07042018 - Investigate your ministers

In the 80s the story was told in Warri,
Delta State, of a girl who got pregnant
in spite of the father’s strictness and
deployment of monitoring spirits around
her 24/7. The girl refused to disclose the
person who was responsible for her
pregnancy. When the tension and drama
had reached feverish pitch, a family
meeting was called where she dropped
the bombshell: her father was responsible
for the pregnancy. Many of the family
members believed her, but she was only
paying her father back for his
“wickedness” (over protectiveness). It took
a lot of begging and “bribing” before the
truth came out.
Why this short story? About two weeks
ago, news broke out of another over
protective father, a retiree, who was
sentenced to death for killing a 22-yearold
man in 2015 on SUSPICION of a
romantic liaison with his daughter.
Uncontrolled anger and lack of selfrestraint
put this man in this mess. It was
a straightforward matter. If the daughter
was a minor, he should have warned the
young man to stay away and, if he
persisted, contacted the law enforcement
agents (whatever their shortcomings are)
or the parents to tell their son to back off.
But if the daughter was 18 years and
above, she was legally an adult. If the
relationship was consensual, he had no
business with the young man. He should
have focused on his daughter and let her
know why he disapproved of the
relationship. As far as I am concerned,
even if he caught them having sex in his
house, as long as it was consensual, his
business was still primarily his daughter.
After all, na the house rat invite the
outsider. The youngster was his
daughter’s guest and, at worse, he could
only order him out of his house. If he
had a great father-daughter bond or
strong influence on his daughter, he
should have applied it and might just
have succeeded in winning her back. But
fathers should always remember, because
they can relate to it, that a young girl—
even older women—in love (lust) is like
a man with an erection; her brain goes on
recess until her head is clear.
All of us, who have daughters,
should learn from this. We
instinctively want to protect our
daughters, which is perfectly normal.
How we go about the protection is the
issue at stake. I believe protecting our
daughters starts with molding and
giving them a solid foundation in the
early years of their lives. These days,
paedophiles sexually abuse children
as young as two days, so sex education
should start early. Schools start sex
Sex education should start
early. Schools start sex
education quite early, why
not we the parents
education quite early, why not we the
parents. Our daughters might not
fully grasp everything initially, but
they would grow into anything they
do not understand subsequently.
Also, let us train our daughters to
have an acute sense of right and
wrong.
We should also remind our
daughters that the odds are against
them as they get into puberty. There
is something that is often not talked
about because people do not want to
encourage promiscuity, but the fact is
this: if an infected man (HIV virus or
Self-restraint
other sexually transmitted diseases)
engages in unprotected sex with a
female, the chances of infecting the
female are much higher than if the
reverse is the case. This is because
women are receptacles. No matter
how much they clean or drain after
sex, some of the seminal fluid stays
in their bodies. This increases the
chances of infection. In the case of
a man, provided there is no skin
break on his penis (some skin
breaks, especially those caused by
tight pants might not be visible to
the eyes), a good bath, especially
with antiseptic soap, immediately
after intercourse, greatly reduces
the possibility of infection. That was
how many men avoided being
infected with gonorrhea in those
days. This also applies to some
other sexually transmitted diseases.
We should also remind our
daughters that while a male and
female engage in and enjoy the
sexual intercourse, only the girl gets
pregnant, bears the excruciating
pains of child birth, drops out of
school, has her plans disrupted and
ends up with a stigma. We should
also help our daughters (all our
children) early in life to find their
purpose, unearth their talents and
potentials. When they discover
what they are good at, they become
focused; their passion consumes
them and takes much of their time.
A busy mind has less time for the
distractions that come with natural
sexual feelings and urges. We
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APRIL 7, 2018—19
should also make them to be selfassured
and give them good value
orientation. This will help to counter
the bad peer influence that will
inevitably come, because at certain
points, their peers will laugh at them,
tell them they are “missing
something,” they are “fake girls,” etc.,
just because they are still virgins or
because they are focused.
Some “helpless” parents now
encourage their daughters to either
use the less popular female condoms
or encourage their male partners to
use condoms. This arrangement, like
the condom itself, is imperfect. One,
many young people are impatient;
they just want to go ahead with sex,
no time to wear condoms. Two, some
young men, due to anxiety, will
ejaculate and “ruin” their day even
before they manage to put on the
condom and so do not use condoms.
Three, due to inexperience, the
condom might burst or slip off and
when it does, they just fling it aside
and continue with their thing, skin to
skin. Four, makers of condoms
acknowledge that abstinence remains
the best form of protection to avoid
infections. We encourage our children
to come tops in class, go for the best
in life; why should we now encourage
them to go for bronze (condoms),
when gold (abstinence) is available,
just because it is difficult? How many
good things in life come easy?
Use all legal means to help your
daughter navigate the landmine that
is the lot of young girls, but do not let
your anger lead you to ruin. Many of
us love our daughters to bits, and
without self-restraint, we can easily
kill for them. Now, unless an appellate
court overturns the judgment, or he
gets the sentence commuted, our
subject matter is going to die a
painful, shameful and miserable
death by hanging. We should
remember that, annoying as that
young man “toasting” your daughter
might be, he is somebody’s son.
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Healthy postures to keep you going (2)
Fingers to- Toes
Technique:
Sit down flat
on the
ground; stretch
your hands gently
to grip the toes,and
pull back your right
leg to touch your
stretched left thigh.
Remain still for a
period of 15 to 20
seconds and repeat
thereafter for two or
three times.
Benefits:
This exercise
stretches your back
muscles and
enables you move
freely at all times.
•Half-plough variation
Fingers to-Toes
Half-Plough
Technique:
Place a chair at the
head of your practice mat.
Place your head halfway
underneath the chair.
Now, swing both legs and place
them atop the back-rest of
the chair.
Half-plough variation is simply
the excercise without a chair
Duration:
Stay in the Plough Pose for
Half-Plough
about 10 seconds. To
return to the original position,
first bend the knees and
gently roll down flat back
onto the floor.
Benefits:
The Half-Plough Pose makes
the spine elastic. The abdominal
organs are massaged.
The gastric fire is
improved and constipation
dealt with.