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Victoria and Vancouver Island's Parenting Resource for 33 Years • The Challenges of First-time Parenthood • Dealing with Differences • Being Born During a Pandemic

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APRIL/MAY <strong>2021</strong><br />

Vancouver <strong>Island</strong>’s <strong>Parent</strong>ing Resource for 33 Years<br />

The Challenges<br />

of First-time<br />

<strong>Parent</strong>hood<br />

Dealing with<br />

Differences<br />

Being Born<br />

During a<br />


An experience that lasts a lifetime!<br />

Summer at<br />

Camp Pringle<br />

We are open open for summer camps<br />

& family cabin rentals!<br />

Visit our website for full details on registration and<br />

COVID-19 safety protocols at our facility.<br />

Summer Camps for Children, Youth, Families & Leadership<br />

Out of School Care • Community & Corporate Retreats<br />

Want to join our team? Visit our website for info on available staff and volunteer positions.<br />

Register or Call Today!<br />

CampPringle.com • 250-743-2189 • info@camppringle.com<br />

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F A M I L Y F U N P E R F O R M E R S<br />



with The Kerplunks<br />

Saturday, <strong>May</strong> 15, <strong>2021</strong> @ 2:30 pm<br />

Virtual Livestream Performance<br />

$11.50 per household<br />

Rick Scott Family Concert<br />

Sunday, <strong>April</strong> 18, <strong>2021</strong> @ 2:30 pm<br />

Virtual Livestream Performance<br />

$11.50 per household<br />

BUY TICKETS ONLINE www.porttheatre.com<br />

OR CALL 250-754-8550<br />

Upstream! with The Kerplunks is a high-energy,<br />

colourful livestream performance guaranteed to provide<br />

children and families with 45 minutes of musical joy.<br />

The Kerplunks’ success has garnered the group three<br />

Canadian Folk Music Awards and three consecutive<br />

JUNO Award nominations. www.thekerplunks.com<br />

If you can’t tune into the livestream event, the performance<br />

is available online for 48 hours immediately following the<br />

performance.<br />


www.porttheatre.com<br />

OR CALL 250-754-8550<br />

Music and laughter for all ages! Rick Scott and<br />

his dulcimer combine songs, storytelling and humour<br />

in warm-hearted concerts for the whole family.<br />

One of Canada’s most beloved children’s performers.<br />

www.rickscott.ca<br />

If you can’t tune into the livestream event, the<br />

performance is available online for 48 hours<br />

immediately following the performance.<br />

TheatreOne is generously supported by<br />

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<strong>April</strong>/MA Y <strong>2021</strong><br />

Vancouver <strong>Island</strong>’s <strong>Parent</strong>ing Resource for 33 Years<br />


Features<br />

In Every<br />

Issue<br />

5<br />

Fast Forward<br />

SUE FAST<br />

6<br />

Need to Know<br />

18<br />

Dadspeak<br />


24<br />

Family Calendar<br />

10<br />

Being Born During<br />

a Pandemic<br />

Will COVID-19 become<br />

this generation’s<br />

childhood trauma?<br />


12<br />

Baby Talk in<br />

Any Language<br />

26<br />

Motherhood<br />

A role not easily summed up on<br />

the inside of a Hallmark card.<br />


34<br />

Easter Eggsperiments<br />

Three “eggsperiments” that<br />

highlight the unique properties<br />

of the amazing egg.<br />

14<br />

The Challenges of<br />

First-time <strong>Parent</strong>hood<br />

Top concerns for new parents.<br />


16<br />

Tax Time<br />

Planning ahead is nearly<br />

always the solution and<br />

tax time is no different.<br />


21<br />

Eco Grief<br />

Acts of love to help kids<br />

mourn what is being lost.<br />


28<br />

What’s for Dinner<br />


30<br />

Kids’ Reads<br />


32<br />

Moms’ POV<br />


35<br />

Businesses You<br />

Need to Know<br />

36<br />

Preschool &<br />

Child Care Directory<br />

38<br />

Cut It Out!<br />


On the<br />

Cover<br />

Photo by<br />

Chris Higginbottom<br />

Photography<br />

chrishigginbottom.ca<br />

Being Born<br />

During a<br />

Pandemic<br />

The Challenges<br />

of First-time<br />

<strong>Parent</strong>hood<br />

Dealing with<br />

Differences<br />

Jim Schneider Publisher publisher@islandparent.ca<br />

Sue Fast Editor editor@islandparent.ca<br />

Kristine Wickheim Account Manager kristine@islandparent.ca<br />

RaeLeigh Buchanan Account Manager raeleigh@islandparent.ca<br />

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6½ Ways to Welcome Spring<br />

There’s something about spring that makes more than just the<br />

sun shine and the flowers bloom. Look around and you’re<br />

bound to see more smiles and more light in not only our longer<br />

days, but in each other’s moods and even as a lightness in our steps!<br />

So get outside and celebrate the start of spring!<br />

1. Geocache. Use GPS systems to seek out and hide treasures all around<br />

your neighbourhood. Use a series of coordinates, solve puzzles or decipher<br />

clues for specialty caches. geocaching.com<br />

2. Dog swap. Or if you don’t have one of your own, borrow a friend’s dog<br />

for the afternoon and find a trail you’ve always meant to explore.<br />

3. Create a new ritual. Sunday brunch in the backyard? Dance before dinner?<br />

Take an early morning cold-water swim (like the Oddballs at Willows Beach,<br />

facebook.com/groups/oddballsvictoria).<br />

4. Do a random good deed. Drop off a bouquet of spring flowers,<br />

anonymously, at a neighbour’s. Paint and hide rocks with encouraging notes.<br />

Or do the same with sidewalk chalk around your neighbourhood.<br />

5. Celebrate anything. Make a cake. Light some candles. Pick some flowers.<br />

Open the windows, get dressed up, play your favourite music and silly dance.<br />

5½. And remember: bike parades are always a good idea.<br />

6. Make plans. Sure time flies while you’re having fun and spring won’t<br />

last forever but summer is on its way. Start making a list of what you’d<br />

like to do. From staycations to local road trips, planning is half the fun.<br />

STAGES<br />

Summer Programs<br />

Running This July & August<br />

Preschool Dance Camps<br />

For 3-5 year olds in Ballet, Jazz,<br />

Musical Theatre & Tap<br />

Youth Dance Camps<br />

For dancers 6-12 years old in<br />

Jazz, Hip Hop & Acrobatics<br />

Dance Intensive<br />

For dancers 11 years old & up with<br />

Jazz, Ballet, Hip Hop & Acrobatics<br />

Through these times let’s be<br />

careful & kind out there<br />

Come Dance With Us<br />

Call (250) 384-3267, email: stagesdance@shaw.ca,<br />

or visit us at www.stagesdance.com<br />

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<strong>April</strong>/<strong>May</strong> <strong>2021</strong> 5


GVPL on the Go<br />

The Ideas to Go series encourages patrons to learn a new skill or discover a hobby.<br />

Episodes cover a variety of topics ranging from Scratch, the world’s most popular<br />

coding community for kids to the animals that live in the Salish Sea. The series<br />

has introduced many patrons to the resources that are available through the<br />

library’s digital branch, www.gvpl.ca, including the online video learning<br />

platform Niche Academy.<br />

The Take and Make program, which provides ‘to-go bags’ containing<br />

supplies and instructions for various DIY-inspired projects, saw two new<br />

‘bags’. One features a craft project that uses food and Eric Carle’s classic<br />

storybook The Very Hungry Caterpillar to help children understand the importance<br />

of good nutrition. A second ‘bag’ was developed in partnership with<br />

local origami enthusiast Stephen Tran and is designed to highlight the joyful art<br />

of paper folding. www.gvpl.ca<br />

Storytelling Club for<br />

Isolated Learners<br />

Story Theatre inspires young storytellers by creating touring<br />

theatre productions for children, educators, and families. So<br />

what’s a touring company to do when it’s unable to reach their<br />

live audience? Start a Club that reaches their audience through<br />

the mail! Working with an illustrator, actors and teaching<br />

artists, Story Theatre provides 4 activity kits to encourage<br />

children to learn the craft of storytelling. Kits include:<br />

games, crafts and placemaking challenges. For ages 6-10.<br />

By donation. Email club@storytheatre.ca.<br />

AGGV’s Virtual Workshops<br />

The Art Gallery of Greater Victoria’s workshops for school-aged learners have gone<br />

virtual this year, with two online (pre-recorded) workshops featuring local artists,<br />

Bradley Yuxwelupton Dick and Farheen HaQ. In Song & Storytelling, Bradley Yuxwelupton<br />

Dick shares The “Paddle Welcome Song”, welcoming everyone to Lekwungen<br />

lands, today known as the Songhees and Esquimalt Nations. Hear Lekwungen<br />

stories and a “territorial acknowledgement.” In Nurturing through Artmaking, Farheen<br />

