Testimonies for the Church, Volume 2 - Ellen G. White

As Sister F has seen a selfish spirit manifest in
deal, she has committed a greater sin by feeling
and talking in regard to the matter as she has. She
has erred in expecting too much. The tongue has
been truly an unruly member, a world of iniquity,
set on fire of hell, untamed and untamable. Sister F
has had a spirit of retaliation, manifesting by her
deportment that she was offended. This was all
wrong. She has cherished bitter feelings, which are
foreign to the spirit of Christ. Anger, resentment,
and all kinds of unkind tempers are indulged by
speaking against those with whom we are
displeased, and by reciting the errors and failings
and sins of neighbors. The lustful desires are
gratified.
Sister F, if you are grieved because your
neighbors or friends are doing wrong to their own
hurt, if they are overtaken in fault, follow the Bible
rule. "Tell him his fault between thee and him
alone." As you go to the one you suppose to be in
error, see that you speak in a meek and lowly spirit;
for the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness
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