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A Walk in the Woods

Swarthmore College Bulletin (March 2001) - ITS

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O U R B A C K P A G E SS W A R T H M O R E C O L L E G E B U L L E T I N80F r i e n d s f o r L i f eS W A R T H M O R E C O N N E C T I O N S W I T H S T A N D T H E T E S T O F T I M E .By Andrea HammerThe power of Swarthmore friendships,tended over many decades, ispalpable. At campus ga<strong>the</strong>r<strong>in</strong>gs,chatt<strong>in</strong>g friends visibly soak up <strong>the</strong> pleasureof each o<strong>the</strong>r’s company. Three elderlywomen <strong>in</strong> match<strong>in</strong>g p<strong>in</strong>k jackets whisperto each o<strong>the</strong>r as <strong>the</strong>y did dur<strong>in</strong>g College; aquartet of men, at first <strong>in</strong>tently debat<strong>in</strong>g apo<strong>in</strong>t, pat each o<strong>the</strong>r on <strong>the</strong> back.Still central to <strong>the</strong>ir lives, Swarthmorefriendships rema<strong>in</strong> a guid<strong>in</strong>g force despite<strong>the</strong> challenges of time. Several groups from<strong>the</strong> 1940s—a fraction of <strong>in</strong>numerable lifetimefriends from Swarthmore—illum<strong>in</strong>ate<strong>the</strong> mysteries of keep<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong>se lifelongl<strong>in</strong>ks connected.P a r a l l e l L i v e sM Ii r r o r e d i n M o d e s t ynseparable at alumni events, Lyn PurdyJones ’40 and Mary Lois Broomell Eberle’40 mirror each o<strong>the</strong>r <strong>in</strong> quiet modesty:crowns of white hair fram<strong>in</strong>g rosy cheeks,bashful giggles still percolat<strong>in</strong>g from <strong>the</strong>ir20s, and exchanged looks of <strong>in</strong>stant understand<strong>in</strong>gfrom a golden friend. Jones, currentclass secretary, and Eberle, currentclass agent and class president, first met <strong>in</strong>1936 as freshmen on <strong>the</strong> same hall <strong>in</strong>Parrish Fourth West—<strong>the</strong>y said simultaneously.As roommates <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong>ir senior year,<strong>the</strong>ir friendship bloomed.“Our bro<strong>the</strong>rs also became roommatesat <strong>the</strong> College,” Eberle said. “It just happened,”Jones marveled.Their common <strong>in</strong>terests at Swarthmorehave kept <strong>the</strong>ir steps <strong>in</strong> sync. Both wereFrench majors, members of <strong>the</strong> Women’sStudent Government Association, and fieldhockey players who jo<strong>in</strong>ed Gwimp—<strong>the</strong>sports managers group. After graduation,Jones and Eberle both also taught atPhiladelphia’s Friends Central School.Cont<strong>in</strong>u<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> rhythm, both married<strong>the</strong>ir College swee<strong>the</strong>arts <strong>in</strong> 1941 and“were <strong>in</strong> each o<strong>the</strong>r’s wedd<strong>in</strong>gs,” Jonessaid. She betro<strong>the</strong>d Edmund ’39, now asenior partner with Jones, Strohm, Cra<strong>in</strong> &Guthrie, and had four children. Eberlewedded Charles “Buzz” Eberle ’40, an avidathlete and class president who died <strong>in</strong>1986; she also had 4 children and 13 grandchildrento rally her—<strong>in</strong> addition to longtimefriends. Soon after her husband’sdeath, Eberle wrote: “One doesn’t realizehow important friends are until someth<strong>in</strong>glike this happens. My Swarthmore friendsare my oldest and best.”In memory of her husband, who wasactive with Friends of Athletics at <strong>the</strong>College, Eberle supported <strong>the</strong> EberleInternship Program for <strong>in</strong>terns tra<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g towrite about sports. In 1965, Jones and herhusband also created <strong>the</strong> Edmund A. JonesScholarship—keep<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> spirit of <strong>the</strong>irdeceased son, Ted, alive by help<strong>in</strong>g dozensof talented area scholars attend Swarthmore.These lifetime friends have both beendedicated to community service activities.