Autumn 2011 - Mandy Mazliah
Autumn 2011 - Mandy Mazliah
Autumn 2011 - Mandy Mazliah
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Raising children<br />
Our self-penned ceremony followed<br />
the tried and tested format of a<br />
service: a welcome and introduction,<br />
some parental vows of care,<br />
constancy and love, a statement by<br />
the ‘god parents’ and then a formal<br />
naming. We were reluctant to dictate<br />
what our friends should commit to as<br />
godparents. Instead we asked them<br />
to select a poem, a piece of music or<br />
a piece of art that would symbolise<br />
the qualities they wanted to bring<br />
to Thea’s upbringing. Their choices<br />
of Lewis Carroll’s Jaberwocky,<br />
and a poem by A.A. Milne suggest<br />
imagination and humour are going to<br />
be significant. Her other godmother<br />
brought a beautiful display of<br />
springtime flowers bursting into new<br />
life.<br />
We structured the ceremony with a<br />
celebrant providing an introduction<br />
to the day and linking the sections.<br />
We recognised that although all<br />
emotions expressed were authentic,<br />
a ceremony is also a piece of<br />
theatre. A celebrant provides an<br />
effective stage management device<br />
gently diffusing emotional tension<br />
and maintaining pace. It also<br />
prevents the ceremony becoming an<br />
extended monologue by one or both<br />
parents. Our preferred celebrant<br />
was unavailable and we didn’t want<br />
to involve a stranger on such an<br />
intimate occasion. My younger sister<br />
gamely agreed to take the role and<br />
demonstrated that anyone with a bit<br />
of confidence can fulfil the function.<br />
The day was moving and<br />
memorable. The joy of a naming<br />
ceremony is the intensely<br />
personalised nature of everything<br />
that is said. It was taxing to squeeze<br />
out prose which we hoped was<br />
heartfelt but not hackneyed but<br />
it was a labour of love which<br />
enabled us to reflect on the kind of<br />
parents we wanted to become. We<br />
thoroughly enjoyed the experience<br />
and would highly recommend a<br />
naming ceremony as a way of<br />
welcoming a baby to the world.’<br />
Newsletter Winter 13