Her Umbrella Premiere Issue Fall 2015
Her Umbrella is a women's digital, lifestyle magazine dedicated to creating a life outside the lines. Published quarterly during the changing of the seasons, you'll find a bohemian, free-spirited style woven throughout its pages. Every woman has an umbrella with a variety of likes, dislikes, stories and memories hidden underneath. And we're looking to uncover them. Our premiere issue features bigger contributor highlights, a variety of topics - intertwined without rhyme or reason. We've nixed the rules and forewent table of contents and the like to be a freer, more unmatched way of exploring. It's not perfect but it's an inspirational start to a dream. Enjoy!
Her Umbrella is a women's digital, lifestyle magazine dedicated to creating a life outside the lines.
Published quarterly during the changing of the seasons, you'll find a bohemian, free-spirited style woven throughout its pages. Every woman has an umbrella with a variety of likes, dislikes, stories and memories hidden underneath. And we're looking to uncover them.
Our premiere issue features bigger contributor highlights, a variety of topics - intertwined without rhyme or reason. We've nixed the rules and forewent table of contents and the like to be a freer, more unmatched way of exploring. It's not perfect but it's an inspirational start to a dream. Enjoy!
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Seven months into the harassment, my husband, Matt (at the<br />
time boyfriend), and I decided that it would be best for me to begin<br />
counselling. My anxiety had gone off the charts. I am a very<br />
self-aware person and I knew that the way I was reacting to things<br />
was not healthy. I wasn't hyperventilating, but I would get this build<br />
up in my chest that would cause me to breathe heavily. I would cry<br />
and scream. I would sometimes get extremely nauseous and have<br />
hot flashes. Sometimes when Matt would hold me to calm me down,<br />
I would just feel like all I wanted to do was run. I don't know where<br />
to, but it was an uncontrollable feeling. I would stress about every<br />
little thing. I would freak out about something silly, like Matt moving<br />
the toothpaste to the other side of the sink. It was absolutely<br />
ridiculous.<br />
Counselling was one of the best decisions we have made. I<br />
started off going by myself and then Matt would join me for support<br />
and insight on how to help. To a lot of people, counselling seems<br />
scary. People wonder what others will think of them. People worry<br />
that their peers will view them as less than. The honest truth is: we<br />
all have issues that we have to deal with on a daily basis. It doesn't<br />
make someone weaker for seeing a counselor. It has made me<br />
stronger.<br />
We started by detecting the types of anxiety that I have.<br />
Before my first session, I had talked to my counselor on the phone<br />
and explained what was going on. It was a really good step, because<br />
it helped me become comfortable with her. She asked me to order a<br />
copy of The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne, PhD.<br />
and gave me some pages to read before the first session. I highly<br />
recommend this book if you have anxiety, even if it's not severe<br />
anxiety, because it is a very great book to learn from.<br />
When we sat down, she asked me a bunch of questions as we<br />
went through my life story. The book had some self-diagnosis<br />
questions and I filled those out. By the second session, it was known<br />
that I had social anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, and<br />
some PTSD. I had anxiety about phone calls, online messages, sitting<br />
in a group, parties, any situation where I was expected to speak out<br />
loud, and water tanks (aquariums are difficult for me). Most of these,<br />
I had my entire life. However, the thing about anxiety, is if<br />
something traumatic happens to you, it can be amplified. Feeling<br />
out of control is what drives most anxiety.<br />
Another factor to anxiety is your own personality style. I have<br />
always been quiet. I'm a writer, so I often enjoy listening and<br />
noticing things around me. I like this more than speaking. I can be<br />
outgoing if I am comfortable in a situation, but sometimes it takes<br />
me a long time to get to that point. This doesn't ultimately cause my<br />
anxiety. Up until the past two years, I would just accept that I was<br />
quiet. A lot of it is how I am naturally. Some of it is because of<br />
situations that have caused it and when my mind wanders to those<br />
things, that is when my anxiety starts to peak.<br />
The four personality styles that can swing anxiety into motion are<br />
perfectionism, excessive need for approval, ignoring signs of stress,<br />
and the need for control. I am three of these (perfectionist, need for<br />
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