Glamsquad Magazine May 2021

FEATURE
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Failure is a Myth
Rooted in the Origin
of Nothingness
By Bose Panama
“We are all terrified of failing. But we mostly fear things because
we didn’t take the time to unpack what those fears were.” TL; DR:
Failure is familiar territory for
everyone. We have all either
failed numerous times or
helplessly watched as others
fail around us. It could be that
cousin, sister, neighbour, friends,
family who just suffered failure at
something so tangible to them
now, but that thing turned out to be
intangible and incongruous later.
Yet you watch them fret
endlessly and watch countless
reliving of the pain and suffering,
which is often palpable.
Often, failure comes through
heartbreak, loss or grief, either from
relationship breakdown, eviction,
homelessness, abandonment,
unemployment or even death.
The endless anxiety and how
we often keep ourselves awake
all night bereft with worry thoughts
that don’t help but exacerbate
the trajectory of our knotted
frustrations. ‘require us to let go of
the thoughts that don’t make us
strong.’
We all do the same when failure
stares menacingly from a blurred
vision; we end up keeping ourselves
awake all night nonstop worrying
about the outcome of our failures.’’
We took years off of our life and put
ourselves in horrible places mentally
and physically.’’
The important thing we need to
know is that: Failure is so transient,
always having a false crutch even
its grip on us is not or will never be
firm because at every juncture of
failure, we are at the crossroad of
thoughtful anxiety, confusion and
chaos sometimes embedded in it is
frustration.
At the end of our journey down
the abyss, we learn something
poignant, and that is, failure is
nothing; Failure is like the origin of
zero. It fades into nothingness, and
we can sigh with relief several years
down the line and say out loud,’’
And you know what we learned
in the end? It generally didn’t
matter.’’Yessssss imagine finding out
eventually that failure is nothing and
that failure will pass and this failure
now will mean nothing later
Our “fear of failure” took over
our grip on reality, and we inevitably
envisioned it as poison or wound
translating into a ripple effect that
was worse than the actual failure;
We think Failure is worse than the
actuality of the failure itself’. Adele
failed at her relationship so much,
so she was so grief-stricken crying
out in distress ‘ ‘never mind; I will find
someone like you was her plea. Oh
no, you certainly ‘don’t want a jerk
like you should have been the title
of her lyric. Nonetheless, her debut
sold 300 million, translating her to
the Matriach of broken hearts. If
I approach Adele now and say
in the same circumstances will
you sing’ unbreak my heart say
you love me again’ instead? She
will scoff in my face because her
failure or failed relationship earned
her a billion at the bank. Her single
was the fastest in the annals of
history, knocking down Michael
Jackson, even Whitney Houston
Saving, all my love for you, paled
into insignificance, eh? Failure
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