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emotionally nurturing, generous, and fulfilling relationship?A sexier, more passionate relationship? A mentallyand spiritually stimulating and inspiring relationship? Aheart, body, and soul Sacred Love relationship? Nowclose your eyes and visualize it.Once you have opened your mind to a bigger visionof love, your energy vibration rises, and your receptivityto those experiences increases.To keep our energy moving in an increasingly positivevibration, we have to address our underlying beliefsabout love. We can get stuck in our negative thoughts:“My partner will never give me the love and intimacy Idesire,” “I’m not good enough for the relationship I wantor have,” “I’m not in the right town or at the right placein my life for the right relationship,” “All relationshipsare difficult,” or “There are no good men or women outthere.”What kind of vibration would these ideas emit fromyou? You have probably guessed the answer: negativevibrations.Let’s change these thoughts to ones that will createthe vibrations that will give you what you really want.Examining Your BeliefsPurpose:Examining your beliefs about love can help you discoverwhy you attract certain experiences, both positive andnegative, in love and intimacy.Practice:Right now I would like you to take an exam. Take outyour journal and examine your beliefs about love.Write down the most positive belief that you haveabout love. Skip down the page, leaving some space.Now name the most self-defeating belief you have aboutlove.Our beliefs about love are reinforced all around us.How are your beliefs being reinforced in your life rightnow? In the first section, write down how your positivebeliefs about love are being reinforced in your life.Now, in the second section, write down how yournegative beliefs about love are being reinforced. Noticewhich belief has more reinforcements in your life.When love is not adding up to what you want, thenmore of your focus is on your negative belief system.This negative viewpoint creates a negative vibrationalfield for you in love, which can bring you great frustration,disappointment, and discouragement.The more positive your thoughts, the more positivethe field of experiences that you are creating.As you increase your positive thoughts and beliefs, youwill begin to change your vibrational field for the betterand see more love and loving people coming into yourlife. More potential partners and loving experiences inyour relationships will magically begin to appear.Your challenge is to begin to sharpen your focus onyour best beliefs about love and look for signs that reinforcethem. Think of couples you know who are creatinga great relationship. Read inspiring love poetry out loud.Tear out photos from magazines that inspire you to greatlove and make a vision board to put up on your wall orinside your closet door. Watch movies about great love.Notice a passing conversation of people expressing loveto each other. Take note of the ways that people aredemonstrating their love to you every day with a compliment,a call, a hug, a gift, a loving gesture, or an intimateexperience.As you increase your positive vision of love, youhave to choose better ideas and beliefs to think, say, andhold dear. Doing so will help you move toward what youreally want for yourself in love: a truly satisfying relationship.How Light is Your Heart?Emotional VibeA fascinating scene depicted in ancient Egyptian art is“The Weighing of the Heart.” In the Egyptian Book ofthe Dead, a deceased Egyptian stands at his judgmentbefore a huge scale. On one side of the scale is his heartplaced in a jar. On the other side of the scale is a feather.All those around him wait to see if his heart is lightenough for him to enter heaven.If you were to be judged right now, would your heartgain entrance into heaven? Would your heart be light asa feather? Heaven and great love are synonymous. Weuse the term “I’m in heaven” when our heart is lightmeaningwhen we are happy and having a wonderfultime, as well as when we fall in love.The relationship between a light heart and the lovewe want is apparent in the attractive appeal of a sense ofhumor. I hear from women over and over that one of thequalities they find most appealing in a man is a sense ofhumor. And the same holds true for many men. We lovesomeone who will make us laugh, who can help us forgetabout our tough days and life challenges and justhave a good time. .A consistently heavy heart, which either shuts usdown or brings out volatile emotions, is a turn-off. It putsa halt to moving into more intimate territory with someonewe love. What causes heaviness and volatility areunresolved emotions that block us from enjoying life andexperiencing the intimacy we want. Past heartbreaks andphysical/emotional traumas can prevent us from havingan open and light heart and from fully enjoying the lovewww.earthstarmag.com FEBRUARY / MARCH 2008 EARTH STAR 23