HaQ shares how to take care of yourself and others through art making. Learners<br />

create a “Rangoli Mandala” as a class, small group, or on their own, and explore<br />

how art and being mindful are connected. Two online workshops cost $100. Each<br />

video is 45 min. Have access video workshops for 3 months.<br />

aggv.ca/half-day-workshops<br />

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The Kiddies Store<br />

Dedicated to providing Vancouver <strong>Island</strong> families<br />

with high-quality infant and toddler products<br />

at affordable prices for over 25 years<br />

Expecting<br />

Your First<br />

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Explore all the quirky cuteness from<br />

the creators of the softest toys you have<br />

ever hugged, cuddled and adored. There<br />

is always something original and quirky<br />

yet incredibly soft and sumptuous to<br />

find at a Jellycat jamboree! Irresistibly<br />

cuddly, sophisticatedly silly, hilariously<br />

humorous, a perfect gift for all ages!<br />

Now Offering Curb-Side Pickups Current Hours: Tues–Sat 10am–5pm<br />

3045–C Douglas St.<br />

Victoria, BC<br />

tjskids.com<br />

250-386-2229<br />

Douglas St.<br />

Finlayson St.<br />

Larch St.<br />

T.J.’s<br />

Entrance off<br />

Larch St.<br />

The UVic Healthy Relationships Lab is<br />

conducting a research study called the<br />

Expectant Couples Checkup Study. To get<br />

involved, fill out short online surveys to<br />

see if you qualify. You must be 19 years<br />

or older, expecting your first child, able<br />

to communicate in English, living with<br />

your partner, and a resident of Canada to<br />

participate. Then you answer questions<br />

about communication and conflict in your<br />

relationship. All participants who finish<br />

the survey will receive information about<br />

conflict during the transition to parenthood<br />

as well as a list of local community<br />

resources. All couples will complete<br />

online surveys two weeks after the initial<br />

online session, as well as four, eight, and<br />

twelve months after the baby is born.<br />

Participants will receive an honorarium<br />

for completion of all procedures.<br />

To take the eligibility survey, visit<br />

web.uvic.ca/~psyclime/index.<br />

php/634617/lang-en.<br />

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<strong>April</strong>/<strong>May</strong> <strong>2021</strong> 7

VIRL’s Sea & Cedar<br />

is Seeking Submissions<br />

The Vancouver <strong>Island</strong> Regional Library (VIRL) is currently seeking submissions<br />

of short fiction, creative non-fiction, poetry and artwork for the first issue of the new<br />

serial digital publication. The submission deadline to have your work considered<br />

for the summer Issue (July <strong>2021</strong>) is <strong>May</strong> 15. Sea & Cedar Magazine is a biannual<br />

digital publication dedicated to showcasing exemplary new writing by both emerging<br />

and established writers in VIRL’s service area. It also highlights the work of visual<br />

artists who are creating at all levels of experience in VIRL’s service area. Submissions<br />

welcome from BIPOC writers and artists, writers and artists with disabilities,<br />

2SLGBTQIA+ writers and artists, low-income earners, and writers and artists<br />

from other intersectional and under-represented communities.<br />

virl.bc.ca/sea-cedar-magazine-call-for-submissions<br />


Ingenium represents a collaborative space where the past meets the future<br />

in a celebration of creativity, discovery and human ingenuity. Telling the<br />

stories of people who think differently and test the limits, Ingenium honours<br />

people and communities who have shaped history—and inspire the<br />

next generation. Under Ingenium, three museums—the Canada Agriculture<br />

and Food Museum, Canada Aviation and Space Museum and the Canada<br />

Science and Technology Museum—provide a sensory experience that immerses<br />

young and old alike in the countless ways science and technology<br />

connect with Canadians’ everyday lives. The Ingenium museums have a<br />

jam-packed virtual activity schedule to keep the kids busy.<br />

ingeniumcanada.org<br />

Train Your<br />

Brain with a<br />

Video Game?<br />

The Victoria Brain Injury<br />

Society (VBIS) has partnered<br />

with the UVic Concussion<br />

Lab in a research project<br />

that measures whether a<br />

video game can improve the<br />

performance and daily life<br />

activities in VBIS clients who<br />

have sustained a traumatic<br />

brain injury. NeuroTracker,<br />

a computer program, uses<br />

a 3D object-tracking task to<br />

test participant’s visual and<br />

cognitive-perceptual abilities.<br />

NeuroTracker trains cognitive-perceptual<br />

skills and<br />

aids recovery following<br />

concussion. For more<br />

information, contact the<br />

VBIS at 250-598-9339<br />

or admin@vbis.ca.<br />

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Rick Scott<br />

Family Concert<br />

Livestream<br />

Beloved all-ages artist Rick Scott will perform a virtual<br />

Family Concert Livestream with special guest Nico Rhodes<br />

on Sunday, <strong>April</strong> 18 at 2:30pm. Tickets $11.50 per household<br />

for a 48 hour viewing window. Presented by TheatreOne<br />

and the Port Theatre. Call 250-754-8550 or order online<br />

at porttheatre.com/events/rick-scott-family-concert<br />

PISE PLAY Your Way Grant<br />

Remember the joys of days spent playing outside all<br />

summer? We want our kids to have the same healthy,<br />

active experience. The high cost of living on the <strong>Island</strong><br />

often means both parents work most of the summer,<br />

and it can be even harder for single-parent families.<br />

This can lead to the only option being to leave the<br />

kids in front of one screen or another, especially when<br />

money is too tight to afford summer camps and people<br />

are working from home. This summer, Pacific Institute<br />

for Sport Excellence (PISE) will offer over 40 camps and<br />

programs for children and youth located on South Vancouver<br />

<strong>Island</strong>. To ensure children aren’t excluded due to<br />

financial reasons, PISE offers the Play Your Way Grant,<br />

a program that can cover the cost of any PISE-facilitated<br />

program or camp. To learn more about the Play Your<br />

Way Grant, visit pise.ca/grant.<br />



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<strong>April</strong>/<strong>May</strong> <strong>2021</strong> 9

Being Born During<br />

a Pandemic<br />

few weeks ago, I met my sister and 15-month-old<br />

A nephew for a walk in the woods. I hadn’t seen them as<br />

much I would like, due to COVID safety restrictions, but<br />

felt compelled to spend time with my favourite baby, so we<br />

sanitized, put on our masks and headed out for some socially-distanced<br />

time in nature.<br />

Very conscious that my mask covered the lower half of<br />

my face, I tried to express my joy at seeing my nephew with<br />

my body language and overly excited tone of voice. (The<br />

phrase “apple of my eye” takes on a whole new meaning<br />

when that’s the only part of your face which can convey<br />

emotion. Can he tell, by my eyes, that I’m smiling?) As he<br />

wobbled up to me, on unsteady toddler legs, I bent down to<br />

greet him and the very first thing he did was reach for my<br />

mask and pulled it off.<br />

This tiny gesture, made by tiny hands, set my brain a-<br />

whirling. I have an academic background in human development<br />

and the researcher in me was awakened. Did my<br />

nephew reach for my mask because it looked silly and he<br />

wanted to touch it? Or did he reach for my mask because he<br />

longed to see my face?<br />

Being born only months before our first national quarantine,<br />

my nephew knows no other way of life. His first<br />

experiences on this planet have been of faces covered in<br />

masks. My sister told me that he naturally extends his<br />

hands for sanitizer when he sees his parents applying their<br />

own. I wondered, how is COVID affecting the development<br />

of small children? My natural curiosity soon turned an ugly<br />

corner into anxious fretting.<br />

What will become of a generation of toddlers who could<br />

not see facial expressions? Who cannot spend time around<br />

family? Who are being raised to avoid skin to skin contact<br />

with people other than their parents and siblings? Will CO-<br />

VID become this generation’s childhood trauma?<br />

Could there possibly be anything good that comes of this?<br />

After some serious brooding, I concluded that almost all<br />

generations are shaped by childhood trauma and that most<br />

of us rise above it. Some of us even use these experiences to<br />

better ourselves and our society. My grandparents’ childhoods<br />

were marked by war and famine. As a result, they<br />

became resilient and self-sufficient.<br />

Our society became acutely aware of safety and vowed<br />

to work tirelessly to prevent another war. My parents were<br />

raised in the civil rights era, a time when violence was ripping<br />

Band-aids off previously accepted culture. My parents<br />

grew up to become open minded and accepting. Our society<br />

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created new standards for human rights. I was raised in a<br />

generation which experienced Columbine and 9/11. Fear<br />

was the predominant emotion felt by most adults at that<br />

time society became aware that fear, unleashed, can create<br />

a dangerous us versus them mentality or, recognized, can be<br />

used as inspiration to come together in community.<br />

Yes, this generation of children are being raised in a time<br />

unlike we have seen before. Yes, that certainly has its drawbacks<br />

and limitations. However, when I sat down to truly<br />

think about my nephew’s experience, thus far, I was able to<br />

discover some benefits. For instance, my sister’s husband,<br />

who works in the movie business, was able to stay home for<br />

more than 6 months shortly after his son was born. How<br />

many children are able to spend their first months in life<br />

with both mom and dad to care for them? When I had children,<br />

my husband was able to take one week off to spend<br />

with us.<br />

Children all over the world are spending more time with<br />

their parents than ever before. People are watching movies<br />

together, playing games, reading books and going for walks.<br />

This, if you asked me, far outweighs the temporary cancellation<br />

of swimming lessons, toddler playdates and music<br />

groups. This generation of children is less likely to be latchkey<br />

kids (as I was), or day care kids (like my children were).<br />

They will have a strong foundation of being raised by parents<br />

who are able to spend quality time with them. Families<br />

are more present and connected than they have been in generations.<br />

That’s got to mean something, right?<br />

While the researcher in me will continue to be curious<br />

about the impact of COVID on toddler development, I am<br />

doing so with hope and not fear. I am certain that COVID<br />

will affect family dynamics and a child’s perception of the<br />

world, however, I am also certain that these children will<br />

rise above it all to create something beautiful as a result of<br />

the lessons we are all learning during this time.<br />

Kelly Cleeve is a best-selling author<br />

and an educator. More importantly, she<br />

is the proud parent of two amazing sons.<br />

Visit kellycleeve.com or follow her on<br />

Instagram @resilient_kel and Facebook<br />

– Raising Resilient Children/Radiant and<br />

Resilient.<br />

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<strong>April</strong>/<strong>May</strong> <strong>2021</strong> 11

