the easier option and<br />
embrace the foreign culture in<br />
totality. The physical and<br />
psychological self is<br />
transformed beyond recognition<br />
but the desi soul is simply<br />
ignored and left to suffocate in a<br />
phirang body. This is exactly<br />
what happened with my cousin<br />
who had come for a brief<br />
vacation from the US. She is<br />
married and has two children<br />
aged 14 and 9. We met after a<br />
long gap of eight years. I still<br />
remember, we last met each<br />
other during the winters of<br />
1996. I was not married then,<br />
still inexperienced in so many<br />
ways but still I could make out<br />
that she was treading the<br />
confused path. As regards her<br />
children, the elder son Sandy,<br />
introduced himself as an<br />
American, could not speak a<br />
word in Hindi, was busy<br />
miming for every thing, called<br />
her by name as Americans did, spoke<br />
in the same accent giving little regard<br />
to the alphabet u, and the younger one<br />
Paddy was by God’s grace, too young<br />
to differentiate between Americans<br />
and Asian. My brother- in-law, born<br />
and brought up in Allahabad, an<br />
engineer from IIT Kharagpur, was<br />
and still is one of the most well<br />
settled Indian there. From Om<br />
Prakash he became OP and my<br />
sister’s metamorphosis from Sangeeta<br />
to Sangi was mind blowing. From a<br />
simple, educated young girl, her<br />
transformation was painful and her<br />
body language so distraught. In a<br />
matter of few years they had found<br />
the Indian psyche non- progressive<br />
and unchanging. The Indians<br />
remained the backward lot, spending<br />
most of the time in the kitchen,<br />
feeding their children and making<br />
them dependent from day one.<br />
“You should have a life of<br />
your own. See I enjoy life, I love the<br />
American way of life, progressive and<br />
rich. Sunny and Paddy stay at the day<br />
care centre, I am working full time, I<br />
grab a hamburger for lunch and that’s<br />
it. On the other hand, had I been here<br />
I would have wasted my youth in<br />
preparing khichdi for the little ones<br />
and performing those mundane duties<br />
of a dutiful bahu. It is so damn<br />
suffocating. Here in India, in the garb<br />
of culture and tradition “you” are still<br />
so primitive in so many ways<br />
and the worst thing is “you”<br />
people are not ready to change.<br />
In a span of few years<br />
she had become “we” and we<br />
had been assigned the substandard<br />
category of ‘you<br />
people’.<br />
We were out of touch<br />
for some time, but last year on<br />
hearing of my father’s death<br />
she had called up. Few days<br />
ago she told me that she<br />
wanted to see me urgently<br />
even if it meant just for a day<br />
or two.<br />
Something in her<br />
voice made me anxious and I<br />
decided to see her and be with<br />
her for a couple of days. I was<br />
waiting to see my sis but a<br />
look in her direction told me<br />
that something was terribly<br />
wrong. But it was at night that<br />
we got the opportunity to talk.<br />
She broke down, cried her<br />
heart out because Sandy aged<br />
16 yrs wanted to move out and<br />
live in with an American girl<br />
who was another four years<br />
senior to him. He had dropped<br />
out of school two years ago.<br />
“We have the money to<br />
sponsor his higher studies but<br />
he is not inclined, he’s into<br />
wrong company, he is<br />
excitedly curious about sex<br />
matters, I can’t tell you what<br />
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