Sahiyo Communication Guide

coupled with more tentative statements like
“I wonder if you’re feeling…?” or
“Did I get that right?”
This helps people to name what they are experiencing, invites them to
correct your understanding, and conveys your sincere interest in what they
have to say. When you reflect back the language that people use to describe
their own experience, you meet them on their own ground.
Some FGC-related words to keep in mind as you listen to someone’s specific
language include how they refer to FGC – “khatna,” “FGM”, “FGC”,
“female circumcision”, “procedure”. Using the same words as the speaker
lets her know that you respect her point of view, even if it’s not your own.
c) Validate personal experiences:
Stigma and trauma can often make people feel like they are alone, or that
they are the only ones feeling that way. When you initially listen to their
stories, it is not the time to engage in a political fight or an academic
argument. Whether it is a woman sharing her experience of khatna or
someone who states that khatna must be done for religious reasons, help
the person feel heard, without judgement. You can share your views at a
later stage.
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