Baby Talk in Any Language<br />

Babies prefer baby talk in any language, but particularly<br />

when it’s in a language they’re hearing at home, according<br />

to a new study including close to 700 babies on four<br />

continents. The research, published in the journal Advances<br />

in Methods and Practices in Psychological Science, showed<br />

that all babies respond more to infant-directed speech— baby<br />

talk—than they do to adult-directed speech. It also revealed<br />

that babies as young as six months can pick up on differences<br />

in language around them.<br />

The study involved 17 labs on four continents—in Canada,<br />

the United States, Europe, Australia and Singapore—and tested<br />

333 bilingual and 385 monolingual children. Babies were separated<br />

into groups of 6-9-month-olds and 12-15-month-olds.<br />

The bilingual babies shared at least one of their two languages<br />

with the monolinguals.<br />

Each baby was played short, pre-recorded tapes of Englishspeaking<br />

mothers using infant-directed and adult-directed<br />

speech. The researchers then measured each baby’s looking<br />

time while those recordings were playing.<br />

Although infants exposed to many different languages<br />

showed the same listening preference, those babies who came<br />

from homes in which English was spoken paid even more attention<br />

to the infant-directed speech. The more familiar they<br />

were with the language, the more they liked that infant-directed<br />

speech. So a baby who is hearing English 75 per cent of the<br />

time in their home would show a greater preference than a<br />

baby who is hearing English 25 per cent of the time.<br />

To read “A Multi-lab Study of Bilingual Infants: Exploring the Preference<br />

for Infant-Directed Speech”, visit Advances in Methods and Practices in<br />

Psychological Science at psyarxiv.com/sqh9d.<br />

day camps<br />

are back!<br />

watch our new sumMer video<br />

at qwanoes.ca/sumMer/media<br />

the best of<br />

summer from<br />

monday to friday!<br />

Return bus<br />

transportation<br />

for some weeks!<br />

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My son loves trying new things! When he finds something new and<br />

interesting, I hear about it constantly. So when he asked about meal kits<br />

after seeing an ad, we thought it was a great solution to family dinners<br />

and a week later we had one delivered. We were all excited, and that<br />

night we cooked up a storm.<br />

The kids got the condiments and seasonings ready, Dad read out the<br />

recipe, and I started cooking. It was a fun and connecting experience<br />

with music on and everyone playing a part. After we finished our<br />

amazing dinner, though, we were surprised to find a counter filled with<br />

containers, baggies, and boxes.<br />

The problem with meal kits, we soon realized, was what was leftover at<br />

the end: the packaging! As great as the experience was, the packaging<br />

was more than we bargained for and put us off meal prep delivery<br />

services.<br />

Things have evolved in a big way over the past year, and families have<br />

even more demands on them than ever. We’re all looking for a little<br />

break and a lot of help. But our past experience with other meal kits had<br />

us hesitant to try again.<br />

Bring us to <strong>2021</strong>, and we discovered that Vancouver-based meal kit<br />

provider, Fresh Prep has provided a solution to the problem. Earlier<br />

this month, the meal kit delivery service brought a first-of-its-kind<br />

sustainable product to market, with the launch of its Zero Waste Kit.<br />

The Fresh Prep Zero Waste Kit is a reusable meal kit container that<br />

significantly reduces waste from single-use plastic, and allows for an<br />

easier and more organized cooking experience. Delivered in Fresh Prep’s<br />

signature cooler bags, all parts of the Zero Waste Kit are made with BPAfree<br />

reusable plastic.<br />

One of the many benefits of using the kit is that you receive preportioned<br />

ingredients in each compartment, resulting in no excess<br />

food waste. You’ll spend less time cutting open plastic as the kits are<br />

structured for grab-and-go cooking. And since the ingredient cups<br />

double up as measuring cups and mixing bowls, there’s instantly less of<br />

a mess for you to clean up afterwards.<br />

Finally, a meal kit that is delicious, convenient AND sustainable! No<br />

cardboard boxes here, as deliveries are made in reusable, insulated<br />

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mealtime together and helping us manage our waste too.<br />

Using a service that helps in our busy lives really adds to our quality of<br />

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together as a family, which means the kids get involved in the planning<br />

too. When the meals arrive with pre-measured ingredients, it’s easy for<br />

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<strong>April</strong>/<strong>May</strong> <strong>2021</strong> 13

The Challenges of<br />

First-time <strong>Parent</strong>hood<br />

Although becoming a parent comes<br />

with countless ups and downs, many<br />

enter parenthood with eyes wide open to<br />

some of the challenges of taking care of a<br />

new baby. They have heard other parents<br />

talk about how peace and quiet will be in<br />

short supply and dirty diapers and sleepless<br />

nights will become the norm. However,<br />

diapers and sleep were rarely listed<br />

among the top concerns for new parents<br />

interviewed by researchers from the Department<br />

of Psychology at the University<br />

of Victoria.<br />

Instead, new moms and dads were<br />

more likely to talk about the parts of parenthood<br />

less often mentioned in popular<br />

media and in public imagination:<br />

• They talked about the frustration of<br />

waiting in line at walk-in clinics because<br />

they were without family doctors, or of<br />

calling daycares over and over again just<br />

to get put on a waitlist.<br />

• They described being surprised by<br />

the challenges of breastfeeding, a process<br />

that they had been told would be “natural”<br />

and “easy.”<br />

• They talked about isolation, a challenge<br />

new parents faced long before the<br />

COVID-19 pandemic put an end to many<br />

in-person services.<br />

These are some of the experiences firsttime<br />

parents shared during 20 interviews<br />

in 2019 and early 2020. Fourteen new<br />

moms and six new dads were interviewed<br />

to gain a better understanding of the resources<br />

available to parents in the Victoria<br />

area and to pinpoint where they could<br />

use greater support. The interviews were<br />

part of the larger “Perinatal Resources<br />

for <strong>Parent</strong>s” (PeRC) study, funded by a<br />

University of Victoria Internal Research<br />

Grant awarded to Dr. Erica Woodin.<br />

The biggest challenges mentioned by<br />

most parents related to ongoing, systemic<br />

issues in the Victoria area such as the<br />

high cost of living, lack of family doctors,<br />

and shortage of childcare spaces. Most<br />

parents in the study did not have family<br />

doctors and found themselves waiting<br />

in line at walk-in clinics and receiving<br />

minimal continuation of care. Even early<br />

childhood vaccinations were difficult<br />

to come by, with local Public Health<br />

Units booking far in advance. <strong>Parent</strong>s<br />

frequently had to make use of same day<br />

appointments to get their vaccinations,<br />

which meant calling the Health Unit each<br />

morning until they were able to secure an<br />

appointment.<br />

Similar to the lack of available doctors,<br />

parents also expressed frustration surrounding<br />

the lack of available childcare<br />

in Victoria. When asked about childcare,<br />

many parents admitted they were still on<br />

waitlists and worried about being about<br />

to return to work once their parental<br />

leave was over. Those who had secured<br />

spots had placed their child on waitlists<br />

before they were even born, a practice<br />

some parents found out was commonplace<br />

only too late.<br />

“I realized when he was…a couple<br />

months old already,” said one participant,<br />

“that we should’ve been on top of<br />

this and then that’s just one more thing<br />

that I had to worry about.”<br />

<strong>Parent</strong>s were equally surprised by an<br />

aspect of parenting that many had never<br />

thought to worry about: breastfeeding.<br />

Almost all parents in the study expressed<br />

concerns around breastfeeding and about<br />

half noted it was a primary area of difficulty<br />

for them or their partner during<br />

early parenthood.<br />

Many were quick to point out that<br />

there are ample resources for breastfeeding<br />

parents in Victoria but that they had<br />

to access several services before issues<br />

with breastfeeding resolved. For others,<br />

despite accessing many services, breastfeeding<br />

continued to be difficult or had<br />

to be discontinued. <strong>Parent</strong>s were often<br />

surprised by how difficult breastfeeding<br />

was or felt shame in being unable to feed<br />

their child.<br />

“Before you have a baby, you assume<br />

that it’s natural and that it’s easy, and<br />

that’s how babies eat, and that it should<br />

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just happen like that,” said one parent.<br />

“It doesn’t. It’s so challenging and, despite<br />

the fact that it’s natural, you have<br />

to have all of your ducks lined up for it<br />

work smoothly.”<br />

Although all parents faced unique challenges,<br />

common threads such a trouble<br />

with breastfeeding and barriers to accessing<br />

medical and childcare services<br />

emerged in the interviews. Along with a<br />

clear need for greater local resources to<br />

support health care access and childcare<br />

availability, participants also said they<br />

would benefit from messages that normalize<br />

the challenges of breastfeeding<br />

and de-stigmatize some women’s inability<br />

to breastfeed.<br />

Check out more information on local<br />

parent and family resources and about<br />

research being conducted by the University<br />

of Victoria’s Healthy Relationships<br />

Lab at: onlineacademiccommunity.uvic.<br />

ca/healthyrelationshipslab.<br />

Lauren Matheson is a PhD Student in the<br />

Clinical Psychology Program at the University of<br />

Victoria.<br />

Time to Take the First Steps<br />

Glenlyon Norfolk School is excited to announce that we will be offering a First Steps<br />

Junior Kindergarten half-day pilot program this fall, primarily for three-year-olds. These<br />

young students will have the opportunity to learn and play in an environment that is<br />

Montessori based within the framework of the respected inquiry-focussed IB Primary Years<br />

Programme. Nature School as well as Art, French and PE with our specialist teachers, will<br />

complement the work of the classroom teachers. And, of course, there will be ample time<br />

for the unstructured play that is so crucial for early childhood development. Please contact<br />

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<strong>April</strong>/<strong>May</strong> <strong>2021</strong> 15

