Dating Pamphlet edited (1) (Autosaved)

or in a learning program and is close with a rabbi. A rabbi
will also answer questions along the way, including
halachic questions, for example, are there issues
regarding yichud if a date ends at 10 pm? You may also
need guidance as to issues on which you may
compromise versus those that are non-negotiable. A
rabbi provides spiritual guidance, and it is imperative
that you rely on one during this process. Women
however, may have a seminary teacher that they may
use as a Rabbi in regards to seeking guidance, and such a
person should be part of your support system.
Having your parents support you during the
dating process is crucial. They know you best and provide
guidance as well as constant love and support. Having
parents in your support group will help you answer
certain questions, such as, “Is this the right person for
me?” “How will she fit into my family?”
In addition, married friends are important to
include in your support group. They can speak to you
about their dating experiences and tell you what you
really need to hear from a friend. They have gone
through the system and can answer certain philosophical
and on the ground questions that you may have. Your
married friends are also proof that the dating process can
be successful and that you will find someone to marry.
You may run into obstacles along the way and may want
to give up, but your friends will show you that the value
of the system.
Lastly, you need your closest friends, whether
single or married. They are accessible for everything, for
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