Through Their Eyes: Domestic Violence and It's Impact on Children
Through Their Eyes: Domestic Violence and It's Impact on Children
Through Their Eyes: Domestic Violence and It's Impact on Children
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Chapter 4<br />
And finally, we can take pers<strong>on</strong>al<br />
acti<strong>on</strong>. One of the first steps is to<br />
educate ourselves about domestic<br />
violence. The resources secti<strong>on</strong> of<br />
this book includes a reading <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> web<br />
site list. All of these sources will have<br />
informati<strong>on</strong> that can help improve our<br />
knowledge about domestic violence<br />
<str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> how it can affect children.<br />
Pers<strong>on</strong>al acti<strong>on</strong> may also include<br />
becoming a resource for children. It<br />
is important to let kids who may be<br />
experiencing violence know that we<br />
are there for them <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> that we will<br />
not intervene in ways that may put<br />
them at risk. This may also include<br />
talking to children about the ways<br />
that our culture devalues women <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
teaching childen critical thinking skills<br />
so that they can underst<str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> the subtle<br />
negative messages they see in the<br />
movies, <strong>on</strong> TV, or in video games.<br />
It is also important that we<br />
keep domestic violence <strong>on</strong> the<br />
agenda of our elected officials. We<br />
encourage all readers to c<strong>on</strong>tact their<br />
C<strong>on</strong>gressi<strong>on</strong>al representatives. Urge<br />
Federal C<strong>on</strong>gress <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> the Washingt<strong>on</strong><br />
State Legislature to address domestic<br />
violence <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> ensure that it does not<br />
get overlooked in policy or in funding.<br />
The positive message to take away<br />
from this book is that we can <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
will bring about change for families<br />
affected by domestic violence. We<br />
can take steps to provide the services<br />
they need to move toward a safer<br />
future.<br />
<strong>Children</strong> can <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> do recover from<br />
witnessing domestic violence.<br />
<strong>Children</strong> are extremely resilient, <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
with support from <strong>on</strong>e or more loving<br />
mentors, they can find ways to cope.<br />
Expert Lundy Bancroft encourages<br />
us not to see children as passive,<br />
helpless victims. He says, “Side<br />
by side with children’s distresses<br />
are their courageous efforts to find<br />
ways to be safe, to watch out for<br />
<strong>on</strong>e another, to find people who will<br />
love them, to hold <strong>on</strong>to the belief<br />
that they d<strong>on</strong>’t deserve to be<br />
mistreated <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> neither does their<br />
mother.” 21<br />
Violent behaviors do not<br />
always repeat themselves.<br />
Many adults who were<br />
victims of domestic violence<br />
as children grow up to live<br />
n<strong>on</strong>-violent lives <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> maintain<br />
loving, healthy, happy<br />
relati<strong>on</strong>ships with their partners<br />
<str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> their own children.<br />
Writing, emailing,<br />
or calling your<br />
c<strong>on</strong>gressi<strong>on</strong>al<br />
representatives is<br />
an effective way to<br />
express your c<strong>on</strong>cern<br />
about domestic<br />
violence. If you are<br />
unsure of how to do<br />
this or who they are,<br />
here are some helpful<br />
ph<strong>on</strong>e numbers <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
web sites:<br />
• C<strong>on</strong>tact informati<strong>on</strong><br />
for Federal Senators<br />
can be found at<br />
www.senate.gov.<br />
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