Tax Time!<br />

There are few things more frustrating and confusing than<br />

money for the modern family. For many families, this time<br />

of year is the climax of those emotions as we find ourselves in<br />

the middle of tax season.<br />

But before we look at the current season, take this opportunity<br />

to look ahead to next season. This is a conversation I have<br />

on a regular basis as an accredited financial counsellor. At any<br />

given point, there is very little about our current financial situation<br />

that is managed, or fixed, by looking down where our feet<br />

are planted now. Planning ahead is nearly always the solution<br />

and tax time is no different.<br />

Get organised. A simple filing system can make a world of<br />

difference. Choose from paper or paperless to get started, get<br />

your supplies, and spend an afternoon getting started. Expert<br />

TIP: Place a “To Be Filled” folder in the kitchen, or command<br />

centre, for those statements and bills amid a hectic day.<br />

Save for your tax bill. If there’s a chance that CRA will be<br />

calling to collect, start saving each month now. Looking at your<br />

most recent return is a good way to estimate what your future<br />

might hold. Expert TIP: Open a separate account, start automated<br />

transfers in, and name the account “Tax.”<br />

Seek support. If you have a question about your financial<br />

situation, find a professional to answer it. Too often we shy<br />

away from paying for help and end up costing ourselves more<br />

in the future. (Expert TIP: Join the free group on Facebook<br />

called Black Is The New Red to participate in exciting conversations<br />

about money.)<br />

Now that we’ve looked ahead, let’s look at what’s right in<br />

front of us. While I don’t offer tax advice in my practise, I do<br />

hear the vibrant chatter each spring. Because getting organized<br />

to take our file to the accountant can be confusing, I’ve put<br />

together a quick reference list for some of the most common<br />

areas of concern:<br />

• Registered Education Savings Plan (RESP): Contributions are<br />

not tax deductible.<br />

• Canada Child Benefit (CCB): Benefit is not taxable.<br />

• Affordable Childcare Benefit (ACCB): Benefit is not taxable.<br />

• Childcare expenses: Deductible up to $8000 for children under<br />

age 7 and $5000 for children under age 5.<br />

• Fitness and/or arts credit: Those were removed a few years<br />

ago when CCB was increased.<br />

• Medical expenses: If you were not reimbursed for your expenses<br />

and you spent more than 3 per cent, you can claim.<br />

• Work from home: if you worked from home for more than<br />

50 per cent of the time for four consecutive weeks, you can<br />

claim $2 per day.<br />

In <strong>2021</strong>, there are many online resources to help you. Please<br />

ensure you’re using reputable resources like canada.ca or work<br />

with an experienced professional to prepare your tax return.<br />

This article should not be considered tax advice.<br />

Lindsay Plumb is coach and founder of MOOLA<br />

Financial Coaches & Advisors. yourmoola.ca.<br />

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We’re Going on a Nature Hunt!<br />

Do you know a budding biologist? A little nature lover? A young (or young at heart)<br />

scientist? Are you and your family interested in learning more about the amazing<br />

biodiversity that lives right outside your door? Grab your binoculars, camera and<br />

sense of curiosity and participate in the CRD’s first ever Biodiversity Challenge.<br />

Between <strong>May</strong> 21 and 24, <strong>2021</strong> join other nature lovers across Greater Victoria<br />

to build a record of the species that surround us using the free iNaturalist Canada<br />

website or app. iNaturalist provides image recognition for photos you take of local<br />

nature, so that you and your family can learn to identify new plants and animals<br />

while having fun outdoors. With an adult’s help, iNaturalist is an engaging way for<br />

kids to learn about nature and participate in real world citizen science.<br />


Joining the CRD’s Biodiversity Challenge is simple and fun:<br />

Find nature in your backyard, neighbourhood, favourite park or beach between<br />

<strong>May</strong> 21–24. Observations of wild native plants, animals, fungi, insects, tracks, or<br />

even scat are all welcome.<br />

Use a digital camera or smart phone to capture your sightings.<br />

Create a free iNaturalist account and upload your observations and photos.<br />

Identify your findings as best you can and have people from the iNaturalist<br />

community help confirm your identifications.<br />

Search iNaturalist for the CRD’s Biodiversity Challenge project page to see live<br />

updates of what other families are finding. Join the project to have the chance to<br />

win some fun prizes.<br />

Biodiversity at your Doorstep<br />

You do not have to stray far from home to find amazing plants, animals and<br />

ecosystems in the capital region. Did you know that Greater Victoria lies in one of<br />

Canada’s nature hotspots, bursting with an incredible diversity of plants and wildlife?<br />

Nestled among our neighbourhoods and workplaces are salmon-bearing streams,<br />

Garry oak meadows, vibrant wetlands and dynamic shorelines. In our backyards and<br />

local parks we can find pollinating insects, migrating birds, native wildflowers, and<br />

towering trees. This incredible abundance of life, or biodiversity, supports clean air<br />

and water, food security, recreational and cultural opportunities, and is key to the<br />

high quality of life we enjoy in the capital region.<br />

Observing and learning about the natural world that surrounds us can boost<br />

mental health and wellbeing, and is a key step in conserving nature for future<br />

generations. Visit crd.bc.ca/biodiversity for more information on biodiversity in<br />

the CRD and the iNaturalist challenge, including details about prizes and iNaturalist<br />

resources that will help you get started.<br />

Calling all nature lovers!<br />

Join the CRD’s<br />

Biodiversity Challenge!<br />

Friday, <strong>May</strong> 21 - 24, <strong>2021</strong><br />

How many plants, animals and fungi can you find? Join us on <strong>May</strong><br />

long weekend and get outside with your family to explore the diversity<br />

of life around us! Enter your observations into the free and simple<br />

iNaturalist app and check out what other people have found too!<br />

Learn more at www.crd.bc.ca/biodiversity<br />

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<strong>April</strong>/<strong>May</strong> <strong>2021</strong> 17


Life After COVID-19<br />

know things aren’t always like this, right? You won’t<br />

always have to wear a mask or stay away from people<br />

“You<br />

or line up outside stores to get in?”<br />

So I found myself awkwardly asking my oldest kid the other<br />

day, as we celebrated one year of life with the plague, one year of<br />

awkward side-stepping strangers, one year of being unclear on if<br />

we’re allowed to have playdates (no) or meet friends at the park<br />

(yes, I think) or go to the grandparents’ houses (no). And, man, it’s<br />

the last one that’s the killer, our kids barely seeing their grandparents<br />

for the past year; considering our youngest is barely two years<br />

old, that’s a big deal.<br />

It’s all just so awkward, really. Before the pandemic my kids had<br />

started to get a bit of independence; maybe they would hop over<br />

to the grocery store by themselves to grab a snack. Now, with all<br />

the rules and regulations, with all the increased tension and news<br />

reports of horribly miserable people getting into fights with store<br />

clerks because they don’t want to wear masks, I just think, no, my<br />

kids aren’t ready for that.<br />

Of course, none of us was ready for this, which is probably why<br />

people are miserable, people are getting into fights, people are just<br />

staying home with their kids, getting increasingly more agitated as<br />

the days, weeks, months pass.<br />

We celebrate a year of kinda barely living by continuing to<br />

kinda barely live, passing on taking the extracurricular stuff online<br />

because that just isn’t working on our end, Zoom malfunctions<br />

leading to familial malfunctions until all plugs are pulled.<br />

After homeschooling for a while, we actually put our kids<br />

back in school—during a pandemic! Well, we put our kids back<br />

in school because of the pandemic, really. Because homeschooled<br />

kids aren’t allowed indoor playdates with other kids, it just all<br />

become a bit too much, a bit too much time spent without social<br />

contact.<br />

I’m still not entirely sure about that decision, but are any of us<br />

entirely sure about any parenting decision we’ve made during the<br />

pandemic?<br />

This is a messed-up time to be a parent, no doubt about it.<br />

Every decision—seriously, even just running into the mall to grab<br />

something—becomes a matter of life or death, even for people like<br />

me who regularly eat food off the ground (I don’t mean food I just<br />

dropped, I mean, “Holy crap, I found a chip on my floor, Daddy’s<br />

day is looking up.”) and aren’t exactly what you could call a germophobe<br />

by any stretch of the imagination. We forget our masks,<br />

we curse under our breath, we lament the fact that our kids all just<br />

lost a year of their lives, a year of what should be the best time of<br />

their lives.<br />

We were barely getting the hang of parenting before this. Now<br />

we’re relearning.<br />

“Do you remember what it was like before this?” I added on<br />

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me, reminding me that, hmm, alright, kids<br />

are maybe a bit more resilient than we are<br />

and don’t overthink things as much as us<br />

adults do.<br />

Still, I yearn for the day when I can<br />

shake another dad’s hand in greeting, when<br />

my kids can go to the store without having<br />

to worry about total societal collapse<br />

around them resulting in strangers spitting<br />

on each other in fear and anger (or walking<br />

the wrong way down an aisle), when I can<br />

just make a decision without factoring in<br />

COVID-19 restrictions that I need to recheck<br />

every single time because I can never<br />

remember what exactly they are.<br />

I guess, like everyone else, I just want our<br />

lives back. And, like every parent out there<br />

right now, I just want my kids’ lives back.<br />

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of three children and a local<br />

