A Review of the Literature on Three Types of Disenfranchised Grief ...
A Review of the Literature on Three Types of Disenfranchised Grief ...
A Review of the Literature on Three Types of Disenfranchised Grief ...
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guilty-guilty about <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> divorce, <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> death. Maybe he would still be alive if I hadn't thrown him<br />
out" (p. 444).<br />
<strong>Grief</strong> over <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> death <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> a f<strong>on</strong>ner spouse is very comm<strong>on</strong> but appears to be generally less<br />
severe than grief over o<str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>r significant losses. Scott (2000) asserted that this is likely because<br />
<str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> pers<strong>on</strong> has already had a chance to begin grieving <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> loss <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> relati<strong>on</strong>ship. Because<br />
surviving ex-spouses <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g>ten feel insecure and c<strong>on</strong>fused by <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>ir c<strong>on</strong>flicting emoti<strong>on</strong>s, it is<br />
important for <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>m to be assured that <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>ir reacti<strong>on</strong> is normal c<strong>on</strong>sidering <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>y have lost a very<br />
significant pers<strong>on</strong> in <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>ir life history (Scott, 2000).<br />
Evidence <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> Disenfranchisement<br />
The grief <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> bereaved ex-spouses is frequently disenfranchised. This instance <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
disenfranchisement falls into Doka's (2002) first category- <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> grief experience is<br />
disenfranchised because <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> relati<strong>on</strong>ship is not recognized as being socially signifi,cant. The<br />
reas<strong>on</strong> <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> relati<strong>on</strong>ship between former spouses is not valued or recognized is because <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
decisi<strong>on</strong> to divorce is more or less voluntary, and because ex-spouses are no l<strong>on</strong>ger a part <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> <strong>on</strong>e<br />
ano<str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>r's immediate family.<br />
As is true with o<str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>r types <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> losses, more than <strong>on</strong>e <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> Doka's (2002) five typologies <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
disenfranchised grief may apply to bereaved ex-spouses. On a general level, <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> grief <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> ex<br />
spouses is disenfranchised because <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> significance <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> relati<strong>on</strong>ship is not recognized.<br />
However it is also possible for o<str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g>r sources <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> disenfranchisement to exist as well. For<br />
example, if <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> deceased ex-spouse was murdered or committed suicide (circumstances <str<strong>on</strong>g>of</str<strong>on</strong>g> death),<br />
if <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> surviving ex-spouse is mentally ill (griever excluded), or if <str<strong>on</strong>g>the</str<strong>on</strong>g> surviving ex-spouse grieves<br />
in ways deemed socially unacceptable (ways individuals grieve).<br />
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