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Friendship - by Julia Meanwell<br />
Remember that the most valuable antiques are dear old<br />
friends. H Jackson brown Jnr.<br />
Good friends may help your life last longer<br />
according to an Australian study. Conducted by the<br />
Centre for Ageing Studies at Flinders University,<br />
the study followed nearly 1,500 older people for<br />
10 years. It found that those who had a large<br />
network of friends outlived those with the fewest<br />
friends by 22%. The companionship provided<br />
by friends may ward off depression, boost selfesteem,<br />
and provide support. Interestingly they<br />
found that close relationships with children and<br />
relatives had almost no effect on longevity.<br />
The word ‘friend’ as defined in the dictionary is<br />
‘a person with whom one has a bond of mutual<br />
affection, somebody who trusts and is fond<br />
of another, an ally or somebody who is not an<br />
enemy’. Unless you are reclusive you are likely<br />
to make many friends throughout your life but<br />
would you easily recognise a ‘frenemy’ that does<br />
more harm than good especially if you have been<br />
friends for countless years<br />
Do you find yourself involved in your friend’s<br />
constant dramas with them urging you to help<br />
them fix their problems a lot of the time? Toxic<br />
friendships are not good for our mental health and<br />
wellbeing; they can also be emotionally draining.<br />
How would you describe your friends? Are they<br />
supportive and caring; is it a good quality<br />
Local counsellor Julia Meanwell,<br />
has been in practice for over<br />
20 years, she has a wealth<br />
of experience, empathy and<br />
understanding to offer clients.<br />
Julia began her counselling<br />
career as a relationship<br />
counsellor with Relate which<br />
incorporated working in<br />
television and radio.<br />
relationship with a balance of give and take?<br />
Can you trust and rely upon their support<br />
during times of trouble? Or, conversely, are they<br />
manipulative, unreliable and demanding? If it’s<br />
the latter and the relationship is unlikely to get<br />
better then ending the friendship is really the only<br />
option. Consider it an act of self-preservation by<br />
protecting yourself from the harmful impact of<br />
their negative behaviour.<br />
Maintaining and developing friendships takes<br />
quite a bit of effort but quality can be so much<br />
more valuable than quantity. Surround yourself<br />
with genuinely supportive friends that enhance<br />
your life and well-being and the long-term<br />
investment will pay dividends!<br />
If you would like to find out more about the<br />
counselling Julia offers then please take a look at<br />
her website juliameanwellcounselling.co.uk She<br />
can be contacted by email Julia.meanwell@gmail.<br />
com or give her a call on 07714 280083.<br />
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