INSPIRATION “A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life to be thankful for a good one.” Elizabeth Taylor & Mae West By Angela Mutiso, cananews@gmail.com TRAITS THAT MAKE MEN APPEALING 46 SEPTEMBER - OCTOBER <strong>2016</strong>
INSPIRATION What would your character and status be if you did more to enhance your appearance? If you were to make a few necessary changes in the way you look, talk and behave, starting today, you may surprise yourself; because people will respect you more and treat you differently. How for example would well dressed smiling staff with integrity change the reputation of an organization? No man is faultless, but there is so much you can do to become a better person. <strong>The</strong> Guardian newspaper, writing on jobs once reported that “Attractive applicants also have a better chance of getting better-paid jobs. And it’s hardly surprising that one survey claimed workers spend a fifth of their salary trying to look good in the office, believing that image is increasingly important to their career.” Indeed some companies have have to make him more attractive. <strong>The</strong>y believe he should have: a high self esteem, and that he should go for what he wants, he should always take the initiative to do things, he should appear like a leader, and pay attention to detail. He should be adaptable, compassionate and full of humor. Women look for men who look like they can be good fathers, are properly groomed, balanced, respectful, courageous have good friends and are organized. A man is more appealing when he is honest, clean, humble, knows how to budget well, and take success in his stride. Someone who cares for his family, spends time with them and avoids confrontation at all costs will be appreciated by many. Women admire men who are morally upright, flexible, and tolerant and eager to learn, pray, read and are confident. <strong>The</strong>se qualities, or at least most of them can sell a man well. Integrity is stressed as one of the suspected their integrity might still be at risk. Interestingly, most participants were able to find one or more customary activities in which their integrity was indeed compromised. However, once the participants evaluated the rewards and risks associated with compromising their integrity, they consistently concluded that the inevitable, long-term negative results overshadowed the appeal of the shortterm gains. Without a doubt, integrity is directly related to producing consistent, long-term effectiveness and positive results. Speaking further on integrity, Koslow advises; always keep your word. If a change in circumstances means that keeping your world would be life threatening or otherwise devastating, renegotiate with the intent of maintaining your integrity. He also points out that highly effective people never blame circumstances for their lack of results. Instead, they accept responsibility and recommit to the In Kenya, more and more men are visiting salons. <strong>The</strong>y require services such as manicure, pedicure and facials. <strong>The</strong>y also go for haircuts (highest demand) for wet shaving, hair dye, Rasta, tattoos, massaging and waxing among others. been known to stress that a good physical appearance for job applicants is an added advantage. Good looks do not necessarily mean your physical attributes. <strong>The</strong>re are many things you can do to make yourself more presentable, more disarming and more influential. Men have actually been responding to this challenge, and are increasingly visiting beauty parlors and communication classes to change a few things. According to a recent research, men currently make up only 5-10% of the clientele of beauty salons. But this is changing rapidly and salon owners are working hard to make their salons attract and accommodate men. What makes a man look good? While no one can ever be tailor made for anyone, <strong>The</strong>re are a few qualities that most people feel a man should most important attributes a man should have. In his book 365 ways to become a millionaire (without being born one) Brian Koslow narrates that he was presenting a seminar on the subject of integrity to a group of professionals. It was remarkable to learn how many different interpretations there could be for one word; perhaps most fascinating were the many personal reactions that were brought out in each participant. This hot topic had all of the attendees assessing their own integrity-which is about personal wholeness, consistency, authenticity, and commitment to values and principles- in all of their daily interactions and activities. He explains that in one of the exercises, they asked the participants to write down instances, in which they felt they might have compromised their integrity in the past, in which they actions necessary to produce the intended results. Confidence is another valuable quality. According to good guys swag (founded by Kris Wolfe) confidence is important to women because it demonstrates a man’s inner strength. Manly confidence emanates a feeling of trust and safety which for women is extremely important. It suggests five practical steps every man can take to grow into a truly confident man. Briefly: Find Your Identity Finding your identity is one of the biggest keys to becoming a confident man. If you don’t really know who you are, how can you trust yourself? It’s impossible to rely confidently on something that is ambiguous or undefined. If you don’t know who you are it’s only logical you won’t have. SEPTEMBER - OCTOBER <strong>2016</strong> 47
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