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VL - Issue 18 - November 2015

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Is a<br />

VIRTUE by<br />

Patience<br />

<br />

Kristi Dews Dale<br />

On Saturday mornings, I like to listen to the birds<br />

sing and watch the sun peek around the edges of the<br />

curtains. And even though the sun has barely revealed<br />

itself, my husband and I start to hear the patter of tiny<br />

feet, softly moving toward our bedroom. One by one,<br />

they climb into our bed and find a suitable snuggling<br />

spot. Their warm heads smell sweet, like a mixture of<br />

grass, lavender, and baby soap. They wrap their tiny<br />

limbs around us and nudge their heads to get as close<br />

as possible to momma and daddy.<br />

Little girl giggles fill our space as we share the<br />

funny things we dreamt of the night before and they<br />

begin planning how to fill up the day with games of<br />

Monopoly, spa treatments for their dolls, and baking<br />

cookies.<br />

I soak in this special time because I know it will<br />

not last forever. And by forever, I mean, less than ten<br />

minutes. Inevitably, someone gets kicked and that<br />

special moment in time unravels into something more<br />

resembling a pro wrestling match.<br />

The day begins, and I quickly realize it will not go as<br />

planned. The bathroom is flooded as my children treat<br />

their dolls to a spa day. My two oldest argue about<br />

who won Monopoly and toss thousands of Monopoly<br />

dollars on the floor. Halfway through baking cookies,<br />

everyone loses interest, leaving me with a messy<br />

kitchen and slightly burned cookies.<br />

It is at this moment that I conclude that my cup of<br />

patience has developed a leak.<br />

Thankfully God has provided a way to repair that<br />

leak, and I know I have a decision to make—to turn<br />

to God or to let selfishness take over. My sin nature<br />

wants to be mad and stomp around the house leaving<br />

burnt cookies in my wake, but I can’t show Christ<br />

to my children while stuffing their Monopoly money<br />

in the garbage disposal. It is easy to be patient and<br />

loving when everything is going just the way I want,<br />

but God challenges Christians to a narrow road of<br />

love and patience.<br />

Colossians 3:12–14 says, “Since God chose you<br />

to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe<br />

yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness,<br />

humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance<br />

for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who<br />

offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you<br />

must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with<br />

love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.”<br />

This passage speaks to my heart, but I struggle<br />

to put it into practice. Daily life is filled with unmet<br />

expectations, frustrating situations, and a sinful desire<br />

to lose my patience with the world. So each day, I<br />

make a commitment to combat new frustrations that<br />

creep under my skin. Here’s my three-step plan of<br />

attack.<br />

Step 1: Be humble. Mark 10:45 says that<br />

“Even the Son of Man came not to be served but to<br />

serve others.” Jesus paved a pathway and showed a<br />

servant’s heart. I am called to mirror that attitude.<br />

Step 2: Make Allowances for Others.<br />

Children are supposed to be messy and argue<br />

on occasion. Ephesians 4:32 says for us to be<br />

“tenderhearted and forgiving” to one another. With<br />

my kids and people in general, I need to take a deep<br />

breath and give them grace.<br />

Step 3: Clothe Myself Properly. Romans<br />

13:14 instructs me to, “clothe yourself with the<br />

presence of the Lord Jesus Christ.” I need to be in<br />

God’s Word daily, seeking His wisdom and guidance.<br />

Sometimes, in an outward action of enveloping myself<br />

in His Word, I take scripture and put it in my pocket<br />

THE WORD OF GOD IS<br />

ALIVE AND POWERFUL.<br />

IT IS SHARPER THAN THE<br />

SHARPEST TWO-EDGED<br />

SWORD, CUTTING BETWEEN<br />

SOUL AND SPIRIT, BETWEEN<br />

JOINT AND MARROW. IT<br />

EXPOSES OUR INNERMOST<br />

THOUGHTS AND DESIRES.<br />

HEBREWS 4:12<br />

as a reminder of God’s love and expectations for me.<br />

No one is perfect, and despite my plan of attack,<br />

I still fail. Thankfully, God’s grace is sufficient, despite<br />

our failures. He is glorified when we continually seek<br />

Him and look to His Word for solutions to our everyday<br />

problems.<br />

I encourage each of you to develop your own<br />

personal plan of attack to combat selfish attitudes.<br />

Use the Bible as your first line of defense. V<br />

UNDER THE HAT | from page 22<br />

Shame and guilt had caused me to hide under<br />

those hats. They were just a way to conceal the inner<br />

disappointment I felt for not being “good enough.”<br />

I had made mistakes, had often failed to do as Christ<br />

would have done. Like Adam and Eve, I’d decided to<br />

hide rather than expose myself to Him.<br />

Why would God want someone like me on<br />

display for the world to see? Wasn’t I doing God a<br />

service by hiding?<br />

But then I felt the Lord inviting me to take off my<br />

hats, to lay them aside. To quit hiding and to reveal<br />

my true self to Him and to the world. How else could<br />

I ever feel the sun shining down on my head? How<br />

else could His rain wash away what was hidden<br />

underneath and make me totally whole? How else<br />

could I ever truly touch the world around me?<br />

That homeless man in the Chicago subway<br />

didn’t need a hat. He didn’t need my jokes, either.<br />

What he did need was real, authentic love from the<br />

person beside him. Love that I can only give when<br />

I’ve surrendered my whole self––fears, weaknesses,<br />

doubts, and all––to the One who is Love, once and<br />

for all. V<br />

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