2015 Volume Two

from your singleness into a
covenant marriage with another
human being. Therefore, if
anyone is in Christ, he is a new
creation, old things have passed
away; behold, all things have
become new. (II Cor. 5:17).
And you must move from a
selfi sh to a selfl ess and servant
attitude. Your pursuit must be in
fi nding ways to live in harmony
and peace with your spouse.
Your passion have to be about
sharing your life together. This
takes discipline, perseverance,
commitment and compassion.
If the sparkle in your marriage
goes out, take time out and look
into your inner most being to see
how you can restore the joy and
bring back the romance into your
marriage. Instead of affixing
blame, examine your heart.
Created in me a clean heart,
O God, and renew a steadfast
Spirit within me. Restore to me
the joy of Your salvation, and
uphold me by your gracious
spirit. (Psalms 51:10; 12).
Remember your priorities and
the sacred pledge you made to
your spouse. Take the intiative
to show your spouse that you
love him/her and how important
it is that you two reconnect. Here
are some suggestions on how to
expess this.
l Write a love note stating, “I
apologize that I’ve been too
busy to spend time time with you
and express how much I love
you and how vaulable you are in
our marriage. Please forgive me.
I’m bringing home your favorite
meal and made arrangements
for us to have an intimate dinner
tonite.” (Make sure to arrange
for a a babysitter to keep the
childern)
II Call and Say, “I’m coming
home early this evening and
would enjoy sitting down talking
to you about what we can do
together to rearrange my job
schedule that we can spend
more quality time as a couple.”
III Approach her and say, “I’ve
noticed that you are scheduled
to volunteer at the Commmunity
Center this Saturday for a few
hours. I would enjoy going with
you and afterwards we can go
out for lunch at your favorite
restaurant.”
lV Take hold of your spouse and
say, “I love you. My life is empty
without you, baby.”
V Praise her and say, “It’s
amazing how you take care of
the kids. What can I do to help?”
Vl Look into your spouse’s eyes
and say, “ I’ve been thoughtless
and insensitive and taken you
and our marriage for granted. I
just want to hold you close and
reassure that you are important
to me.”
VII Other ideas: Going jogging,
walking or running together in
the park and afterwards have a
picnic expressing your love to
each other ~ Arrange a romantic
weekend together ~Surprise
your spouse with a romantic
candle light dinner ~ Have a
monthly datenight ~ Leave love
notes in specifi c places that you
know they are likely to fi nd them.
For your marriage to survive
through difficult times, you must
be willing to invest time to get
the love back. Each marriage is
different and you should never
compare your marriage to that
of your siblings, your friends
or the neighboros. God is the
mastermind of marriage. And
He has a divine plan for your
marriage. For I know the plans
I how for you, declares the
Lord, plans to prosper you and
to give you hope and a future.
(Jer. 29:11). God desires your
marriage to fl urish as an example
for the world to follow. And
your marriage should always
represent your faithfulness to
God that’s based upon your
covenant realitionship with the
Lord. Here are some essential
characteristic both husband and
wife should practice.
· Cherish the covenant
partnership by loving and
respecting your spouse
· Touching and agreeing in
prayer everyday
· Build up with words of
Affi rmation Refuse to tear down
with affi xing blame or speaking
negative and harsh words to
your spouse
· Encourage ~ Don’t cricitize
· Affi rm with loving statements: I
love you ~You’re vaulable to me
~ I want you
· Focus on their strength rather
than their weakness
No marriage comes with a lifetime
warranty of absoulte perfection.
Throughout your marriage the
husband and wife must pursue
God relentlessly and commit
to trust in His divine direction
completely. The image of your
marriage is to reflect the selfl ess
love of God through the means
you love and respect each other.
By applying the principles of
God to strengthen the foundatin
of your marriage whereby, you
commit to live together and bring
glory and honor to God.