VL - Issue 18 - November 2015
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Is a<br />
VIRTUE by<br />
Patience<br />
<br />
Kristi Dews Dale<br />
On Saturday mornings, I like to listen to the birds<br />
sing and watch the sun peek around the edges of the<br />
curtains. And even though the sun has barely revealed<br />
itself, my husband and I start to hear the patter of tiny<br />
feet, softly moving toward our bedroom. One by one,<br />
they climb into our bed and find a suitable snuggling<br />
spot. Their warm heads smell sweet, like a mixture of<br />
grass, lavender, and baby soap. They wrap their tiny<br />
limbs around us and nudge their heads to get as close<br />
as possible to momma and daddy.<br />
Little girl giggles fill our space as we share the<br />
funny things we dreamt of the night before and they<br />
begin planning how to fill up the day with games of<br />
Monopoly, spa treatments for their dolls, and baking<br />
cookies.<br />
I soak in this special time because I know it will<br />
not last forever. And by forever, I mean, less than ten<br />
minutes. Inevitably, someone gets kicked and that<br />
special moment in time unravels into something more<br />
resembling a pro wrestling match.<br />
The day begins, and I quickly realize it will not go as<br />
planned. The bathroom is flooded as my children treat<br />
their dolls to a spa day. My two oldest argue about<br />
who won Monopoly and toss thousands of Monopoly<br />
dollars on the floor. Halfway through baking cookies,<br />
everyone loses interest, leaving me with a messy<br />
kitchen and slightly burned cookies.<br />
It is at this moment that I conclude that my cup of<br />
patience has developed a leak.<br />
Thankfully God has provided a way to repair that<br />
leak, and I know I have a decision to make—to turn<br />
to God or to let selfishness take over. My sin nature<br />
wants to be mad and stomp around the house leaving<br />
burnt cookies in my wake, but I can’t show Christ<br />
to my children while stuffing their Monopoly money<br />
in the garbage disposal. It is easy to be patient and<br />
loving when everything is going just the way I want,<br />
but God challenges Christians to a narrow road of<br />
love and patience.<br />
Colossians 3:12–14 says, “Since God chose you<br />
to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe<br />
yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness,<br />
humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance<br />
for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who<br />
offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you<br />
must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with<br />
love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.”<br />
This passage speaks to my heart, but I struggle<br />
to put it into practice. Daily life is filled with unmet<br />
expectations, frustrating situations, and a sinful desire<br />
to lose my patience with the world. So each day, I<br />
make a commitment to combat new frustrations that<br />
creep under my skin. Here’s my three-step plan of<br />
attack.<br />
Step 1: Be humble. Mark 10:45 says that<br />
“Even the Son of Man came not to be served but to<br />
serve others.” Jesus paved a pathway and showed a<br />
servant’s heart. I am called to mirror that attitude.<br />
Step 2: Make Allowances for Others.<br />
Children are supposed to be messy and argue<br />
on occasion. Ephesians 4:32 says for us to be<br />
“tenderhearted and forgiving” to one another. With<br />
my kids and people in general, I need to take a deep<br />
breath and give them grace.<br />
Step 3: Clothe Myself Properly. Romans<br />
13:14 instructs me to, “clothe yourself with the<br />
presence of the Lord Jesus Christ.” I need to be in<br />
God’s Word daily, seeking His wisdom and guidance.<br />
Sometimes, in an outward action of enveloping myself<br />
in His Word, I take scripture and put it in my pocket<br />
THE WORD OF GOD IS<br />
ALIVE AND POWERFUL.<br />
IT IS SHARPER THAN THE<br />
SHARPEST TWO-EDGED<br />
SWORD, CUTTING BETWEEN<br />
SOUL AND SPIRIT, BETWEEN<br />
JOINT AND MARROW. IT<br />
EXPOSES OUR INNERMOST<br />
THOUGHTS AND DESIRES.<br />
HEBREWS 4:12<br />
as a reminder of God’s love and expectations for me.<br />
No one is perfect, and despite my plan of attack,<br />
I still fail. Thankfully, God’s grace is sufficient, despite<br />
our failures. He is glorified when we continually seek<br />
Him and look to His Word for solutions to our everyday<br />
problems.<br />
I encourage each of you to develop your own<br />
personal plan of attack to combat selfish attitudes.<br />
Use the Bible as your first line of defense. V<br />
UNDER THE HAT | from page 22<br />
Shame and guilt had caused me to hide under<br />
those hats. They were just a way to conceal the inner<br />
disappointment I felt for not being “good enough.”<br />
I had made mistakes, had often failed to do as Christ<br />
would have done. Like Adam and Eve, I’d decided to<br />
hide rather than expose myself to Him.<br />
Why would God want someone like me on<br />
display for the world to see? Wasn’t I doing God a<br />
service by hiding?<br />
But then I felt the Lord inviting me to take off my<br />
hats, to lay them aside. To quit hiding and to reveal<br />
my true self to Him and to the world. How else could<br />
I ever feel the sun shining down on my head? How<br />
else could His rain wash away what was hidden<br />
underneath and make me totally whole? How else<br />
could I ever truly touch the world around me?<br />
That homeless man in the Chicago subway<br />
didn’t need a hat. He didn’t need my jokes, either.<br />
What he did need was real, authentic love from the<br />
person beside him. Love that I can only give when<br />
I’ve surrendered my whole self––fears, weaknesses,<br />
doubts, and all––to the One who is Love, once and<br />
for all. V<br />
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