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ended Kollel? Is there a job waiting for you when you<br />
decide to take it? Do you have the degrees necessary for<br />
that job when you finish? Do you realize how much your<br />
costs will go up when you have children?<br />
If you are a female, are you willing to work for a<br />
bit until your husband is able to find a steady job? Are<br />
your parents willing to help support? Will you continue<br />
working when pregnant or while having a child? Are you<br />
ready to start working immediately after getting<br />
married?<br />
There are many other questions that need to be<br />
answered. You may want to speak to your rabbi, parents,<br />
and friends to help explore priorities and other elements<br />
involved in finding a match.<br />
B. Support System<br />
A support system is one of the most important<br />
things that you need while you are dating. You will have<br />
questions during the dating process, such as: “Perhaps I<br />
am not ready to date.” “Perhaps he or she is not the<br />
one/my basheirt.” “Perhaps I am settling and not getting<br />
what I feel I need/want.” “How much stock do I put into<br />
looks, attitude, and family? Etc.” You may confront road<br />
blocks along the way, and you will likely need to seek<br />
guidance from another person.<br />
Choosing a rabbi is essential. A rabbi is available<br />
to help answer any questions as you prepare to begin the<br />
dating process. It is important for you to consult with<br />
your rabbi to help you decide if you are ready. This is<br />
more common with a man because he is either in yeshiva<br />
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