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unmasked &
Unashamed
It was not a matter of being strong,
brave or for fame, but it was a
matter of necessity. I had to get
out the pain on paper that was
pent up, bottled up and stifled me
for years.
People have shared “Maybe one
day I’ll be able to tell my story.”
Well this workbook is designed
that you will be at a place where if
you can’t share your entire story,
that you will be able to identify/
acknowledge/confront as least one
element of their painful journey or
maybe you can make a list of
painful events in your life and deal
deeply with only one.
Truth is when I thought I was
sharing a lot of painful events in
my life, I really wasn’t sharing at
all. I was talking…talking in circles,
in riddles, dealing only with
surface stuff. I wasn’t telling my
story. I glossed over emotions I
felt, I glossed over re-visiting the
reaching back in my mind and
becoming that victim that I was in
the past. I found out I wasn’t being
brave, I wasn’t being transparent, I
really wasn’t telling my story. I
wasn’t unmasking.
I had even delivered my
manuscript to a writing coach, who
tore my attempt to telling my story
to pieces. He was blunt and brutal
at the onset. His words, “Mechelle,
you do have a story to tell, but it is
not in what you have sent me. I
don’t know who told you this was
good, but I don’t see what they
see.” What? The nerve of him!
Was he discounting my pain? Was
he minimizing my hurt? I had been
so fragile for years and didn’t he
know that? Didn’t he know that
was killing me, to be told that what
I had already poured my heart and
soul in for four years he just said
“was not it.”
Well what was it? I was
determined to find out what he saw
that I didn’t see. So, I asked him to
coach me. It took another two
years of being coached to tell what
really happened for Unmasking to
be completed.