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In 2012, Robert Bateman, a world-renowned<br />

artist and environmentalist, founded the<br />

Bateman Foundation. He wanted to help<br />

people reconnect with nature, hoping that, in<br />

turn, people would be inspired to conserve<br />

and protect it. The goal is to create a lasting<br />

legacy—one where our world is preserved<br />

and our children “know their neighbours.”<br />

This is not an easy task to accomplish, and<br />

the foundation started small. Nine years later,<br />

its flagship program—Nature Sketch—has<br />

become a great success. The premise behind<br />

Nature Sketch is simple: rebuilding our relationships<br />

with nature by sketching it. Participants<br />

are guided by artists and naturalists as<br />

they learn about local ecosystems through<br />

sketch and study.<br />

In the trying times of a pandemic, the need<br />

for people to connect with nature is even<br />

greater. Sketching nature not only promotes<br />

knowledge, understanding and connection<br />

to the environment, but the act itself is also<br />

a mindful one: taking time to stop, look and<br />

sketch can be a useful tool for managing<br />

mental health in a time of isolation and anxiety.<br />

The Bateman Foundation redesigned<br />

its programs in the wake of COVID-19, and<br />

the new online courses attracted participants<br />

from as far as Europe. They have also<br />

launched free drop-in sessions guided by an<br />

art therapist for the local community. Swing<br />

by the Bateman Gallery in Victoria on Tuesday<br />

evenings or Thursday mornings, and you will<br />

be welcomed to express your unique creativity<br />

and find support in each other.<br />

In <strong>2021</strong>, the foundation will re-introduce<br />

in-person outdoor education programs on<br />

Vancouver <strong>Island</strong>, after months of preparation<br />

to integrate new safety protocols. In Victoria<br />

and Duncan, you might be able to see participants<br />

of all ages studying and sketching<br />

outdoors on the weekends: Junior and Adult<br />

classes will run on Saturdays starting in <strong>May</strong>.<br />

Meanwhile, online programs will continue to<br />

run—if Nature Sketch is not yet available in<br />

your area, you can still join in!<br />

This past year has taught us to appreciate<br />

the importance of nature in our lives. Studies<br />

have shown reconnecting with nature can<br />

improve mental health, boost energy and promote<br />

overall well-being. Nature helps children<br />

unleash creativity, and gives them a chance<br />

to exercise, play and discover. The Bateman<br />

Foundation is very proud to be doing this<br />

work. In the words of Robert Bateman: “Nature<br />

is magic.”<br />

For information on Nature Sketch classes<br />

in your area and online, please visit<br />

batemanfoundation.org/naturesketch.<br />

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Eco Grief<br />

Acts of love to help kids mourn what is being lost<br />

Mom, who cries for the orca?” asked my six-year-old son<br />

asked.<br />

It was 2018, orca J35, Tahlequah, carried her dead baby<br />

across 1,600 km of the Pacific Ocean for 17 days.<br />

“We can,” I answered and we both wept. It was a relief to<br />

share my tears with someone.<br />

I felt unsure how to lead a meaningful and age-appropriate<br />

way to mark this sorrow end. We chose to kayak in “our” cove<br />

near Haro Strait to offer a prayer and gratitude. We also created<br />

a piece of impermanent Earth art on the beach with shells,<br />

sea glass, stones, and leaves.<br />

Nature is important to acknowledge. It reminds us of our<br />

lasting connection to the living world and each other. But have<br />

we allowed ourselves to mourn these kinds of losses? What are<br />

the rituals for losing a baby orca, or an entire species?<br />

Our culture feels broken. Society tells us idolize work ethic,<br />

make money, and serve the economy. Yet, it’s obvious we are<br />

witnessing and contributing to ecological collapse. Can we<br />

reconcile the life we meant to create with reality—a disconnect<br />

from the living world, ourselves and one another?<br />

We can skill-up to mark sorrow endings and we must.<br />

Let’s offer more reverence for the death of a songbird after<br />

hitting the kitchen window and the loss of old-growth forests.<br />

What if we knew how to tend to these moments with the same<br />

energy we give to celebrations like the tooth fairy and birthday<br />

parties?<br />

Eco grief is the pain or physiological response to the loss of<br />

non-human kin. It also requires healthy grief expression because<br />

we can mourn for nature.<br />

Benefits of making grief your friend<br />

• It invites us to be more intimate with the Earth<br />

• It’s a wise and healing force within each of us<br />

• Processing it can help counteract violence against the Earth<br />

• Processing grief expands us<br />

• Emotional tears excrete toxins and stimulate the production<br />

of endorphins, a chemical in the body to relieve stress and<br />

pain.<br />

Dr. Gordon Neufeld a developmental psychologist and bestselling<br />

author, ensures us happiness is on the other side of tears,<br />

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Healthy Families, Happy Families<br />

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Gulf <strong>Island</strong>s 250-539-3099<br />

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Peninsula 250-544-2400<br />

Saanich 250-519-5100<br />

Saltspring <strong>Island</strong> 250-538-4880<br />

Sooke 250-519-3487<br />

Victoria 250-388-2200<br />

West Shore 250-519-3490<br />

Central <strong>Island</strong> Health Units<br />

Duncan 250-709-3050<br />

Ladysmith 250-755-3342<br />

Lake Cowichan 250-749-6878<br />

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Kyuquot Health Ctr 250-332-5289<br />

‘Namgis Health Ctr 250-974-5522<br />

Port Hardy 250-902-6071<br />

islandhealth.ca/our-locations/<br />

health-unit-locations<br />

Changes with BC Medical Services Plan<br />

premiums mean that families eligible for partial<br />

payment of some medical services and access<br />

to some income-based programs now must<br />

apply for Supplementary Benefits through the<br />

Government of BC. Applications can be done<br />

online and take approximately 15 minutes.<br />

Families who previously qualified for MSP<br />

Premium Assistance should not need to re-apply<br />

if taxes are completed yearly. It is advised to<br />

confirm coverage before proceeding with<br />

treatment to avoid paying out of pocket.<br />

For more information, visit gov.bc.ca/gov/<br />

content/health/health-drug-coverage/msp/<br />

bc-residents/benefits/services-covered-bymsp/supplementary-benefits<br />

it builds our strength, and tears signal a<br />

turning point.<br />

Shauna Janz of Sacred Grief speaks to<br />

the costs of grief avoidance and having<br />

our losses accumulate:<br />

• They go unfelt, unacknowledged,<br />

and unresolved<br />

• It compromises our aliveness (grief<br />

expression = vitality and joy)<br />

• We deny our birthright to grieve<br />

Grief needs a container, to be witnessed<br />

and shared. There’s so much in our lives<br />

we can’t change. Children and adults<br />

need rest from trying to change it. Yet,<br />

to be fully human we need to feel. Grief<br />

can rearrange our insides, and we will<br />

be forever changed. A container—ritual,<br />

ceremony, activity—can prevent feelings<br />

of overwhelm or closing down.<br />

Eight kid-friendly ways to<br />

grieve for our living world:<br />

Try these ideas to support a child with<br />

the loss of a tree cut at school, finding<br />

a dead fledgling after a storm, or help<br />

with the loss of a beloved pet. Hint: You<br />

may choose to avoid the word grief when<br />

speaking with young children. You can<br />

name feelings of sadness or honour a<br />

goodbye.<br />

1. Energy can’t die or be destroyed.<br />

A mink once killed our rented pair of<br />

chickens. My then 6- and 2-year-old<br />

cried. We chose to keep a feather from<br />

each in a jar, and I helped them reflect on<br />

how Cream Puff and Fig left their mark.<br />

For weeks they had torn up my garden<br />

and pooped everywhere! We remember<br />

them each time we pluck a juicy raspberry,<br />

strawberry, or carrot. Their energy<br />

doesn’t disappear.<br />

2. Create a shrine or altar. There is<br />

no wrong way to do this. Let the child’s<br />

heart lead to create this container for<br />

their grief. It’s a tangible way to honour,<br />

remember and reflect on what’s alive in<br />

their hearts and spirit. Simple tips are:<br />

• It should comfort and nurture them<br />

• It can be inside or outside<br />

• Choose a box, a tin, or special spot<br />

in the garden<br />

• Add items from nature like leaves,<br />

branches, shells, even a found bird nest<br />

• Add photos, fabric (or other textures<br />

like clay), a chime or bell<br />

The purpose is to offer a sanctuary or<br />

refuge. Children may choose to visit often<br />

or at the same time each week or month.<br />

You can sit in silence, close your eyes or<br />

journal here.<br />

Alan Wolfelt, a leading death educator<br />

and author says “Personal times of still-<br />

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ness are a spiritual necessity. Grief is only transformed when<br />

you honor the quiet forces of stillness.”<br />

3. Create impermanent Earth art. An Earth altar, land art<br />

or nature mandala is a simple way to acknowledge sorrow<br />

and joy. Need inspiration? My family took a workshop by<br />

Day Schildkret of Morning Altars. See the beauty he creates @<br />

MorningAltars, read his book, get a calendar, or consider an<br />

online workshop. It’s a heartfelt way to acknowledge a loss,<br />

or life in a humble way. Don’t forget to pay gratitude to items<br />

from nature (leaves, flowers, shells, seeds, etc.) you collect.<br />

Practice consent-based harvesting.<br />

4. Walking meditation. Walk a labyrinth (we have two in<br />

our neighbourhood and you might discover a local one, too!)<br />

or choose a favourite trail. Invite kids to ask a question, or<br />

set an intention then walk in silence (even a couple minutes<br />

counts).<br />

5. Journal. A child who feels heavy with sorrow for the<br />

world may want to share more. Writing can be a release, an<br />

emotional playground. Need prompts? Try “my sadness for the<br />

dead baby bird or clearcut forest…”<br />

• Feels like…<br />

• Sounds like…<br />

• Is shaped like…<br />

• Smells like…<br />

• Is coloured like…<br />

• Has energy like…<br />

6. Write a letter or poem to Mother Nature (drawings are<br />

great). Help a child express their gratitude. What you love<br />

about her: her smell, sounds, colours or how she makes you<br />

feel, etc. You can choose to hang the letter, drawings and notes<br />

in a favourite tree. (Psst, this is how neighbourhood gratitude<br />

trees start!)<br />

7. Restore a local green space. My family is a volunteer<br />

steward for woods near our home. Check with your city for<br />

work parties to remove invasive species, or a beach clean-up.<br />

Be part of a team or lead one to make beauty where ugliness<br />

has set in. We all can restore a world dying and in disrepair.<br />

Experiences in nature promote a deep sense of well-being and<br />

puts us in touch with spirit.<br />

8. Sing, listen to music or watch a film. To feel emotions<br />

sometimes it’s easier to be one step removed from them. Watching<br />

a sad movie or listening to a sad song might help when grief<br />

is too hard to touch directly.<br />

Sometimes there’s nothing to do but cry. These acts of love<br />

can help little hearts find a little rest.<br />

Nurture wonder. Find magic. Seek beauty and experience<br />

more awe. To mark loss and love is work for us all and helps us<br />

restore respect and connection with Mother Earth.<br />

Lindsay Coulter is a dedicated mother<br />

of two, naturalist, community catalyst, soul<br />

activist, mentor, writer and horse lover. Find<br />

her @SaneAction on Instagram and Facebook.<br />

She’s also the Director of Communications,<br />

Culture and Community of EPIC Learning Centre,<br />

a forest and nature school in Victoria, BC.<br />

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For more information and calendar<br />

