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nature than the others did. He wrote a letter something like this:Our factory has recently completed a new line of X-ray equipment. The first shipment ofthese machines has just arrived at our office. They are not perfect. We know that, and wewant to improve them. So we should be deeply obligated to you if you could find time tolook them over and give us your ideas about how they can be made more serviceable toyour profession. Knowing how occupied you are, I shall be glad to send my car for you atany hour you specify."I was surprised to get that letter,” Dr. L ---- said as he related the incident before theclass. “I was both surprised and complimented. I had never had an X-ray manufacturerseeking my advice before. It made me feel important. I was busy every night that week,but I canceled a dinner appointment in order to look over the equipment. The more Istudied it, the more I discovered for myself how much I liked it.“Nobody had tried to sell it to me. I felt that the idea of buying that equipment for thehospital was my own. I sold myself on its superior qualities and ordered it installed.”Ralph Waldo Emerson in his essay “Self-Reliance” stated: “In every work of genius werecognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienatedmajesty.”Colonel Edward M. House wielded an enormous influence in national and internationalaffairs while Woodrow Wilson occupied the White House. Wilson leaned upon ColonelHouse for secret counsel and advice more than he did upon even members of his owncabinet.What method did the Colonel use in influencing the President? Fortunately, we know, forHouse himself revealed it to Arthur D. Howden Smith, and Smith quoted House in anarticle in The Saturday Evening Post." ‘After I got to know the President,’ House said, ‘I learned the best way to convert himto an idea was to plant it in his mind casually, but so as to interest him in it - so as to gethim thinking about it on his own account. The first time this worked it was an accident. Ihad been visiting him at the White House and urged a policy on him that he appeared todisapprove. But several days later, at the dinner table, I was amazed to hear him trot outmy suggestion as his own.’ "Did House interrupt him and say, “That’s not your idea. That’s mine”? Oh, no. NotHouse. He was too adroit for that. He didn’t care about credit. He wanted results. So helet Wilson continue to feel that the idea was his. House did even more than that. He gaveWilson public credit for these ideas.Let’s remember that everyone we come in contact with is just as human as WoodrowWilson. So let’s use Colonel House’s technique.! ""(!