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ALPHA PHASE EDUCATION<br />
XXI.<br />
Break — 10 Minutes<br />
XXII. Dark Night – Bonding Experience — 90 Minutes<br />
New Members spend time discussing things about themselves, their concerns,<br />
excitements, and fears. This is an opportunity for the New Members to deepen their<br />
bond and strengthen their trust.<br />
This activity is designed to be a free-flowing conversation–a sharing of thoughts, beliefs,<br />
dreams, and fears. When appropriate, bring the focus of the discussion back to our<br />
values.<br />
Dim the lights (not dark) to set a comfortable and reflective atmosphere. Below are some<br />
questions that can be used to get the conversation started. Spend up to one hour on<br />
this, sharing:<br />
• What is the thing you like most about a person?<br />
• What leisure time activity pleases you the most?<br />
• What do you want to be doing ten years from now?<br />
• What event this semester stands out most in your mind?<br />
• On what basis do you select your friends?<br />
• When you think of reality, what comes to your mind first?<br />
• What is the most sacred thing you know?<br />
• What is the most overwhelming thing you know? That makes you feel the most humble?<br />
• What is the greatest value that guides your life?<br />
• What is the greatest crime one man can do toward another?<br />
• For what do you think you would lay down your life?<br />
• What sound would you put on a CD for beauty?<br />
• What emotion is strongest in you?<br />
• Select a word that best describes your total life at this moment of time.<br />
• What single trait should qualify a man for initiation into Alpha Sigma Phi?<br />
• What one thing can you contribute to Alpha Sigma Phi?<br />
• What do you think people like about you the least?<br />
• What do you think people like about you the most?<br />
• What does Alpha Sigma Phi teach that is lacking in the college academic curriculum?<br />
• What person has most influenced your life?<br />
• What gives you the most security?<br />
• In one sentence, what does Alpha Sigma Phi mean to you?<br />
• When do you sense being alive the most?<br />
• What ideals do you and Alpha Sigma Phi have in common?<br />
• What one experience has been most significant to you in Alpha Sigma Phi?<br />
• When do you feel most lonely?<br />
• In school, you have seen certain people all year and you have not spoken to them.<br />
Why?<br />
• What commitment did you make to Alpha Sigma Phi during your New Membership?<br />
• What makes you a meaningful part of the fraternity?<br />
• What is the greatest thing you expect to receive from Alpha Sigma Phi as a member?<br />
• What is your greatest fear?<br />
• If you had to use another word for “brotherhood”, what would you use?<br />
• What one aspect of our chapter would you change?<br />
• What are the qualities of the ideal fraternity man?<br />
• What one day in your life would you like to live over? Why?<br />
• What’s the place where you spent the three happiest days of your life?<br />
• What are three words you would most like said about you?<br />
• What skill do you wish you had?<br />
• How did you choose your major?<br />
• What is one thing you do really well?<br />
• What would you do if you had one year left to live?<br />
• How would you like to be remembered?<br />
• For what contributions to the fraternity would you like to be remembered?<br />
• What makes you most frustrated about the fraternity?<br />
• If you could do anything over again, how would you do it differently?<br />
• Who is the person most relevant in our times? Why?<br />
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