“We are both members of <strong>the</strong> League ofWomen Voters,” said Jones, an activeSwarthmore Friends Meet<strong>in</strong>g member.Similarly, Eberle has given time and energyto <strong>the</strong> Unitarian Society of Germantown.The College recognized <strong>the</strong>ir outstand<strong>in</strong>gservice to <strong>the</strong> College by bestow<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong>Joseph P. Shane Award on Eberle <strong>in</strong> 1990and Jones <strong>in</strong> 1992. Both have taken turnsas class secretary, class agent, and AlumniCouncil members.In between writ<strong>in</strong>g Class Notes, whichJones hand delivers on deadl<strong>in</strong>e withoutfail, she shares Eberle’s <strong>in</strong>terest <strong>in</strong> AlumniCollege Abroad trips. “I’ve been on 25 of<strong>the</strong>m,” said Eberle, who has relished <strong>the</strong>seopportunities to “learn from excellent professorsand achieve a close feel<strong>in</strong>g betweenSwarthmore alumni.”When <strong>the</strong>y’re not travel<strong>in</strong>g, you canf<strong>in</strong>d Jones and Eberle sitt<strong>in</strong>g side by side atMARY LO BROOMELL EBERLE (LEFT) AND LYN PURDYJONES GRADUATED TOGETHER IN 1940. DURINGVOLUNTEER LEADERSHIP WEEKEND THIS YEAR, THEYSTILL STOOD SIDE BY SIDE IN FRIENDSHIP.campus events like Volunteer LeadershipWeekend, when <strong>the</strong>y enjoyed baggedlunches toge<strong>the</strong>r on a Kohlberg Hall bench.Their eyes sparkle with a shared zest forlife, magnetiz<strong>in</strong>g two friends who radiate60 years of common connections—withSwarthmore at <strong>the</strong> center.P s y c h o l o g i c a l P r o x i m i t yD Ne s p i t e G e o g r a p h i c D i s t a n c eow liv<strong>in</strong>g worlds apart, Don Smith ’47of Long Island, N.Y.; Phil Gilbert ’48of Kennett Square, Pa.; and Si Goudsmit’48 of Amsterdam, <strong>the</strong> Ne<strong>the</strong>rlands, havema<strong>in</strong>ta<strong>in</strong>ed a strong connection across <strong>the</strong>miles and years. In addition to e-mail andsnail mail, <strong>the</strong>y have never hesitated to stay<strong>in</strong> touch by telephone <strong>in</strong>ternationally.“There may have been geographic distance,”Gilbert said, “but psychologically,we always live around <strong>the</strong> corner from eacho<strong>the</strong>r.”Gilbert and Goudsmit were first pulledtoge<strong>the</strong>r on campus when Smith drew <strong>the</strong>best Wharton suite and <strong>in</strong>vited <strong>the</strong>m <strong>in</strong> assuitemates. “In <strong>the</strong> beg<strong>in</strong>n<strong>in</strong>g, I much appreciatedPhil’s cheerful disposition,” Goudsmitsaid. “My family lived <strong>in</strong> Holland, andPhil soon <strong>in</strong>troduced me to his parents,whomade me welcome when I visited <strong>the</strong>m.”As a chemistry major who later receiveda master’s <strong>in</strong> bus<strong>in</strong>ess adm<strong>in</strong>istration fromAdelphi University, Gilbert also learnedmany lessons from his friends over <strong>the</strong>years. “Don <strong>in</strong>troduced me to Quakerism;Si <strong>in</strong>troduced me to <strong>in</strong>ternational affairs,”he said. Now, “I am <strong>the</strong> same garrulouscharacter. Don and Si are <strong>the</strong> same deep,quiet fellows. But I learned better and betterto listen when <strong>the</strong>y spoke, learn<strong>in</strong>g thatSTEVEN GOLDBLATT ʼ67

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