Testimonies for the Church, Volume 2 - Ellen G. White

you were not happy. Your wife has been
disappointed, and you have been disappointed.
Your wife expected to find in you a person of more
noble, refined organization. She has been very
unhappy. She has a large amount of pride. Her
family connections upon her mother's side are
naturally conscientious, yet proud and aristocratic.
She partakes largely of these traits of character.
She is not demonstrative. It is not natural for her to
make advances and manifest affection. She looks
upon the manifestation of affection between
husband and wife as weak and childish. She has
felt that if she encouraged affection, it would not
be answered by fine, elevated love, but by the
lower order of passions; that these would be
strengthened, but not pure, deep, holy love.
Your wife should make strong efforts to come
out of her retired, dignified reserve, and cultivate
simplicity in all her actions. And when the higher
order of faculties is aroused in you, and
strengthened by exercise, you will better
understand the wants of women; you will
understand that the soul craves love of a higher,
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