Volume 4 - Ethnicities Magazine - October
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RELATIONSHIP
TOGETHER? EASY?
BY: JUDITH RAPLEY WATERMAN, B.A.
FOUNDER, CEO, COACH & BUSINESS STRATEGIST
JMR Coaching & Consulting Services
Judith@judithrapley.com
What? It was lost?
Here we were a week after our 5th year anniversary
and his wonderful milestone fun-packed
birthday celebration week.
How could he be telling me that he had lost
his wedding ring somewhere in this week’s
festivities?
I was so angry at him.
Mad, in fact.
How and when was it lost or misplaced? Maybe when
he took it off on Tuesday to work on the truck and make
sandwiches and salads? Maybe it was later that day
when he had to wash the truck and had to get underneath
to replace the propane. I was angry! I was hurt! And he
was going to know it.
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Photo: freepik.es
Now intellectually I knew a band doesn’t a
marriage make but it was sentimentally and
spiritually important to me. To us. This was a big
deal. These rings had been exchanged in love
as we were wed. They had been prayed over,
blessed and presented on that beautiful ceremonial
day we had just watched by video the week
before on our anniversary morning.
I didn’t speak to him without ice in my voice for
2 days.
I was no longer going to wear mine.
Let him see how that felt.
Yes, he tried to connect with me, just smooth things
over and move on but I couldn’t. I needed some time
with this milieu of female thoughts and imaginations
running through my head. On day two, I didn’t even want
to be around him. I wanted him to sleep in the doghouse,
except we don’t have a house. Nor a dog. And we
live in New York City. A homeless guy is the usual here.
This time was well spent and utilized for me to come
back to my full senses. After forty-eight hours of thinking
about it all, in between all the things I had to and
needed to do, after forty eight hours of being in my
feelings, owning them and dissecting them, along
with two sister girlfriend conversations, with better
sense and some clarity I spoke to him about it all.