13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do_ Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success ( PDFDrive )

associated with increased pain tolerance.
• Unconditional forgiveness can help you to live longer. A 2012 study
published in the Journal of Behavioral Medicine discovered that when people
were only willing to forgive others under certain conditions—like the other
person apologized or promised to never repeat the same behavior—their risk
of dying early actually increased. You don’t have any control over whether
someone will apologize. Waiting to forgive people until they say they’re
sorry gives them control over not just your life, but perhaps even your death.
TROUBLESHOOTING AND COMMON TRAPS
Monitor your personal power and look for ways in which you are voluntarily
giving it away. It takes hard work, but increasing your mental strength requires
you to retain every ounce of personal power for yourself.
WHAT’S HELPFUL
Using language that acknowledges your choice such as, “I’m choosing
to . . .”
Setting healthy emotional and physical boundaries with people
Behaving proactively by making conscious choices about how you’ll
respond to others
Taking full responsibility for how you choose to spend your time and
energy
Choosing to forgive individuals regardless of whether they seek to make
amends
Willingness to examine feedback and criticism without jumping to
conclusions