Testimonies for the Church, Volume 2 - Ellen G. White

of healing. Wherever you can yield your judgment
and not sacrifice the principles of truth, it is best
for you to do so, even if you think you are right.
You have a responsibility, an identity, which
cannot be merged in your husband. Yet there is a
bond which makes you one, and in many things, if
you were more yielding, it would be far better for
your husband, your children, and yourself. You are
too exacting. You do not seek to win those who
differ with you. You are quick to discern when you
have the advantage, and you make the most of it. If
you possessed more forbearance mingled with
sweet love, and if you should for Christ's sake pass
over many things without taking them up and
pressing them home, thus creating uncomfortable
feelings, the influence would be better, more
saving. You need love, tender pity, and affection.
You see the truth, and then you mark out how
this one and that one should practice it; and if they
fail to come up to the mark you set, you feel to
draw off from them. You cannot fellowship them,
and love dies out of your heart for them, when in
reality they are just as near right as you are. You
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