updates throughout the month<br />

visit <strong>Island</strong><strong>Parent</strong>.ca<br />

APRIL<br />

V<br />

P<br />

W<br />

Victoria & Area<br />

Peninsula<br />

Westshore<br />

CV<br />

N<br />

CX<br />

Cowichan Valley<br />

Nanaimo & Area<br />

Comox Valley<br />

PR<br />

G<br />

O<br />

Pacific Rim<br />

Gulf <strong>Island</strong>s<br />

Online<br />

1 THURSDAY<br />

Esquimalt Farmer’s Market V<br />

4:30–7:30pm, Bullen Field<br />

A community farmers market committed to<br />

healthy and local living, relationship building, and<br />

environmental sustainability. (Weekly until Sept.)<br />

esquimaltmarket.com<br />

Sea + Cedar Call for Submissions O<br />

The Vancouver <strong>Island</strong> Regional Library (VIRL) is<br />

currently seeking submissions of short fiction, creative<br />

non-fiction, poetry and artwork for the first<br />

issue of our new serial digital publication, Sea<br />

& Cedar Magazine. The submission deadline to<br />

have your work considered for our Summer Issue<br />

(July <strong>2021</strong>) is <strong>May</strong> 15. (Recurring.)<br />

virl.bc.ca<br />


Easter Book Hunt<br />

CX<br />

4pm, Robert Ostler Park<br />

Put on your super-seeker goggles and find ONE<br />

of 50 specially marked “Egg Tags” hidden around<br />

the library courtyard and in Ostler (pirate) park.<br />

Bring the “Egg Tag” to the library before <strong>April</strong> 15<br />

and redeem it for a book of your choice.<br />

virl.bc.ca<br />


Dads with Dads<br />

V<br />

6:30–8:30pm, Centennial United Church<br />

A weekly drop in group designed to offer support<br />

and community to men in the process of exploring<br />

father related concerns. (Weekly.)<br />

singleparentvictoria.ca<br />

8 THURSDAY<br />

Healthy Boundaries<br />

V<br />

6:30–8:30pm, 1UP Single <strong>Parent</strong> Resource<br />

Centre (weekly)<br />

Join this 6-week, in-person course. Due to COVID<br />

restrictions, the courses will have 5 participants<br />

and 1 facilitator to enable social distancing.<br />

singleparentvictoria.ca<br />

16 FRIDAY<br />

Opening: Orcas, Our Shared Future V<br />

10am–6pm, Royal BC Museum (ongoing)<br />

Dive deep into the stories and science that surround<br />

the magnificent orca, spirit of BC’s wild<br />

coast and apex predator of all oceans.<br />

royalbcmuseum.bc.ca<br />



Offering programs in Leadership, Science, Technology, Sports,<br />

Outdoor Ed, Robotics, Art, Cooking, Sewing and Business!<br />

www.smus.ca/summercamps<br />

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18 SUNDAY<br />

Family Sunday<br />

V<br />

2–4pm, Art Gallery of Greater Victoria<br />

Enjoy an afternoon of exploring hands-on artmaking<br />

and ideas for all ages. This recurring program<br />

is Oct-June and features special guests like<br />

storytellers, artists, performers or musicians.<br />

aggv.ca<br />

MAY<br />

2 SUNDAY<br />

Woodgrove Mother’s Day Market N<br />

10am–3pm, Woodgrove Shopping Centre<br />

An outdoor shopping event where you’ll find<br />

all your favourite artisans in one place. 100’s of<br />

unique locally made gift ideas. Located out front<br />

of Woodgrove Shopping Centre in the parking lot.<br />

woodgrovecentre.com<br />

6 THURSDAY<br />

Social Media Awareness,<br />

O<br />

Digital Citizenship & Cyberbullying<br />

7pm, online<br />

<strong>Parent</strong>s lead the charge as a digital role model.<br />

Help your child develop a strong digital citizenship<br />

foundation while reminding them that their<br />

digital tattoo reflects their real and online selves.<br />

A snapshot of current trends and concerning apps<br />

will be provided to equip you in your digital parenting<br />

strategy.<br />

speacsocialmedia.eventbrite.ca<br />


Sarah Beckett Memorial Run O<br />

6am Saturday – 6pm Sunday<br />

The <strong>2021</strong> Sarah Beckett Memorial Run has gone<br />

virtual! This means you can participate in the<br />

walk or run any place you want. Outside on a trail<br />

or even in the comfort of your own home on a<br />

treadmill.<br />

sarahbeckettmemorialrun.com<br />

16 SUNDAY<br />

Family Sunday<br />

V<br />

2–4pm, Art Gallery of Greater Victoria<br />

Enjoy an afternoon of exploring hands-on artmaking<br />

and ideas for all ages. This recurring program<br />

is Oct–June and features special guests like<br />

storytellers, artists, performers or musicians.<br />

aggv.ca<br />

Science & Nature<br />

summer camps<br />

Five day Summer camp $240<br />

Register at: www.cowichanestuary.ca<br />

or email: camps@cowichanestuary.ca<br />


Registration is Open!<br />

July-Aug <strong>2021</strong><br />

Summer Camps!<br />

Campers will explore the life of pollinators, shoreline<br />

plants, inter-tidal species and coastal birds, practice<br />

their discovery skills, expression of gratitude, and<br />

respect for self and others through play!<br />

We are excited to offer week-long camps in July and<br />

August as well as one day camps on August 3th, 4th<br />

and 5th. We incorporate COVID-19 advisories into our<br />

programming and daily routines to ensure a safe and<br />

fun experience for all campers!<br />

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Motherhood<br />

As children, we see our mothers<br />

through rose-coloured lenses.<br />

They’re that wonderful combination<br />

of softness and warmth combined with<br />

wisdom and a steely strength. They’re the<br />

ones who whisper endearments to us in<br />

the middle of the night to ward off night<br />

terrors or patch up scraped knees and<br />

elbows with ease or remove a splinter<br />

or two with the expertise of a surgeon.<br />

They somehow anticipate every one of<br />

our needs and seem to have an answer<br />

for every question. By far, they are our<br />

greatest teachers as well as our greatest<br />

advocates.<br />

As children grow, mothers become our<br />

confidants, providing advice and guidance<br />

through the often-murky waters<br />

known as adolescence. During these<br />

tumultuous years, they can always be<br />

counted on to have our backs. Even when<br />

many teenagers invariably end up chafing<br />

at the maternal bond in their quest<br />

for independence, they know a mother’s<br />

commitment is always there, steadfast<br />

and unwavering. After all, mothers are in<br />

it for the long haul.<br />

It is this selfless devotion of motherhood<br />

that is so admirable. <strong>May</strong>be it’s<br />

simply hard-wired into us through evolution<br />

in order to ensure the survival of<br />

our species, or maybe it’s the fact that we<br />

have far fewer offspring these days so we<br />

must invest heavily in them, but I tend<br />

to see it that children are an extension<br />

of ourselves. They are by far the greatest<br />

thing we will do in this life.<br />

Certainly, mothers aren’t in it for the<br />

thanks we get, that’s for sure. Most of<br />

us are lucky if we get a quick hug on the<br />

fly or a “thanks, mom” tossed over the<br />

shoulder. But that’s okay. None of us are<br />

in it for the adulation. Our reward comes<br />

years later when our children turn to us<br />

in their hour of need or share the joys<br />

of their own children with us. Being included<br />

and invited into their adult lives is<br />

the best reward.<br />

It’s not until we make that journey into<br />

parenthood ourselves that we can truly<br />

understand and appreciate our mothers.<br />

This hit home with me when I was shopping<br />

for a Mother’s Day card for my own<br />

mother a number of years ago. At first, I<br />

was engrossed in my own search for the<br />

perfect card—not one with any cheesy<br />

sentiment, or a lame sing-song rhyme or<br />

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the inadequate one-liner, but something<br />

special, something heartfelt.<br />

After several minutes, I gradually<br />

became aware of a middle-aged couple<br />

standing beside me who were also on the<br />

same quest. The wife kept showing her<br />

husband different cards, but he rebuffed<br />

each one with a sarcastic or critical remark<br />

or a dismissive wave of the hand.<br />

Finally, he found one of his own choosing<br />

and headed up to the cashier. As the<br />

woman replaced the card she had been<br />

holding, she gave me a sad smile and said<br />

quietly, “I wish I still had a mom to buy<br />

a card for.”<br />

My heart went out to her and I smiled<br />

back in sympathy, but I really had no<br />

true appreciation of her comment until<br />

my own mother passed away on the day<br />

after Mother’s Day in 2017.<br />

Now I am left to contemplate all the<br />

things I wish I’d said to her, the truly important<br />

things like I’m sorry I caused you<br />

sorrow as a result some of my choices,<br />

and thank you for always putting your<br />

children first and supporting me during<br />

the darkest times in my life. I wish I had<br />

told her of the esteem in which I held her<br />

quiet, gentle nature, how she never had<br />

an unkind word for anyone, how much I<br />

wished I could be more like her.<br />

In hindsight, I realize I never got the<br />

chance to ask her things such: as did she<br />

have any regrets? Was there a pivotal moment<br />

in her life? Was there anything she<br />

would have done differently? Those sorts<br />

of questions that a daughter doesn’t think<br />

to ask her mother, except when it’s too<br />

late. What I wouldn’t give for just one<br />

precious hour together with my mother,<br />

to sit down with her and hold her hand<br />

and ask her all these things—to get to<br />

know her as a person, not just as my<br />

mother.<br />

In thinking about the definition of<br />

motherhood, I naturally call to mind my<br />

own mother—someone who loves you<br />

unconditionally, would bear any burden<br />

for you, and would go to the ends of the<br />

earth for your happiness.<br />

Susan Gnucci is a<br />

local author and a proud<br />

“nonna” to two adorable<br />

grandsons. She enjoys<br />

sharing her experiences<br />

as a grandparent.<br />

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<strong>April</strong>/<strong>May</strong> <strong>2021</strong> 27


