ExodusMagSep2017

RELATIONSHIPS
They both know what God requires from
each and together, that way they are able
to serve God together. It is important to understand
what you are called for as an individual
first and the calling of your partner, in
order to understand your calling as a union.
Your life is not your own, it belongs to God
and He has plans to prosper you. He will
prosper you accordingly not according to
your imagination.
Watching a movie the other day, a husband
and a wife were actually talking and laughing
about how they both never intended to
have a relationship. When they met they
were both just two lonely hearts going
through life. They needed company and
amazingly they both had what each
needed from a friendship. That one thing
they both needed gave their friendship a
chance and they enjoyed each other’s
company. In his head he had a design of
the kind of woman he wanted to be with
and marry and she was the total opposite.
She had a design of the kind of man she
wanted to be with and marry and he was
the total opposite, so they thought. Nothing
is impossible with God! However, individually
God called them for different things. He is a
beacon of light, he provides beam into people’s
lives and God is using him to bring His
flock back home. She is a helper, not just his
but for whoever requires it in any form she is
able to help. When they met they did exactly
what they are called for, for each
other. It was as though God wanted them to
understand what they each ought to do for
others by allowing them to do for each
other. For a long time, they never understood
that. They struggled with each other
because of the designs they both had in
their heads, designs of the kinds of partners
they both individually wanted. It didn’t matter
how hard the other one tried, the influence
of the designs in their heads stood.
That is why Apostle Paul provides a simple
understanding of how we are to work together
as man and wife, by giving us the simple
responsibilities we have towards each
other. “Husbands love your wives as you love
yourselves, wives submit to your husbands”.
Submission means love and obedience. The
task we have as a union requires only those
responsibilities managed well for it to work
harmoniously. He knew that we can never
be fully good enough for each other, but
good enough to work as a union. Hence he
says in 1 Corinthians 7:28 NET, “…But those
who marry will face difficult circumstances”.
Believe me there will always be a struggle
when you think a relationship is made for you
to get what you want from it. The union belongs
to God. He formed it for a reason, His
reason. It is for him to get what He wants
from it. The important thing to do for yourself
and your peace of mind is to find out what
He has called you both for as that union.
Once you have that understanding you will
swiftly adjust to his instructions and move in
the direction of his plans for your lives. When
you fight each other you are fighting the
calling He has for you, and you are fighting
the plans He has for you but mostly, you are
delaying your deliverance.
Most of the marriages in the bible were
formed out of responsibility. Even those that
were formed because of some spark that
triggered an attraction were formed out of
responsibility. Abram and Sarai bore a seed
for the nation that God intended to raise.
Jacob and Rachel bore a child that was to
fulfil the word spoken over that nation.
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