Social and Psychological Manipulation - Dean Amory
Unlike people who are trying to influence, persuade or convince others, manipulators work with unfair means to get what they want. They do not respect the personal rights of their victims. They violate the victim's integrity, work with hidden agendas and deliberately use dishonest tricks like faulty reasoning, coercion, blackmail and lying in an attempt to control the victim's actions. Manipulation is about suiting the manipulator's advantage or purpose only, often at the expense of the victim. Yet, it is often difficult to know when you are being manipulated: manipulators do all they can to convince you that you are the one who is to benefit most from their actions and that they are acting in good faith. If we were aware that we are being manipulated, would we allow ourselves to fall victim to it - and how would we defend ourselves against it? That is where this book comes in handy: it explains the tricks manipulators use and teaches you how to best defend and
Unlike people who are trying to influence, persuade or convince others, manipulators work with unfair means to get what they want. They do not respect the personal rights of their victims. They violate the victim's integrity, work with hidden agendas and deliberately use dishonest tricks like faulty reasoning, coercion, blackmail and lying in an attempt to control the victim's actions. Manipulation is about suiting the manipulator's advantage or purpose only, often at the expense of the victim.
Yet, it is often difficult to know when you are being manipulated: manipulators do all they can to convince you that you are the one who is to benefit most from their actions and that they are acting in good faith.
If we were aware that we are being manipulated, would we allow ourselves to fall victim to it - and how would we defend ourselves against it?
That is where this book comes in handy: it explains the tricks manipulators use and teaches you how to best defend and
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(7) Declarations of dependency:<br />
“You don’t underst<strong>and</strong> how much I need you (depend, trust, etc).” This may be followed by “<strong>and</strong> how<br />
little you care what happens to me.”<br />
(8) Declarations of reverse dependency:<br />
“You don’t underst<strong>and</strong> how much you need me (depend, trust, etc).” This may be followed by “<strong>and</strong><br />
how much I care what happens to you.”<br />
(9) The “Let me show you how to do it” ploy.<br />
This makes others realize they do not have the time, talent or temperament to accomplish something,<br />
thereby shaming them into letting the practitioner volunteer to do the job.<br />
(10) The “Show me how to do it” ploy.<br />
This makes others realize the practitioner does not have the time, talent or temperament to accomplish<br />
something, thereby shaming them into volunteering to do the job.<br />
(11) The “I tried to cover for your mistake” routine, “<strong>and</strong> it:”<br />
(a) Worked, so you’ve got to repay the favor by doing something for me.<br />
(b) Didn’t work, so you’ve got to do something to fix the problem.<br />
(12) The “I tried to teach you, but you won’t listen to me, so don’t ask me any more questions” ploy.<br />
This ploy is to punish others by instilling a deep sense of loss created by withdrawal of the<br />
practitioners (opinionated) “wise counsel.”<br />
(13) Insults directed at others to further distance the practitioner, who by now knows they have failed<br />
in their efforts to dominate.<br />
(14) Polarizing groups of people into adverse parties.<br />
This is further punishment for failure to recognize the superiority of the practitioner <strong>and</strong> an attempt to<br />
establish control by comparing persons to create competition.<br />
(15) Withdrawal, when suggestions, comments or questions come up about their pronouncements, with<br />
simulated:<br />
(a) Hurt<br />
(b) Rejection<br />
(c) Depression<br />
(d) Physical sickness<br />
(e) Protests of innocence<br />
(f) Accusations of others<br />
(16) False remorse<br />
With hypocritical statements of now perceiving how their past activities have hurt others <strong>and</strong> a seeking<br />
of forgiveness for past behavior.<br />
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