Sheet Pan Dinners<br />

I<br />

love<br />

sheet pan dinners. They’re my go-to whenever I don’t<br />

have the energy to think about what to cook for dinner.<br />

Here’s why they are so perfect for a no-fuss and healthy<br />

meal:<br />

There’s not a lot of food prep and they can mostly be done in<br />

advance.<br />

Everything cooks in the oven, so I don’t have to think about<br />

them once they’re in there.<br />

My kids love oven roasted vegetables, so they’re an easy way<br />

to get kids to eat more vegetables.<br />

Here are three simple sheet pan dinners that kids tend to<br />

love—perfect for when you could use a bit of extra time and<br />

don’t want to fuss over the stove.<br />

Sheet Pan Potato Hash<br />

(Prep time 15 minutes; bake time 20 minutes)<br />

Sheet pan potato hash is probably officially a breakfast item, but we<br />

like breakfast for dinner! It’s packed full of vegetables and protein.<br />

It's also perfect for using up whatever you have in the fridge. Replace<br />

the mushrooms and sweet potato with grated carrots or cauliflower.<br />

Replace the kale with spinach, chard or coloured peppers. Really<br />

anything works.<br />

3 large potatoes<br />

1 sweet potato<br />

5 mushrooms<br />

1 onion<br />

3 cloves of garlic<br />

1 bunch of kale<br />

4 piece of bacon (optional)<br />

1 ⁄4 cup of oil<br />

1 Tbsp smoky paprika<br />

1 tsp thyme<br />

1 tsp oregano<br />

1 tsp salt and ground black pepper, to taste<br />

4 eggs<br />

Preheat the oven to 450˚F.<br />

Grate the potatoes, sweet potato and mushrooms. Dice the onion<br />

and garlic. Wash the kale and tear the leaves into bite-sized pieces.<br />

Chop the bacon, if using, into tiny pieces.<br />

Toss everything together with the olive oil. Add in the paprika,<br />

thyme, oregano, salt and pepper. Spread it out on a rimmed baking<br />

sheet.<br />

Bake for 20–30 minutes until everything is cooked and the potatoes<br />

are starting to brown. Toss halfway through to ensure even<br />

browning.<br />

Serve with eggs cooked in your favourite style.<br />

Baked Gnocchi<br />

(Prep time 10 minutes; bake time 20 minutes)<br />

The beauty of this meal is that the gnocchi doesn’t have to be boiled<br />

in advance. The roasted vegetables form the sauce for a delicious<br />

pasta dinner that doesn’t require any effort to prepare.<br />

20 cherry tomatoes<br />

1 red pepper<br />

1 yellow pepper<br />

1 small onion<br />

4 cloves of garlic<br />

1 package of uncooked potato gnocchi (500g)<br />

1⁄4 cup of olive oil<br />

1 ⁄2 tsp dried basil<br />

1⁄2 tsp dried oregano<br />

1⁄2 tsp salt<br />

Grated Parmesan cheese<br />

Preheat the oven to 400˚F.<br />

Slice the cherry tomatoes in half. Chop the coloured peppers into<br />

bite-sized pieces. Slice the onion into bite-sized pieces, and finely<br />

diced the garlic.<br />

Place the gnocchi and the vegetables into the centre of a rimmed<br />

baking sheet. Pour over the olive oil. Sprinkling on the herbs and<br />

salt. Toss everything so that it is fully coated, and spread it evenly<br />

over the baking sheet.<br />

Roast in the oven for 20–30 minutes, tossing once during the<br />

baking time.<br />

Serve with a bit more olive oil and freshly grated Parmesan<br />

cheese.<br />

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Cauliflower and Potatoes<br />

(Total time 25 minutes)<br />

Crispy baked potatoes and cauliflower are<br />

like a healthy version of fries. Serve this<br />

dinner with your favourite dipping sauces<br />

for a fun and veg-packed meal.<br />

6 to 8 Italian sausages or 2 packages of<br />

tempeh (about 400g total)<br />

2 potatoes<br />

1 sweet potato<br />

1 head of cauliflower<br />

2 Tbsp olive oil<br />

2 cloves of garlic<br />

1⁄2 tsp salt and black pepper, to taste<br />

Preheat the oven to 400˚F.<br />

Slice the sausages into 2cm thick<br />

rounds. Or for a vegan-friendly dinner,<br />

chop tempeh into 2cm cubes. You want<br />

them to be big enough to pick up and dip.<br />

Chop the potatoes and sweet potatoes<br />

into French fry sized sticks about 1 cm<br />

thick. You don’t want them too fat as they<br />

won’t cook quickly enough.<br />

Cut the cauliflower into 2-bite-sized<br />

florets. The stalk is also edible, so don’t<br />

waste it! Chop it into French fry-sized<br />

sticks.<br />

Toss everything, except the garlic onto a<br />

rimmed sheet pan. Drizzle with the olive oil<br />

and toss to combine. Pop it in the oven for<br />

20 minutes.<br />

Meanwhile, finely dice the garlic. After<br />

20 minutes, take the sheet pan out of<br />

the oven, toss everything and add the<br />

garlic, salt and pepper. Bake for another<br />

10 minutes. The dinner is ready when the<br />

vegetables are browning and the sausages<br />

are cooked through.<br />

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Emillie Parrish<br />

writes from Victoria and<br />

Saturna <strong>Island</strong>. She is<br />

the author of the Pacific<br />

Northwest lifestyle blog<br />

BerriesAndBarnacles.com.<br />

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Dealing with Differences<br />

As more and more individuals are vaccinated across the<br />

province, it can be easy to hope for things to return to<br />

normal soon so we can visit with friends, see our extended<br />

families, or go to the movies. However, some researchers<br />

are concerned that after living in our abnormal world for so<br />

long, we might struggle with some of the activities we are longing<br />

to do, like socializing with the people we like or interacting<br />

with others around us. If you’re noticing that your formerly<br />

social butterfly of a child is now a homebody that’s normal,<br />

and here are a few books that might help them relearn how to<br />

enjoy the outside world.<br />

The first one is Follow Your Breath! A First Book of Mindfulness<br />

by Scot Ritchie (Kids Can Press, 2020). As the title says,<br />

this book teaches children mindfulness strategies. It is beautifully<br />

illustrated and the activities the author suggests are all<br />

clearly explained so you can easily try them out for yourself.<br />

However, the actual story about the friends at a sleepover isn’t<br />

the most exciting or interesting, so if you are looking for a<br />

story that weaves mindfulness into the narrative this one isn’t<br />

for you. However, if you want a book that will teach you at a<br />

child-appropriate level what mindfulness looks like, that also<br />

gives you examples of what that may look like in your life, this<br />

book can be helpful. For ages 4 to 8.<br />

Another book for you to consider is Albert’s Quiet Quest<br />

by Isabelle Arsenault (Tundra, 2019), because while we want<br />

our children to enjoy others’ company, it’s also important for<br />

us to respect their desire to be alone and have some quiet time<br />

to help them cope with chaos. In this book, Albert is looking<br />

for a quiet place to read his book. He finds a nice peaceful<br />

corner outside and sets up a chair in front of a painting of a<br />

beach scene that has been thrown away. Unfortunately for<br />

him, no one else wants to be quiet. They all want to play, talk,<br />

and listen to music. And, they all want him to join in. The illustrations<br />

in this book are simple but stunning and they show<br />

Albert’s mind as it flips between his reality and the imaginary<br />

beach world he has created for himself. For ages 4 to 8.<br />

A third book for you to read is The Invisible Bear by Cécile<br />

Metzger (Tundra, 2020). Unlike in Albert’s Quest where Albert<br />

wants his world to conform to his wishes for quiet, the bear is<br />

uncomfortable in his quiet and colourless world. He feels like<br />

he has been forgotten and that he’s invisible. That all changes<br />

when Madame Odette moves in next door. Unlike the bear,<br />

Madame Odette lives in a world filled with colour and sound.<br />

But, since the bear has been surrounded by quiet for so long,<br />

he’s not really comfortable with the beautiful racket. As the<br />

two of them live side-by-side they both have to learn to live<br />

together and cherish the other ones silence or sounds. For ages<br />

4 to 8.<br />

Your House, My House by Marianne Dubuc (Kids Can Press,<br />

2020) is another book filled with detailed illustrations that<br />

can remind your children that not everyone lives like you. This<br />

book follows the story of Little Rabbit as he gets ready for his<br />

birthday party. But while the narrative only tells the story from<br />

Little Rabbit’s perspective, the illustrations show us what everyone<br />

in the apartment building is doing, from the mice triplets<br />

who are causing havoc, to Mr. Owl who just wants to nap, to<br />

Goldilocks who is looking for a good place to eat and sleep. As<br />

an added bonus, the story itself is easy enough that your emerging<br />

reader can read this book on their own, which is good because<br />

they might want to spend more time looking at each page<br />

than you are ready for. For ages 4 to 8.<br />

A final book for younger children that can remind them that<br />

not all families are like theirs is Peppa Pig and the Family Reunion<br />

(Candlewick, 2019). In this book Peppa’s extended fam-<br />

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ily comes over for a family reunion, and while they are there,<br />

