Through Their Eyes: Domestic Violence and It's Impact on Children
Through Their Eyes: Domestic Violence and It's Impact on Children
Through Their Eyes: Domestic Violence and It's Impact on Children
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The <str<strong>on</strong>g>Impact</str<strong>on</strong>g> of<br />
<str<strong>on</strong>g>Domestic</str<strong>on</strong>g> <str<strong>on</strong>g>Violence</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
• Because of space<br />
<str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> funding<br />
restricti<strong>on</strong>s,<br />
Washingt<strong>on</strong> State<br />
domestic violence<br />
programs had to<br />
refuse 32,967<br />
requests for shelter<br />
in 2001. 4<br />
• Intimate partner<br />
violence accounted<br />
for 22 percent of<br />
the violent crimes<br />
against women in<br />
2000, compared<br />
to 3 percent of<br />
the crimes against<br />
men. 5<br />
After dinner, Anita cleans the kitchen<br />
thoroughly, but it isn’t clean enough<br />
for Mike. He becomes enraged <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
verbally abusive, eventually hitting her<br />
so hard that he breaks her arm.<br />
Mari<strong>on</strong> <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> Larry split up a year ago,<br />
<str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> are still struggling with a messy<br />
divorce. On weekend nights, Larry<br />
stalks Mari<strong>on</strong> by car, following her<br />
every move <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> threatening to kill her<br />
if he ever finds her with another man.<br />
Ziba communicates with a girlfriend<br />
via instant messenger. Sean goes <strong>on</strong><br />
the computer <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> tracks her history.<br />
He accuses her of having an affair,<br />
calls her stupid, <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> then throws a<br />
heavy chair through the window in<br />
the kitchen.<br />
These situati<strong>on</strong>s aren’t imaginary.<br />
They happen in homes around us all<br />
the time. <str<strong>on</strong>g>Domestic</str<strong>on</strong>g> violence is an<br />
enormous social problem that persists<br />
in the U.S. in the 21st century.<br />
Though it goes by other names such<br />
as spousal abuse, family violence,<br />
intimate partner violence, the<br />
ultimate aim of all forms of domestic<br />
violence is the same. It is a pattern<br />
of behaviors used by <strong>on</strong>e pers<strong>on</strong> in a<br />
relati<strong>on</strong>ship to coercively c<strong>on</strong>trol the<br />
other.<br />
Perpetrators of domestic violence<br />
believe they are entitled to c<strong>on</strong>trol<br />
their family members. <str<strong>on</strong>g>Domestic</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
violence is not caused by frustrati<strong>on</strong>,<br />
stress, alcohol/addicti<strong>on</strong>, or poverty. It<br />
is not an issue of anger, though often<br />
it can appear that way. Instead, it is a<br />
set of behaviors designed to maintain<br />
dominance over <strong>on</strong>e’s intimate<br />
partner.<br />
<str<strong>on</strong>g>Domestic</str<strong>on</strong>g> violence can take many<br />
different forms, some of them very<br />
subtle. Examples of domestic violence<br />
include: name-calling or putdowns,<br />
isolati<strong>on</strong> from friends, family, <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
the community, withholding m<strong>on</strong>ey,<br />
actual or threatened physical<br />
harm, sexual assault, stalking, <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
intimidati<strong>on</strong>. The behaviors comm<strong>on</strong>ly<br />
escalate over time. <str<strong>on</strong>g>Domestic</str<strong>on</strong>g> violence<br />
can be practiced in plain view of the<br />
public eye, but more often, it is kept<br />
in the c<strong>on</strong>fines of a home. It is often<br />
hidden by both the perpetrator <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> the<br />
victim to avoid any legal or pers<strong>on</strong>al<br />
c<strong>on</strong>sequences.<br />
Studies show that domestic violence<br />
happens am<strong>on</strong>g all cultures <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
classes. Though violent behavior in<br />
general is often linked to ec<strong>on</strong>omics,<br />
domestic violence occurs in<br />
ec<strong>on</strong>omically advantaged families as<br />
well as low-income families, <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> it<br />
cuts across all races <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> ethnicities.<br />
<str<strong>on</strong>g>Domestic</str<strong>on</strong>g> violence also occurs in<br />
a variety of intimate relati<strong>on</strong>ships.<br />
Partners may be married or not<br />
married, heterosexual, gay, or lesbian,<br />
living together, separated, divorced, or<br />
dating.<br />
When we talk about domestic<br />
violence as a social issue, however,<br />
we recognize that the vast majority<br />
of domestic violence happens in<br />
heterosexual relati<strong>on</strong>ships where<br />
the abuser is male <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g> the victim is<br />
female. Thus, for the purpose of this<br />
book, we refer to abusers as men <str<strong>on</strong>g>and</str<strong>on</strong>g><br />
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