UR IT Magazine February 2016

The
Unwanted
Good:
Ideally, when a woman is asked
to list top qualities that she
looks for in a man, intelligence,
kindness, loyalty, and sensitivity
will surface. On the contrary
though, these women will still
date and possibly marry men
possessing only 1% of their
desired traits.
Why Women
Are Not Interested
in Nice Guys
“ One is therefore left
wondering, why are
these good men bad? ”
We explore a few of
the reasons...
They Are Peacocks
The biggest problem about nice
guys is their annoying habit of
struggling to announce to every
girl that they are the best catch.
Women who have high self-esteem
and are looking to settle down
have left nice men, citing
bragging as their turn-off.
Confusingly though, when a
bad boy does this, it is seen
as attractive arrogance but
utterly unacceptable coming
from a nice guy. It seems part
of being nice is not blowing
one’s trumpet.
Women Need A
Mystery To Solve
Nice guys basically bare it
all for the woman, leaving
nothing mysterious for her
to dig. Simply listening
and showing interest in
what a woman says, is an
admirable quality. But
truth is, it only earns the
good guys a few brownie
points. This is a system that
a woman uses to calculate
how attractive a man is. The
more you earn, the more
she is driven towards falling
for you. Unfortunately
for these men, the juicy
part of this ‘interview’
is nonexistent because they
tend to do everything that the
woman wants. No drama, no love.
They Completely Forget The
Sexual Side
By virtue of being male and
female, the role of sex in such
relationships can never be
overemphasized. As a matter of
fact, for a relationship to happen
and be successful, there has to be
emotional and sexual attraction.
Nice guys are of the school of
thought that believes sex is
dehumanizing to humans, and tend
to be very shallow and shy on these
matters. To them, sex is a matter of
procreation and sexual chemistry
or vulgarity does not exist in their
world. This aspect sends even the
most innocent women running
into the open sexual arms of the
bad boy.
They Seem Hypocritical
No matter how deeply in love you
are, bad days are inevitable. Nice
guys will pretend to have a blast
even when the days are grim.
They do not show or share their
emotions leaving the woman
confused and bored. Have you
heard of women whom after a
problem with their partners, wish
that they saw a more aggressive
reaction? Sounds odd, but that’s
just women.
Doormats Are Not Sexy
As much as feminist campaigns
fight for people to cease calling
women the weaker sex, men
will still be viewed as the heads
of their homes. No woman
would really want a man who
agrees with everything she says.
The first and most important
reason she is in a relationship
is to have someone to discuss
pertinent matters with. Not
a clueless doormat! Women
seek their men’s opinions
for insight, not necessarily a
guaranteed ‘okay’. Otherwise,
women would just be single.
As seen nice guys are facing
fierce competition from bad
guys. Encouragingly though,
as much as these men finish
last, they finish best. This type
of men is trainable and can be
molded into what the woman
needs from a real man, as
opposed to the all-knowing,
self-sufficient macho man.
Article by: Vivian Achieng
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