Ashburton Courier: September 16, 2021
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Remembrance time<br />
The death of alovedone is<br />
unwelcome but certain to come<br />
at somepoint in our life,former<br />
<strong>Ashburton</strong>ian Trish<br />
Summerfield says.<br />
It’s atopic people often do not<br />
like to talk aboutand may even<br />
avoid so whenwethey find<br />
themselves in such asituation, it<br />
can make them feel illequipped<br />
to move through it.<br />
Ms Summerfield is aformer<br />
Canterbury teacherwho has<br />
spent thepast 23 yearsliving in<br />
Saigon,Vietnam. She is a<br />
volunteer trainer for an Inner<br />
Space Centre teaching selfempowermentskills<br />
and<br />
meditation.<br />
Shehas volunteeredina<br />
programme to strengthen selfesteem<br />
and empowerment for<br />
young people in recovery from<br />
drugs,and workedintelevision<br />
and also wrote aseries of over<br />
200 programmes on life skills<br />
and values educationfor youth<br />
and parents.<br />
‘‘Understanding(death) and<br />
understanding how we can make<br />
it the best that it can be,<br />
enormouslyhelps us, our<br />
children, our family, the<br />
atmosphere in the family and<br />
also the one that has passed on<br />
themselves,’’ she said.<br />
While many people may have<br />
their ownwisdom on how bestto<br />
respond, Ms Summerfield said<br />
physical events impact on the<br />
mindandbody and can cause<br />
health issues.<br />
‘‘When we hear very difficult<br />
news, we can tendhold the<br />
emotions we feel at that timein<br />
our body. It is importantto<br />
becomeaware of this, release<br />
theseemotionsand relax our<br />
muscles so that it does notbuild<br />
up into painand longterm<br />
muscleknotting along with other<br />
negative health consequences,’’<br />
she said.<br />
Acknowledgingadeath,<br />
accepting the losshowever<br />
painful, and honouringthe life<br />
lost were amongsomeofthe<br />
processes to undertake.<br />
Although thepassing is an<br />
unwanted event, Ms<br />
Summerfield encouragedpeople<br />
to take afew minutes to sit, take<br />
someslow deep measured<br />
breaths,and acknowledge that<br />
the passing of aloved one is<br />
incredibly challenging timeand<br />
can cause the bottling or holding<br />
of emotions.<br />
‘‘Acceptance doesnot mean<br />
that Iagreewith what has<br />
happened. No, Ideeply wishthis<br />
person was still with me<br />
Trish Summerfield<br />
physically,yet acceptance<br />
meansthat Iacknowledgethe<br />
realitythat they havepassed on,<br />
and not to spend energy and<br />
thoughts in fighting whathas<br />
alreadyhappened andwhat is<br />
beyond my control,’’ she said.<br />
‘‘Acceptance allows me to use<br />
my energyconstructively to<br />
make thevery bestofthis<br />
difficult time.’’<br />
Honouringalife andthe<br />
contribution made to ones life<br />
can take many forms, Ms<br />
Summerfield said.<br />
‘‘Somemonths before my<br />
father passedon, Iwrote to him<br />
on the occasionof“Father’s<br />
Day” and shared many storiesof<br />
things he haddonewhile Iwas<br />
growingupand howIlearnedso<br />
many positive lessons fromhis<br />
generosity, courage,<br />
determination etc. that Ihave<br />
carriedforward into my life.<br />
‘‘Ittouchedhim deeply. My<br />
siblings at that timewere also<br />
touched by the letter.After he<br />
passed on severalof themwrote<br />
touching cards and others<br />
sharedbeautifulstories of how<br />
he had inspiredthem and so his<br />
life wastrulyhonoured in a<br />
beautiful way.’’<br />
Thethoughts of people were<br />
amazing things, not limited to<br />
space or time, shesaid.<br />
‘‘We have all had the<br />
experienceofthinking about<br />
someoneclose to us whowas far<br />
away physically and then that<br />
person callingus or writing to us<br />
ashorttime later.And,webegin<br />
the conversation by saying,“I<br />
was just thinking of you!”<br />
‘‘Thisisthe power of our<br />
thoughts andtheir vibrations to<br />
connect withthose close to us.<br />
Understandingand knowing the<br />
power of thoughts, especially<br />
those withlove and<br />
appreciation, will reach them<br />
and help ease theirjourney and<br />
as aremembrancedealing with<br />
grief.’’<br />
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