Taunton and South Somerset Living Apr - May 2020
With Easter on the horizon, we celebrate the arrival of spring! With an interview with chef James Martin, a host of seasonal recipes, travel inspiration, what's on and home renovation inspiration, this issue is a glorious read - perfect with a cuppa and a hot cross bun!
With Easter on the horizon, we celebrate the arrival of spring! With an interview with chef James Martin, a host of seasonal recipes, travel inspiration, what's on and home renovation inspiration, this issue is a glorious read - perfect with a cuppa and a hot cross bun!
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Visiting a<br />
care home;<br />
ADVERTISING FEATURE<br />
the a-z<br />
of top<br />
tips<br />
Dementia expert Professor June Andrews<br />
gives us her insightful tips into visiting a<br />
loved one in residential or nursing care...<br />
When someone with dementia moves into<br />
a care home, it is often a great relief for<br />
the family. Many things are immediately<br />
better. You can get an undisturbed night’s<br />
sleep <strong>and</strong> it’s possible to go out <strong>and</strong> about<br />
without worrying how your loved one is, <strong>and</strong><br />
whether they are safe. But it is not always<br />
so simple. You might worry about whether<br />
the new resident is being looked after<br />
properly, or whether they are fretting <strong>and</strong><br />
missing you.<br />
Visiting now becomes an important issue.<br />
How often should you go <strong>and</strong> for how long,<br />
<strong>and</strong> what on earth do you do when you are<br />
there? Because people ask me this, I made<br />
an A-Z of visiting ideas an important part<br />
of my new book on care home. Especially<br />
as you know the person you are visiting, I<br />
expect you will be able to think of variations<br />
on this theme.<br />
AAvoid contradicting someone with<br />
dementia, even for clarification.<br />
Bring the newspaper or photos to look at.<br />
Calmly sit <strong>and</strong> wait. Just being there is<br />
good in itself.<br />
Don’t be louder than needed.<br />
Even if you are in a hurry, don’t appear to<br />
rush.<br />
Find conversation-starters apart from ‘Do<br />
you remember when … ?’ Direct questions<br />
are like a memory test, <strong>and</strong> uncomfortable.<br />
Give a hug (with permission) or find<br />
appropriate contact like a h<strong>and</strong> massage.<br />
Have food to share, or go for a<br />
cuppa.<br />
Introduce yourself again every time, even if<br />
you are sure they know you.<br />
Just wait after speaking. To give extra time<br />
for a response, count to ten.<br />
Keep an eye out for tiredness, <strong>and</strong> offer<br />
sips of water.<br />
Limit the numbers visiting at any one time.<br />
Make an attempt to get outside, if only on a<br />
roof terrace or balcony.<br />
Never forget that the person can read your<br />
body language.<br />
Offer to bring your dog or other pet,<br />
especially if it is calm <strong>and</strong> affectionate.<br />
Pick their best time of day.<br />
Quick visits are acceptable - what matters<br />
is the quality.<br />
Read out loud.<br />
Sing together.<br />
Try to be in a quiet room.<br />
Underst<strong>and</strong>, if they are rude, that this is not<br />
personal.<br />
Visiting cards or notes let others know that<br />
you called <strong>and</strong> are good for reminding the<br />
resident that they are loved <strong>and</strong> respected.<br />
When it is time to go, find a distraction to<br />
cover your departure.<br />
XXX is for kissing - only do it if you used to<br />
do it before.<br />
Young visitors are always popular, <strong>and</strong><br />
babies are amazing.<br />
ZZZ is for when they sleep through your<br />
visit; you were there - that matters - so leave<br />
a card. Use the time to relax yourself or talk<br />
to someone else who is lonely.<br />
Z<br />
If just visiting the care home starts to be<br />
hard work for the family, neighbours <strong>and</strong><br />
friends can help. It might be hard to make<br />
sure someone is there every day, <strong>and</strong> you<br />
can work together to fill the gaps. Have fun!<br />
Professor June’s book, Care Homes: The<br />
One Stop Guide: When, Why <strong>and</strong> How to<br />
Choose a Care Home will be released in<br />
June.<br />
It is Dementia Action Week from 11-17 <strong>May</strong><br />
<strong>2020</strong>. Find out more at www.alzheimers.org.<br />
uk. You can also call the National Dementia<br />
Helpline for support on 0300 222 11 22.<br />
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