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e provided only by positive acti'on out of
absolute necessity for the welfare of
those involved.
We need statistics showing how many
bi rthparents were tal ked into surrender
for the 'we1 fare of the chi 1 dl. We need
research on the' results of bi rthparent
Contact. And studies on what professionals
are doing to continue the 'welfare' of
the adoptee. I would 1 i ke to see more
professionals attending AAC gatherings to
learn more about the pain of surrender,
the healing of reality and to understand
that there is a difference between children
adopted and children birthed AND that difference
is good!
Q 1,979 Bonnie Frank, B.S., R.N. She is
director and co-founder of Adoptive Parents
For Open Records and Western AAC 1980 Conference
Coordinator. Bonnie is both an
adoptive mother and a bi rthrnother.
NATURE BRINGS US TOGETHER
Here I was, a guest at a great' convocation
of whales. I knew I would never see this
again. I stayed with the whales all day,
and watched them herd salmon, fight, nurse
their young and mate. At the .end of the
day, when the water became flat and the
sun red, I was treated to a spectac;le of
nature I wi 11 never forget. The whales
started jumping out of the water, first
one anui then another, then a dozen, then a
score. Walking on their tails, flopping
on their backs, rolling, splashing.and
showing off for each other. They were
cel ebrating!
Later, art the University, I learned that
I had attended the annual rendevouz of the
ki ller whales. No. one knows why the come
together, and I suppose it doesn't matterthey
do it.
Gle humans need to come -together too. Perhaps
we need to reaffirm that there are
others just like us. But being human we
are driven to construct some purpose,
some goal for our rendevouz, so we make
speeches, have workshops, and promise to
try harder next year.. . . .and in the morning
we are gone.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that we
came together because we needed to and
while all the hard work, onganibzing and
resoltuions will eventually bear fruit
and allow us to be more effective, the
most important thing is done. We came
together. We gathered strength from each
other, reaffirmed the justness of our
cause, made friends, put aside our fears
and shared our experience. But 1 i ke the
whales, we return to our small groups
and work each day in our own way.
When I returned from Washington, D.C. I
took a week to cruise and fish the San
Juan Islands, which are north of Seattle
'
and border on Canada. At sunrise on the
4th day I saw a half dozen black fins
I coming towards me. Killer whales are
usually friendly but they spoil the salmon
fishing. So, I started my engines
. Eddie Rizk was 1978-79 Western Regional
AAC Director, is on the doard of Directors
and prepared to leave. Then I real ized of WARM in Seattle, Washington, and the
that there were more than just a half- Advisory Council of Triadoption Library.
He is president of CardioKinetics.
dozen whales, there were perhaps hundreds!
Bulls, cows and calves, their black fins
higher than my gunwater. For a few moments
I was seized by fear. My sturdy
boat seemed suddenly frail. You see,
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killer whales usually travel in small
I herds or 'pods' and the largest pod ever unite"
reported in this area had only 45 animals.
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"One must be able both to separate and
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