Dating Pamphlet edited (1) (Autosaved)

I. Deciding You Are Ready to Date:
A. Are You Ready?
Before you even begin dating, you must set goals
and ask yourself some questions. What do you want from
life? What do you want from your spouse? Where do you
want to live? Questions like these should be answered
from the start.
If you are a male, you need to decide if you can
support a girl. You cannot enter a marriage assuming you
will be supported by your wife (or your parents); you
need to put forth effort to support her. If you choose the
Kollel path of life, you would need to figure out how
much pay you will receive, whether your parents will
help with support, or whether your wife will work and
support you. A criterion for a wife may be that she must
work because you plan on learning. However, you still
need to make sure that you have what it takes to support
a wife and, eventually, a family.
Common questions that you should answer before even
deciding to date:
What are your life aspirations? What type of girl/boy are
you looking for? Would you be willing to relocate? Do
you have financial stability? Are you ready for such a
commitment? Do you have a support system? Are you
willing to compromise? Do you feel accomplished in your
life so far? Do you feel that you have learned enough?
If you plan on starting off your married life in
kollel, you need to figure out; how long are you going to
stay in Kollel for? Is Kollel leading up to a job or is it open
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