The Porn Circuit | Covenant Eyes Internet Accountability and Filtering
The Porn Circuit | Covenant Eyes Internet Accountability and Filtering
The Porn Circuit | Covenant Eyes Internet Accountability and Filtering
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CHapter 5: ain’t nothing like the real thing, baby<br />
pleasure of a real woman <strong>and</strong> hyper-responsive to <strong>Internet</strong> porn. 16 As discussed in Chapter<br />
3, men become sensitized to <strong>Internet</strong> porn, but desensitized to sex in general, which requires<br />
more <strong>and</strong> more stimulation to achieve arousal. When preparing for real sex, the pornified brain<br />
fails to get its dopamine surge <strong>and</strong> the signal to the penis is too weak to achieve erection. But<br />
turn on an <strong>Internet</strong> device with unlimited pages of novelty, <strong>and</strong> boom, the plumbing works.<br />
A fast-growing online community of people who call themselves “Fapstronauts” complain that<br />
porn is the root of their problems with ED <strong>and</strong> premature ejaculation. “Fapping,” slang for<br />
masturbating to <strong>Internet</strong> porn, is causing these people so many troubles they b<strong>and</strong>ed together<br />
for support. One online community claims 50,000 members, <strong>and</strong> their goal is to encourage<br />
each other to avoid pornography <strong>and</strong> masturbation for 90 days in the hope of never going<br />
back. 17<br />
Real satisfaction<br />
Because of the brain’s plasticity, people once consumed by porn can rearrange their neural<br />
networks to enjoy only sexual intimacy with their spouse, <strong>and</strong> studies show these relationships<br />
to be the most satisfying.<br />
For instance, male porn users often believe more partners will bring greater satisfaction. But a<br />
2011 study of long-term committed relationships (with a median duration of 25 years) showed<br />
the opposite. <strong>The</strong> study showed that the longer a man was in a relationship, the more likely he<br />
enjoyed relational happiness <strong>and</strong> sexual satisfaction. Women, in turn, enjoyed sex less during<br />
the early years of their relationships <strong>and</strong> experienced greater satisfaction later. 18<br />
cybersex <strong>and</strong> relationships 19<br />
In a survey of women (<strong>and</strong> some men) who experienced serious adverse consequences from their partner’s<br />
cybersex involvement:<br />
f Partners commonly reported feeling hurt,<br />
betrayed, rejected, ab<strong>and</strong>oned, lonely,<br />
isolated, humiliated, jealous, <strong>and</strong> angry.<br />
f Partners often compared themselves<br />
unfavorably to online images.<br />
f Partners overwhelmingly felt that cyber affairs<br />
were as emotionally painful as offline affairs.<br />
<strong>The</strong> <strong>Porn</strong> <strong>Circuit</strong> | 27<br />
In 68% of the couples, one or both<br />
lost interest in relational sex.<br />
68%
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