Peppa discovers that in order for her baby cousin to sleep,<br />

his father needs to vacuum and his mother plays the trumpet,<br />

which makes for a very long and noisy night. For ages 2 to 4.<br />

If you and your children are struggling with getting along<br />

with others after spending so much time apart, I hope the lessons,<br />

illustrations, and stories within these books can help you<br />

because spending time with friends is amazing.<br />

Christina Van Starkenburg lives in<br />

Victoria with her husband, children and cat.<br />

She is the author of One Tiny Turtle: A Story You<br />

Can Colour and many articles. To read more<br />

of her work and learn about her upcoming<br />

books visit christinavanstarkenburg.com. Facebook:<br />

facebook.com/christinavanstarkenburg<br />

and Twitter: @Christina_VanS.<br />

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MOM’SPOV<br />


Creative<br />

Tech<br />

Summer me<br />

r Camps<br />

Video Game Design<br />

3D Animation<br />

Claymation<br />

App Design<br />

2D Animation<br />

Music and Video<br />

Production<br />

Thinking Putty<br />

I<br />

place my tray of tea on my side desk<br />

in my home office. All three kids are<br />

off to school on time (which is no<br />

easy feat). All parents deserve a reward<br />

for surviving the morning chaos (I mean<br />

routine). I sit down and tuck my rubberducky-slipper-feet<br />

under my desk. As I<br />

adjust my footing, my slipper sticks to<br />

my carpet. I pull and free my foot, but<br />

my slipper is glued to the carpet.<br />

Ugh. Found it!<br />

I have found my 7-year-old son’s Crazy<br />

Aarons Thinking Putty. It bounced into<br />

my office the day before.<br />

I thought he had already bounced it<br />

back out. I also thought that the putty<br />

wouldn’t end up being played with before<br />

falling asleep, but our strict “putty at the<br />

kitchen table only” rule was ignored.<br />

This thinking putty has thought its<br />

way onto my pillowcase, it has thought<br />

its way through two sheet sets and two<br />

numerous times while playing with it.<br />

I could handle the slime. My oldest<br />

daughter is the queen of making slime<br />

and even getting it out of fabric and carpet<br />

with contact solution or ice cubes. I<br />

can handle the kids making messes. We<br />

bake buns from scratch and we play with<br />

oobleck (cornstarch and water). However,<br />

this putty is different. It seems to<br />

embed itself and bond forever with our<br />

clothing and bedding.<br />

To figure out how to remove the putty,<br />

I visited the website. The solution: Isopropyl<br />

Alcohol 99%. It is poisonous and<br />

flammable and the instructions indicate<br />

that you “Apply full strength to affected<br />

areas and rub in.” The label suggests that<br />

it will provide temporary relief of muscle<br />

aches. In our age of natural oils and using<br />

the least harmful substances, there<br />

is no way I would rub a poisonous and<br />

flammable substance on my skin. So I put<br />

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bedspreads. It has thought its sparkly<br />

blue way onto numerous articles of clothing,<br />

into hair, and now onto carpet. I am<br />

about ready for it to think its way right<br />

out of our house.<br />

It’s called thinking putty because it<br />

is marketed to act as a fidgeting toy to<br />

help you think. It can help people focus<br />

and help people with anxiety. However, I<br />

think in my son’s case, it should be called<br />

“sleeping putty” as he has fallen asleep<br />

on my rubber gloves and I placed all the<br />

putty stained items in to the tub.<br />

I poured the rubbing alcohol on and<br />

then I used a butter knife to scrape the<br />

putty. The fumes were worse than cleaning<br />

up vomit. I think a facemask and a<br />

well-ventilated area should be required<br />

too. I aired out the house and turned on<br />

all our fans. Next, I soaked and rinsed<br />

the items in water numerous times.<br />

After the putty and alcohol smell dissi-<br />

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pated, I used some stain remover to try to remove the evidence<br />

of where the slime was. Next, I placed them in the wash with<br />

an extra rinse cycle. I air dried the items for a few hours and<br />

then I used a low setting on the dryer, while I crossed my fingers<br />

that the dryer and our house would not blow up.<br />

The clothing and all our appliances remained intact. I think<br />

the type of fabric and how long the putty sits on it influences<br />

the stain removal. Some items may need another round of stain<br />

removal and a wash yet. I think my white linen pillow will<br />

always have the putty outline. However, my office carpet only<br />

has a few sparkles left to lint roller off.<br />

Perhaps, the Easter bunny or Santa can bring us more putty<br />

after all. When the putty goes astray again, I’ll be prepared to<br />

remove it from unwanted surfaces.<br />


7” × 4.5” 03/31/21<br />

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Writer. She loves to write, travel and swim at the<br />

beach with family and friends.<br />

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Dream big.<br />

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Easter Eggsperiments<br />

Eggs aren’t just for breakfast…they can be fun and fascinating too! Try your hand at<br />

a few “eggs-periments” that highlight the unique properties of the amazing egg.<br />

The Spin Test<br />

Materials<br />

A raw egg. A hard-boiled or hard-cooked egg. A flat surface on<br />

which to spin.<br />

Whichever egg spins better (smoothly without wobbling) is<br />

the hard-boiled egg.<br />

For a neat variation, spin them both again then stop them.<br />

Quickly release them and watch the raw egg. It should continue<br />

moving even though the hard-boiled egg has completely<br />

stopped.<br />

Explanation. The yolk and white in a raw egg slosh around<br />

unevenly as it spins, making it impossible to spin it smoothly<br />

while the solid yolk and white in the hard-boiled egg enable the<br />

egg to spin smoothly.<br />

The raw egg will continue to move even after you have<br />

stopped it and then let go of it because the liquid inside is still<br />

moving around.<br />

Fun with Naked Eggs<br />

Method. Spin the raw egg and the hard-boiled egg at the same<br />

time on a large flat surface.<br />

Materials<br />

At least 2 naked eggs. 2 clear cups large enough to hold an egg plus<br />

some liquid. Corn syrup. Water. Food colouring. A spoon or ladle.<br />

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Summer Programs<br />



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the egg. A spoon or ladle.<br />

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the water and one shriveled and flabby egg in the corn syrup. Method. Place the egg in the container so that it does not touch<br />

the sides and add enough vinegar to cover the egg. You will<br />

Explanation. The membrane of the naked egg is selectively already see bubbles forming on the egg.<br />

permeable–it lets some molecules through and blocks others. Cover the container and put it in the fridge for 24 hours.<br />

Water (mixed with food colouring) moves through the membrane<br />

easily but bigger molecules (like sugar molecules in the vinegar being careful not to break it. Dump out the vinegar and<br />

After the 24 hours have elapsed, scoop the egg out of the<br />

corn syrup) don’t.<br />

cover the egg with fresh vinegar. Leave the egg in the fridge for<br />

In the corn syrup cup, the water molecules from the egg another 24 hours.<br />

white (which is 90 per cent water) have moved through the Scoop out the egg and rinse carefully. Throw away any broken<br />

eggs.<br />

membrane to the corn syrup (25 per cent water) causing the<br />

naked egg to shrivel and go limp.<br />

You should now have a translucent egg without a shell. It is<br />

being held together by its membrane which while flex if you<br />

squeeze it.<br />

From The Canada Agriculture and Food Museum and Ingenium. For more<br />

ideas, visit ingeniumcanada.org/online-resources-forscience-at-home.<br />

Explanation. The acetic acid in the vinegar breaks apart the<br />

calcium carbonate crystals that make up the egg shell into separate<br />

calcium and carbonate parts. The calcium parts float while<br />

the carbonate makes the bubbles that you see.<br />

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v Comprehensive programs for<br />

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v Delivering academic excellence through<br />

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• Licensed programs, for children 3–5 years<br />

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Growing a Self<br />

It can be a shock when our children start<br />

asserting themselves as they struggle to<br />

become independent. A child who was<br />

sweet and cooperative one day can suddenly<br />

become downright defiant, resistant and<br />

even aggressive the next. And just when we<br />

think they have had enough of us, they seek<br />

comfort and reassurance.<br />

Maturing is not a one-way street. Kids<br />

need permission to individuate, and they<br />

need a sense of love and belonging, no<br />

matter how prickly they get along the way.<br />

When kids resist doing anything you<br />

want them to do, like getting in the car<br />

seat, eating a meal or just having a conversation,<br />

chances are, they are going<br />

through the struggle for independence.<br />

The one day you are in a hurry, the threeyear-old<br />

will insist on putting on their<br />

shoes. “I can do it myself!” And heaven<br />

help you if you suggest your child do<br />

something. “I was just going to do that<br />

until you asked!”<br />

Hold on to your heart when you go to<br />

hug your teen, and they pull away with<br />

that blank look. Ouch! They seem so allergic<br />

to you. “My friends are the only<br />

cool people!”<br />

Behind this stage is the need for autonomy<br />

and independence. Stifling this<br />

need interferes with the development of<br />

your child’s ability to differentiate. A<br />

high degree of differentiation contributes<br />

to healthy adult relationships and good<br />

boundaries. They can hear no and say<br />

no. They don’t sacrifice themselves to<br />

fit in and are less concerned about what<br />

people think of them.<br />

Emotional maturity provides calm<br />

thoughtfulness that can be brought to life<br />

and relationship problems.<br />

When you dig underneath the difficulties<br />

and see what is going on, you will be<br />

more likely to respond with emotional<br />

maturity yourself. Less intensity of feeling<br />

and finding your calmness will allow<br />

you to love and let go.<br />

What to do:<br />

• Minimize your rules and stick to the<br />

ones that matter.<br />

• Give them more choices and say less.<br />

• Reflect their feelings of frustration<br />

and their need for independence.<br />

• In the heat of the moment, breathe<br />

and deal with things later.<br />

• Ignore the verbal flack; correcting<br />

it doesn’t work; it only feeds a negative<br />

loop.<br />

• See this as a stage rather than a character<br />

flaw; it really will pass.<br />

• Don’t take things so seriously; a little<br />

humour can help.<br />

Dr. Allison Rees is a parent<br />

educator, counsellor and coach at<br />

LIFE Seminars (Living in Families<br />

Effectively), lifeseminars.com.<br />


APR 16, <strong>2021</strong> – JAN 9, 2022<br />


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