Volume 4 - Ethnicities Magazine - October

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What? It was lost?

Here we were a week after our 5th year anniversary

and his wonderful milestone fun-packed

birthday celebration week.

How could he be telling me that he had lost

his wedding ring somewhere in this week’s


I was so angry at him.

Mad, in fact.

How and when was it lost or misplaced? Maybe when

he took it off on Tuesday to work on the truck and make

sandwiches and salads? Maybe it was later that day

when he had to wash the truck and had to get underneath

to replace the propane. I was angry! I was hurt! And he

was going to know it.


Photo: freepik.es

Now intellectually I knew a band doesn’t a

marriage make but it was sentimentally and

spiritually important to me. To us. This was a big

deal. These rings had been exchanged in love

as we were wed. They had been prayed over,

blessed and presented on that beautiful ceremonial

day we had just watched by video the week

before on our anniversary morning.

I didn’t speak to him without ice in my voice for

2 days.

I was no longer going to wear mine.

Let him see how that felt.

Yes, he tried to connect with me, just smooth things

over and move on but I couldn’t. I needed some time

with this milieu of female thoughts and imaginations

running through my head. On day two, I didn’t even want

to be around him. I wanted him to sleep in the doghouse,

except we don’t have a house. Nor a dog. And we

live in New York City. A homeless guy is the usual here.

This time was well spent and utilized for me to come

back to my full senses. After forty-eight hours of thinking

about it all, in between all the things I had to and

needed to do, after forty eight hours of being in my

feelings, owning them and dissecting them, along

with two sister girlfriend conversations, with better

sense and some clarity I spoke to him about it all.

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