The Porn Circuit | Covenant Eyes Internet Accountability and Filtering
The Porn Circuit | Covenant Eyes Internet Accountability and Filtering
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CHapter 5: ain’t nothing like the real thing, baby<br />
Another study in 2010 showed that couples who delay sex until their wedding night enjoy more<br />
stable <strong>and</strong> happier marriages. <strong>The</strong>y also rated the quality of sex <strong>and</strong> the satisfaction in their<br />
relationships 15% <strong>and</strong> 20% higher respectively than couples who had premarital sex. 20<br />
<strong>The</strong> results of these studies are nothing new, Dr. Weiss says. Studies <strong>and</strong> surveys of married<br />
couples have shown positive sexual satisfaction results for decades.<br />
Weiss says: 21<br />
<strong>The</strong> research shows that people who have consistent sex inside of a marriage — spiritually<br />
connected sex — have the best sexual satisfaction over time. <strong>The</strong> person that has the most sexual<br />
partners has the least level of sexual satisfaction as adults.<br />
Unlike a porn video or a magazine, sex with a real-life committed partner has many points<br />
of arousal <strong>and</strong> satisfaction, from words <strong>and</strong> tones of<br />
voice, to touch, to the temperature of skin, <strong>and</strong> many<br />
other interactions. Yes, dopamine likes novelty. For the<br />
porn user that means more porn, but in a committed<br />
relationship novelty never has to end.<br />
<strong>Porn</strong> <strong>and</strong> Marriage24 “Fortunately, lovers can stimulate their dopamine,<br />
keeping the high alive, by injecting novelty into their<br />
relationship,” Dr. Doidge writes. 22 “When a couple go<br />
on a romantic vacation or try new activities together, or<br />
wear new kinds of clothing, or surprise each other, they<br />
are using novelty to turn on the pleasure centers, so<br />
that everything they experience, including each other,<br />
excites <strong>and</strong> pleases them.”<br />
For minds <strong>and</strong> marriages wounded by porn, great sex <strong>and</strong> true intimacy will not arrive<br />
overnight. Repairing brokeness in marriage requires real work <strong>and</strong> determination. 23 61%<br />
Those who are happily married are<br />
61% less likely to look at porn.<br />
Building<br />
trust takes time.<br />
<strong>The</strong> next chapter will explore how to retrain one’s mind, but check out a list of resources on<br />
page 41 to learn more about counseling services, seminars, <strong>and</strong> other resources.<br />
<strong>The</strong> <strong>Porn</strong> <strong>Circuit</strong> | 28
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