scared-sexuality

EGYPTIAN TANTRIC YOGA
The danger in going from the principle of one (non-duality) to the principle of duality is the
danger of forgetting the original oneness and falling into the delusion that duality is the true state
of being. This is the predicament of human embodiment, which is experienced by the soul.
Despite the higher reality of oneness, people believe that all objects in creation are separate and
unrelated. This causes a state of delusion which gives rise to egoism and other negative qualities
of the mind (anger, hatred, greed). If there is awareness of truth, there cannot be negativity and
ignorance. This is the goal of tantric philosophy.
The Role of Sexuality in Human Relationships and Society
Modern society and mass culture promote sexuality as a means to experiencing pleasure and
feeling good about oneself. As an externality, sexuality cannot be depended on just as one cannot
depend on the weather. Therefore, on a very basic logical level, the dependence on sexuality as a
means to feel wanted, youthful or vital is in reality a profound farce into which the human mind
has fallen. As old age sets in those who have based their life on the premise above begin to feel
lost because they cannot keep up the activities of the past. This is the source of mid life crAset as
well as adultery and many other problems in relationships.
Relationships which are based on sex, demands, and expectations are doomed to experience
strife because none of these are stable factors even in ordinary relationships which do not include
sexual intercourse. The source of the problem lies in the ignorance of the higher purpose and
destiny of the human soul. Sexual energy is the driving force of life and its purpose is to assist
the soul in carrying out the goals of a lifetime, specifically to gain knowledge and wisdom of the
Self which leads to enlightenment. This is accomplished through promoting a process which
leads to development and integration of the intellectual and emotional elements of one’s psyche
through the relationships, occupation and life ambitions. If the relationships, occupation and life
ambitions have as the main goal to provide pleasure, then they are doomed to failure. A person
with this goal will experience constant need to pursue activities in the hope of achieving
pleasure, like a drug addict must continually get drops to experiencing a high only to find that the
high is diminishing and the body is gradually being destroyed. However, if the relationships,
occupation and life ambitions are based on the understanding that they are tools which the soul
has been given to promote spiritual advancement then they can be as a ladder to heaven.
So relationships based on spiritual principles should not be demanding or promoting
expectations from others. Many people develop the idea that if a partner does not want to engage
in sex that this means the partner is losing love or having an adulterous affair. There is no trust in
the relationship because “love” has been equated with sex. Therefore, the absence of sex means
an absence of love. Often times the feeling of being wanted and appreciated has been equated
with sex and so people seek sexual relations as a means to feel wanted and appreciated. Many
people set conditions for their love and impose demands on others: “If you do this I will do that
for you”, “If you don’t do this then that means that you don’t love me”. These statements are
based on ignorance, immaturity and dependence and will inevitably lead to strife, disappointment
and unrest in a relationship.
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