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Mystical Philosophy of Universal Consciousness<br />
and the entanglements reproduce like wildfire on a dry summer day in a forest full of petrified<br />
trees. Yet people strive every day to win a lottery or to beautify their bodies so as to gain<br />
popularity, fortune, etc. only to be frustrated regardless of their efforts in life and only to give up<br />
whatever they will acquire throughout their life at the time of their death.<br />
In a lesser degree these egoistic desires and feelings manifest in relations which are<br />
considered as “normal.” Ordinary married people engage in competitions to see who can get<br />
more out of a relationship. Others may feel the need to be selfless but will still expect something<br />
in return. There will be statements like “I did this and this and this and you have done nothing”<br />
and so on. Under these conditions the marital roles become associated with how a person can<br />
render service to the other, to the relationship or the family and the persons needs and aspirations<br />
are many times overlooked, creating resentment and frustration. I woman may feel that her mate<br />
is useful to the extent that he makes money or can fix things or provide for her while the male<br />
may feel she is worthwhile to the extent that she looks good or can cook or can satisfy him in bed<br />
and so on. She might hold sex as an incentive for getting him to do what she desires and if he<br />
does not submit to her she will curse him with her weapons of angry words and hurtful,<br />
humiliating remarks. He may bring flowers, candy and expect to have sex only to find that she is<br />
not in the mood or that she is punishing him for something he did that she did not appreciate.<br />
Unable to handle his ego with its emotions and desires there is frustration and anger which will<br />
eventually turn into hatred. She will eventually lose respect for him and develop disgust with the<br />
relationship. He may also curse her and if the negativity escalates there will be violence. The<br />
civil courts are full of these cases but it is amazing how many more situations like this exist in<br />
the general society which do not even get to court. The frustration and misunderstanding<br />
engenders a desire to look elsewhere for satisfaction “since you only live once” so therefore,<br />
there will be adultery and infidelity. If they stay together as time goes on when the sexual<br />
attraction wears off due to old age there will be disgust and regret over time wasted.<br />
Of course these are pathetic developments in a relationship especially when you consider that<br />
the Soul is degrading itself to the extent of associating with a limited form, the body and its<br />
ignorance, desires and frustrations. Further, the ignorant soul is submitting to the whims and<br />
desires of not only another personality but of nature itself. Creation is only a reflection of the<br />
absolute and transcendental Self. Therefore, from an egoistic point of view it is imperfect and<br />
changeable as well as transient and perishable. Unenlightened personalities are also whimsical,<br />
transient and willful. Is it logical to base your life on something that is whimsical, transient and<br />
willful? What would you advise someone who is digging for gold in a coal mine to do? Would<br />
you advise them to continue searching in the coal mine, to “follow their dream” because they<br />
will find what they are looking for if they “work hard”?<br />
Popular culture has much to blame for the disastrous nature of relationships. In the Western<br />
countries marriages end in divorce in over 65% of all cases. The divorce rate for second<br />
marriages is even higher. If adultery and infidelity were considered in this number it would be<br />
clear that marital relationships are in extreme crAset. However, the culture extols the glory of<br />
marriage and is unable to face the truth about relationships. This failure leads to untold miseries<br />
and sufferings as children are born into broken homes or homes wherein negative values are<br />
promoted. These environments will pollute their minds and render them incapable of carrying on<br />
positive relationships. Also this failure leads to the degradation of society as the inability to deal<br />
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