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Coping with loneliness
You may feel as though the person who died has
left a big hole in your life, and this can leave you
feeling lonely, especially if you spent a lot of your
time with them.
Something that might help: Make the most of
opportunities to spend time with other people and
keep in touch with friends and family.
Find someone to talk to
If you’ve not been feeling yourself since the
bereavement, there’s support available. Cruse
Bereavement Care can offer practical advice or
just someone to chat to about how you’re feeling
– phone 0844477 9400
How do I manage if I’m feeling so tired and
drained?
You may find that you experience physical
changes after bereavement. These can include:
difficulty getting to sleep
vivid dreams
long periods of wakefulness
loss of appetite
feeling tense and short of breath, or
edgy and restless
feeling slow and lethargic.
You’re likely to feel exhausted, especially if you
were caring for the person who died or if you went
through an anxious time before their death. Strong
emotions and dealing with all the practical things
that need to be done after a death can also leave
you tired and drained.
Something that might help: Take extra care of
yourself – try to eat well and get some rest even if
you can’t sleep. Take gentle exercise if you can. Be
kind to yourself – don’t try to do too much while
you’re grieving.
In addition to the strong emotions that you
may feel after a bereavement, you may also be
worrying about practical issues, such as how
to manage on a smaller income and handle
household tasks. Find out if you can get any
bereavement benefits to give you some extra
money. See if you are eligible to claim anything
which could boost your income.
If a child has lost someone
Talk about the person who has died
During bereavement, it can help a child to talk
about the person who’s died, whether it was a
grandparent, parent, brother, sister or friend.
Direct, honest and open communication is
more helpful than trying to protect your child by
hiding the truth. If you exclude them from family
ceremonies and services after someone has died
it could make them feel excluded.
This can also help your child be open about their
own feelings and avoid confusion about what has
happened. It may be helpful to talk as a family,
perhaps with your child, about how to include
them in any events that celebrate or say goodbye
to the person who has died.
It’s important for them to have someone with
whom they can talk about that person and share
their emotions. This could be through photos,
games, memory boxes or stories.
Over time, children may start to talk more about
their loss at different times and in different ways.
Young children may start talking about death or
including it in their play, but this is normal and
is a way for them to make sense of what has
happened.
Further support for your child
Child Bereavement UK – call 0800 028 8840
Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm,
or email support@childbereavement.org
Cruse Bereavement Care – call 0808 808 1677
Monday and Friday, 9.30am to 5pm, and Tuesday,
Wednesday and Thursday 9.30am to 8pm,
or email info@cruse.org.uk
Grief Encounter – call 0808 802 0111
Monday to Friday, 9am to 9pm,
or email contact@griefencounter.org.uk
Hope Again – call 0808 808 1677
Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 5pm,
or email hopeagain@cruse.org.uk
Winston’s Wish – call 0808 802 0021
Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm,
or email info@winstonswish.org
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