2015 Volume Two

holding open a car door, taking
care of the kids while she has a
bubble bath, taking care of the
housecleaning for one day…
It’s the little things that speak
volumes. Make her feel sexy
and desirable- outside of the
bedroom. Perceived ulterior
motives cause things to go south
really quickly.
By repeatedly rejecting sexual
advances, the message of
begin undesirable becomes
clear. Is that the message you
want to send to your spouse?
Compromise in this situation is
as simple as an honest dialogue.
Most men don’t know what their
wives want. Men are problem
solvers, so if they new, they
probably would have solved the
problem long ago. The reality
is that if you don’t verbally say
anything, he assumes that
things are o.k. He is not wired
for verbal cues like other women,
just like women often want to sort
through their feelings without
someone offering them a quick
solution.
While the importance of sexually
satisfying your spouse may be
somewhat distasteful to some
woman as they feel like they are
made to be a possession, it is
important to your marriage. If
you marriage is indeed important
to you, and you don’t want your
husband to fall into sexual sin,
then you must fi nd a happy
medium as a couple. Think
about it this way: how would you
feel if he repeatedly rejected
you? Why is it that women feel
hurt when their husbands don’t
want to have sex, and yet think
nothing of doing the same? If
you hurt and feel rejected by this,
then what makes you think that
he doesn’t feel the same way?
This year, women, give your
husbands all of you. Be creative!
We know it’s what you do best!
Men, communicate lovingly to
your wives. Don’t objectify her,
but love her. After all, this union
was meant to last forever. Also,
if you fi nd yourself being rejected
by your wife, pray for her that her
eyes would be opened. Let God
deal with her heart, but do not
enter into sexual sin. It leads
only to destruction.