Her Umbrella Premiere Issue Fall 2015
Her Umbrella is a women's digital, lifestyle magazine dedicated to creating a life outside the lines. Published quarterly during the changing of the seasons, you'll find a bohemian, free-spirited style woven throughout its pages. Every woman has an umbrella with a variety of likes, dislikes, stories and memories hidden underneath. And we're looking to uncover them. Our premiere issue features bigger contributor highlights, a variety of topics - intertwined without rhyme or reason. We've nixed the rules and forewent table of contents and the like to be a freer, more unmatched way of exploring. It's not perfect but it's an inspirational start to a dream. Enjoy!
Her Umbrella is a women's digital, lifestyle magazine dedicated to creating a life outside the lines.
Published quarterly during the changing of the seasons, you'll find a bohemian, free-spirited style woven throughout its pages. Every woman has an umbrella with a variety of likes, dislikes, stories and memories hidden underneath. And we're looking to uncover them.
Our premiere issue features bigger contributor highlights, a variety of topics - intertwined without rhyme or reason. We've nixed the rules and forewent table of contents and the like to be a freer, more unmatched way of exploring. It's not perfect but it's an inspirational start to a dream. Enjoy!
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approval, and I like to feel like I can control situations around me).<br />
These personality styles can control the way you think. My mind is my worst enemy. For example, the<br />
perfectionist in me wants everything in the house in order at all times. It also wants me to look put together at all<br />
times, which is something that I have learned to handle a little better. My need for approval is always high. I am not<br />
sure that will ever really calm down. I want my husband to be happy with me. I want my family and my friends to be<br />
happy and accepting of who I am. When people don't like me, it is very difficult for me to get past. The need for me to<br />
be in control is also very high. It's not so much that I need or want to be in control of people, but more the situations<br />
that surround me. I couldn't control the harassing messages being sent to my Facebook and my Twitter accounts. I can't<br />
control if it is going to rain while we are out at Disney. I can't control how much my husband has to work. I can't control<br />
whether or not my hair decides to cooperate everyday. Some of these are serious examples and some are more serious.<br />
My stress level is usually found hand-in-hand with these things.<br />
There are a lot of coping mechanisms to try when you have anxiety. The first one that we tried was a mood<br />
chart. This one didn't help me at all. The last thing I want to do when I feel like I can't breathe, is sit down and write out<br />
all the emotions I am feeling. I tried to write them afterwards, too, but by the time it was all said and done, I just felt<br />
kind of ridiculous about any of the attacks. Some things that did work for me were heavy breathing, imagery and<br />
tracing figure 8's. I have also written letters to people who have caused stressful situations, just to get all the words out<br />
and then thrown it away. I deal with a lot of self-blame and negative self-talk, so when I am feeling overwhelmed, I<br />
typically will lay down and weigh out the situation. Affirmations are important as well. Make sure you are doing your<br />
best to be positive about yourself.<br />
I was put on medication around this time, as well. Medication was something that I wanted to avoid, but because<br />
of the stress from the harassment and because we were planning our wedding within two months, it was decided that<br />
it would be a good tool to get through. I was put on Celexa, which is used for depression as welll. I'll be honest and say<br />
that it helped me, but at the same time it didn't. It would block out some stress, but oftentimes I would still have<br />
attacks. I didn't hyperventilate while on it, but my chest would tighten.<br />
I started tapering off Celexa this past May which was the hardest part. The side effects were difficult to deal<br />
with. You never know for sure what your body is going to do. My doctor didn't talk me through the side effects, so I had<br />
no idea why I was feeling so strange. The side effects depend on the medication. There was a moment where I found<br />
myself questioning why I decided to even come off it. It felt too hard and I was worried that I couldn't do it. I pushed<br />
through those emotions and almost two months later, I am so glad that I did!<br />
Anxiety isn't something that goes away. It's something that you have to deal with on a daily basis. Some days<br />
are really, really great, while other days can be terrible. Sometimes I am really good at applying my tools and coping<br />
mechanisms and other days I am not.<br />
Having a strong support system is very important. I would be completely lost without my husband. Keep in mind<br />
though, that anxiety, no matter how severe, is emotionally tolling on your loved ones as well. Remember that the<br />
people who love you are always there to listen and support you, but sometimes they need time for themselves as well.<br />
No matter what you're facing, know that you are capable of overcoming the obstacles thrown at you. Don't give<br />
up! There are always people who care, sometimes you just have to seek them out. Ultimately, you need to take the<br />
steps to become healthier for you. Mental health is extremely important. Don't ever be ashamed to ask for help. Don't<br />
worry about what people will think if you go to a counselor or decide to take medications. There is nothing shameful<br />
about it.<br />
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