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DOUBLE<br />
PLAY<br />
Gabe and Lisa Kapler<br />
Take the Field Against<br />
Domestic Violence<br />
• <strong>Voice</strong> <strong>Male</strong><br />
BY<br />
ROB OKUN<br />
G<br />
abe Kapler has been saying<br />
no <strong>to</strong> domestic abuse<br />
for a long time. Taking<br />
that stance, the Bos<strong>to</strong>n<br />
Red Sox outfielder says,<br />
was a natural outgrowth of the values<br />
he was raised with by activist parents in<br />
Los Angeles. Earlier this year he put his<br />
beliefs in<strong>to</strong> practice, establishing a foundation<br />
committed <strong>to</strong> supporting victims<br />
of domestic violence and modeling for<br />
boys a healthy brand of masculinity. He<br />
is committed <strong>to</strong> seeing the foundation’s<br />
vision grow.<br />
Followers of baseball probably know<br />
that in mid-September, in the thick of<br />
the American League East pennant race,<br />
Gabe ruptured his left Achilles tendon<br />
rounding second base in a tie game against<br />
Toron<strong>to</strong>. His season ended abruptly. While<br />
he returned home <strong>to</strong> Los Angeles for surgery<br />
and recuperation, his injury has not<br />
sidelined him from pursuing his commitment<br />
<strong>to</strong> the mission of the foundation that<br />
bears his name.<br />
Projects the Kapler Foundation is currently<br />
supporting include procuring<br />
playground equipment and additional<br />
childcare for a Los Angeles battered<br />
women’s shelter and piloting a collaboration<br />
between a Massachusetts shelter, Safe<br />
Passage of Northamp<strong>to</strong>n, and the Men’s<br />
Resource Center for Change, publisher of<br />
<strong>Voice</strong> <strong>Male</strong>.<br />
“The grant,” foundation co-founder and<br />
administra<strong>to</strong>r Judy Kapler says, “will allow<br />
men from the Men’s Resource Center <strong>to</strong><br />
serve as positive role models, spending<br />
time with boys in the shelter who have<br />
witnessed or experienced domestic abuse.<br />
We want <strong>to</strong> facilitate all children growing<br />
up with healthy ideas about men.” Judy<br />
Kapler, who is Gabe’s mother, holds a<br />
master’s degree in child development and<br />
has been teaching, directing, counseling,<br />
and advocating for children for a quarter<br />
century. (See sidebar, page 17, and www.<br />
kaplerfoundation.org.)<br />
Gabe Kapler began <strong>to</strong> seriously think<br />
about the issue of dating violence when he<br />
was a senior in high school and had begun<br />
dating his future wife, Lisa. They were<br />
both 17. With great difficulty, Lisa had<br />
recently extricated herself from a relationship<br />
in which she’d been physically and<br />
emotionally abused by an older student.<br />
Meeting Gabe, a star on the school’s baseball<br />
team, was eye-opening, she recalled.<br />
Even though she was vulnerable and in<br />
the early stages of recovering from her<br />
ordeal, she recognized that Gabe represented<br />
“a role model for what a healthy<br />
relationship could be.”<br />
Lisa and Gabe married in 1999 and<br />
have two sons, ages three and six. They<br />
live in Los Angeles, but during the season<br />
lead a baseball family’s nomadic life.<br />
Since becoming a major leaguer, Gabe<br />
has played for the Detroit Tigers, Texas<br />
Rangers, and Colorado Rockies. He was<br />
traded <strong>to</strong> the Red Sox halfway through the<br />
2003 season. Gabe was in right field when<br />
Bos<strong>to</strong>n recorded the final out against the<br />
St. Louis Cardinals last season <strong>to</strong> win the<br />
World Series for the first time in 86 years.<br />
He started the 2005 season as the center<br />
fielder on the Yomiuri Giants in Japan but<br />
was unhappy there. He was able <strong>to</strong> return<br />
<strong>to</strong> the Red Sox at the end of July, playing<br />
frequently until he was injured.<br />
The idea for the Kapler Foundation,<br />
something Gabe and Lisa had been considering,<br />
got a jump start in June 2004<br />
when the Red Sox Wives were preparing a<br />
“Picnic in the Park,” an annual event raising<br />
money for a non-profit organization<br />
and the Red Sox Foundation. When Lisa<br />
Pho<strong>to</strong> courtesy of Gabe and Lisa Kapler<br />
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