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However, I do think that the female of the species
appreciates being loved, and cherished, and
taken care of. Probably because men created and
joined the corporate world, the job has become the
mistress, and men have neglected their wives for a
long time, thus creating a backlash among women,
which started the now famous “Woman’s Liberation
Movement.” Women can pursue whatever they
want to do in life, but they still have a need to be
cherished by men, and men have neglected this
responsibility to their great detriment.
Pornography is another reason men do not
romance women. It has created a fantasy world
of false intimacy, and women have become
‘sex objects’ rather than real, wonderful people,
and sex has been substituted for real love. I
believe porn has had a very detrimental effect of
relationships between men and women in general,
and especially in the way men see women.
Further, according to an article in Focus on the
Family, “Porn is always available, never too busy,
and always inviting. It doesn’t criticize, doesn’t
require foreplay or patience, isn’t dependent on
“feeling close,” and never has a headache. When
a guy is engaged in this type of sexual outlet, his
sexuality becomes centered on his immediate
needs and demands. The prospect of working
through the messy issues of marital intimacy is
pretty unattractive.” Porn destroys intimacy in
relationships, and gives a false substitute, which
takes men (or women) away from pursuing their
mates, and, instead, leads them to pursue a
fantasy. (Slattery, 2009)
But at the root of the lack of romance and pursuit
of their wives, men have succumbed to the lies in
this world. Selfi shness, in the form of all sorts of
pleasure, has devalued relationships in general.
No longer are many young people (and older
people) interested in long-term relationships. Too
may have fallen for the lie that ‘it is all about me,’
and this applies to both men and women. No
relationship will work or be worth anything more
than a moment’s pleasure if we don’t remember
that love gives and does not take.
Proverbs 18:22 states,
“The one who fi nds a wife fi nds what is enjoyable,
and receives a pleasurable gift from the LORD.”
It fi rst states that a man will look for a wife, and
not vice-versa. It also implies, taken in conjunction
with Proverbs 31, that a man who fi nds a wife of
great character, and with a servant’s heart, fi nds
something ‘more valuable than rubies.”
It also states, that this kind of gift come from God,
who is mentioned here by name, indicated by the
small capitalization of the word Lord. This was
originally written as God’s name, Jehovah. In other
words, God himself, will personally guarantee that
a good wife is a gift from Him. There can be no
greater blessing than to receive a gift from the
Father in Heaven. “Every good and perfect gift is
from above, coming down from the Father of the
heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting
shadows.” The Father in Heaven is always good,
always desires the best for us in abundance, and
encourages romance!
Note: all scripture references are from the New
International Version Bible.
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Focus on the Family. (2014). Dating your Spouse:
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Niu, A. (2014). Gender & the Brain: Differences
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Slattery, J. (2009). The Impact of Pornography on
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Thomas, G. (2005). Soul Mates or Sole Mates. (F.
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