ExodusMagSep2017

E-WOMAN
Single mother, why are you a single mother?
Dear Single Mother!
Do not be too hard on yourself …
You wake up in the morning, prepare or ensure
that your kid(s) are ready for school. Prepare
lunch packs. You have yourself then to
prep up. Then you must rush to get them to
school and also make sure you make it to
work on time. Your work is not going to grant
you any mercy because you will be busy all
day. After work you have to rush home and
pick up the kid(s) from school, help them
with their homework while you are preparing
dinner. Dinner is served! Its kitchen clean-up
and bath time for a night wrap. Whew! Now
you can relax and maybe catch one episode
of your favourite series. What about
that assignment you need to submit by the
end of the week?
I came across a Facebook status once, of
someone saying ‘I do not even feel sorry for
these women for they have brought all this to
themselves. They are called names because
of what they allowed to happen to them’.
I’m still trying to figure out what to make of
this statement because I am yet to come
across statistics that show the average number
of single mothers and the reasons why
they are single mothers. For someone to
judge one person for something that involved
two people doesn’t make sense to
me. If this involvement resulted in an
‘income’, both people would be in it fully,
but because it is a lifelong ‘liability’, men
have a privilege of running away when they
are no longer interested in the relationship.
Genesis 16:1-4 NIV “Now Sarai,
Abram’s wife had not given birth to any
children, but she had an Egyptian servant
named Hagar. So Sarai said to
Abram, ‘since the Lord has prevented
me from having children, have sexual
relations with my servant. Perhaps I
can have a family by her.’ Abram did
what Sarai told him.”
Hagar was a servant, an obedient servant to
Sarai. She slept with her husband and got
pregnant under the instruction from her
madam, so she could give Sarai a family.
What she did not know before agreeing was
how things would pan out in the future.
Somehow after being a loyal and obedient
servant, she found herself and her son
chased out of the household that was meant
to be a home for them.
A young girl in love and convinced by her
boyfriend to have unprotected sexual relations
has an imagination that things will always
be the way they are at the time of that
unprotected intimacy. She has an imagination
that they will be together forever and
raise the child together. But that’s just what
that is at most times, an imagination.
They believe that
when you get pregnant
you are firming
a relationship.
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