Healthy RGV Issue 107 - October Has Us Thinking Pink

HEALTHY LIFESTYLE · OCTOBER 2017
And in truth – you are VERY different.
You have something different to say and
different to express than everyone else ever
born. When you are not allowing yourself
a balance of consciousness, you might not
allow that self to come forth – because it’s
much easier to subscribe to what everyone
else deems “good.” Plus, it’s scary to be
different. There are no measures and
therefore you are vulnerable to the world.
And what I want to empower you to do with
this information – is begin to step out of the
unconsciousness and deliberately seek presence.
If that term is confusing, seek boredom. Quiet.
Make it a daily part of your routine to spend a
large chunk of time without plugging into anything
– including your system of thoughts. Welcome
discomfort that might come with feeling your
feelings. All of them. That is what you want. Why?
Because you will quickly learn that it is not as scary
or hard to look at as you think it is. If something is
coming up – it likely should. It holds within it a key
piece of information for you to know. Something
for you to confront.
Not only that - when you create space inside
yourself and stop controlling every detail of
your life, you open yourself up to the random
and powerful light-bulbs that gift you insight far
beyond your realm. You become like a divining
rod for realizations that would otherwise never
cross your path. You are open and therefore you
receive.
PART 3: WHICH BRINGS ME
TO THE HOW.
The how is whatever you want it to be – if you’re
a beach person, go into the water and focus on
the nature around you. If you like the mountains
like me, go hiking and heavily invest in the sky and
the birds. Listen and look – don’t analyze. Your
goal is to be quiet. And listen to your own beating
heart. Your tool will be custom to you but I want
to close with a meditation. Meditation is a good
way to begin training your brain into this style of
being. Of non-thinking. It strengthens the muscle
so to speak.
I know when it comes to past trauma the feelings
are much more intolerable and intense. Mentally
occupying yourself becomes somewhat of an
addiction: because it’s the one place you’re not
vulnerable. And that is a different situation – but
you can and will move through the emotions – you
must medicate each one of them with something
that supports you emotionally. And use it with all
of your might. For example yoga, therapy, a help
group, breathing exercises. Be agro and consistent
about it.
And for everyone – trauma or no trauma – create
a daily habit of empty space starting today. And
DECIDE that you are going to deliberately train
yourself to move away from the hyper-focusing.
SO THAT you can better grow your best self. And
get to know that self.
The goal is to know thyself truly, which only
comes out when you are given the empty space
within: when you separate from other things, and
allow what’s buried deep inside to come forth.
You pass it as gracefully as you can by healthily
soothing yourself.
Once you have that balance and that intimate
awareness of yourself, your truth is clear. You are
now honest about your dreams and can activate
the best self you’re meant to become.
Once you keep walking through the fire with all
your mite – knowing your vulnerability, soothing it
as much as you can, but persevering toward your
highest values, what happens is you come out the
other end: bigger and brighter and stronger. You
remember what it was like before all the thinking
and worrying and thoughts about things that
haven’t happened – before “you” got complicated.
It is our thoughts that take away our ability to use
our own power – that is what this is all about.
From a complete state of consciousness, your
highest self makes the decisions. You do the
work that needs to be done. It’s the key to being
healthy, being in shape, being in love – of being on
the path you want to be on. You let go of the crap
that doesn’t matter because for the first time you
can see how meaningless it really is compared to
life. And peace.
And I’ll reiterate, with all personal growth: To look
at the problems in the first place and say, “I want
to change this.” That’s the hardest part. To be
scared, acknowledge, I’m afraid to change, that
is the hardest part. Just that part. Looking and
acknowledging! Once you do that and you commit
to doing the work involved anyway and you begin,
the rest is all downhill.
And THAT is the secret that I am desperately
trying to share with you via all my podcasts. I am
removing the “what if” and the fear that might
keep you looking the other way. Stop running and
avoiding and decide to look. To move forward
with every important change you need to make in
your life.
Don’t feel bad that you have avoided anything thus
far – there’s no wonder you run! Loss, change,
hard work, the unknown – all scary things! There
are parts of life that can really hurt and remind us
we feel scared and alone, and not worthy – so to
be totally aware and conscious can be challenging.
It’s like deciding to burn
yourself because it’s the only way out of a burning
building. Pain? No thanks. I will keep watching
television.
If you’re in a place in life that you didn’t
want to arrive at – it’s likely because of living
unconsciously. That’s how we go down a lot of the
wrong roads, accidentally. We shy from pain, we
numb, we look away – because sometimes it’s just
scary.
The good news is that once you make a habit of
moving through the stuff that scares you and
being diligent about staying in contact with your
personal truth – it gets easier and not as scary
because you realize the pain stops, you grow
stronger – and it’s never as hard as it was before
you went through something new. A challenge
helps you grow each and every time.
But that’s what we need to do: stay conscious, in
our bodies- looking ahead. It’s how we know what
we need to do - to honor ourselves, even when it
requires something painful. Because though you
should always stay in your body, there are a variety
of ways to soothe that body – so that you don’t
suffer.
When all of you is aligned behind your best
interests, great shit happens. And your armada
grows bigger each time you utilize a tool and
witness that it works. CHANGE. GROWTH.
STRENGTHENING. MOMENTUM. You
empower yourself to care for yourself. You
get better at changing! I speak from personal
experience: I have established a habit of aligning
my actions with my highest values, therefore I
trust that I will be there for myself, despite the
painful realizations I will have to move through.
And based on my path, my dream is to help you
feel confident in yourself and your self-caring
abilities – to feel so armed, that you will be brave
enough to look at things. To accept things. To feel
things. Even if they hurt. Because you will prove to
yourself – “Hey me, I love you – and I won’t let you
down. Let’s do this.”
By Sarah May Bates
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