We Will Not Go Quietly - Centre Against Sexual Assault
We Will Not Go Quietly - Centre Against Sexual Assault
We Will Not Go Quietly - Centre Against Sexual Assault
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LIZ<br />
DEAR ANDREW<br />
Liz is a 25-year-old social worker<br />
from Chicago, IL who specializes<br />
in working with children and<br />
adolescents. She has volunteered<br />
on a rape crisis hotline, worked on<br />
a youth-friendly crisis helpline, and<br />
received her Master of Social Work<br />
this past year. In her free time, Liz<br />
enjoys yoga, reading, baking, and<br />
doing crafts.<br />
For Liz’s full story see:<br />
http://notgoquietly.tumblr.com<br />
59<br />
Dear Andrew,<br />
Today is June 25, 2011, exactly 1.5 years since you raped me. Does the<br />
word rape sting for you as much as it does for me? Does it make your heart<br />
drop... feel like someone punched you in the stomach... make you clench your<br />
teeth? Probably not.<br />
As easy as it is to say, “the rape was YOUR fault, Andrew,” it’s much more<br />
dificult for me to actually believe those words. When you raped me, you<br />
took away my sense of self. It was like I was transported to an isolated island,<br />
watching everything I once knew loat past me and disappear. My self-esteem<br />
plummeted and left me wondering, who am I?<br />
I have spent the last 18 months confronting the fact that you raped me. I<br />
have had lashbacks, nightmares, uncontrollable crying spells, so much anxiety<br />
that I started seeing a psychiatrist, muscle twitches, guilt, self-blame, low<br />
self-esteem, and avoidance of places or people who remind me of you. When<br />
you raped me, you took away my ability to trust, to let people in, to feel like I<br />
had control over my body and my life. You instilled fear in me... fear of anyone<br />
named Andrew, fear of raspy voices, fear of drinking alcohol, fear of losing<br />
control, fear of dating and intimacy, fear of what to tell my future daughter,<br />
fear of being vulnerable, fear of blond men, fear of reporting the rape to the<br />
police, fear of being judged, fear that you will never be caught, fear of being<br />
raped again.<br />
As dificult as it was, confronting the symptoms of PTSD helped me to<br />
become stronger than I ever imagined. Healing from a sexual assault is a<br />
lifelong process, and I’m never sure when something will creep up on me and<br />
remind me of that night, or of you. However, the supports I have found and<br />
my ability to turn pain into strength give me hope for the future.