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Examples of Holding Patterns<br />
Holding Patterns are a common part of the human experience and at some point in our<br />
lives we can find ourselves in the midst of a holding pattern usually as a result of an<br />
unexpected life event. Holding patterns can leave you feeling overwhelmed, lost without<br />
direction, defeated, and emotionally, financially, and mentally “stuck.” For example, in<br />
2009, I unexpectedly found myself facing Divorce, Unemployment, Foreclosure, and<br />
Health Challenges-all at the same time. These unexpected life events left me feeling<br />
overwhelmed, full of questions, and yes, “stuck.” Time stood still for me and I had no<br />
idea what to do next. I mean, what do we do when we find ourselves in the midst of a<br />
holding pattern?<br />
Divorce<br />
Over 50% of marriages end in divorce in America and unfortunately mine did as well.<br />
I know firsthand the heartbreak of a divorce. I found myself devastated, emotionally<br />
drained, overwhelmed, and alone. My family would no longer look the same. Feeling<br />
like a failure, I found myself “stuck,” with no direction-in a holding pattern.<br />
My holding pattern consisted of not knowing what was next for me. I struggled with the<br />
unknown; would I recover from heartbreak? What would happen to my kids? Would I<br />
ever heal? Would I ever love again? I was numb, unmotivated, and emotionally<br />
devastated.<br />
Unemployment<br />
During my divorce I unexpectedly found myself unemployed. I lost the position I had<br />
held for over four years in a field I worked in for almost 10 years. I enjoyed what I was<br />
doing and I helped many people over the years. I like millions of Americans during one<br />
of the highest unemployment rates America had ever seen found myself in long<br />
unemployment lines, rewriting my resume, going to interviews, wondering what I was<br />
going to do next.<br />
I once again found myself in another holding pattern that consisted of “not knowing,”<br />
asking, when I was going to work again? Wondering how I was going to pay the bills?<br />
Wondering if all the time and money I had invested in educating myself was worth it?
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