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he should borrow or rent a car. One should always park<br />

the car and come to her front door, unless it was stated<br />

otherwise that she will meet you outside. If you are<br />

coming to the front door and meeting the parents,<br />

prepare yourself for that meeting by finding out a few<br />

obvious things: what kind of people are they? What do<br />

they do for a living? Etc. Are they going to quiz you on<br />

the parsha? What are they expecting?<br />

With regard to the girl who is being picked up for<br />

the date, she should be very cognizant of being on time<br />

so that the boy does not have to wait for her. If the boy<br />

is coming to your front door, one should empty the<br />

driveway in order that the boy can park his car in the<br />

driveway to avoid having him circle around the block<br />

numerous times looking for a parking spot.<br />

C. Conversation<br />

On the first date, it is not appropriate to discuss<br />

potentially contentious or deep topics, including<br />

hashkafa, where to live, and so forth. The first date is to<br />

determine compatibility. It is important to make sure<br />

that your hashkafos are well-matched, but it is not a<br />

topic that should be strongly questioned during a first<br />

date.<br />

As discussed previously, do your homework<br />

before a date so that you better understand the person’s<br />

likes/dislikes, hobbies, etc. You should know certain<br />

sensitive material so that you do not offend the person<br />

on your date. For example, do not make a joke about<br />

divorced people if they have divorced parents<br />

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